Dilemma 48 – "Singleness"

 

1. Being Single is a gift from the Most High.

I spend my day looking to the hills in which my help comes from. I can worship with full attention and clarity… Only concerned with the things of the Most High God of Israel… So much of our society is inoculated that being single is terrible when indeed it’s a gift.  The Savior says it is right “for those to whom it has been given” (Matthew 19:11 KJV). But there is a gift or singleness, only you can determine if you possess it. Some may be lonely, while others can entertain themselves. Some long for affection while others don’t need it. Apostle Paul speaks of it as a gift. (1 Corinthians 7:7 KJV)Marriage is a gift to most, and so is being single. Pray to the Most High for what you want. Be content in whatever state you are in, you are there for a purpose. So rejoice and be happy in that state.

Emmanuel Sdi speaks on being single,

“I love being single. I get to spend all my time with the Most High. No pressure, just sheer happiness.”

2. Being Single has its virtues.

I can do the Most High business whatever, and whenever he requires me to do it that is a virtue… In the new testament Apostle, Paul mentions two advantages of singleness in 1 Corinthians 7 KJV. Single people are spared the “troubles” of marriage. In marriage there are many troubles, you have to be concerned about the other person. It can’t be taken lightly because what the Most High joins together will stay together. So you have the task of wanting on the Most High to bring you a mate suitable for you.  Single people can devote themselves more fully to the Most High’s work.  “An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided” He or She can worship anytime they like and drop everything to do the work of the Most High (1 Cor. 7:32-34).

Lena Garth speaks on being single,

“I don’t envy those married people having to deal with each other problems. Please each other daily. Dealing with children. I can just come and go as I please. Doing my mission work is much easy, and if I were married, it would be harder, I imagine.”

3. Being Single is problematic.

It is not suitable for man to be alone… Will lust consume you, shackle your soul, cause you to masturbate, or fornicate? When the Most High saw Adam in the garden busy, he said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18). So Eve was created to meet Adam’s need for companionship, and the two came together in the lifelong, sexual relationship of marriage. Although the New Testament is positive about singleness, there’s no doubt marriage is regarded as the norm. The society promotes it as the only acceptable way to go. It is God’s loving gift to humanity and the chief context in which our desire for intimacy is met. Single people are, therefore, likely to struggle with loneliness and sexual temptation. Those struggles are certainly not exclusive to the unmarried, but they are very much a part of the single condition. Some will seek to lessen them by getting married. Others will either choose not to marry or will feel unable to because of their circumstances, personality, or sexual attraction. They are likely to face a lifelong battle with loneliness and sexual temptation. Those two battles are closely related. The lonelier we are, the more likely we are to struggle with sexual fantasy, watch pornography, and fall into sin. We need to be proactive in seeking help in these areas. We aren’t designed to be on our own, and if we aren’t to be married, whether in the short or long term, we should seek to satisfy our need for intimacy in other relationships. That will mean taking the initiative in keeping in close contact with friends and family. And we must be self-disciplined in “fleeing from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18). It often helps to have one or two close friends to whom we are accountable in this area. Stay clear of pornography and masturbation, fast, and pray that you don’t fall into temptation.

ZakaYah Banath Yasharahla speaks on being single (not edited)

“To hell with this independent woman, I don’t need no man, do bad all by myself thing…I’m ready to be dependent on my king to lead, guide, protect and provide for me and in turn I will support, help, nurture and love him in his endeavors. Do you know how tiring and debasing it is to have to go out into the world every day as a woman and deal with disrespectful males, harsh work environments, taking orders from other men, and building someone else’s (mostly heathens) wealth when I could be helping my future husband build our empire based on righteous, scriptural principles? Do you know how stressful it is to juggle a career and a household? I’m not trying to win the “Strong Black Woman of the Year” award, I desire to be the feminine, soft, sweet, quiet, nurturing skilled in home economics, family oriented virtuous woman that Yah designed me to be, not no damn superhero, kick a**, lousy b**** like how you see these white women on movies and TV. I just came back from experiencing a few days of what it’s like to be my feminine self, to be the natural nurturer that I am, to be taken care of, to be looking out for, to happily serve a man of Yah who deserved to be served as he was busy being about his Fathers business. I didn’t feel degraded or disrespected, I actually felt good about the whole experience. It’s a beautiful thing to serve, to love, to listen, to comfort, to be sweet and caring, to be vulnerable and sensitive as a woman, that’s our nature, and it’s high time to get back to life. I’m tired of having to defend myself from males outside my home, tired of being exposed to their worldly ways, tired of them thinking that all women want to be treated like them (thanks to all the feminists), I’m just tired of it all. I want to be in my element of keeping the home, I want to wake up every day knowing that the work I’m about to do for the rest of the day will be to the glory of the Most High first, and my household second. I want to be able to dress like a modest Hebrew Israelite woman without having to get permission or approval from some heathen at work. I want to be able to keep the laws, statutes, and commandments, the High Holy days, the feasts without having to take time off work or getting approved ahead of time. This is the price a woman pays when she decides she wants to walk in a man’s shoes. Being independent of him and his guidance and headship and I must say that it’s a massive mistake unless she desires to be out in the filthy world dealing with all sorts of unclean spirits and has no desire to be a woman of TMH. Yes, I know many of us HAVE to work because we have no head, or he isn’t making enough money to support the household, but we should all DESIRE to be virtuous keepers at home and modest women of the Most High. I’m praying for the day to come when I can let all the stresses of being “superwoman” go, and I can lay my burdens down and be who I was created to be a helpmeet.”

4. Singleness is undeviating.

The single will marry that is a given.  Others will remain single throughout their lives. But no follower of the Most High is single for eternity. Human marriage reflects the marriage the Most High wants to enjoy with his people forever. The Holy Bible speaks of the Savior as the bridegroom who will one day return to take his bride, the church, to be with him in the perfect new world. At this time, all pain and suffering will cease. The Most High will dry the eyes His chosen people. That day will be awesome to bask in His glory, the lamb of the Most High has come, and we shall reign with Him forever. (Revelations 7:17.)

Samuel Geitz speaks on being single, 

“I look forward to getting married, but at 40 it seems so hard to find someone in the truth. I pray that I will experience married before I die. Pray for me to find my Sarah.”

The “Six Commandments” for Single Women
1. Seek the Most High… the bible is your blueprint for life.
You have to study to show thyself approved. Majority of your time should be spent in the Bible.
2. Stay in your parents’ house until you get married.
Our ancestor’s daughter proudly stayed with Daddy and Mommy, this gives you a sense of protection being in your father’s home.
3. Don’t listen to the man that says, “The Most High told me that you would be my wife.”
I experienced this after my husband died., numerous men coming out of nowhere, and some I knew personally speaking those words to me. They all were liars. As I began to pray, the Most High revealed all to me. Now one guy told me that the Most High said, “That is your wife go get her.” This guy had never seen me before, but he turned out to be mentally insane, a liar, lacked integrity, don’t keep the Sabbath, etc.… Be meticulous ladies and gentlemen. Always take everything to the Most High in prayer concerning these men an women. The Most High will reveal all to you.
4. Keep your body healthy.
Eat lots of fruits and vegetables for a healthy body and mind.
5. Dress modest – Cover your body parts.
This avoids unwanted attention from men. You don’t want to cause them to lust after you.
6. Stay a virgin until marriage.
No one deserves your body other than your husband.

The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV