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"The 10 Isms"

1. Racism is indeed the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of Darkism and Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races.

What do they say we are….

NIGGERS * SPICS *COONS * DARKIES * BLACK * UGLY * MULATTOS *FEEBLE MINDED * UNFIT * IMBECILES * IMMORAL * CRIMINAL * CATTLE * SLAVES NEGROES * AFRO THIS OR THAT *MONKIES * SAVAGES * COLORED *JUNGLE BUNNIES * DIRT *JIGABOOS * ANIMALS *WET BACKS * SPOOKS *SAMBOO * ASIATIC BLACK MIXED * BIRACIAL* MULTIRACIAL * BURNT And so forth… Code words used to establish slavery.

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The differentness of races, moreover, is no evidence of superiority or of inferiority. This merely indicates that each race has certain gifts which the others do not possess. — Carter G. Woodson

Racism is indeed the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of Darkism and Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races: a profound prejudice against black people or other ethnic groups based on color. Its core belief that people of different races have different qualities and abilities, and that some tracks are inherently superior or inferior to the other races. Slavery in America was the most significant catalyst for this kind of hate. First, let me demystify the general reference to race. I call it – “the powerful illusion.” For the theory of competition to exist, there has to be a superior race and inferior race for the ideal of separation. The method of race is a man-made system of classification created to division among people to classify people into specific groups. Organizing humans into various racial groups, including a selection process of what color fits into what category. Is it redundant to say the least, many have brought into the lie? Think about it can we as people draw any scholarship on race based on what one looks like. Race a group of humans which the populations have divided into a group based on physical characteristics. Biologically speaking, traits are inherited non-concordantly through our ancestors, which means they are inherited independently. If we were to go on genetics alone, there really isn’t a single genetic trait that distinguishes one race from another, even with varying degrees of melanin in the skin. Racism is an aborted attitude believing in a man made the illusion. If people that don’t know who they are they will understand, live, and thrive off of anything. You were sold to the nations, not for your destruction: but because ye moved God to wrath, ye were delivered unto the enemies. Baruch 4:6

The biggest progenitor of racism was slavery.

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There is a massive paper trail noting slavery in the United States of America but what about the four corners of the world where it all begin, that was similar to other forms of servitude practice where our people were kept enslaved. Like the Arabian, European slavery marketing of our people, which may be brutal of them all, like castration of young male genitals to make them eunuchs. The buck breaking and brutal rape of black women and children. The slave trade was in operation in the Arab world, Western Asia, Africa, and Europe beginning during the 19th century. The History of Arab Slavery in Africa by Owen Alik Shahadah (www.arabslavetrade.com) states in the relations and perfections section, ” Africans in the Indian Diaspora. The Afro-Arab relationship was riddled with complexities lined in a cultural nexus. And there is no doubt that racial discrimination against people of African origin was a hard reality. There is an escalation of racism as a casual association with Black Skin and Slave was made. And considering the era in which Islam emerged, it is therefore even more astounding and revolutionary to find such a strong tone of racial harmony and equality.”

Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted, the indifference of those who should have known better, the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most, that has made it possible for evil to triumph. —Haile Selassie

2. Hate-ism is the practice of inequity that privileges light skin over dark skin.

The Hate….

Why don’t you straighten your hair? Are you African? #teamlightskin Why don’t you wear your hair natural? You should wear a weave! Where are you from? Can I touch your hair? You’re beautiful for a dark-skinned girl! You look like a monkey. Your hair is nappy. You are ugly. Go bleach your skin.

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The practice of inequity, hateism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. The Brown Paper bag rule – In the early 19th century the upper class black American societies would conduct the brown paper bag test to determine if a black person was sufficiently white enough to gain admittance or acceptance in church and other social clubs. If your skin was darker than a brown paper bag, you could not get in and were not accepted. Still, today in 2018, women and men are still being judged by the color of their skin, among blacks, within black communities where darkism thrives.

3. Colorism is indeed a known fact, a direct commencement of hostilities afflicted on a individual based on skin color that is used as the basis for a conclusion, or logic that interfaces that a black person possessing a lighter complexion is treated with a higher esteem than a person with a darker skin color.   This form of discrimination crosses a broad spectrum of skin color, it is the sister of light privilege and the cousin of racism. This was taught during the slavery where the lighter slaves were shown favor because their features, skin color, and hair texture was closer to that of the Aryan race (white people), the Nordic eccentric features with include, but not limited to, straight hair, light skin, light eyes, straight nose etc.. Colorism is not just limited to the black community, other dark nations suffer the injustices of it as well, both men and women. Light skinned or Biracial women are on the receiving end of this.

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Colorism, a term believed to be first coined in 1982 by Pulitzer Prize winner author Alice Walker, was defined by her to mean the “prejudicial or preferential treatment of same-race people based solely on their color.

It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women in the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, the brown girls are discriminated against based on the color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to elevated heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, in order to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women and being of a member of the dark nation.

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Margaret Hunter in her book, “Race, Gender, and the Politics of Skin tone” which in my opinion the best clinical study on the effects of colorism among blacks and Mexicans … states – “Although typically described as a “black “ or “Chicano” problem, colorism is practiced by whites and people of color alike”

4. Shadeism (Pigmentocrcy) the concept of self-hatred that has a pejorative connotation. Also, like racism, shadeism can be thought of as either dimensional in beliefs or multidimensional in perspective. In regards to shadeism, which can be manifested within or across racial and ethnic groups and can be multifaceted in views among all groups of colored people, not just black people.

5. Featurism is the discrimination of black people based on facial features.

Featurism is discrimination of black people based on facial features. Certain ethnic accentuated features such as a part of a face that contributes to its distinct character, especially the eyes, nose, or mouth. In layman terms for a black woman, could be but not limited to, wide nose, full lips, or bigger eyes. Your features are associated with your initial attractiveness. This term “featurism” was first coined by Robin Boyd in his book The Australian Ugliness (1960) but had a different connotation attached to it.

Although skin color is undoubtedly the most salient signal of racial identity in America, other actual or imagined bodily features have also been seen as distinctive markers of Negritude. These include the shapes of heads, feet, lips, and noses as well as the texture of hair. – Randall Kennedy

6. Texturism is discrimination based on hair texture of black women its roughness, smoothness, coarseness, and fineness are judged as good or bad hair.

 Through history, the black woman’s hair texture has been under scrutiny due to the excessive curly nature.
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Black hair is a target of “texturism.” The question is “why has the world scrutinized our hair?” While we are burning it with chemicals and heating tools, and tearing it out with weaves and glue. For 400 years +, the general population of black people has been imparted to by white people that their hair texture and skin is superior to that of black hair and black skin. This welcomed the birth of hair obsession. A majority of blacks perceive straight, silky and downy hair as best. When in fact, wooly hair is scientifically superior to straight hair. Coiled hair acts as antennae conducting the electromagnetic energies of the sun. These are the benefits that our ancestors had in the cotton fields in intense heat. Kinky, afros, nappy, curly, pressed, permed, weaves or silken flow? What is our obsession with hair and how does it affect our perceptions of what is considered attractive? This differentiation of various textures of hair that disregards our hair as being good that sociological programming still continues today. For as long as I remember people often asked me after examining my mid back length hair, “Is all that hair yours?” or “Do you have Indian in your family?“ In the literal sense of logic or even common sense what they are saying to me is that a black female can’t have long hair unless she is mixed with something. Now, this thought process was first initiated by Willie Lynch back in slavery times and is still relevant today. So the term “Nappy” was created by the white man and was adopted for centuries by black people but in reality, our hair has a helix (spiral) pattern. It’s the same pattern as whirlwinds and sound waves and DNA. Our hair is meant to grow outward as a tree, not downward like a cascading waterfall. When our hair is given proper care, it’s fluffy soft. Not only that, our hair is high-volume, high-definition. Our hair doesn’t hang down, it’s not limp, lifeless and flat, it never lacks volume, and you’ll never see a sister wearing a “bump-it” to get the illusion of voluminous hair. We don’t need it. We can take our hair from kinky to curly to wavy to straight and back to kinky again if that’s our desire. Our hair can even defy gravity, and do so naturally. Others can’t. Our hair is a glorious crown, the “original” crown. Look how a crown is designed! So, when you see these so-called European royalty women wearing a crown. They are imitating the beauty of our hair! Wow isn’t that amazing! For black women, the straight hair bias is the culprit of texture prejudice that privileges the white woman’s texture as the supreme texture of hair. Black women are not aware that our hair is rich with soil, the color of dark chocolate, rises to the sky, vastness as space, coiled to perfection, and a mystery of the Most High.

For me, hair is an accoutrement. Hair is jewelry. It’s an accessory. – Jill Scott

7. Lightism is discrimination targeted towards light skinned black women who are validated because of their light skin.

Is all that your hair? What are you mixed with? I’d kill for your hair! #teamlightskin You don’t look black!
The house slave says, ” I am jealous of the field negro, they are free from the master’s house, they can think on their own.”
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Lightism is discrimination targeted towards light-skinned black women who are validated because of their light skin. The recipients of light skinned privilege that is mistreated by darker skinned blacks, not fitting in based on color in both the white and black communities.

I come from an interracial family: My father is from Nigeria, and so he is African-American, and my mother is American and white, so I rarely see skin color. It’s never an issue for me. – Annie Ilonzeh

Lightism is closely related to the discrimination that I have felt through the years. Here are some comments that have been spoken to me as a light cafe au lait colored woman:

You think you all that? You think you better than me? You’re a high yellow heffa! Your piss-covered. You think you’re white. Your nice women that look like you are usually mean. You think you too good to talk to me. You’re stuck up. You’re an oreo cookie. You ain’t all that! Your high maintenance. I am not jealous of you. (Funny no one ever said that this person was) You too beautiful, I hate you. You act like a white girl. You are a BAD bitch. You are a redbone. You’re a yellow bone. Your hair has got to be a weave; it’s too long. You’re an uppity negro. Is all that your hair?

People sometimes ask me or say to me the craziest things

You are so beautiful, what are you mixed with? Which one of your parents is white? When you are done with that face and that body gives them to me. You talk proper Did you have Rhinoplasty (nose surgery) your nose is perfect so small? You’re an Angel. You are so beautiful. I bet you were raped a lot as a child by the men in your family. You’re an uppity negro Is all that your hair Are all women in your country pretty like you. Can I touch your hair? You’re a genetically gifted alien. A man asked my late husband, How do you make a woman that beautiful happy? Your beauty is so unique I don’t know whether to stare, bow, or high 5 the guy next to me. You are gorgeous for a biracial girl I am surprised that you are friendly, a lot of women that look like you are stuck up. How does it feel to be that beautiful? So they think you are the most beautiful woman in the world, but no matter how gorgeous you are, it will never be acknowledged on the level a white woman has been.

Although colorism, lights, and darkism each have a mirage of complexities and prejudices that the impact of all three can be devastating but yet the same. As people of color, we should first seek the Highest for clarity, turn from our wicked ways, and love one another. Knock down the borders that keep us shackled to the brainwashing that took place with our ancestors. Together we must walk together in truth and that truth will set us free.

8. Lookism is discrimination that affects all nations the world over, Lookism is a concept where discrimination occurs to unattractive people; mainly in the workplace but also in social settings. While not classified in the same way as racism and colorism. Lookism is worldwide and affects how people are perceived as well as changing their opportunities in terms of relationships, job opportunities, perks, and social status.

What does it mean to never pay for what you want, get all the best jobs and opportunities, attracting potential mates and the richest. Everyone wants to be the object of someone’s attention. Let’s face it, being perceived as good looking has its advantages, it means never having to change a flat tire and in some cases pay for anything. Beautiful people are perceived as good, happy and fulfilled. Society tends to treat you better when you look your best.

Lookism is a discrimination that affects all nations the world over, Lookism is a concept where discrimination occurs to  unattractive people; mainly in the workplace but also in social settings. While not classified in the same way as racism, colorism, and darkism. Lookism is worldwide and affects how people are perceived as well as affecting their opportunities in terms of relationships, job opportunities, perks, and social status.

Lookism is a funny thing, I have walked into a store and someone pays for my clothing. I have been skipped to the front of lines quit frequently. I have had my fair share of perks.

9. Tokenism. This is usually initiated by a white person that uses a non-white or black person in any form to represent the illusion that there are unity and fairness in whatever situation. An illusion of racial adversity in that any case.

This Ism has a singular narrative usually omit an entire race group but picks one to give the impression that the cause is an equal opportunity model for others to see.

10. Beauty-ism. 

All around the world, brown girls are discriminated against based on the color of their skin. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them.  Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it.
 
 
 
 
The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about the woman that nobody sees you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty. 
Some Initial Tips for Breaking free from the “isms”
1. Repent of your SINS, keep the commandments and follow the Most High God of Israel.
1. Stop watching television where it pertains to programming suggesting European standards of beauty. If watching TV, make sure your child is watching people that look like them.
2. Speak positively to your child, encourage them on their beautiful skin color and hair. Don’t show favoritism with a child over the other. Children are very impressionable at a young age. Plant good seeds where your children are concerned.
3. Never tease anyone in front of your children concerning their color only have good things to say.
4. Cease from using terms to describe the color of skin like “darkie”, “high yellow”, “redbone,” and referring to people as “Black and ugly” as if being “Black” automatically indicates that one is also “ugly.”
5. Surround yourself with images of people of color through books.
6. Don’t allow people to tell your kids that their hair is bad and the skin is too dark.
7. Read the bible to them and teach them the ways of the Most High.
8. Educate yourself then teach your children about their history.
9. Comment darker people on their looks around your children.
10. Show them movies about positive black people promoting each other.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

© Vashtiy Alsaudamir, The Brown Girl Dilemma

Dilemma 7 – "Colorism"

Colorism is indeed a known fact, a direct commencement of hostilities afflicted on an individual based on skin color that is used as the basis for a conclusion, or logic that interfaces that a black person possessing a lighter complexion is treated with a higher esteem than a person with a darker skin color. This form of discrimination crosses a broad spectrum of skin color, it is the sister of light privilege and the cousin of racism. This was taught during the slavery where the lighter slaves were shown favor because their features, skin color, and hair texture was closer to that of the Aryan race (white people), the Nordic eccentric features with include, but not limited to, straight hair, light skin, light eyes, straight nose etc.. Colorism is not just limited to the black community, other dark nations suffer the injustices of it as well, both men and women. Light skinned or Biracial women are on the receiving end of this.

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Colorism, a term believed to be first coined in 1982 by Pulitzer Prize winner author Alice Walker, was defined by her to mean the “prejudicial or preferential treatment of same-race people based solely on their color.

It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women in the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, the brown girls are discriminated against based on the color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to elevated heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, in order to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women and being of a member of the dark nation.

Confessions of a “Colorist.”

Colorist | Unlike a racist, a colorist doesn’t factor race but uses the tone of ones skin to determine chracteristics about an individual.

The Colorist seeks nothing less than to objectify the color aesthetics of dark skin.

My interview with Michael, a 48 year old, Colorist.

Q: What do you think a colorist is?

Michael: A person that denies a person strictly by the color of their skin.

Q: Are you a colorist?

Michael: I think that the term “colorist” is redundant, I would call it to preference instead.

Q: What is your preference?

Michael: I like light women (like yourself) with pretty good long hair, eyes, pretty smile, beautiful figure, and so forth.

Q: You know you can find all the external qualities in dark women to, do you agree?

Michael: No darker women are ugly. I need me a red-bone, yellow-bone dimepiece.

Q: You are a dark skinned man is this a product of self-hate?

Michael: No, not at all. I don’t want someone darker than me I want someone that can make me look good, improve my status, and give me pretty children I can be proud of.

Q: Do you think that there is a problem with your belief system regarding skin color?

Michael: Yes, well, maybe.

Q: Do your thinking your european preception of beauty where did it originate, from the outside world influence or was it taught by your parents?

Michael: When I was a child, my mom always told me to date a light/white woman to have some pretty children with that good hair. I was not able to date darker women, and as I got older, my preference for lighter women never changed. Just maybe there was a level of influence at that young age but its not my fault.

Q: Do you think that your opportunity for success will be impacted by your skin color?

Michael: Dark-skinned men are a hot commodity around the world. I don’t see that happening.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 KJV

The mystery of what the elephant in the room is “”””?”””….Drum roll please, it’s a big one so make preparations right now. Now before you get your panties or boxers in a bunch. Relax free your thinking this is the reality for all of us. This is not something contrived or a figment of our imagination. Now go get you some tea and coffee as we analyze this topic together. The elephant in the room is….. *The Isms* “Racism-Colorism-Texturism-Featurism-Lightism-Shadeism (Pigmentocrcy)-Lookism-Hateism

It is no accident that people of color have been plagued with the nine “isms” associated with our destruction economically, the family, financially, legally, socially, and historically. The ideology of the “isms” progresses from one experience to another. Systemic injustice has plagued our experience and there seems to be on antidotes or solutions in sight.

“The isms”

There are 64 color shades & 64 hair textures. Colorism is indeed a known fact, a direct commencement of hostilities afflicted on an individual based on skin color that is used as the basis for a conclusion, or logic that interfaces that a black person possessing a lighter complexion are treated with higher esteem than a person with darker skin color. This word was first introduced by Alice Walker, the author.  Featurism is discrimination of black women based on facial features. Certain ethnic accentuated features such as a part of a face that contributes to its distinct character, especially the eyes, nose, or mouth. This term was first coined by Robin Boyd in his book The Australian Ugliness (1960). Texturism is discrimination based on hair texture of black women its roughness, smoothness, coarseness, and fineness are judged as good or bad hair. Lightism is the discrimination targeted at light-skinned black women who are validated because of their light skin. The recipients of light-skinned privilege that is mistreated by darker skinned blacks, not fitting in based on color in both the white and black communities.

Colorism, Pigmentocracy, As with racism or prejudice, the concept of colorism has a pejorative connotation. Also, like racism, colorism can be thought of as either dimensional in beliefs or multidimensional in perspective. In regards to colorism, which can be manifested within or across racial and ethnic groups and can be multifaceted in views among all groups of colored people, not just black people. The brown paper bag theory, Snow and Glow organizations have perpetrated the fallacies associated with these mindsets and beliefs. The One drop rule, and Shadeism with Hashtags: #teamlightskin, #teamdarkskin This issue of colorism not only effects black people but any people of color – nonwhite people like East Indians, Asian, South Americans and so on…. In India, light skin on a pedestal whereas here in the United States, white people frequently tan to look darker like us. The British colonization and slavery played a significant role in the separation of people due to their color. Never understood the reasoning because brown is beautiful! The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. The Brown Paper bag rule – In the early 19th century the upper class black American societies would conduct the brown paper bag test to determine if a black person was sufficiently white enough to gain admittance or acceptance in church and other social clubs. If your skin was darker than a brown paper bag, you could not get in and were not accepted. One drop rule was instated in the United States to keep the white lineage pure. Colorism, a term coined by Alice Walker in 1982, is not a synonym for racism. “Race” depends on multiple factors (including ancestry); therefore, the racial categorization does not solely rely on skin color. Skin color is only one mechanism used to assign individuals to an ethnic category, but the race is the set of beliefs and assumptions assigned to that category. Pigmentocracy is the chart in which light skin is measured. The even bigger elephant in the room is the hatred among black people and other nations that view skin color as the determining factor of beauty and success. This brings me to “Lookism,” which is discrimination that affects all countries the world over, Lookism is a concept where discrimination occurs to unattractive people; mainly in the workplace but also in social settings. While not classified in the same way as racism, colorism, and Darkism. Lookism is worldwide and affects how people are perceived as well as changing their opportunities in terms of relationships, job opportunities, perks, and social status.

The “isms” effect all dark nations of the world:

Cuba Tila said, “They hate my nappy hair and dark skin.”

Brazil Adriana said, “My skin is too dark.”

 Mexico Rulo said, “They say I will never get married, I am too dark

 India Mena said, “My Mom buys me the bleaching cream

 Dominican Republic Maricel said, “They said I was dark and ugly.”

 Australia Tessa, “They say my skin is so dark.”

 Nigeria Eunice said, “They say I should bleach my skin.”

 Ethiopia Merit said, “They say I look like a black African.

 Pakistan Nida said, “My friend was prettier because she is fair skinned.

 Canada Jessica said, “They say I am too dark.”

 China Margaret said, “They say I should carry an umbrella to shield me from the sun, my skin is too dark.”

Margaret Hunter in her book, “Race, Gender, and the Politics of Skin tone” which in my opinion the best clinical study on the effects of colorism among blacks and Mexicans … states – “Although typically described as a “black “ or “Chicano” problem, colorism is practiced by whites and people of color alike”

“To be beautiful, handsome, means that you possess a power which makes all smile upon and welcome you; that everybody is impressed in your favor and inclined to be of your opinion; that you have only to pass through a street or to show yourself on a balcony to make friends and to win mistresses from among those who look upon you. What a splendid, what a magnificent gift is that which spares you the need to be amiable in order to be loved, which relieves you of the need of being clever and ready to serve, which you must be if ugly, and enables you to dispense with the innumerable moral qualities which you must possess in order to make up for the lack of personal beauty.” ― Théophile Gautier, Mademoiselle de Maupin

© Vashtiy Alsaudamir, this interview is included in my new book.

Meet the electrifying beauty, Venika Kalambay, a London based fashion model and youtube beauty influencer.

Q: As a model have you ever experienced racism or colorism? If so, give me an example?

I think there are small instances where you can sense undercurrents of racism but I, fortunately, have not had any severe experiences of direct racism, perhaps growing up in London has meant that I am a part of a broader range of cultures and people are more accepting of different religions here. My father lived and worked in the Middle East for about 3 years and visiting him was one of the first experiences where I felt as though I was in a completely different era in terms of time because people were so fascinated by me, my black mother and black sisters.

Q: What was the best compliment you ever received and what was the worst?

I always get complimented on my eyes, I have super big eyes (at least I think) and people always tell me how drawn to them they are. One of the worst compliments I received was actually something that wasn’t outwardly rude but reading between the lines, I understood what was being said. I was at the till point at my job, and I was serving a lady, I could clearly hear from her accent that she was South African. We began to chat and then she said that she thought I was beautiful, to which I replied with the apparent niceties. She then proceeded to ask where I was from, and I replied The Democratic Republic of Congo, to which she then asked if both my parents were black and I replied yes, they were brought up in the same area of Congo. She then asked if I was sure, to which I replied yes, to add another level of awkwardness to this situation she then began to point at my face and say, no, this, this – looking at me – you have to be mixed with something, is there anyone white in your family? At this point, I was convinced she was honestly just trying to find out more about where I had come from when it was explicitly evident what she was trying to say. After this whole awkward conversation, I relayed the entire thing to my colleague, who happened to be a black male and at this point, I was beginning to feel so incredibly stupid and naive as he was attempting to make it clear to me precisely what the woman was hinting at. It was obviously too hard for her to just point out that I was pretty and leave it at that, she couldn’t believe that I was 100% black. This was my very first “pretty for a black girl situation,” and I was fortunate enough to be old enough, I believe I was 21 at the time, to not allow the situation to knock my confidence in any way. The most shocking thing that was her daughter was standing next to her the whole time, and I was so confused as to why she would allow her daughter to be around her when she was making such blatantly racist comments.

Q: Tell me something about yourself that nobody knows?

As confident as I may appear now, it took me a long time to get to this point. I would honestly say that I never really felt beautiful until I was about 19 years old and now I cannot possibly understand how and why it took me so long to appreciate my talents and the qualities I possess that are so unique to me. When I was maybe 14 or 15, I read a book by Kimora Lee Simmons called ‘Fabulosity: What It Is & How to Get It,’ which taught me so much about being a woman, it taught me such incredible and valuable life lessons and most importantly the book helped me to finally gain some confidence and start loving myself. I am so incredibly grateful to Kimora for indirectly giving me that through what she offered in that book, she holds an unusual place in my heart and to this day I always refer to that book as the book that changed my life.

Q: What would you say to a younger girls growing up with issues of colorism? Being hated because she has a darker skin tone?

It took me a long time to finally begin to love myself and my skin and all the little imperfections so I can understand how hard it is for young girls growing up in 2017. My advice would be to stay true to your reality, do whatever it is that makes you happy and have a belief in your magic that is so unwavering that there is not one person that can tell you otherwise. Don’t focus on growing up too fast, as apparent as that advice may seem, as you get older you will definitely wish for those happy moments that you only really have when you’re young, where nothing else matters but having fun at that moment. Be kind and have courage.

Q: Do you think that light skinned women are treated better?

I most definitely think that light skinned women are seen as more desirable. I think particularly in the case of love and relationships, men, especially black men, do always gravitate towards light skinned women, I cannot speak for other areas of life, but that is mainly where I can see evidence of this. I think music culture has definitely contributed towards this, as these women are often more glorified in music videos and popular culture as opposed to darker skinned women, however, I think we see a shift and people are realizing how beautiful darker skin is.

Q: How has been dark-skinned affected your life? Both negatively and positively..?

I wouldn’t necessarily define myself as dark-skinned, I see myself as a black woman, I never put those kinds of labels on myself because I believe people can sometimes get fixated on just being that one thing. What is often the most frustrating thing is that I am black. I have brown skin, I have cousins who have fairer skin than me, but I don’t feel my complexion is particularly dark. But often I think that because some people only see light skin women as the norm, they label everyone even a tad bit darker as dull skin, which I don’t feel is right and it is almost seen as though is a bad thing to be darker. God created us in all different shapes, colors, sizes, and this is the positive that I choose to take from something that can be so negative. I don’t allow those experiences to stay embedded in my head, I remember I am beautiful, smart, kind, and I keep it moving. In the past 2 years, however, being black is definitely being more celebrated, and I am incredibly proud to say that now more than ever, I feel a part of such a healthy community. Since I am a beauty blogger, I would definitely say that sometimes it is challenging because I don’t truly feel that black creators are given opportunities to grow as quick as our white counterparts and this is something we need to push for. I think there are so many beauty brands that are incredibly problematic in not having shade selections that are available for the lightest of light to the darkest of the dark because this contributes to the feeling of colored skin girls not feeling worthy enough to be included. To name a few, Too Faced, Tarte, it is not acceptable, and I will always use my voice to speak about such injustices. While not attempting to discount everything I have just said, I have to be honest and the state as a black woman, I understand the power in my voice, and overall, I have had a positive experience as a black woman in this industry. Whether it be because I am on the lighter end of the spectrum when it comes to “dark-skinned girls,” I’m not sure. I am always going to choose to love myself and to ensure that what I do and my contribution to the world is what sets me apart and not the color of my skin.

My light skin privilege, her dark skin disadvantage

1. Society, media and television programming promote (glibly facile) among black women. 2. Dividing black into the lines of color (willie lynch letter) in slavery days. 3. Parents don’t teach their children how valuable they are in skin color and hair texture but promote self-hatred (tongue) self-hatred spoken in words.

Envy of others is something taught you have been programmed to perceive something that is not necessarily better than you. From the moment you are born, imagery plays a big part, what you hear about yourself. Blacks were taught to be envious of each other in relevance to light skin and dark skin. The light skinned is raised to fill entitlement while the darker skinned is taught to hate the way they look it’s not good enough. Before slavery, there were no weaves, perms, relaxers, lighting creams, or a desire to be anything other than what you were created for. In the beginning, we are beautiful from our hair to the color of our skin. I clothed thee also with broidered work and shod thee with badgers’ skin, and I girded thee about with fine linen, and I covered thee with silk. I decked thee also with ornaments, and I put bracelets upon thy hands and a chain on thy neck. And I put a jewel on thy forehead, and earrings in thine ears, and a beautiful crown upon thine head. Thus wast thou decked with gold and silver, and thy raiment was of fine linen, and silk, and broidered work; thou didst eat fine flour and honey, and oil: and thou wast exceeding beautiful, and thou didst prosper into a kingdom. And thy renown went forth among the heathen for thy beauty: for it was perfect through my comeliness, which I had put upon thee, saith the Lord God. Ezekiel 16:10-14 KJV

Dark Vs Light series… Do light skinned women feel a sense of entitlement? Part 1

90 % of people I questioned stated that MOST but not all light skinned women felt entitled. Here are a few views on this subject. Charmaine, a light-skinned woman with green eyes and kinky short hair. “First of all I am light skinned, but I feel that light skinned women/biracial/multiracial women have a sense of entitlement… we feel entitled in everything we do, and we are better than dark skinned women. We are loved by all the men, and they treat us like trophies and that we are. We are competitive with one another we compete for men and position all the time. Secretly we don’t like each other, at least, with dark skin women, we are sure to stand out without trying, but with one our color we get picked through all the time. So light women, we are the most insecure and hateful because society and people make us feel we are better than the rest. After who do you think started #teamlightskin.” Tiffany, a product of a black father and white mother, light skinned with dark eyes and long curly hair Comment from Tiffany to Jaci, ” Two of my best friends are light skinned we live close to one another, have known each other since university days. We are not backstabbing one another through endless, so your stereotypes are ridiculous. You look black to me just black you just happen to be light, but you still have pure Negroid features and nappy hair. You are nothing like us light skinned people the beautiful ones the ones that count because we are exotic the biracial ones or the multiracial ones. You are just a nappy headed negro who just got lucky to have lighter skin, so don’t speak about us like you are one of us.”

Light Vs Dark Series.. Are dark skinned women filled with jealousy and hatred toward light women? Part 2

80% of dark-skinned women I questioned stated that there was no underlined hatred of light-skinned woman, and if there was it was because of the treatment from the light skinned women or other people in general.


Omokoyo, a dark-skinned coffee shop owner, I hate no one, the experiences that I had with light skinned women have been nothing but evil. I was picked on a lot by light-skinned girls that thought they were better than me, I was teased called darkie and ugly. They had the unwarranted favor they felt they were the shit and the guys loved them. Oh, how I wanted to be them.


Angela, A dark-skinned former beauty queen, Participating in pageants my whole life, the competition was fierce, but most of my light skin fellow contestants were downright nasty to me, but fortunately for me, I have tough skin, and hey I won the pageants! They always said to me, “Don’t play in the sun, my sister.” The Envy among WOMEN in general. The Haters.

Contrary to popular belief, “Envy” is a universal social epidemic not only prevalent to the black woman but to white, Asian, Hispanic, and so many more nationalities. The common thread of this insecurity has spread through white supremacy. The desire to possess something that another has, whether property or even their looks. Women engaged in this pandemonium of envy are at the root of why women compete with one another. The triggers of jealousy for men and women are different. Like some women, most men, are envious of superficial attributes, money, and position in life. Ladies, no woman, like no man, is perfect. No woman is genuinely and utterly content with herself light or dark. It’s a curse to envy I’m not sure we’ll ever fully break the bonds of jealousy, but we can learn to love the skin we are in.

My interview with Emmitel Abongwa Ndumu Ph.D

Q: Do you think colorism and racism the biggest elephants in the room?

Emmitel: Certainly, they were birthed from white supremacy and European colonialism, this thinking is the philosophy of civilization. In Race and the dogma of skin hue, it is the real war but I say throw the baby out with the bath water. When people wake up then change will come.

Q: Does skin color define beauty?

Emmitel: Facial features define beauty – the harmony of facial features along with symmetry places a big part in identifying facial beauty. Skin hue or color is not responsible for defining beauty. Although, people do pay more attention to lighter skin.

Q: What is your take on the light skin/ dark skin situation among people of color?

Emmitel: Worldwide it’s a real struggle among our people, and a superficial one that has taken a dangerous turn with skin lightening creams which has cancer agents in them but still they are going down that path. Bottom line, a woman of any shade must be comfortable in her skin don’t buy into the lie that light is better. Diversity is beautiful and unique.

 Since “Dark Skin” is highly criticized, these are some of the stereotypes and fallacies associated with melanin-carbon enriched dark skin:

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Dark Skinned women are ashy… They are ugly… They are lazy … They are on welfare… They look like monkeys… They are the ugliest woman in the world… They will never get married… They all wear weave… They are evil… Everyone hates them… They don’t get good jobs… They will always be poor… The hair is so nappy… Recipient of Pretty for a dark girl syndrome… Perceived as being envious of all light skinned women… Discriminated against because of skin color… Automatically perceived as being a bad person… Judged primarily on skin color and hair texture…

My Q & A with Roderick Israel, a dark skinned Investment Banker

Q: Do dark skin men experience the same colorism as dark-skinned women?

Roderick: Not exactly but in the business world we really have to prove ourselves.

Q: How do date dark skinned women?

Roderick: Yes exclusively. You are drop dead gorgeous but I love my dark skinned sisters.

Q: What advice would you give to a dark-skinned woman facing colorism?

Roderick: That things will not change for her until she gets into the truth and surrenders all to Christ. Like I told my daughter, the world will never accept her, she must accept herself.

Elvira “Cookie“, a fashion consultant from Panama.

Q. What is the best compliment you have received on your skin color?

Cookie: You’re beautiful for a dark-skinned girl!

Q: How did that make you feel?

Cookie: Actually I wanted to slap the guy that said if he was so ignorant to my feelings. He was saying that dark skin women were not attractive.

Q: What has been your experience as a dark-skinned female?

Cookie: Not good.

Q: Tell me about your experiences.

Cookie: for starters, I was picked on a lot as you know, I was looked over for modeling jobs. I was called ugly, darkie, smut dog, burnt wood, and being from Panama didn’t help they are just as color struck as being blacks in America. None of the guys wanted me they always looked at you, I felt left out, but you ever made me feel good about myself. The guys really were the worst.

Q: Some black men can be so ignorant.

Cookie: They always gave more attention to the light skinned women like you, even if they are not as beautiful as you. That is one thing I couldn’t also understand if a woman is light but ugly, they still preferred her. That is why I dated and married a white man, he treats me like a queen. Q: It is really the facial features that make someone pretty, not the skin color. Those guys had brought into a lie that was set into motion long before we existed.

Cookie: You are so right but it doesn’t take away the pain of not being excepted by your own race.

Q: How did your mother help you deal with it?

Cookie: She didn’t at first, she told me I would never be a symbol of beauty because I was dark. Now she tells me that I am an excellent role model for dark women. Enough about me so – we are talking about me but how about you being light skinned? What is your biggest problem with being light skinned?

Q: I will cover that in the light-skinned privilege section.

Cookie: That is good to know.

Q: Do you think that light skinned women issues are more damaging than dark skin women issues?

Cookie: No, I think dark skinned women have it worse.

Q: So what advice would you give to other dark-skinned girls/women?

Cookie: To be comfortable in your black skin. Your black skin will never change. So love it.

I must admit that it was tough for me to write on this topic of “privilege” I didn’t want to appear to be a narcissist or presumptuous. I believe that physical beauty is measured by your features and symmetry, not skin color. It’s really in the eye of the beholder literally. I have traveled the world, there are endless beautiful dark and light woman the world over, all possess one common thing – their facial features an in harmony together. So the theory that your skin color makes you attractive only is a fallacy. Not to be believed. The whole premise of a debate of light vs. dark is unsettling, ignorant, and not edifying the unity between women of all shades of brown. Willie Lynch created a standard method for teaching slaves divisive behavior and through colonization people around the world have adopted these self – denigrating issues that light skin is the best and anything that deviates from that theory is not good. Lynch supported division to keep the light slaves against the dark slaves to prevent rebellion and unity among blacks. Still, today that residue from the past has conditioned people around the world to adopt “light Skin” as the best. This is a general world problem not just by black people but many nations face this reality daily in America, India, Africa, Latin American, South America, Brazil, Dominican Republic, the West Indies, Mexico, Puerto Rico, and Cuba just to name a few. In these countries, the lighter you are, the more beautiful you are perceived as, the smarter, and the nicer. The Darker you are, the more you have recognized the s menace to society, evil, and ugly. These stereotypes are far from the truth, people of color are still suffering from healthy delusional thinking based on skin color. Most feel that a light-skinned woman has attained a status, reached a level of success, met the European standard of beauty that dark-skinned women could never measure up to. As for the white woman, she doesn’t have to try, they woke up in privilege. They have been born this way. They have become a god.

My light skin privilege

Is Beauty a Gift or a Curse? I was born into the privilege of walking the earth as a genetic freak, often referred to as beautiful. In a world where beauty is considered a gift and a curse. You see it is a double-edged sword for me, on the one hand, I have been praised highly for my physical attributes. Considered the “outcast” or the polar opposite “the trophy doll.” In my lifetime, people have been extremely generous with their compliments on my physical attributes, but on another hand, I live with the curse of being a darker hue toned woman, a non-white woman. There are opportunities that I will never get because of my skin color. The acceptable light skinned synopsis. What is it like to be in a shell, melanin light café au lait hue woman? Honestly, I never thought my color played much in my life, success, or in general. I never really came to that realization until now. I always thought that my personal beauty was based on my facial features and other attributes not so much the pigmentation of my skin I will have to admit that my alleged light-skinned privilege has given me endless opportunities: Opulent gifts from men, modeling opportunities, many marriage proposals, free stuff, better treatment, etc. Is all that people say about you is that you are pretty? Aren’t you tired of people always telling you you’re beautiful? That question was asked continuously of me… People were uncomfortable around me. I was embarrassed about being pretty whenever eruptions of phases referred to my beauty in front of others. I don’t handle attention concerning my aesthetics well. I felt insecure that I would get a compliment while others around me became unnoticed, people around me were irritated by that, even on social media. The negative treatment. This aspect runs so deep, finding myself in the pit on many occasions. Most of the animosity that I experienced from women, in general, were primarily but in the black community, it has been from both light and dark skinned women. Some of my friends are black, but most of my friends throughout the years have been Aryan Caucasian. Enduring many years of haters, negative remarks, jealousy, threats of injury to my being or violence, backstabbers, insecure women, sabotaging opportunities for me, prejudgment, and envy, jealousy, strife from my own people and other nations I have become desensitized by the effects of it now it just rolls off like water on a duck’s back. The Downside of Beauty. I know a lot of women would put the “unfairness treatment” on a specific shade of color, but my negative experiences have been with both light and dark skin women, and also other nationalities. Women, in general, suffer insecurities about their beauty across the board. Caucasian woman, as well as other nations of women, have their own beast of burdens like fitting into the media perception of perfection the supermodel fantasy look. I learned a long time ago that what people say about doesn’t dictate who you are. You have to be comfortable in your own skin.

The image I see in the mirror is what I really look like? Is my image a reflection of the Most High? My outer shell is made of dirt; it will return to the earth as dirt. The real me is not what is apparent to the eye, my soul perhaps? To be politically correct, my soul is my mind, will, and emotions. My soul will separate from my body when the silver cord is broken, at my death. My soul will receive the harshest judgment of all, whether it is placed in Abraham’s bosom of Hades, according to how I lived my life. The image I see is really just an outward expression of skin and features that are judged or scrutinized by the opinions of others. Mankind judges the outside but the Most High looks on the heart. “For man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:17 ..With that said, our emphasis should not be on the flesh but on the condition of our souls.

Ceira

1. Tell me one of your darkest experiences being a light-skinned woman and how you were treated?

In my adult life I’ve never really had any dark experiences being the ‘dark or mixed girl’ in Ireland but when I was a child I was surrounded by white people and kids and was teased a lot of people would call me the “N-word,” made fun of my hair and tell me to straighten it. There was a grown woman that lived in my neighborhood who used to call me a monkey.

2. Is being beautiful a blessing or a curse? 

I think being physically beautiful is a curse because people tend to rely on it to get them through in life when it’s not a permanent thing. Also, people tend to criticize you and direct unwanted attention towards you. If you accept yourself and have confidence in how you look, being a beautiful person on the inside is a blessing as I do believe in karma.

3. What is the best compliment that you have received about your physical appearance? And the worst? 

The best compliments I receive are usually to do with my hair. The worst, “I like your face, but I’m just not into the whole black hair.”

4. Who in the black community treats you the best? Dark skinned women or lighter women? How do the people in Ireland treat you? 

I feel I get the most positive comments from dark-skinned women.

5. Do you feel that black women are united? 

Yes definitely. I’m obsessed with social media and every site I’m a part of the women support and accept each other, especially on Tumblr.

6. Do you think colorism exists and how would you change it? 

Yes, colorism definitely exists but I think most people discriminate subconsciously they don’t set out to hurt people of different races. The best way to start a change is to educate yourself and others and try to be open-minded towards people you don’t identify with an open-minded towards people who don’t identify with you.

7. What advice what you give to black women about life in general?

My advice to black women, in general, always believes you are worthy of love and respect you are terrific.

Astin 



1. Tell me something about you that nobody knows? 

No one really knows that I’m super sensitive. I play it off like I’m ok, but honestly, I’m super responsive.

2. What has been your experiences being a light-skinned woman? How were you treated? By dark-skinned women and other light skinned women? 

My experience being a light-skinned woman has been excellent and bad, on the one hand, other light skin women welcome me with open arms, and some dark skin women did too but not many growing up especially with having long hair. They often accused me of thinking, “I am cute.” Now, as an adult, people often think I am mixed due to my light skin color, the length, and the grade of my hair.

3. Do you think virtue is more important than physical beauty? 

Yes, virtue is more important than physical beauty, especially today. Physical attraction isn’t even real, whereas, getting caught up in physical beauty can and will lead you down the wrong path.

4. Do you think there is an injustice with the way dark-skinned black women are treated? Do you think the Willie Lynch Syndrome still exists today?

I think dark skinned women aren’t really being seen as the real beauty they really are. Their darkness of there skin is vibrant and beautiful, but society makes them seem ugly. The latest trends are mixed girls with black features. Dark skinned women are put in the back view a lot. Yes, I genuinely believe the Willie Lynch syndrome still exist today.

5. What is the best compliment that you have received about your physical appearance? 

My 8-year-old niece told my mom she wants to as beautiful as me and like me when she grew up. I am a woman of the Most High and family woman with modesty and live a natural lifestyle. I want to set an example for another young person is more than I can ask for. Too many lousy role models today.

6. What advice or would you tell a woman or young girl about how your life has changed coming into the truth about the Most High? 

I always thought I would come to the Most High when I was much older. Now I’m in the truth I wish I was way before now. All I need is to know the Most High and that bible is a special gift through the book your eyes will be opened to know good and evil what to watch out for. Your life will be for things that will make sense. And knowing that you and your children can be saved is the more excellent gift. Knowing the truth can really save your soul.

Her dark skin disadvantage

“Blacker the Berry the sweeter the juice. Darker the flesh the deeper the roots” — Tupac Shakur 

The degradation of dark skin has lingering effects from slavery and colonialism. The recipients of the most beautiful hues the most Melanin in the skin. Dark Skinned women are so regal the most beautiful of all their skin is silky and smooth such richness and history. What is Melanin? The pigment that gives human skin, hair, and eyes their color. Dark-skinned people have more melanin in their skin than light-skinned people have. Dark skin has been the ridicule of jokes. Stated as being the ugliest skin color. The most hated but yet the most emulated around the world many Caucasians tan annually to darken their skin. There is a deeper reason, a more sinister revelation, a deeper root conspiracy against the darker skin people. Whose hue unlocks their history. The reason why I named this segment “Dark Skin” disadvantage this is metaphoric representing the pain the injustice to all the dark women around the world. Dark skin is often associated with a lack of privilege with eliminates – “The Dark Skin disadvantage,“ But now in 2017 through social media, these perceptions may change for the better in la la land. Dark skin women are flaunting their melanin and gaining a massive following through natural hair movement and social media outlet only still be ridiculed by their peers. Black women have gone neck to neck with European standards of beauty. In slavery time, the dark-skinned slaves served as field Negros having to endure hot temperatures out in the heat of the south. They lacked the advantages of education, food, clothing, and opportunities as their light-skinned counterparts, who emulated whiteness for their benefits. So the perplexity of sorrow that has been endured by the darker skinned woman can only be deep-rooted in pain for generations. The mere fact of being overlooked by the very people of your race can be disheartening, to say the least. My hearts and my prayers go out to all my beautiful dark skinned sisters. I endorse your beauty as my own, we may be of different colors, but we are of the same stock and dilemma.

I remember the first time I heard this phrase, “The Dark the Berry, the sweeter the juice.” My dark skinned cousin made it in reference to her dark skin being better than my lighter skin.

Although there is a hatred for the darker woman of color, through my studies, there have been instances were the darker girls were perceived as beautiful. Here is another perspective of being Dark Skin from the strikingly beautiful Fumi Desalu-Vold, a dark-skinned fashion model and actress. This exert is from an episode of her youtube program “Sister2Sister” – the episode titled “DARK GIRLS” -My life as a DARK skinned woman” (Fumi Fashion and Beauty), Not all experiences of black women are alike, relatively that depends on what area of the earth you reside in.

I was very intrigued by what she said, “While in Scotland, she and her other siblings were spoiled by everyone, they were perceived as being special she experiences no racism what so ever this was in the ’70s.” Then when she moved to Nigeria, she noticed that a lot of women who bleached their skin. I think the most fundamental thing in any young girl’s life is her father, his acceptance of her beauty, and she had it. He told her she was beautiful. She didn’t experience any white supremacy, becoming the first supermodel of Nigeria. While at University in London she was often asked to model for the art department as well as the fashion department, they marveled at her look and skin color. The men from many nationalities highly regarded her as beautiful, especially the men from Italy, a country that is known for their love of black women. While in America, she discovered that it is a melting pot of nations and that her perceptive of herself might have been different if she lives there first.”

Wahima

Q: What was your most negative experience being a dark skin girl?

Wahima: As a dark-skinned adolescence I had many things said to me because of my skin tone. I was called names like “blackie” and “Tar baby”, but the worst is when I was called ugly directly to my face in a very casual, nonchalant manner by a boy in my class.

Q: What is the best compliment you have received on your physical beauty?

Wahima: The best compliment I’ve ever gotten was when I was 17 and a guy said to me “You know how they say a picture is worth a thousand words? You’re worth 2000”

Q: Who was your greatest inspiration?

Wahima: My older sister has been the greatest inspiration in my life. She has been through a lot in her life and yet she manages to keep her head up and move forward. She is one of the most pleasant, caring and loving people I’ve come in contact with.

Q: List anything you want to share your experiences as a dark-skinned woman?

Wahima: I’ve had good and bad experiences with being dark skinned, and most of it has been uphill through a tunnel. I’ve been so lucky to be able to come out the other side with confidence. The purpose  is to help uplift and help encourage other dark-skinned ladies to embrace their skin and their beauty. I want them to feel like they are apart of the beauty conversation and know that their beauty is valuable and worthy of praise.

Colorism around the World 

(Nigeria) Olaniyi Adeosun-Obabiyi

Q: How does skin bleaching affect Nigerian women?

Olaniyi: In Nigeria, it has become a common trend for women to bleach their skins. I have often asked other women the reason the phenomenon is on the rise, the women tell me that it’s because of the men; that men seem to prefer light skinned women. My respondent said to me if women are gathered in a place, they always see only the light-skinned ones. So in all of this, my understanding is that women who bleach have this sense of inadequacy and inferiority complex. The most unfortunate is the fact that some use very cheap creams to carry out this their trade. I have once had close ties with women that do the business of mixing these bleaching creams, and they tell me, they make a lot of money from their fellow women.

Q: Do you prefer light skinned women?

Olaniyi: I think I have dated lighter skinned women more in my life. Yea I can tell u I like stunning women and somehow, unfortunately, I tried to drop my taste, and unfortunately, it never fell. But if you ask me in all sincerity, what I usually look out for is a woman I am attracted and connected to. If a woman is light skinned and empty-headed, I am not interested. I am, and I will always be attracted to intelligence. Beauty will ever fade away, what’s left is the content.

(Mexico) Maria

Q: What are some of your experiences as a Mexican with the light skin vs. dark skin issue?

Marie: In my country, they value light skin at birth if you have light skin and bright eyes you are appreciated. Dark people are not worthy.

(USA) James

Q: How do white people view this light skin vs. dark skin issue among people of color?

James: I am married to a dark-skinned black woman who is very beautiful. As a white man and other white men can attest to this – We don’t look at the color of a black woman, dark is dark, there are no light people within the black community to us there are all black and we often wonder why it is such an issue along with natural hair with black people.

(Germany) Earnest

Q: What do you think about the rivalry between light vs. dark?

Earnest: It is only black people to measure themselves on skin color; it is time to wake up from our slumber and unite as a people.

(France) Julian

Q: Does the issue of light skin affect black men too?

Julian: No as bad as women but I do recall being called light bright and almost white in school as well be referred to as a ghost, but the white people treated me as one of them literally. Where women are concerned, I think the problem is that a lot of black men are color struck and that plays into all the hype surrounding this issue. Being a light-skinned man is was called the pretty boy a lot growing up

(China) Huang

Q: Is skin color relevant in China?

Huang: Pale skin is the epitome of beauty in China. A lot of women bleach their skin daily to achieve this look. We stay out of the sun.

Q: What is your experience?

Huang: I don’t use bleaching creams, but a lot of my relatives do. I just enjoy the skin I have that comes with ridicule from my relatives, but I have to learn to live with it. ‘Bai Fu Mei,’ which means the white, wealthy, and beautiful ideal standard for beauty for my country. In Asia, light skin is esteemed highly because it reflects high class in social circles, while dark skin is indicative of working manual labor outside associated with the poor.

(South Africa) Roger Tinley

Q: Is light skin important to men or is it just a woman issue?

Roger: It is relevant to everyone, men and women. We perceive light skin as a trophy because it is closer to white. I love the look of light skin.

(India) Shweta Rai

Q: Is light skin relevant in India?

Shweta: Yes, very much so. We worship light skin, we all want it, desire it. We think it makes us more beautiful and desirable in terms of marriage. We are told as girls that if we’re going to be chosen in marriage, we must lighten our skin. Bollywood endorses light skin that needs to change. Many dark girls and guys in India are pretty too. I am dusky that is why I support various lighting creams, I want to be fair and beautiful plus I want a husband, and this gives me a fair chance. Billions of dollars are spent annually for fairness creams in India, this is a precursor to marital status, and the naked Bollywood celebrities are literally worshipped as gods.

(Dominican Republic) Angela Gonzales

Q: Is being light skin important in the Dominican Republic?

Angela: My mother taught us to use bleaching creams and marry someone lighter than us to keep our race white looking. Like all the Caribbean and Hispanics countries all like light skin.

(Nigeria) Ugo Nwoke

Q: How important is light skin in Nigeria?

Ugi: Light skin from my personal observation seems to be selling in Nigeria. As far as looking beautiful goes, most women chose to lighten up their skin, and that calls for bleaching. The women in Nigeria bleach their skin as they wear lipstick daily. People pay more attention to light-skinned people, and a lot of women bleach their skin. I instead think Its more the colonial thing and what is seen on television and magazines. There is a fascination for light skin.

(Mexico) Maria Elena

Q: Is being light skinned or dark skinned an issue in Mexico?

Maria Elena: Yes, as a child, my Mom told me I was too dark. She would never let me go outside in the sun. I noticed that the lighter Mexicans were valued as being prettier. If you had bright eyes and skin, you were considered a treasure.

(North American Indian) Steven

Q: Is being light skin important within Indians?

Steven: When a tribe has a baby that has blonde hair and blue eyes, they are treated like this baby is a symbol of God. The baby is esteemed as very special and will have all the benefits entitled to light skin people.

(South Africa) Joyce

Q: How many procedures do you do annual to lighten the skin?

Joyce: 100 per month, maybe more or less but on the average 100 procedures per month. Q: Do you think light skin should be a reflection of beauty?

Joyce: No I think your features are they are more celebrated to change in my line of work.

I think people in my country place to much value on the way they look.

Q: What was a personal experience that you had with colorism?

Joyce: My first experience was with my Mom, who said, “I was so cute, but if I had light skin and long hair, I would be a beauty queen.” This was devastating to me, parents need to be aware of what they say to their children.

The Light Skin Preference

Dense, short, skinny, light eyes, dark eyes, white teeth, big but, long legs, long hair, short hair, or big boobs. These and other terms are associated with general preferences of individuals. The dividing line where choice becomes detrimental when you down another to fulfill your quota of personal preference. Clearly, preference can be defined as a selection of somebody or something: the view that one person, object, or course of action is more desirable than another, or a choice based on such a view. From the perspective of the “big picture,” we have options some are manipulated by our parents and the media as we identify with the culture and skin color. The psychological problems associated with preference, we are hard-wired at birth or in our most impressionable years to perceive you truth of another. We have got to come to an understanding of who we are (dilemma 11) and come together as a people. We as a people are so indifferent instead of embracing the whole spectrum of our array of color or hue we discriminate among our own people. I am sure that Willie Lynch is clapping in his grave for him did an excellent job of separating a people according to skin color, are we the modern day Willie Lynch? When will black people wake up? What are the preferences? Is beauty in the eye of the beholder or is it … Preference? We all have choices – Do we prefer coffee or tea? Do we prefer to wear this or that? Do you favor or dark people? What is a preference? A selection of somebody or something; the view that one person, object, or course of action is more desirable than another, or a choice based on such a view. What is a preference made? It can be embedded in teachings and philosophy by society. The power of suggestion like beauty can convince a person of believing a myth or lie. You hear or see something so much that it can become a preference. Preferences are actually performed to us through media, what you see is what you esteem the best. As a child, they can be programmed to accept anyone standard of beauty, through watching hours of television programming. We all have our preferences but where the danger lies when our decisions affect another person or shed light on an individual in a negative light. For examples:

1. Taking negative about your own race. (the self-hating negro)

2. Marrying someone to have light kids with curly hair. (the lousy hair myth)

3. Putting all black women or man in a bag together. (stereotypes of the black woman that don’t apply to everyone)

Proverbs 22:6 KJV “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Which is stating that there is a level of conditioning training that a child must go through to be able to except themselves and not be a partaker of negative views of superficial aspects of one’s self. Trying to differentiate the reason why there is such a light skin preference which leads to destruction mentally. I sometimes feel that it has always been about the white people controlling the slaves encouraging the controlled populations to fight amongst themselves so that they can be more easily manipulated. So I go back to slavery which was the biggest determiner of our psyche as black people. Willie Lynch Letter + Colonization = The Great Divide among our ancestor’s Media views of black people + parental agreement = Disillusionment of our people

Fullten, who is a mixed raced woman on tumblr stated,

“As a product of a black man chasing after white women, it makes me super uncomfortable when black men reblog my photos, and I go to their page, and it’s nothing but either, white girls or lite bites. Like, my dad dated nothing but white women, and my mother seemed to gravitate towards this type of black man, who would get a ton of arbitrary African statues from pier 1, listen to nothing but jazz, only buy from black artists, and yet, seemed to exclusively go for white women. I’ve heard my stepfather at the time say he loved her pale skin, and that he didn’t even know she was Spanish, he just saw white. These men foolishly gravitate towards whiteness like a moth to a low watt light bulb in the dark. My father and stepfather used the whiteness of my mother and the women they dated as a status symbol. It was common for my father to say ‘I got a big house, a Corvette, and a hot wife,’ she was tall, white, and blonde, and she hated when he said that. She hated when he listed her among his possessions. He used her as ‘proof’ of his success at the time. That if anyone looked at his life, they would see a successful black man, and a white wife solidified that. I hate it because this mentality comes at the price of dark-skinned black women and women who are proud of their blackness. It seems like something they need to stomp out. I dated a lot of black men who fetishized my light skin, and hated dark skin and anything that was linked to blackness in women, they tied it in with failure, ugliness, poverty… So many comments about my afro and hair, they wanted straight hair, I had to adhere to the European ideal of beauty as best as I could. I remember drawing black women and getting comments from these guys, laughing at my work, ‘why did you draw her so dark??’ but when I brought dark men, there was never any laughing. I noticed how my father treated my grandmother, sometimes well, but towards the end, it was horrible. Just using her and nothing else. There was no respect. Black men who chase white women and lite bites ain’t shit. They hate dark skin women, and they hate blackness outside and inside themselves.”

“If you’re black, stay back; if you’re brown, stick around; if you’re yellow, you’re mellow; if you’re white, you’re all right.”

Redbone – Yellow Bone – Bright – Light bright almost white – Wannabee – White girl – Darkie – Ugly – Tar Baby – Blackie – mellow yellow – midnight – Jigaboo – pretty for a dark girl – burnt – angel – blue-black It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women in the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, brown girls are discriminated against based on color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to lofty heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think about a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be. Its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women and being of a member of the dark nation.

Racial Caste System

This system introduces the white woman as the hierarchy of beauty, which has been the world’s declaration since the dawn of slavery. Through media, and the invention of television, we are brainwashed daily with the Eurocentric kind of beauty. What indeed is the Racial Caste System? The caste system as it exists today is thought to be the result of developments during the collapse of the Mughal era and the British colonial regime in India. The failure of the Mughal age saw the rise of powerful men who associated themselves with kings, priests, and ascetics, affirming the regal and martial form of the caste ideal, and it also reshaped many apparently casteless social groups into differentiated caste communities. The British Raj furthered this development, making rigid caste organization a central mechanism of administration. Between 1860 and 1920, the British government segregated Indians by caste, granting administrative jobs and senior appointments only to the upper castes. Social unrest during the 1920s led to a change in this policy. From then on, the colonial administration began a policy of positive discrimination by reserving a certain percentage of government jobs for the lower castes. Aryan Race is the master race that was a concept in Nazi ideology in which the Nordic or Aryan races, which were thought to predominate among Germans and other northern European peoples, were deemed the highest in an assumed racial hierarchy. The Nazi official Alfred Rosenberg believed that the Nordic race (not limited to blondes but all classes of hair color with Nordic features) was descended from Proto-Aryans who he believed had prehistorically dwelt on the North German Plain and who had ultimately originated from the lost continent of Atlantis. The Nazis declared that the Nordics (now referred to as the Germanic peoples), or Aryan as they sometimes called them, were superior to all other races. The Nazis believed they were entitled to expand territorially.

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What is the most celebrated skin color? (www.theperfechumanface.com)

49% Light skin 20% Dark Skin 32% It doesn’t matter.

Order of rank for Racial Caste System

1. Nordic/Aryan (white)

2. Asian

3. Hispanics

4. Black

Standard of beauty for the world – Nordic beauty is arguably the most promoted beauty in the media around the world. Cited as “the ideal beauty” (White women) possessing blonde hair, blue eyes are arguably the archetype of beauty.

Straight hair, pale skin, thin body, and light eyes.

Asian standard of beauty – Pale white skin, Heart shaped face (v face shaped), large eyes, small pointed nose, little feet, and slender frame. The

Hispanic standard of beauty – Light skinned and light eyes (features that adopted a more European look)

The black standard of beauty – Light skinned and long hair (features intimately favoring that of white women) This prejudice exists among blacks

Order of rank for Black Caste System

1. Light Skin Blacks

2. Dark Skin Blacks

The light skinned woman is questionably considered the most beautiful among black people. Long hair is preferred. The dark-skinned woman has been declared the ugliest of the black woman, the subject of ridicule because of skin color and hair texture.

My interview with Trina, a light-skinned Indian model & businesswoman

Q: What are the views in India concerning beauty? Is light skin or dark skin an issue?

Trina: International standards are fast modeling and re-shaping the precepts of beauty in India- at least to my knowledge. I can’t opine on behalf of almost a billion people but according to my individual experiences big eyes-pointed straight nose-bow lips-at least 5’7 is the general beauty paradigm. Fair skin is a HUGE advantage and does add to a girl’s reputation. But thankfully, people realize the importance of healthy, glowing skin irrespective of the tone. In 20 years maybe India will be as appreciative of the dark and glossy surface as it is of excellent and luminescent today. I have had an unfair advantage in several situations because of my fair skin. Like interviews and even a positive impression on teachers in college. Put a light complexioned studious girl beside a dark-skinned equally diligent girl, and the former will always come out better!

Q: What I would like to know about in India is the skin lightening epidemic and what has been your experience with that? How much do Indians spend on skin lightening creams annually?

Trina: Skin lightening is definitely NOT a fad where India is concerned. Even though the British have left, the yoke of fair skin oppression still afflicts us. Fair is beautiful, without exception almost all over the country. Men might deny that they aren’t complexion conscious and label actresses like Bipasha Basu attractive. But at the end of the day, it is a Kareena Kapoor who rules the Box Office. I personally do not spend much on skin lightening products. But I would say the average Indian woman quickly spends Rs. 5000 a year on facials and enhancers.

My interview with Anita, a dark-skinned Indian student

Q: What are the views in India concerning dark skin and light skin?

Anita: Light skin is definitely favored, it can affect you getting the good job or a husband.

Q: How has this affected you?

Anita: When I was young I was told by Mum and other family members that I was too dark and that I would never get married. It’s about the Caste system you know. Us dark Indians are frowned upon in society. This is why I had to leave India. My country is the worst, a girl and gets martyred because of her dark skin color. I was not willing to bleach my brown skin. India is very satanic with the worship of so many pagan gods.

Q: With a country is so heavy into idol god worship, how did you escape?

Anita: The attitudes of my family drove me away then I saw the light when I traveled to the west.

Q: Who is your beauty inspiration? Anita: That is easy, you are, I have admired your striking beauty, grace, kindness, and charisma.

My interview with Sanjay, an Indian web designer

Q: What are the views in India concerning dark skin and light skin?

Sanjay: Light skin is better is the motto of the South Asian. That is not my view but it is shared by most. The women in my family endorse fairness creams. I know the British regime is to blame for this. I have been told I must marry light skin so our children will be fair.

Q: You live in Ghana (Africa) now, how is it different from India?

Sanjay: The people are more chill. India is far worse, from what I have seen with the obsession with having light skin.

Q: Is it a custom in India only to marry light skinned women?

Sanjay: Yes, well most of the marriages are arranged, and the dowry may be higher to marry a darker woman. They love women that look like Aishwarya Rai, she is highly desired for the mere fact of the light eyes and skin. I personally, don’t find her attractive, she looks white. If you looking at Indian actresses, I think Priyanka Chopra is much more beautiful.

Q: How did this affect you when you chose your wife? And how did your family react to your chose of the wife?

Sanjay: It had no effect, my wife is a black smoking hot, dark-skinned woman, from South Africa. My family was not happy about it, they wanted me to marry a Bengali girl they picked. I wasn’t having it. The people in my country have a hatred for black people, but secretly they know there is something peculiar about them.

Light skin is favored to divide and conquer the dark nations. To keep our people divided to retain the oppressor dominance in this world, this oppressor wants to remain its position on top. If the wicked countries would discover the truth in who they really are, it would literally set them free. The dividing lines of color are among the dark nations, the people of color, to most Caucasian/white people we are all considered Dark skinned.

Colorism is defined as the racism between people that possess color to their skin, stating that light skin is the most coveted. Colorism is something that was taught during Slavery to separate the light from the dark, the excessively curly hair from the loosely textured hair. The descendants of slaves have bought these myths and dwell on these beliefs daily. They hate each other and anything that is a close resemblance to the white race is praised. The white people of that time conditioned the minds of the Negro that further their agenda that they are the superior being. Through much negative mind conditioning, the black people bought this lie. Who told us that our hair or skin color wasn’t good enough, mere people, right? Truthfully, people don’t have a heaven or hell to put you in, do they? We can put up a thousand articles about Colorism and videos nothing will ever change.

 What defines us?

Is our virtue not our color Let’s embrace our uniqueness Ladies Just like your eye color dimensions to your fingerprint were as unique Why should the world win in the mist of sin I’m light you dark we both can win.

Don’t let the world define you. Don’t let them tell you who you are. Don’t let them stop you from taking your rightful place. Don’t let them stop you. Don’t let them tell you that light skin is better than dark skin. Don’t let them tell you to fit into the Europeans standards of beauty. Don’t let them stop you from being all the creator wants you to be. Don’t let them define you. Don’t let them tell you that you are not made in the creator image and likeness. Don’t let them separate us. Don’t let them keep you from the kingdom of God.

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The answer to “Colorism” is to repent of our sins, seek the father in heaven, our creator, the Most High God of Israel. Purify your mind and thoughts with the word of the Most High (the holy bible) He will teach you who you are, your purpose and destiny. We were sold into slavery due to our iniquities and transgressions against the Most High. Seeking the Most High and renewing your mind will change your thinking about yourself, making people aware of it will not change, the conditioning as already permeating the souls of our people. Repent and return to the Most High, that is the only way.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 29 – The Universal Standard of Beauty

 

All around the world, brown girls are discriminated against based on the color of their skin. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to lofty heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it.
The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about the woman that nobody sees you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. For a female – being beautiful is more desired than intelligence, 90% of people that were interviewed agreed. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are the judge on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth.

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I don’t think that a mathematical equation or symmetry dictates the essence of beauty. At the end of the day, beauty is merely an opinion of the person that beholds it, adores it, or analyzes it. True beauty is not derived by explaining physical anatomy, lips, eyes or skin color but by being obedient to the one that created you. A woman of virtue is highly prized. I have discovered that no matter how many people say I am beautiful, one the prettiest they have seen or I am a visual phenomenon there still will be those that don’t share that opinion. The way we love ourselves can’t be based on the opinions of others but on the one that has the power to place us in heaven or hell. The opinions of men and women will change with time, situation or what you look like from day to day.

Light eyes… Big lips… small lips…small eyes…big nose… little nose…full cheeks… longneck… Light skin… dark eyes…dark skin…blonde hair… blue eyes…slim waist. Pretty face… white woman… black women… short hair… long hair… dark hair… What is the Universal Standard of Beauty?

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A conversation between two women:

White woman:

We are the universal standard because we’re prettier with light skin and straight hair we have been declared the ideal of beauty (Perception)

Black woman:

Absolutely untrue! On average, over 60% of white women are tanning their skin, injecting your lips to make them fuller, and having surgery to enhance their gluteus maximus. These enhancements are what black women are naturally endowed with. (Reality) The power that some white people have is that they create and spread lies that imply the myth of their superiority, learning the truth empowers you from the demoralizing effect of their lies. This is the truth that will set your free while breaking the strongholds in your thought process of what you have been conditioned to believe. There are undoubtedly beautiful women in every nation around the world. It is a fallacy to think that white women are the archetype of beauty.

The construct and narrative of the universal standard of beauty established by the media:

1. Blonde long straight hair
2. Light eyes
3. Skinny body
4. Long legs
5. Long straight nose
The mainstream beauty ideal “The Universal Standard of Beauty” is singularly white, making it all the more unattainable for women of color. While colonialism and White Supremacy are to blame, this theory places a blonde white woman at the top of the hierarchy of beauty. What does this mean for black women?

This Eurocentric standard of beauty dictates to young black girls or any woman of color that they don’t measure up or not good enough. We can assume that this is an attack on the brown girl. An attack on their psyche, this starts as a child. As a young girl watches hours upon hours of television, instead of spending time with her mother. The woman that could teach her the value of her skin and hair. Instead, the young women of today are lost in trying to conform to such a theory of beauty, that really doesn’t matter. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked female.” – Erin McKean

There is a universal standard of beauty regardless of race, age, sex, and other variables but it is all exclusive to the Nordic, Aryan, or by today’s standards the white woman. Pragmatically logical thinkers, all know that the notion that white women are the archetype of beauty is unbelievable. No doubt, every nation has beautiful women. It is true that beautiful faces across the board of any race that has ideal facial proportion are beautiful. Ideal proportion is directly related to the divine proportion, and that proportion is 1 to 1.618. All living organisms, including humans, are genetically encoded to develop to this proportion because there are extreme esthetic and physiologic benefits. The vast majority of us are not perfectly proportioned because of environmental factors. Establishment of a universal standard for beauty will significantly simplify the diagnosis and treatment of facial disharmonies and abnormalities. More important, treating to this standard will maximize facial esthetics. Our face allows us to convey our every thought and feeling with those around us in a nearly instantaneous manner. Without our face, we would be stuck in an emotionless and depressing self-existence devoid of a primary vehicle of communication. Our eyes subsequently, convey our deep emotions or lack thereof. As social beings, it is in our very nature to share our expressions with the outside world. It is likewise in our nature to subconsciously judge each face, assigning certain traits to particular facial characteristics. One of the most important characteristics that we judge is “beauty”. Interestingly, there is an unusually consistent agreement of what is considered “beautiful” amongst different cultures, but only when we are referring to the face rather than the body, a topic that will be explored herein. These preferences span borders, cultures, and generations, meaning yes, there really are universal standards of beauty. And while Western women do struggle to be slim, the truth is, women in all cultures eat (or don’t) to appeal to “the male gaze.” The body size that’s idealized in a particular culture appears to correspond to the availability of food and lack of exercise. In cultures like ours, where you can’t go five miles without passing a fast food restaurant which features large amounts of sugars and fat which contribute to excess body fat and poor health. Genetically, thinner women are in. You’re completely ignoring obvious differences in concepts of “beauty” among different societies and different periods of history. There are societies where women with necks swollen by goiters are “beautiful.” There are societies where women with lips stretched far out by years of wearing metal plates in their mouths are “beautiful.” There are still some old women alive in China today who grew up in a society where deliberately deformed feet (from “footbinding”) were considered beautiful. None of those attributes is considered beautiful in the western world. There are quite a few apparently problems with the assumptions and definitions of beauty, to say that it “scientifically proves” that the world’s totally overblown theory, is that the white woman is genetically superior to all women. This is an exaggerated statement where objective historical evidence shows that not factual. Beauty = health (both physical and mental); or it is an indicator of health if it floats your boat or butters your muffin. I know in the black community, being heavy is more expectable than the other racial groups. White people are more attractive to skinny bodies. Which is why it is supposed to be objective, because humans (and animals for that matter) are genetically programmed to be attracted to healthy individuals. It’d be stupid to fight and/or blame the Most High for creating us this way. However, objectively recognizing/admitting someone’s beauty and being attracted to a specific person (real person, not a celebrity) are in fact different things. Roughly speaking we’re not only attracted to health in general but specific genetic characteristics which we might lack, too. So, the core of a beauty concept is objective (even though people don’t realize it), but its shell is subjective, indeed in the eyes of the beholder. Finally, we humans differ from animals in many ways; and one of them is that we sometimes “deviate”, we break the Nature’s laws and allow perverted/distorted standards ruin our perception of many things, including beauty. Heavy makeup, emulations, plastic surgeries, hormonal supplements, fake hair, fake body parts, unnaturally excessive physical activity, binging, purging, and materialism. All these things, in fact, mislead us and our perceptions. This must be taken into consideration every time one sees a “Barbie doll.”

In all judgments by which we describe anything as beautiful, we allow no one to be of another opinion.” ― Immanuel Kant, Critique of Judgment

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Let me tell you something – being thought of as a beautiful woman has spared me nothing in life. No heartache, no trouble. Love has been difficult. Beauty is essentially meaningless and it is always transitory. — Halle Berry

When you think of beauty, naturally Halle Berry comes to mind, with her beautiful bone structure, flawless skin, and sparkling dark eyes. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. We should be thin, but healthy; they should have a flat stomach but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. In this superficial world where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify our appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be. This concept trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda. This way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are a judge on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth. Nancy Etcoff, states in her book “Survival of the Prettiest: The Science of Beauty” that, “Beauty ensnares hearts, captures minds, and stirs up emotional wildfires.” Beauty is definitely apart of the genetic makeup of the aesthetics culturally and universal. With all the madness and craze over what one looks like, it is safe to say that it is definitely in the eyes of the beholder. Subjective and Objective.

This quote from the publisher of the book Survival of the prettiest summarizes the reality of beauty quite succinctly: “Nancy Etcoff, a faculty member at Harvard Medical School and a practicing psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital, puts forth that beauty is neither a cultural construction, an invention of the fashion industry, nor a backlash against feminism—it is in our biology. It’s an essential and ineradicable part of human nature that is revered and ferociously pursued in nearly every civilization and for good reason. Those features to which we are most attracted are often signals of fertility and fecundity.

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Physical beauty is amazing With the fervor of a gazelle, we stroll Without a concern for the world Our faces are prettier than a sunrise Drawing those glances our way With those around us silent in awe the crowd drink thirstily of our physical beauty. We know where our beauty originated from It is something that we were born with not something contrived.

Many capitalize on being genetically gifted because everyone desires beauty. To gaze at beauty is mind-numbing. Beautiful people are the recipients of the privilege – the beauty privilege. Beautiful people in their lifetime will get better jobs, better treatment, make more money, endless marriage proposals, and endless perks. On the other side, they experience hate, jealousy, and envy. Is it their fault? That all depends are they making fun of others that lack physical beauty?

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Most of us know there are huge dividends when you are good looking, after all, society spends endless hours plus billions of dollars on beauty salons, on cosmetics, and costly plastic surgery all to alter your personal appearance. But are good looking people have that certain to puts them above the rest? Based on reality, yes most certain they are highly favored in society. The award for being beautiful is anything but superficial it can really change your life.

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Good looking people are associated with being good and intelligence, in some cases, yes but in my experience, the less attractive people have higher IQ and are very intellectually stimulating, trust me it goes both ways. Beautiful people are perceived as honest, sociable, and good. In some cases that is the truth but there are also self-centered – ego tactical good looking people as well. There are always exceptions to any rule.

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Even when I see a beautiful woman, I think, ‘Aw, her life must be amazing.’ Everyone does it. That’s human nature to believe that beauty is everything — Marina and the Diamonds
The mainstream beauty ideal “The most beautiful girl in the world” is singularly of the caucasian/nordic/white groups of people, making it all the more unattainable for young girls of color. While colonialism and White Supremacy are to blame, this theory places blonde white girls at the top of the hierarchy of beauty. What does this mean for black young girls? This Eurocentric standard of beauty dictates to young black girls, that they don’t measure up or not good enough. We can assume that this is an attack on the brown girl. An attack on their psyche, this starts as a child. As a young girl watches hours upon hours of television, instead of spending time with her mother. The woman that could teach her the value of her skin color and hair texture. Instead, the young women of today are lost in trying to conform to such a theory of beauty, that really doesn’t matter. I came across a post where this beautiful Nigerian girl was dubbed “The Most Beautiful” I thought finally “Dark Brown Beauty” is getting a long-awaited stamp of approval but unfortunately judging by the reception on several media outlets the backlash through the comment sections were trying to discredit this claim. Not only was it people from the Nordic/Aryan race (we know as white people) but there were black people as well shouting their disapproval. This only happens when a black person is called the most beautiful. Sadly, black women are frowned upon in terms of personal beauty. I know this stems from slavery; the conditioning and brainwashing past down from generation to generation. The very words of our slave masters haunt the minds and psyche of the black race. What are they hiding why such an attack, Learn your history boys and girls, it goes way back before the slave ships and the captivity around the world. Beauty is subjective, in the eye of the beholder and no child should grow up rejecting his or her own beauty. How can we create a society that looks beyond skin color and accepts the personal beauty of each individual?

Meet the 5-year-old Nigerian beauty, Jare Ijalana, the most beautiful girl in the world. She is definitely a babydoll and well deserving of the title.

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Jare’s personal beauty replaces the theory, while breaking the stereotype of a eurocentric kind of beauty and replaces it with a beautiful dark brown face mirroring the new image of what is truly beautiful.
Anastasia Knyazeva (L) and Thylane Blondeau (R)
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Nordic beauties Anastasia and Thylane both in previous years dubbed, “The Most Beautiful Girl in the World,” with no backlash what so ever. One manifestation of white supremacy is the use of whiteness as the standard of beauty. When whiteness (pale skin) is considered superior, white people are considered more attractive by definition and ifs the appearance of people of other races deviates from that standard, they are considered ugly. Lisa Wade Ph.D., “When whiteness is the standard of beauty” article on societypages.org

Type A Amber Heard (Top L)Angelina Jolie (Top R) Brooke Shields (Bottom L) Aishwarya Rai Bachchan ( Bottom R) – They are beautiful women and have all topped internet polls declaring them ‘the most beautiful woman in the world.’ What they all have in common are their Nordic-European facial features.

Amber (the most beautiful face according to science), Angelina, Brooke, and Aishwarya have been cited as “the most beautiful woman in the world.” What do they have in common they have very Nordic facial features. Although Aishwarya is Indian, her facial features and skin color, with the exception of her nose are very Nordic. When the white European male sets the standards the world follows, this doesn’t make it true but creates an illusion. To speak of a reality where light skin, light eyes, and tall slender bodies are presented as the benchmarks of European dogma a spectacle of breathtaking provincialism – “The universal standard of beauty“ It universalizes the concept of whiteness to epitomize beauty around the world. It suggests, perversely, and seriously, dictates what is beautiful and what is not.

Type B Cicely Tyson (Top L) Halle Berry (Top R) Vanessa Williams (Bottom L) Jayne Kennedy Overton (Bottom R) – This gorgeous woman of color have received a level of notoriety because of their good looks but not to the point of “Type A” group above.

“Women of Color” around the world – Suffering from low self-esteem brought on by colonization, slavery, and the media. Some aspire to look more white. Through the globalization of media, advertisements, magazines, and movies have trended toward a standard of beauty, whereby we are all encouraged to appear tall, thin, fair skin and our face should resemble that of the Europeans the fair-skinned Europeans that is. The image of the beautiful Caucasian woman with the blonde hair and blue eyes has become the world standard in terms of what is perceived as beauty but I will go a step further and say all white women have become the norm all around the world that looks is highly coveted or is it the media that has everyone hoodwinked by power of suggestion? Propaganda? The women around the world covet the straight hair and light skin through colonization to make a certain group of people full less than human. The world has actually been whitewashed with the alliance of lightness with desirability and beauty in women. The western-dominated culture and media have played in the propagation of the idyllic of light skin globally as perfection. The society that we live in my never changes so we must look for our validation elsewhere with our creator. As far as the earth has been here, they have been many forms of spectacular beauty. The woman has been symbolic of beauty stereotypes founded by ancient and present history. Today there is a valid argument of who the most beautiful woman is on earth. Certain news programs and people have tagged many caucasian celebrities (or ones that closely mimic they look) as the most beautiful, and internet polls can only go so far in there depiction of the perfect woman. Colonization is to be held responsible through concurring the world, they changed the perception of beauty into their women and their style through the power of persuasion, you say something for so long it becomes the truth the standard throughout the world and with the brainwashing for the media outlets they dictate who you should perceive as the standard of beauty. Women and Men are beautiful the world over no matter the skin tone. There is NO one standard of beauty, the world is full of unique people from every nationality, it is our differences that make us unique and beautiful from the palest Caucasian to the darkest African and in between. “The Pedestal” mentality and The Porcelain Doll” effect. A child is conditioned to accept everything that is put before them, there is a conditioning process that stimulates the thought processed before puberty subliminal messages programmed into the brain in terms of what is beauty what is expectable and what is not. Through media and magazines, this has been made possible to dictate to the masses what the standard of beauty is, before television, it was revealed through colonization. If something is constantly subjected or put before you then you will adopt it as your own and that becomes your reality and belief.

Nearly all black and brown skins are beautiful, but a beautiful white skin is rare. Where dark complexions are massed, they make the whites look bleached-out, unwholesome, and sometimes frankly ghastly. I could notice this as a boy, down South in the slavery days before the war. The splendid black satin skin of the South African Zulus of Durban seemed to me to come very close to perfection. The white man’s complexion makes no concealments. It can’t. It seemed to have been designed as a catch-all for everything that can damage it. Ladies have to paint it, and powder it, and cosmetic it, and diet it with arsenic, and enamel it, and be always enticing it, and persuading it, and pestering it, and fussing at it, to make it beautiful; and they do not succeed. But these efforts show what they think of the natural complexion, as distributed. As distributed it needs these helps. The complexion which they try to counterfeit is one which nature restricts to the few–to the very few. To ninety-nine persons, she gives a bad complexion, to the hundredth a good one. The hundredth can keep it–how long? Ten years, perhaps. The advantage is with the Zulu, I think. He starts with a beautiful complexion, and it will last him through. And as for the Indian brown–firm, smooth, blemishless, pleasant, and restful to the eye, afraid of no color, harmonizing with all colors and adding a grace to them all–I think there is no sort of chance for the average white complexion against that rich and perfect tint. — Mark Twain, Skin Deep – Complexions
The Black skin is not a badge of shame, but rather a glorious symbol of national greatness. — Marcus Garvey
“Dipped in chocolate, bronzed in elegance, enameled with grace, toasted with beauty. My lord, she’s a black woman.” –Yosef A.A. Ben-Jochannan
Why black women are considered ugly and less than human?
Racism is truly the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of  Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races: a profound prejudice against black people or other ethnic groups based on color. Its core belief that people of different races have different qualities and abilities, and that some races are inherently superior or inferior to the other races. Slavery in America was the biggest catalyst for this kind of hate. Thus, we are programmed into the valid rules of attraction, in what we may choose or are compelled to choose, in what is beautiful and good and what is not. For over 400 years, black people have been programmed to believe that they are less than human. When indeed, our melanin is superior to all the nations, our hair faces the Most High, we are his people. We are CHOSEN and the powers that be know that, this is why we have been conditioned to believe that we are less than nothing. The images that you see every day have a negative impact on your thinking, it is negative programming.
Views from around the world


The white woman is the universal standard of beauty — Zacharyxo Some things can’t be contested. Some might argue that beauty is subjective, and therefore, not global. While the concept of human beauty can be a personal thing, I feel that natural beauty is ubiquitous. It’s hard to argue the universal beauty of a sunset. Regardless of your own concepts of beauty, most people agree that such a scene is beautiful. Many such things exist in nature. Natural beauty is universal, transcending subjectivity. — Anonymous

Chloe Boucher

Beauty is a meaningless construct. Despite culturally self-gratifying pop science ramblings to the contrary, physical beauty does not exist. Beauty is a response, elicited when exposed to various cues which are often paired with that which is desirable in media, both mass and cultural. Observe the homogenizing of beauty standards with the advent of mass media, and the ever-fluctuating, vapid ideals which people around the world chase endlessly. By homogenizing the idea of beauty and manipulating it, the fashion, diet, and cosmetic industries can generate billions in revenue. But beauty, initially, was deeply tied to intimate cultural forces and has only recently been molded into something with some degree of universality.— Skepsikyma Standards of beauty vary greatly. From culture to culture, standards of beauty vary. Such rules have also changed throughout history. Our modern ideas of beauty are greatly affected by the fashion industry and advertising campaigns. The idea that women must be thin, be free of body hair and sweat, and be perfectly coiffed and made up comes from deodorant companies, razor companies, diet-food companies, and hair care companies trying to sell more products. Sadly, modern western beauty ideals are in danger of becoming more universal because of globalization and the spread of advertising imagery. —- ChevalR Yes it is I live in India and beauty here is what westerners believe in beauty, Indians look a bit dark and don’t have such features, but I always see western models in an advertisement in hoardings. India also has a fairness obsession. I have not seen this in any other country like Malaysia or Indonesia, where they always cast a local model instead of a western model. Maybe because Indians and Europeans are both Caucasians and indeed we Indians like the lighter variant of the two subsets. —Anonymous Beauty is universal Beauty, on the other hand, should not be descriptive, nor should it be normative. I believe that beauty is universal. Although our perceptions of taste and style may differ from one another; does not mean that we find other flavors hideous? Of course, we will always think our taste is better than the rest, but you will still appreciate different styles of art. I believe that we were all born with an idea of what beauty is, but as life went on, other views (culture, media, etc.) have influenced us very much. That being the reason for our different tastes. But the fact that we can still recognize something beautiful proves that beauty is universal. —- Anonymous Constants have been shown across culture and time Google image search models from non-western countries. Google image search models from previous periods. What do they all have in common? They are attractive by today’s so-called “modern western beauty standard.” With this exercise, it will become very apparent to you that there’s nothing actually ‘modern’ or ‘western’ about what we find beautiful. —– Anonymous This has been validated by science. Studies show universal preferences for several physical characteristics, including facial symmetry, high gender polarity (i.E., Masculine men and feminine women), and in women, a waist-hip ratio around 0.7. — Anonymous Yes, it is I believe that all cultures should have a chance to express what they think is a beauty. Just because someone doesn’t think something is beautiful, one place doesn’t mean it isn’t beautiful somewhere else. Beauty does not necessarily mean it is found on the inside but on the outside as well. — Anonymous

What is beauty?
The three wishes of every man: to be healthy, to be productive by honest means, and to be beautiful. —PLATO 

We all know beauty when we notice its radiance, yet it is entirely transient. It has to do with subtle yet meaningless things like the beauty of your eyes, symmetry, the clarity of the skin, the balance of the cheekbones, the prominence of the nose, the fullness of the lips, and the shape of the body. We all know ugly the lack of symmetry and visual perception of beauty when we see it too. Yet this whole concept about beauty is incongruous. Like Science, beauty is based on theory. Is Beauty in the one of the beholder? Really that depends on who you ask? – “The Universal Standard of Beauty” in which black women are affected the most because of the European standard of beauty, which makes them the recipient of many comments like:

She is ugly … She’s fat … She’s Dark … Her nose is big. Her lips are so big.. She looks like a man..

But indeed all nonwhite people suffer from this dilemma but are often in ignorance associating with this standard uplifting European white women as the standard of beauty. The dangerous effects of judging one’s own personal beauty leave devastating consequences around the world. In China, Face – umbrellas are used to prevent tanning. Skin lighting products are famous across the globe, especially in India and Africa Black women are getting western rhinoplasty to make their noses more Caucasian Light eyes are the craze, colored contact sales are on the rise. Straight hair is associated with the universal standard of Slim beauty frames are desired the most, which lead to eating disorders around the world.

The Perception of the beautiful is gradual, and not a lightning revelation; it requires not only time, but some study —- Giovanni Ruddini, Poet (1807-1881)

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Oxford’s Dictionary refers to beauty as “A combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight.” What is it about the beauty that has us so enamored with its power and aesthetics? The answer would definitely not be a clique or fallacy but a term of endearment to the one that beholds such a pulchritude of perfection. When one thinks of beauty, they often refer to it as bewitching, extraordinary, alluring, universal, timeless, and youthful. Natural beauty within itself has the power to influence the beholder of its magnificence. The Human eye knows beauty when it sees it is ethereal. It has components that hypnotize the beholders as in eyes, cheekbones, noses, and full lips. Beauty is superficial but enchanting, but there are really only a few that are genetically gifted with physical beauty.

1. The Contrast and vividness of Skin Color.
What combinations that are more intensified from dark skin to light skin? Most faces with bright eyes, darker skin presents a vivid contrast – Faces with light skin and dark eyes give a sharp contrast. Dark eyes with Dark skin the difference is intensified by color, Light skin with bright eyes is strengthened by receding light tones. Your skin is the canvas on which your facial features translate its beauty.
2. The congruence of facial features
In the front of the head where the eyes, nose, lips, chin, cheeks, forehead all in alliance with each other giving a staggering computation of facial beauty in a combination of aesthetic perfection in harmony together. It is your facial features that make your face attractive, not your skin color.
3. The Symmetry (1.618)
In numbers, the Greeks believed that perfect symmetry was responsible for the attractiveness of a face and that attractive looks were closer to the beauty ratio of 1.618. This brings me to what is “Universal Attractiveness,” which is determined through nations, cultures, personal tastes, and eras, which is a common denominator in both female and male attractiveness. Feminine beauty: big eyes, small nose, full lips, narrow jaw line, youthful appearance, thick hair, and hourglass figure. Male Beauty: thick Eyebrows, little eyes, a more large nose, tanned skin, prominent jawline, and a V-shaped body. Even with defining what is really beautiful, the rule of thumb is that Beauty is Subjective. It is based on somebody’s opinions or feelings rather than on facts or evidence this subjectivity can translate into the phrase “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” This analogy goes far beyond theory where science bases beauty strictly on the approach the eye gate is the final verdict on what it viewed as physical attractiveness through personal thought, reasoning, or cultural influence. In general, beauty is a beauty, but aesthetic attractiveness can be different many things are perceived as beautiful can vary from place to era and culture. Physical Attraction Physical attraction is what relationships are based on at first glance, it plays a vital role in attraction in what we perceive as a masculine or feminine perfection of physical beauty determined by first glance. There is an age-old prowess, “the hunter to the prey syndrome” men are hunters, women are the prey. Physical attraction often implies sexual attractiveness or desirability. There are many levels which influence one person’s magnetism to another, with physical characteristics being one of them. The physical attraction itself includes global assessments of all human civilization, as well as aspects that are culturally and socially dependent, along with individual subjective and objective preferences. There are always exceptions to any rule, the science of beauty is based on a theory for physical is definitely in the eyes of the beholder.
Women:

 Youthful appearance, big eyes, small nose, full lips, low waist to hip ratio, full breasts, ample backside an hourglass physique.

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Men:

Thick eyebrows, strong and prominent jawline, larger nose, facial hair, tan skin and v-shaped torso, and muscular physique.

Is Beauty is the eyes of the beholder?

Conceivably the most customary issue in the principle of beauty is whether beauty is subjective— or even objective located ‘in the eye of the beholder’— However, if beauty is entirely subjective—that is, if the opinion is shared by many does that equate the beauty of a face. Would I be presumptuous to believe that every man, woman, or child will behold my beauty? Or would I appreciate their subjective on the beauty of my face? In fact, numerous people, as I have been told find me quite beautiful with a strong emphasis on my facial beauty. But for the numerous that do, I believe that there is a small community that doesn’t. That is really across the board for everyone. On the other hand, it seems senseless to say that beauty has no connection to subjective response or that it is entirely objective. That would seem to entail, for example, that a world with no perceivers could be beautiful or ugly, or perhaps that beauty could be detected by scientific instruments. Even if it could be, beauty would seem to be connected to subjective response, and though we may argue about whether something is beautiful, the idea that one’s experiences of beauty might be disqualified as simply inaccurate or false might arouse puzzlement.

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I remember about 10 years ago…. I commented on a well-known actor, I remarked that he wasn’t that attractive to me… and then the person I told this to got some violent she was ready to tear me apart. Then she replied, “You need to get your eyes checked!” We often disagree concerning the physical beauty of others. We argue and fight to prove our points of who is undeniably beautiful. We debate, share our sentiments in hopes of someone agreeing when indeed its merely a judgment or preference. We often regard other people’s taste while trying to prove ours, when it differs from theirs, as tentatively showing respect, as we may not, for example, in cases of moral, political, or factual opinions. All plausible accounts of beauty connect it to a pleasurable or profound or loving response, even if they do not locate beauty purely in the eye of the beholder. beauty is subjective from personal experience and preconceived ideas… But also the product of manipulation through passing the media and global conditioning.

There are no makeovers in my books. The ugly duckling does not become a beautiful swan. She becomes a confident duck able to take charge of her own life and problems. —Maeve Binchy

I personally don’t refer to people as being “ugly” I don’t agree with that terminology or invoke that judgment on anyone, I prefer to call them “not attractive” .. If you were not born by what the world esteems as “attractive” – which is strictly in the eye of the beholder. Less attractive people are look over more than their attractive counterparts in dating, jobs, and society. But hold on, just wait a minute because there are numerous other talents, gifts and abilities that you have which should be exploited to their full potential. The world is not evenly balanced between opposing sides of beauty equally; it’s your responsibility to take what you have and make something productive and valuable from that. Your character is the most essential aspect of your being. Having this ugly disadvantage is such “social injustice.” really it is because some of the most inspiring and beautiful people I know are not genetically gifted but have such an intellectual prowess. Ugly people are perceived to be lazy and unfriendly. That may be true in some cases, but in other causes that are not true.

As children we are programmed to believe that something is attractive or a possessor of aesthetic perfection. When in reality what we see is not really what we see, we gravitate to things that affect our five senses, the five traditionally recognized methods of perception, or sense: taste, sight, touch, smell, and sound. No two people look the same to each other for our perceptions of what we esteemed as beauty can be quite different. This proves the theory without a doubt, that beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder.

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The eyeballs generate an opinion based on emotions, features, and lustful feelings when you stare intently at a subject. The model above, Leon Grey is very handsome and most women will agree. Do you think that every woman would find him attractive? No, because our perceptions vary from person to person depending on our 5 senses.

“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder” is an orthodoxy phrase that is to denote subjectivity or objectivity in physical beauty. What I might find disgusting or unattractive, you may find attractive, is the subjectivity or objectivity verified and vindicate the justice of elegance with this world-renowned phrase. What is missing from this obsessive focus on subjective interpretation of beauty is the inherent manifestation of beauty in the object or person. The human face is inherently, intrinsically beautiful when created, though no beholders’ eyes saw the beauty? Many have expressed that the term should actually be titled, “Physical Attractiveness lies in the opinion of the beholder.” because attractiveness is based on personal taste derived from the real face or body attributes. While “Beauty” is based purely on facial beauty, features, and symmetry. On the website, “theperfecthumanface.com” identifies and clarifies that physical beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder 54% agreed on their recent polls featured on that site. In the eye of the beholder 54% Golden Ratio, Symmetry, Phi masks 1.618 20% Genetics 17% Science 1% World Standards of Beauty Eurocentric beliefs 9%

The Power of Beauty
Kristina Urribarres

“Beauty in its prowess has the power to manipulate the senses the mind, especially the eye, which is dangerous because you’re under its supremacy” — Scientist Welerbee It captivates women. Men desire it. It is adored, worshipped, highly sought after, and envied it is a beauty! How you ever wondered what happens when 10,000 bolts of electricity hit a lightning rod in a storm? The brain becomes scrambled eyes this is pretty powerful in retrospect clearly exhibits a staggering conclusion this happens when we view beauty there is a theory of fireworks releasing shooting off like a rocket at the same time an internal explosion of some sort, blood starts to pump faster to the heart, and breathing becomes rapid. The eyes bulge out of the head, and the saliva glands begin to release that is the power of beauty. “To be beautiful, handsome, means that you possess a power which makes all smile upon and welcome you; that everybody is impressed in your favor and inclined to be of your opinion; that you have only to pass through a street or to show yourself on a balcony to make friends and to win mistresses from among those who look upon you. What a splendid, what a magnificent gift is that which spares you the need to be amiable in order to be loved, which relieves you of the need of being clever and ready to serve, which you must be if ugly, and enables you to dispense with the innumerable moral qualities which you must possess in order to make up for the lack of personal beauty.” ― Théophile Gautier, Mademoiselle de Maupin

Judgments of Beauty
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The Male Prospective on Female beauty from around the world.
A beautiful woman makes me want to give up my paycheck to her— Michel from Paris France Beautiful woman are a dime a dozen I pass hundreds daily — David from Scotland.
A beautiful woman is awesome to look at — Lenny from Kingston, Jamaica.
A woman can be stupid as long as she is pretty — J.J from Bronx New York the USA
Beautiful woman are angels — Chuma from Nigeria Africa
Being beautiful inside out is what matters — Raj from Hong Kong
I love a woman with a big butt very sexy —- Juan from Puerto Rico
A tall stunning red-head is out of the ordinary — Harry from Australia
I get speechless and tongue-tied when I see a good looking woman — Julio from Spain
The Female Perspective on Male beauty from around the world.
There is nothing like a great pair of biceps to get you through the day — Cheryl from London England
Men are so much more attractive then women they don’t have to rely on superficial means like makeup daily to look good — Claire from Pennsylvania USA
Tall, Light, and handsome is how I like them — Anita from Jaipur India
A man that takes care of his body that is healthy is most attractive — Angelica from Los Angeles California
I personally find a man with money more attractive — Montana from Australia
I love a man with beautiful eyes — Samantha from Seychelles
A nice muscular body the male form is hot — Chloe from France
I love a six pack, and I don’t mean beer — Tiffany from Russia
“In all judgments by which we describe anything as beautiful, we allow no one to be of another opinion.” ― Immanuel Kant, Critique of Judgment This quote from the author of the book Survival of the prettiest summarizes the reality of beauty quite succinctly: “Nancy Etcoff, a faculty member at Harvard Medical School and a practicing psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital, puts forth that beauty is neither a cultural construction, an invention of the fashion industry, nor a backlash against feminism—it is in our biology. It’s an essential and ineradicable part of human nature that is revered and ferociously pursued in nearly every civilization and for a good reason. Those features to which we are most attracted are often signals of fertility and fecundity. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. We should be thin, but healthy; they should have a flat stomach but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. In this superficial world where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify our appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think about a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are judged on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth. Nancy Etcoff, states in her book “Survival of the Prettiest: The Science of Beauty” that, “Beauty ensnares hearts, captures minds, and stirs up emotional wildfires.” Beauty is definitely apart of the genetic makeup of the aesthetics culturally and universal. With all the madness and craze over what one looks like, it is safe to say that it is definitely in the eyes of the beholder. Subjective and Objective.
The Beauty Privilege
Let me tell you something – being thought of as a beautiful woman has spared me nothing in life. No heartache, no trouble. Love has been difficult. Beauty is essentially meaningless, and it is always transitory. — Halle Berry 

Physical beauty is amazing With the fervor of a gazelle, we stroll Without a concern for the world Our faces are prettier than a sunrise Drawing those glances our way With those around us silent in awe the crowd drink thirstily of our physical beauty. We know where our beauty originated from It is something that we were born with not something contrived.

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Many capitalize on being genetically gifted because everyone desires beauty. To gaze at beauty is mind-numbing. Beautiful people are the recipients of the privilege – the beauty privilege. Gorgeous people in their lifetime will get better jobs, better treatment, make more money, endless marriage proposals, and unlimited perks. On the other side, they experience hate, jealousy, and envy. Is it their fault? That all depends are they making fun of others that lack physical beauty? Most of us know there are huge dividends when you are good looking, after all, society spends endless hours plus billions of dollars on beauty salons, on cosmetics, and costly plastic surgery entirely to alter your personal appearance. But are good looking people have that certain to puts them above the rest? Based on reality, yes most certain they are highly favored in society. The award for being beautiful is anything but superficial it can really change your life. Good looking people are associated with being right and intelligence, in some cases, yes but in my experience, the less attractive people have higher IQ and are very intellectually stimulating, trust me it goes both ways. Beautiful people are perceived as honest, sociable, and useful.
In some cases, that is the truth, but there are also self-center – ego tactical good looking people as well. There are always exceptions to any rule.

The Ugly disadvantage

There are no makeovers in my books. The ugly duckling does not become a beautiful swan. She becomes a confident duck able to take charge of her own life and problems. —Maeve Binchy I personally don’t refer to people as being “ugly” I don’t agree with that terminology or invoke that judgment on anyone, I prefer to call them “not attractive” .. If you were not born by what the world esteems as “attractive” – which is strictly in the eye of the beholder. Less attractive people are look over more than their attractive counterparts in dating, jobs, and society. But hold on, just wait a minute because there are numerous other talents, gifts, and abilities that you have which should be exploited to their full potential. The world is not evenly balanced between opposing sides of beauty equally; it’s your responsibility to take what you have and make something productive and valuable from that. Your character is the most crucial aspect of your being. Having this ugly disadvantage is such “social injustice.” really it is because some of the most inspiring and beautiful people I know are not genetically gifted but have such an intellectual prowess. Ugly people are perceived to be lazy and unfriendly. That may be true in some cases, but in other causes that are not true.

Eurocentric Beauty Standards

One manifestation of white supremacy is the use of whiteness as the standard of beauty. When whiteness (pale skin) is considered superior, white people are considered more attractive by definition, and if the appearance of people of other races deviates from that standard, they are considered ugly. Lisa Wade Ph.D., “When whiteness is the standard of beauty” article on societypages.org When the white European male sets the standards the world follows, this doesn’t make it real but creates an illusion. To speak of a reality where light skin, light eyes, and tall, slender bodies are presented as the benchmarks of European dogma a spectacle of breathtaking provincialism – “The universal standard of beauty“ It universalizes the concept of whiteness to epitomize beauty around the world. It suggests, perversely, and seriously, dictates what is beautiful and what is not.

White Beauty Privilege

Do blondes really have more fun? In this case, they do… Caucasian Women are presented as “The Universal Standard of Beauty” the benchmarks of perfection. Characteristics of Eurocentric White Female Beauty: Straight hair, Pale white skin, straight nose, thin lips, light eyes, tall, slender, and blonde hair. The Dominate Culture “White People” creates what beauty is even for a beautiful black woman she will go unnoticed. Every woman is affected by a perception of beauty. “White Women” around the world – Suffering from eating disorders, not measuring up to the fashion models or what they perceive as beautiful. “Women of Color” across the globe – Suffering from low self-esteem brought on by colonization, slavery, and the media. Some aspire to look more white. Through the globalization of media, advertisements, magazines, and movies have trended toward a standard of beauty, whereby we are all encouraged to appear tall, thin, fair skin and our face should resemble that of the Europeans the fair-skinned Europeans that is. The image of the beautiful Caucasian woman with blonde hair and blue eyes has become the world standard in terms of what is perceived as beauty.
I will go a step further and say all white women have become the norm all around the world that looks is highly coveted, or is it the media that has everyone hoodwinked by the power of suggestion? Propaganda? The women around the globe want straight hair and light skin through colonization to make a particular group of people full less than human. The world has actually been whitewashed with the alliance of lightness with desirability and beauty in women. The western-dominated culture and media have played in the propagation of the idyllic of light skin globally as perfection. The society that we live in my never changes so we must look for our validation elsewhere with our creator. As far as the earth has been here, they have been many forms of spectacular beauty. The woman has been symbolic of beauty stereotypes founded by ancient and present history. Today there is a valid argument of who the most beautiful woman is on earth. Specific news programs and people have tagged many caucasian celebrities (or ones that closely mimic they look) as the most beautiful, and internet polls can only go so far in there depiction of the perfect woman. Colonization is to be held responsible throughout the world. It changed the perception of beauty into their own standards and their style through the power of persuasion. If you say something for so long, it becomes the truth the norm throughout the world and with the brainwashing for the media outlets they dictate who you should perceive as the standard of beauty. Women and Men are beautiful the world over no matter the skin tone. There is NO one standard of beauty, the world is full of unique people from every nationality, it is our differences that make us unique and beautiful from the palest Caucasian to the darkest African and in between. “The Pedestal” mentality and The Porcelain Doll” effect. A child is conditioned to accept everything that is put before them, there is a conditioning process that stimulates the thought processed before puberty subliminal messages programmed into the brain in terms of what is beauty what is expectable and what is not. Through media and magazines, this has been made possible to dictate to the masses what the standard of beauty is, before television, it was revealed through colonization. If something is subjected continuously or put before you, then you will adopt it as your own, and that becomes your reality and belief.

Most women have brought into the image of the illusion of beauty which Is founded on a lie – an illusion absolute smoke and mirrors staged by the advertisers and magazines of what is relevant to the masses in terms of beauty and how to attain the impossible perfection. I know you passed a new stand at one point this week, and ogled your favorite celebrity photo, do you actually know what they photo goes through before it makes it to magazine rack – a team of makeup artists, stylists, airbrushing, retouching, and of course photoshop all to make the image unbelievably flawless. It takes literally a team to make the perfect image. If you had a team of beauty professional at your beck and call you would look like a celebrity too. Beauty is an illusion it is easily distorted and manipulated. The products they advertise we put facial products on our face daily the ingredients cause cancer or premature aging because we believe that these things we make us look better or even younger. Women, in general, go through so much to be what the powers-that-be say is beauty from spending their hard earned cash to get the latest designers clothes or the newest eyeshadow palette in hopes to get the validation they need to make it yet another day. We press our feet into high heels which are destroying our health and breaking our toes all in the name of beauty. It is not surprising that the beauty industry is billions strong, fueled by the hopeless wonders that seek the esteem of others. I would not say beauty is necessarily an illusion. Beauty within itself is not an illusion but what is misleading and deceptive in how the advertisers paint the picture of beauty. But there is not one solid definition of beauty because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is something that can be changed and manipulated by society. Images are powerful but surface driven. Our hearts are not in the right place, don‘t buy into the illusion.
The Media is to blame

According to the article “Negative Influences of Media on the Society” states that The media affects the way we act and think. It has a profound influence on the behavior of its audience. When people try to imitate something we had seen or heard, are they capable enough to distinguish between right from wrong? Young people often imitate their role models blindly. What is being highlighted in the entertainment industry is the wrongdoings of these celebrities whom the young people idolize. And because they are heroes in the youth’s minds, they are still celebrated despite the bad behavior they have been showing to the public. Subliminal messages are programmed into our brains daily. There are 1500 Newspapers, 1100 magazines, 9000 Radio Stations, 1500 TV stations, and 2400 publishers. They control 90% of what 277 million Americans see, hear, meditate on, and read. Through time, through the invention of moving pictures, birthed the power of the media, they can suggest, claim, and dictate what is right or what is wrong through, television, radio, magazines, newspapers, movies etc.. Media has had an influence on universal beauty standards throughout the world; therefore, it affects women and men of all nationalities. Through television and advertising in magazines who are responsible for planting “idealism” into the brain of the masses. The media is fueled by propaganda, deceptive, or distorted information that is systematically spread throughout the world every minute of the day. The Media has enslaved us to becoming entertainment driven by sports and reality series. Through the influence of the media from childhood on we are bombarded with images and messages that reinforce the idea that to be happy we must be a certain way, drive a particular car, and look a certain way. It is nearly irresolvable to open a magazine, listen to the radio, shop at a mall or turn on a TV without being confronted with what seems to be perfection, the invention, the illusion of the media. For argument sake, if the media’s portrayal of is just a looking glass of this culture and not an originator, the media still needs to take some responsibility for at least dissemination the failure to perform its function correctly in the best interest of society.
In the article “Brain, Behavior, and Media. Is media influencing your brain and your behavior through psychology?” published in Psychology Today, Bennard J Luskin Ed.D. states that “Recent studies now validate the reality of Internet Addiction Disorder (IAD). It can cause tremors, shivers, nausea, and anxiety in some addicts. Try removing a young “gamer” from a video game in a hurry. You will discover how difficult it is to break the attachment between the teen and the screen.” The media has been the main component in our every day lives as a form of personal sabotage.

Distortion of Body Image

According to  www.nationaleatingdisorders.org, “Body Image” is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror or when you picture yourself in your mind. It encompasses: What you believe about your own appearance (including your memories, assumptions, and generalizations). How you feel about your body, including your height, shape, and weight. How you sense and control your body as you move. How you feel in your body, not just about your body.

In Society, the images they portray perfection on ads, television, they made me feel inadequate about the way I look. I know you have heard this before or have even contemplative it in your mind, “If I could just lose 5 more pounds they world would love me” one in three girls have an eating disorder… But still, in reality, millions of young girls, woman, and some men suffer from eating disorders annually a lot under the 18. These specific eating disorders are often triggered by bouts of depression, distorted body image, or perfectionism itself. The four major eating disorders: 1. Anorexia Nervosa, voluntary starvation for long periods. 2. Bulimia Nervosa, marked by bouts of binge eating excessive amounts of food followed by compensatory behavior such as purging then vomiting or use of laxatives to rid themselves of the food eaten 3. Binge-eating, marked by episodes of out-of-control gorging, similar to Bulimia without the purging. 4. EDNOS, the most dangerous of all 4, it is the combination of Anorexia and Bulimia, each day it takes on one the eating often disorders. Females are much more likely than males to develop an eating disorder. Eating disorders are closely related to other psychiatric illnesses such as depression, substance abuse, or anxiety disorders. Besides, people who suffer from eating disorders can experience a wide range of physical health complications, including severe heart conditions, teeth enamel erosion, various organ failure including kidney failure, which may lead to death. If eating disorders weren’t enough, many woman and men would resort to cosmetic surgery that gains what they perceive as perfection. Women, both young and old, are taking enormous risks in the pursuit of beauty. Liposuction, Nose Jobs, botox, tummy tucks, breast implants, and bottom augmentation. Who is responsible? The media? The advertisers? They all are trying to sell this image of perfect beauty when, in reality, no one is perfect but a work in progress. Do we have to ask ourselves what are we doing? We must be comfortable in our own skin. We are our sister and brother’s keeper, and it starts in the home, the duty of the parents are to teach their children how valuable they are.
 
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Dilemma 2 – "The Commandments"

1. Thou shalt have no other gods before me.
Exodus Chapter 20: 3
 
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World Religions the projenitor of the worshipping of false gods.

And the great dragon was cast out, that old serpent, called the Devil, and Satan, which deceiveth the whole world: he was cast out into the earth, and his angels were cast out with him. Revelation 12:9 KJV

All religions are birthed and shaped by Lucifer himself, the dragon, the devil, has designed masterminded to keep The Most High’s creation in captivity spirit, soul, and body. “The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world that he doesn’t exist.”  When the people of the world, think of Satan, in a red bodysuit carrying a pitchfork with two horns on his head. The bible clearly states from the beginning that Lucifer, Son of man, take up a lamentation upon the king of Tyrus, and say unto him, Thus saith the Lord GOD; Thou sealest up the sum, full of wisdom, and perfect in beauty. Thou hast been in Eden the garden of God; every precious stone was thy covering, the sardius, topaz, and the diamond, the beryl, the onyx, and the jasper, the sapphire, the emerald, and the carbuncle, and gold: the workmanship of thy tabrets and of thy pipes was prepared in thee in the day that thou wast created. Thou art the anointed cherub that covereth; and I have set thee so: thou wast upon the holy mountain of God; thou hast walked up and down amid the stones of fire. Thou wast perfect in thy ways from the day that thou wast created, till iniquity was found in thee. By the multitude of thy merchandise, they have filled the midst of thee with violence, and thou hast sinned: therefore I will cast thee as profane out of the mountain of God: and I will destroy thee, O covering cherub, from the midst of the stones of fire. Thine heart was lifted up because of thy beauty, thou hast corrupted thy wisdom because of thy brightness: I will cast thee to the ground, I will lay thee before kings, that they may behold thee. Thou hast defiled thy sanctuaries by the multitude of thine iniquities, by the iniquity of thy traffick; therefore will I bring forth a fire from the midst of thee, it shall devour thee, and I will bring thee to ashes upon the earth in the sight of all them that behold thee. All they that know thee among the people shall be astonished at thee: thou shalt be a terror, and never shalt thou be any more. Ezekiel 28: 12 -20 King James Version Bible

Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices. 2 Corinthians 2:11

The devices Satan uses to deceive:
1. Religion
2. Unbelief in the True and living God
And God said unto Moses, I AM THAT I AM: and he said, Thus shalt thou say unto the children of Israel, I AM hath sent me unto you. Exodus 3:14 KJV
3. The Chosen not knowing who they are.

Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience: Ephesians 2:2 KJV

  We have been tricked into worshipping Lucifer, the fallen one, and the Fall Angels. We must denounce all satanic religions. How art thou has fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! How art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weakens the nations! Isaiah 14:12. Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience: Ephesians 2:2. And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. Ephesians 5:11.
Nimrod, the King of Shinar, was, according to the Book of Genesis and Books of Chronicles, the son of Cush, the great-grandson of Noah. He is depicted in the Bible as a mighty leader and hunter. He was the ruler of the time in which “the tower of Babel” was created as a King he was rebellious against the Most High God.  The Tower of Babel. Genesis 11:4-9 King James Version (KJV) And they said, Go to, let us build us a city and a tower, whose top may reach unto heaven; and let us make us a name, lest we are scattered abroad upon the face of the whole earth.  And the Lord came down to see the city and the tower, which the children of men built. And the Lord said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined doing. Go to, let us go down, and there confound their language, that they may not understand one another’s speech. So the Lord scattered them abroad from thence upon the face of all the earth: and they left off to build the city. Therefore is the name of it called Babel; because the Lord did there confound the language of all the earth: and from thence did the Lord scatter them abroad upon the face of all the earth. Genesis 11:4-9 King James Version Bible. When the ancient tongue was split into various languages, the people divided into multiple religions taught by Nimrod. Reference * The Book of Jasher.
The various Religions around the world are founded under Satan, pagan worship, worship of deities, and worship of fallen angels. Through deception and ignorance, Satan is ruling the world.
You shall have no other gods before Me. You shall not make for yourself an idol or any likeness of what is in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the water under the surface. “You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, on the third and the fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing lovingkindness to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments. Exodus 20:3 King James Bible. The Earth is separated by different Gods, many Gods are ruling in this earth. All the Nations and gentiles are idols. The False religions are full of them.

Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: Matthew 7:13 KJV

The lists the Gods of the World are still be worshipped today: LUCIFER, PAN, BUDDHA, JUPITER, STERCULIUS, VENUS,  LUCIFER,  PLUTO,  MARS,  BAPHOMET, BACCHUS,  CUPID, HERCULES, KRISHNA, DURGA, GANESHA, TALMUD, and DIANA. Isis the Egyptian goddess of the earth, the worship of this deity is entailed elaborate and exotic rituals. Pan, the Greek god of the mountains, half goat half man. Always carrying the pipes with him, we know today as ‘pan-piphes.’ The God of the Wiccans. Mithras, the god of light from Persia. He has always depicted slaying the sacred bull, and so giving life to the earth. He had many followers in the Roman army. So much so, that he is often referred to as the soldiers’ god. Source: roman-empire.net Other facet related to the Roman Catholic Church is the Greek Orthodox Churches which are united in communion with each other, as well as with the Russian Orthodox Church and other smaller Eastern Orthodox Churches. This church split off from the Roman Catholic Church in 1054. The Eastern Orthodox hold a common doctrine and a common form of worship, and they see themselves not as separate Churches but as administrative units of one single Church. They are notable for their long tradition of iconography (see also: Byzantine art), for their veneration of the Mother of God and the Saints, and for their use of the Divine Liturgy on Sundays, which is a standardized worship service dating back to the fourth century A.D. in its current form. The most commonly used Divine Liturgy of the Orthodox Church was written by Saint John Chrysostom (347–407 A.D.).
REPENT OF YOUR SINS and SERVE THE ONE TRUE AND LIVING GOD, THE MOST HIGH GOD OF ISRAEL. 

2. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the surface: Exodus Chapter 20:4

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Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me;
6And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me and keep my commandments. Exodus Chapter 20: 5-6 KJV

You shall not make any Idols.

Idol worship the birth of  Idolatry

I was watching a youtube video this afternoon which is something I do quite often, but during this particular video in 2 hours I watched many commercials with everyday people as they were worshipping this thing we call a ball. Like a religious fanatic, they were dressed up in weird attire while canting and waving banners or props to celebrate their favorite team as the men were running around the field. The people in attendance yelled and worship the men on the ground. While the rest of the commercials featured women promoting the latest handbag or makeup item.  Idolatry is pervasive through the television and media our eye gates are being perverted. All our attention goes to the entities before us rather it be sports or the home shopping networks. Idolatry is no longer wood, stone, or the golden calf.  Why do we worship things that have no spirit in them? Works of men hands as we carry the weight no help from them. It’s misleading the hearts of people that worship them.

The new forms of Idols:
Sports
Material Possessions
Houses
Cars
Clothing
People
Celebrities
Self Love (Narcissism)
Drugs
Alcohol
Money
Idols of Worship
Pagan gods
Statues made of Stone

1.
The religious worship of idols.
2.
Excessive or blind adoration, reverence, devotion, etc.

Society often refers to celebrities as Idols. Celebrity worship syndrome is an obsessive-addictive disorder in which a person becomes overly involved with the details of a celebrity’s personal life. Psychologists have indicated that though many people obsess over glamorous film, television, sport and pop stars, the only common factor between them is that they are all figures in the public eye. The term Celebrity Worship Syndrome is, in fact, a misnomer.

“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.” Martin Luther King Jr.

Hollywood shapes the idea of what people believe. The views of society are based out of Tinseltown.

And the Oscar (idol) goes to….?

HOLLYWOOD the land of make-believe, was named after the Holly Tree, which is used in Wicca/witchcraft. Through the magic and illusion of Hollywood, the powers-that-be are controlling your thoughts through sorcery and witchcraft.  Acting (in Greek means hypocrite) often called a muse. It is the highest form of lying.  It is founded by demonic illusions and fantasy. Satan is the father of lies, and Hollywood actors aren’t shy in stating that they take a walk on the dark side a time or two. A lot of your famous actors and actresses have admitted to summoning demonic power to deliver a stellar acting performance. Through this, they control your mind while being lead by demonic spirits. The entertainment industry is controlled by demonic influence. We have seen emphatic that the Illuminati, often referred to as Satanists, Luciferians, puppet-masters, the powers that be, or whatever one chooses to call them. They are at the forefront of presage procedures in music, television, movies, games, sports, and other methods to transmit the future,  becoming bolder as we get closer to the Savior coming back. They are bold infiltrating their evil plans and satanic rituals.

According to an article by James Chapman Ph.D. in the Daily Mail, Mr. Chapman states,

“Celebrity worship syndrome is an obsessive-addictive disorder in which a person becomes overly involved with the details of a celebrity’s personal life. Psychologists have indicated that though many people obsess over glamorous film, television, sport and pop stars, the only common factor between them is that they are all figures in the public eye. The term Celebrity Worship Syndrome is, in fact, a misnomer.”

We were not created to honor, admire, respect, look up to, hold in the highest regard or be in awe of celebrities. Our revere should go up to our creator – The Most High. Celebrity-ism is founded on the principle of Satan (who is the prince of this world) coming to the Messiah, offering him the Kingdoms of this world visually. The power of the visual is what Satan uses.

“Then was the Savior led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil.
And when he had fasted forty days and forty nights, he was afterward an hungered.
And when the tempter came to him, he said, If thou be the Son of God, command that these stones be made bread. But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. Then the devil taketh him up into the holy city, and setteth him on a pinnacle of the temple, And saith unto him, If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down: for it is written, He shall give his angels charge concerning thee: and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone.  The Savior said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God. Still, the devil taketh him up into an exceeding high mountain, and sheweth him all the kingdoms of the world, and the glory of them;  And saith unto him, All these things will I give thee, if thou wilt falls down and worship me.  Then saith the Savior unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.  Then the devil leaveth him, and, behold, angels came and ministered unto him.” – Matthew 4:1-12 (KJV)

The kingdoms of this world are Satan’s to give to us if we only vow to worship him at the expense of our soul. In Hollywood, the entertainment field, the music industry, the sports industry, the modeling world most of the celebrities have already surrendered their souls to Satan for the glory of his kingdom.
Most well-known celebrities have admitted that they the consult mediums, soothsayers, familiar spirits or demons to help them act bringing their latest role alive or write a script. The celebrities allow themselves to become possessed by the demonic entities while working (so they can deliver their award-winning  performances.) They labor to be rich and famous for having their names in lights, they thrive on the attention, much like a drug addiction but an addiction to fame.  In Hollywood, you are only as big as your last movie. In the documentary “Hollywood Unmasked 2” at the very beginning states, “that Hollywood celebrities are worshipped like gods and goddesses…”

The Creator of the Satanic Bible, Anton Lavey in his book, “The Devils’ Notebook, on page 85-86  marvels in the invention of the television as a tool to infiltrated our minds on a satanic level…

“We can use the TV as a potent propaganda machine. The stage is set for the infusion of true Satanic philosophy and potent (emotionally inspiring) music to accompany the inverted crosses and pentagrams. Instead of holding our rituals in chambers designed for a few dozen people, we are moving into auditoriums crowded with ecstatic Satanists thrusting their fists forward in the sign of the horns. What started as an innocent respite from everyday life has become in itself a replacement for real life for millions a major religion of the masses. Television is the major mainstream infiltration of the new satanic religion. The Television or Satanic family altar has grown more elaborate since the early 50’s from the tiny fuzzy screen to large entertainment centers covering entire walls with several television monitors.”

Beyond the madness involving secular television, the reality is that at the end of the day, it won’t matter how famous, successful, rich, or how many fans you have acquired. Your soul is at hand. The only thing that matters in life are the things you do for the Messiah that will last. So with all the vainglory that you reap for yourself, it will not be worth it in the end.

For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? Matthew 16:26 KJV Bible

I have never been enthusiastic about celebrities, nor do I give much thought to them daily. Well, from my research, over 90% of people are celebrity obsessed. They can’t wait to hear what their favorite star is doing.  In fact, the average person spends hours or most of their day ogling their favorite celebrity photographs. They use their iPhone to search google for pictures of their favorite celebrities. They defend the idol against haters or internet trolls.  Looking into their lives and fantasying. Coveting their lives. Desiring to be that celebrity while losing all sense of their own reality. Living vicariously through an idol. In fact, they are only as popular as their last hit show, sold out concert, blockbuster movie, winning game, or highly successful stage performance. This is what you would call “celebrity-ism” The direct worship of a celebrity.  The Most High warns us of having any Gods before HIM. Thou shalt have no other gods before me. Exodus 20:3.

Imagine Rome A.D. 80, the gladiators all booted up, the king of the jungle (lions awaiting there turn), and the Israelite awaiting their fate. In most instances, if my people were defeated, our head was chopped off and used as a ball for the air or the ground. This was the beginning of sports. You might say its all in fun, but little do people know that it is sinister, we were mere entertainment. Just like the Hollywood crowd, the sports industry has its fair share of admirers, back in the Roman days, the Israelite’s head was used as the football, the basketball, and the soccer ball.  Oh, but its entertainment, right?

In the article, Sports Ethics: Lying & Deception in Athletic Competition, it states,

Everyone defends sportsmanship. Ethically it is fundamental to the moral worth of sports. We speak of how athletics teaches loyalty, self-discipline, sacrifice, overcoming odds, and working with others to achieve excellence. At the core, all these attributes depend upon the integrity and the ability to make and keep commitments to oneself and to others. This argument lies at the center of aligning sports with schooling and making it a widespread adjunct to parenting in our society.

Mike Adams in his article on naturalnews.com “Halftime HELL: Satan speaks through Lady Gaga to declare dominion over the Earth,” states,

Superbowl halftime shows are saturated with symbols of satanic rituals and Satan worship.
If you’re not aware that this has been happening throughout Superbowl halftime shows in years past, you are wildly uninformed about the depth and brashness of the Satanic symbolism shoved right in your face during every Superbowl “indoctrination” ritual. The symbols are irrefutably Satanic and linked to Illuminati agendas of human sacrifice, occult power and dominion of the minds of the masses.

Celebrities are not connected to their fans. Think about it, they could cure homelessness in one day with just writing a check. While you are paying for their products with your hard earned money, watching their movies, and endorsing them all day long on the internet, they are laughing all the way to the bank.

Celebrities and mere mortals alike, worship Satan by way of  Baphomet, Baal, Lucifer, the fallen angels, Sun God, Nimrod, Isis,  Jupiter, Juno, Minerva, Vesta, Ceres, Diana, Venus, Mars, Mercurius, Neptunus, Volcanus,  Apollo, Aster, Ganesha with Shiva , Devi, Vishnu, Surya, Lakshmi, Jahbulon, Hare Krishna, Buddha,  Jesus Christ, Zeus, etc. the world over. If I could count the times’ people have tried to engage me into these meaningless conversations about celebrities, I would be the richest woman on the planet. This makes me want to throw up literally because there are so many more exciting topics to expound upon, but I will be the first to admit there is a particular bias for celebrities introduced by the media and magazines. For their glossy perfection but in society, people, in general, take it to a whole different level which is merely mind-blowing to me.  The term “Celebrity” is defined as a famous person: somebody famous during his or her own life, often referred to as a Superstar or a Star. The term “Worship” is defined as to treat somebody or something like a deity to love somebody deeply: to love, admire, or respect somebody or something more significant and perhaps excessively or unquestioningly.
In most cases celebrities are worshipped as demigods, stars or angels .. You might ask yourself, “what do they really contribute to society”? or is that to in the eyes of the beholder? For sure its definitely not rocket science, neither are they changing the world, but their bounty is that they entertain us. People on the average spend hours daily thinking of their favorite celebrity, worshiping, talking about them or trying to emulate their style, makeup, or overall perfection in one way or another. There are good celebrities as well as bad ones, but we have no way of validating them.
In some cases know them personally or have tea or coffee with them at noon. People often forget that the celebrity was once in your shoes an unknown. In this era of social media, youtube, Instagram, Facebook, etc.. we tend to see people arguing various opinions about one celebrity or another among themselves. Their adoring fans can be vicious while encountering people that do share the love of their favorite stars.  Think about all the money you spend that is actually lining the pockets of your favorite celebrity and what are you really getting back.  Before I make a purchase, I often ponder about the star if their names are attached to a brand and how they act toward society and beyond. I think people really need a reality check in terms of celebrities they are really not that important. Society has always been fixated on the beauty of the idols, falling short within their personal beauty, which has profound psychological ramifications on their self-esteem. A celebrity should never be the ultimate example of beauty or inspiration. There are only through the power of persuasion, which is the epitome of propaganda in our society. These people sell their soul for money and fame, through their music and stardom they’re forced to help influence society to live a corrupted life using subliminal messages. Once they used and abused by the industry, they mysteriously die. Now people get all emotional about the deaths of the ones who help build this corrupted world. This makes no sense to me. Selling your soul for money and fame comes with a price tag, there’s no turning back once your time is up in the game. They’ll give you what you want, but in return, it will cost you your life. There’s nothing new under the sun. Satan owns this world, and he will bless his own, the kingdoms of this world are his … “ Again, the devil taketh him up into an exceeding high mountain, and sheweth him all the kingdoms of the world, and the glory of them;  And saith unto him, All these things will I give thee, if thou wilt falls down and worship me.  Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.” Matthew 4:8-10 KJV Bible
On the spiritual side for those that believe. Don’t underestimate the demonic influence of worldly movies and music. Don’t allow the devil to establish strongholds in your mind. You can’t be entertained by violence, sexual immoralities, deceit, murder, and expect to lead a Holy life. Guard the avenues of your mind. Determine today that I will set no worthless thing before my eyes.  “I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me. A froward heart shall depart from me: I will not know a wicked person.”  Psalm 101:3-4 KJV Bible

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
1 John 2:15 KJV

For all the gods of the nations are idols: but the Lord made the heavens.
Psalm 96:5 KJV

First, we worship at the altar of materialism, which feeds our need to build our egos through the acquisition of more “stuff.” Our homes are filled with all manner of possessions. We build bigger and bigger houses with more closets and storage space to house all the things we buy, much of which we haven’t even paid for yet. Most of our stuff has “planned obsolescence” built into it, making it useless in no time, and so we consign it to the garage or other storage space. Then we rush out to buy the newest item, garment, or gadget, and the whole process starts over. This insatiable desire for more, better, and more new stuff is nothing more than covetousness. The tenth commandment tells us not to fall victim to coveting: “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor” (Exodus 20:17). The Most High doesn’t just want to rain on our buying sprees. He knows we will never be happy indulging our carnal desires because it is Satan’s trap to keep our focus on ourselves and not on Him.

Second, we worship at the altar of our own pride and ego. This often takes the form of obsession with careers and jobs. You have the big house but never get to enjoy it working 60 -80 hours per week. Millions of men—and increasingly more women—spend 60-80 hours a week working. Even on the weekends and during vacations, our laptops are humming, and our minds are whirling with thoughts of how to make our businesses more successful, how to get that promotion, how to get the next raise, how to close the next deal. In the meantime, our children are starving for attention and love. We fool ourselves into thinking we are doing it for them, to give them a better life. But the truth is we are doing it for ourselves, to increase our self-esteem by appearing more successful in the eyes of the world. This is folly. All our labors and accomplishments will be of no use to us after we die, nor will the admiration of the world, because these things have no eternal value. As King Solomon put it, “For a man may do his work with wisdom, knowledge, and skill, and then he must leave all he owns to someone who has not worked for it. This, too, is meaningless and a great misfortune. What does a man get for all the toil and anxious striving with which he labors under the sun? All his days, his work is pain and grief; even at night, his mind does not rest. This, too, is meaningless” (Ecclesiastes 2:21-23).

Third, we idolize mankind—and by extension ourselves—through naturalism and the power of science.  Science is basically based on theory. This gives us the illusion that we are lords of our world and builds our self-esteem to godlike proportions. We reject the Most High’s Word and His description of how He created the heavens and the earth, and we accept the nonsense of evolution and naturalism. We embrace the goddess of environmentalism and fool ourselves into thinking we can preserve the planet indefinitely when the Most High has declared the earth has a limited lifespan and will last only until the end of the age. At that time, He will destroy all that He has made and create a new heaven and new earth. “But the day of the Lord will come like a thief. The heavens will disappear with a roar; the elements will be destroyed by fire, and the earth and everything in it will be laid bare. Since everything will be destroyed in this way, what kind of people ought you to be? You ought to live holy and godly lives as you look forward to the day of the Most High God and speed its coming. That day will bring about the destruction of the heavens by fire, and the elements will melt in the heat. But in keeping with his promise, we are looking forward to a new heaven and a new earth, the home of righteousness” (2 Peter 3:10-13). As this passage so clearly states, our focus should not be on worshipping the environment, but on living holy lives as we wait eagerly for the return of our Lord and Savior, who alone deserves worship.

Finally, and perhaps most destructively, we worship at the altar of self-aggrandizement or the fulfillment of the self to the exclusion of all others and their needs and desires. We eat and live for pleasure. (Dilemma 7 in my book) Even if we know that it will eventually kill us. This manifests itself in self-indulgence through alcohol, drugs, and food. Those in affluent countries have unlimited access to alcohol, drugs (prescription drug use is at an all-time high, even among children), and food. Obesity rates in the U.S. have skyrocketed, and childhood diabetes brought on by overeating is epidemic. The self-control we so desperately need is spurned in our insatiable desire to eat, drink, and medicate more and more. We resist any effort to get us to curb our appetites, and we are determined to make ourselves the god of our lives. This has its origin in the Garden of Eden where Satan tempted Eve to eat of the tree with the words “you will be like the Most High” (Genesis 3:5). This has been man’s desire ever since—to be the Most High and, as we have seen, the worship of self is the basis of all modern idolatry.

We worship ourselves…All idolatry of self has at its core the three lusts found in 1 John 2:16: “For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.” If we are to escape modern idolatry, we have to admit that it is rampant and reject it in all its forms. It is not of God, but of Satan, and in it, we will never find fulfillment. This is the great lie and the same one Satan has been telling since he first lied to Adam and Eve. Sadly, we are still falling for it. Even more,, unfortunately, many churches are propagating it in the preaching of the health, wealth, and prosperity gospel built on the idol of self-esteem. But we will never find happiness focusing on ourselves. Our hearts and minds must be centered on God and on others. This is why when asked what the greatest commandment is, Jesus replied, “Love the Lord you’re the Most High with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37). When we love the Lord and others with everything that is in us, there will be no room in our hearts for idolatry.

Reference: https://www.gotquestions.org/idolatry-definition.html

3. Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain; for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain. Exodus Chapter 20:7 KJV

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I was always taught that taking the Most High’s name in vain was by swearing or using it in the place of the infamous “F” bomb. I must admit that I don’t cuss or swear on any level and I have learned to give the Most High the Praise, that he and he alone is worthy of it. When taking his name in vain, we are not giving him the glory that he deserves which is more damaging.
Due to the greatness and glory of the name of the God of Israel, the Most High. The use of the Most High’s name should not bring dishonor to HIM. A person that using his name in vain is breaking one of the 10 commandments and will be held accountable. Even taken his name in an oath or vow can be devastating. We have to respect the name of the Most High in our words, actions, and deeds.
“As in Our Father who art in heaven hallowed be thy name,” as the Messiah stated in Matthew 6:9 KJV.

4. Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days shalt thou labor, and do all thy work:
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But the seventh day is the sabbath of the LORD thy God: in it, thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates:

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For in six days, the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the LORD blessed the sabbath day and hallowed it. Exodus Chapter 20:8 -11 KJV


Keeping the Sabbath Day

Now this commandment poses a problem for most people that want to shop, go out to eat, wash their cars or fulfill all their fleshly desires on Saturday which is the actual Sabbath the seventh day of the week, not Sunday the first day of the week as most follow. It takes a real commitment, but it is required by the Most High God, for it is a sign of his faithful people to him. Friday sundown to Saturday sundown.

The attack on the Sabbath

The Catholic Church Claims:

“The Pope has the power to change times, to abrogate laws, and to dispense with all the things, even the precepts of Christ.” — Decretal De Transtat, Espiscop. Cap

“The church is above the Bible, and this transference of Sabbath observance from Saturday to Sunday is proof positive of the fact.” Catholic Record London Ontario, September 1, 1923

“Perhaps the boldest thing, the most revolutionary change the church ever did happen in the first century. The holy day Sabbath was changed to Sunday… not from any directions noted in the scriptures, but from the church’s sense of its own power. People who think that the scripture should be the sole authority should logically become 7th Day Adventists and keep Saturday holy.” — Saint Catherines Catholic Church Sentinel, May 21, 1995

Keep the sabbath day to sanctify it, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee. Deuteronomy 5:12

The Archbishop of Baltimore James Cardinal Gibbons, also a Catholic educator 1877, died in 1921 stated in his book, The Faith of our fathers’ page 89, “You may read the Bible from Genesis to Revelation, and you will not find a single line authorizing the sanctification of Sunday. The Scriptures enforce the religious observance of Saturday, a day which we never sanctify. The Catholic Church correctly teaches that our Lord and His Apostles inculcated certain important duties of religion which are not recorded by the inspired writers…We must, therefore, conclude that the Scriptures alone cannot be a sufficient guide and rule of faith”  Even he had to acknowledge that the Sabbath is on the 7th day ( 6 pm to 6 pm), but he still chose to ignore it.

Sabbath in Friday 6 pm to  Saturday 6 pm which is a complete day (7th day)

Early believers kept the Saturday as the Sabbath until March 21, 321 CE when Pope Constantine passed a law requiring believers to worship on Sunday, the day Pagans worshipped the sun-god. Believers still kept Saturday as the Sabbath until another law was passed eleven years later. This law signed into a decree by Pope Constantine forbid believers to worship on the Sabbath (Saturday), and it was punishable by death by the Catholic Church. Many believers were burned alive and put to death because they chose to Obey the Laws and Commandments of Yahuah instead of the worthless traditions of men.

5. Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. Exodus Chapter 20:12 KJV

This is one with promise, that if you honor your father and mother, your days will be long on the earth. Some people are mistaken when they hear this commandment, some might think that it means for you to follow devilish parents and follow them to the pits of hell, but that is not so because the Most High warns if you love mother or father more than him, you are not worthy of being with Him.
So what is the true meaning of this statement? Clearly, it is stating that we are to appreciate our parents and value their wisdom?  As a child, we obey them by excepting their authority over us. We always are to treat them with respect, not talk to them in an angry tone or language. To honor is an acknowledgment with all due respect.

 For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death. Matthew 15:4 KJV

6. Thou shalt not kill. Exodus Chapter 20:13 KJV

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 Our ancestors for centuries were subjected to the captivity of many nations on earth. In the Americas they were in slavery while being beaten, punished, raped, killed, and slaughtered for years at the hands of our slave masters who justified their ruthless deeds from the Bible, I guess they forgot the part in the Bible that states, “Thou Shalt not Kill.” 

The shedding of innocent blood, taking matters in your own hands in a fit of rage, taking the life of another person with a cause or without. Repent!!! Keep the Most High’s commandments! 

7. Thou shalt not commit adultery. Exodus Chapter 20:14 KJV

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Flee adultery, committing an act of having sexual relations with someone when you are married to someone else. Do not look at, entertain, spend time with no person that is not your wife or husband.

And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. Leviticus 20:10 KJV

Marriage is not to be taken lightly before you marry anyone, seek the Most High and let him lead you. Many look good on paper but the Most High knows the heart of the individual. Keep yourself pure from sexual sin while you wait on the Most High. Marriage is one of the greatest mysteries yet one that is taken lightly. Getting married is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make, one that needs the urging and direction of the Most High. He knows the purpose and destiny and how to join you with. How can anyone begin to even speak on marriage or try giving counsel on marriage without first having a complete understanding and the complete comprehension on what a real biblical marriage is according to Scriptures? Biblical marriage is when the two bodies or flesh has now become one, by being on the same accord and having the same purpose, character, commitment, and understanding of the Most High God of Israel who created the covenant in the garden of Eden.

8. Thou shalt not steal. Exodus Chapter 20:15 KJV

Got your hands caught in the cookie jar again? 

The desire and act of stealing what belongs to another person.
Repent!!

9. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour. Exodus Chapter 20:16 KJV

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A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will not escape. Proverbs 19:5 KJV
There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers. Proverbs 6:16-19
A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will perish. Proverbs 19:9
Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. Ephesians 4:25

10. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbor’s. Exodus Chapter 20: 17 KJV

The world entices you with the lure of brand names, especially those high-end designer logos like Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Chanel or Hermes. Your quest to be as “The Joneses” down the street with their lavish lifestyle will drive you to the point of coveting his pretty wife, his lifestyle, and his material goods.  The promotions via billboards, television promotion, and following the Joneses all perpetuate this behavior. The lust of wanting to be seen as more than you really are. This society is based on what you have and what you look like. This attitude dictates and unrealistic notion of success. This is a fantasy mirrored by Hollywood. It’s not only that the more you care about impressing other people with your appearance, the more likely you will overspend. In fact, the more focused you are on your own thoughts, feelings, and impressions you make on others, the more you’ll seek outwardly-recognizable status symbols like handbags and overpriced clothing. The EGO is the ringleader with this disorder, the thrill to maintain a different reality, the reality that goods will make you happy. It is all vanity, as King Solomon stated in the bible. Vanity goes beyond just looking fabulous for others, it is about the praise and self-admiration that comes along with this behavior. We are to never think more highly of ourselves. This brings me to the theory by Leon Festinger in 1954, which centers on the initial belief that there is a drive within individuals to gain accurate self-evaluations. The theory explains how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others in order to reduce uncertainty in these domains and learn how to define the self. Following the initial theory, research began to focus on social comparison as a way of self-enhancement, introducing the concepts of downward and upward comparisons and expanding the motivations of social comparisons. The downward social comparison is a great coping process because it allows you to view a bad situation by looking at others who are worse off than you (poorer, less attractive, more stressed) and concluding that things aren’t really so bad. An upward social comparison can cause you to berate yourself unnecessarily because you feel that you’re being outdone by your neighbors, comrades, family, co-workers, and Instagram-youtube-facebook friends. Your (EGO) desire to impress people that could care less about, but not realizing that this disorder can promote psychological disorders. At the end of the day is it really worth gaining the whole world than losing your soul? Material things or what others have don’t matter at the end of the day be thankful for what you have.

The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 3 – "Racism"

What do they say we are….

NIGGERS * SPICS *COONS * DARKIES * BLACK * UGLY * MULATTOS *FEEBLE MINDED * UNFIT * IMBECILES * IMMORAL * CRIMINAL * CATTLE * SLAVES NEGROES * AFRO THIS OR THAT *MONKIES * SAVAGES * COLORED *JUNGLE BUNNIES * DIRT *JIGABOOS * ANIMALS *WET BACKS * SPOOKS *SAMBOO * ASIATIC BLACK MIXED * BIRACIAL* MULTIRACIAL * BURNT And so forth… Code words used to establish slavery.

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The differentness of races, moreover, is no evidence of superiority or of inferiority. This merely indicates that each race has certain gifts which the others do not possess. — Carter G. Woodson

Racism is truly the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of Darkism and Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races: a profound prejudice against black people or other ethnic groups based on color. Its core belief that people of different races have different qualities and abilities, and that some races are inherently superior or inferior to the other races. Slavery in America was the biggest catalyst for this kind of hate. First, let me demystify the proverbial reference to race. I call it – “the powerful illusion.” For the theory of race to exist there has to be a superior race and inferior race for the ideal of separation. The theory of race is a man-made system of classification created to division among people to classify people into certain groups. Classifying humans into various racial groups including a selection process of what color fits into what category. Is it redundant to say the least, many have brought into the lie? Think about it can we as people draw any scholarship on race based on what one looks like. Race a group of humans which the populations have divided into a group based on physical characteristics. Biologically speaking, traits are inherited non-concordantly through our ancestors, which means they are inherited independently. If we were to go on genetics alone there really isn’t a single genetic trait that distinguishes one race from another, even with varying degrees of melanin in the skin. Racism is an attitude aborted believing in a man made the illusion. If people that don’t know who they are they will believe, live, and thrive off of anything. You were sold to the nations, not for your destruction: but because ye moved God to wrath, ye were delivered unto the enemies. Baruch 4:6

The biggest progenitor of racism was slavery.

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There is a massive paper trail noting slavery in the United States of America but what about the four corners of the world where it all begin, that was similar to other forms of servitude practice where our people were kept enslaved. Like the Arabian, European slavery marketing of our people, which may be brutal of them all, like castration of young male genitals to make them eunuchs. The buck breaking and brutal rape of black women and children. The slave trade was in operation in the Arab world, Western Asia, Africa, and Europe beginning during the 19th century. The History of Arab Slavery in Africa by Owen Alik Shahadah (www.arabslavetrade.com) states in the relations and perfections section, ” Africans in the Indian Diaspora. The Afro-Arab relationship was riddled with complexities lined in a cultural nexus. And there is no doubt that racial discrimination against people of African origin was a hard reality. There is an escalation of racism as a casual association with Black Skin and Slave was made. And considering the era in which Islam emerged, it is therefore even more astounding and revolutionary to find such a strong tone of racial harmony and equality.”

The fate of black people from 1933 to 1945 in Nazi Germany and in German-occupied territories ranged from isolation to persecution, sterilization, medical experimentation, incarceration, brutality, and murder. However, there was no systematic program for their elimination as there was for Jews and other groups. Hitler wanted to ensure that white women did have children with black soldiers. Children birthed by German women and black men were often referred to as “Rhineland Bastards.” Rhineland bastard (German: Rheinland bastard) was a derogatory term used in Nazi Germany to describe multiracial children with Caucasian, German mothers who had been fathered by Africans serving with French colonial troops during the Occupation of the Rhineland after World War I. According to Nazi racial theory, these children were considered inferior to Aryan children and consigned to compulsory sterilization. I grew up in Germany and was often referred to as “War Baby” although it was because of my light skin, long hair, facial features, and ability to speak the language, I was treated as such. So we have established that most Germans like most Nordic people don’t like African people, this brings me to a discussion about…..

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Adolf Hitler

Hitler was a German politician who was the leader of the Nazi Party, the chancellor of Germany from 1933 to 1945, and Führer (“leader”) of Nazi Germany from 1934 to 1945. As dictator of Nazi Germany, he initiated World War II in Europe with the invasion of Poland in September 1939 and was a central figure of the Holocaust. Hitler remarked that “The Passing of the Great Race or the Racial Basis of European by Madison Grant was his bible. The difference between the Jew and Aryan is as insurmountable as that between black and white…. German has set a pattern which other nations must follow.

“On December 6, 1913, a team led by German archaeologist Ludwig Borchardt discovered a sculpture buried upside-down in the sandy rubble on the floor of the excavated workshop of the royal sculptor Thutmose in Amarna. A year later the Nefertiti bust was put on display in Berlin, countering the “English” Tut with a German appropriation of old glamour. Throughout the 20th century’s upheavals, the bust remained in German hands. It was revered by Hitler (who said, “I will never relinquish the head of the Queen”), hidden from Allied bombs in a salt mine and coveted by East Germany throughout the Cold War. Today it draws more than 500,000 visitors annually to Berlin’s Neues Museum.” reference: http://www.history.com/topics/ancient-history/nefertiti
Is it that beauty transcends even racism? Or was Hitler indeed, a racist?

I will provide excerpts from Hitler’s Book “Mein Kampf” (My Struggle) where he clearly speaks his disrespect and disdain for Negroes (Black People) even going as far as to call us “Half Apes”, Blacks too were thrown in Concentration Camps and summarily sterilized because Hitler did not want Blacks having babies with German White Women. How Hitler really viewed blacks: Hitler skips the first recorded sin in the bible of Eve taking a bite out of some fruit tree to declare race mixing between blacks and his pure Aryan white blood was “The original sin of humanity” (MKp.624) Marcus Garvey said the same thing he believes in the purity of the negro race and purity of the white race” (Race First by Tony Martin p.22) Garvey was against miscegenation. And hated rich blacks marrying poor whites. The hybrid organization that would take over from the UNIA would be the NOI. Hitler was appalled at society, allowing blacks to become a lawyer, teacher, even a pastor. He thought it is criminal lunacy to keep on drilling a born half-ape ..while members of the highest culture-race must remain in unworthy positions” ( MKp.430) Hitler believed that the Blackman shouldn’t be allowed to keep his so-called “****** nation” Hitler also stated: “This world belongs only to the whole forceful man and not to the weak half man” ( MK p.257).
Hitler viewed the Blackman like Hollywood viewed the Blackman in The Birth of a Nation. In that woman, the Blackman’s eyes grow big in lust for a white woman. Hitler thought of us as a big King Kong gorilla. “Systematically these black parasites of the nation defile our inexperienced young blond girls and thereby destroy something which can no longer be replaced in this world” (MK p.562).
If Hitler would have won the war, the fate of the Blackman in this world has been slavery and cremation. On a scale of 1-10, his abuse would have been 10, but between 1619-1960’s in America, our miss treatment was a steady 8. I would invite curious students to read Hitler because he has so many relatives here in America like Hoover, The FBI, The KKK, etc. We prevent repeats of history by understanding our past.-(Austin, N.D.) The Nazis’ obsession with racial purity and eugenics was provoked and intensified in 1918, following Germany’s defeat in World War I. Under the terms of the peace treaty signed at Versailles, Germany was stripped of its African colonies and forced to submit to the occupation of the Rhineland. The deployment of African troops from the French provinces to police the territory incensed many Germans.
To many, it was the final humiliation that began with their 1918 defeat in the World War I. Germans complained bitterly in newspapers and propaganda films about African soldiers from the French colonial army having relations with their women. As soon as Hitler reoccupied the Rhineland in 1936, he retaliated by targeting black people living there. At least 400 mixed-race children were forcibly sterilized in the area by the end of 1937, while 400 others disappeared into camps Hitler thought that all people who weren’t blonde, blue-eyed, light-skinned and Germanic were inferior. This included Jews, Gypsies, anyone from the Middle East, Asians and black people. He was very bitter and unsportsmanlike when he had to award the gold medal to Jesse Owens during the 1936 Berlin Olympics and refused to shake his hand.
Few blacks were living in Germany in the 1930s and 1940s, and of the few, many were rounded up and put in concentration camps and forcibly sterilized or subjected to medical experiments.
References: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adolf_Hitler

He believed in a perfect Aryan race. He admired blue-eyed, white, blond haired people. He had a warped interpretation of Darwin’s Origin of Species and theory of natural selection and believed that the traditional German man (Aryan) was the fittest and the strongest, therefore everything else – Jews, Blacks, Asians, etc would have to be eliminated. — Dr. Yehoshua Ben Ephraim, 

My people have suffered great injustices at the hands of the Aryan/Nordic race, better known as the white man; still today, the slavery mentality is again stirring the pot of racism. I could only imagine the pain my ancestors endured at the hands of the slave masters. This man is a king among the princes of bigotry and hatred.

He skinned my people, castrated my brothers, raped my sisters and brutally murdered my people in recorded numbers in the name of Satan. He is the Devil incarnate!

This devil goes by the name of “King Leopold II” The man who killed more than 10 million people, yet is not seen as hideous. His persona and methods of punishment were as cruel as Hitler. He slaughtered and brutally killed a lot of African people, a lot of them where castrate, raped, and skinned alive. King Leopold II is a person that many believe should be put in the same sentence with Hitler, Stalin and other dictators of the modern world. However, he is not. It is funny that he is rarely part of the history books, and not many people are known for his actions and deeds. Leopold II is mostly remembered as the founder of the Congo Free State, a country that is nowadays known as the Democratic Republic of Congo. But what many do not know is that Leopold murdered more than 10 million people in Congo and exploited the country and its sources. He donated most of his property to Belgium in order to preserve it. Leopold ruled from 1865 and for the next 44 years until his death.

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To get a better understanding of King Leopold II and his thoughts, we distinguish some of the quotes he used during his speech in 1883. In the statement, Leopold tried to explain to “loyal” patriots in Belgium that what they do in Congo is rightful, and that they need to evangelize the “niggers.” Here are some quotes from the speech.

Teach the niggers to forget their heroes and to adore only ours. Never present a chair to a black that comes to visit you. Don’t give him more than one cigarette. Never invite him for dinner even if he gives you a chicken every time you arrive at his house; They know that to kill, to sleep with someone else’s wife, to lie and to insult is bad. Have the courage to admit it; you are not going to teach them what they know already; Your action will be directed essentially to the younger ones, for they won’t revolt when the recommendation of the priest is contradictory to their parent’s teachings. The children have to learn To obey what the missionary recommends, who is the father of their soul. You must singularly insist on their total submission and obedience, avoid developing the spirits in the schools, teach students to read and not to reason; Evangelize the niggers so that they stay forever in submission to the white colonialists, so they never revolt against the restraints they are undergoing. Recite every day – “happy are those who are weeping because the kingdom of God is for them.” Reference: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leopold_II_of_Belgium

Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted, the indifference of those who should have known better, the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most, that has made it possible for evil to triumph. —Haile Selassie

With almost 8 billion people around the world and many prototypes of what science calls a “human being,” The physical traits of mankind have stood out since the time of Adam and Eve, through colonialism and slavery, tried to define what prototype was superior to the other, this is where the theory of race classification was started around the globe. Every member of mankind is from a nation not a race of people.

Negro Types: African, Shemites,and Canaanites

Caucasian Types: Nordic, Aryan, and Mediterraneans

Mongolian Types: Asians, Indians, Arabs

Common physical traits of mankind:

Negroids:

Have the most profound features of all they literally gravitate from the face Blonde to Black Hair, Skin tone Light brown to dark brown, any eye size or shape or color, medium to thick lips, wider or low bridged noses, some smaller noses in different parts of Africa. some.

Middle Eastern:

Any hair color type, Any eye color, Skin tone Pale to brown, thin to full lips, and High or low bridged noses.

Asians:

Monolid eyes make them unique have brown to black thick hair, monolid /double eyelid small brown/black eyes, Skin tone pale with yellow undertones to dark sandy brown, thin to medium lips.

Latinas (South America, Mexico, Puerto Ricans):

Facial features are dominant any hair color, texture thickness, Any eye shape or color, skin tone light tan to medium brown, Thin to medium lips, low bridged noses.

Aryan-Nordic Caucasians Descendants of Europe, or white people:

Skin is most coveted around the world by default Skin color is pale very fair- pinkish in tone, All eyes light colors to brown, Small straight low bridged noses or high bridged, Thin lips predominately, Hair is straight predominately.

Native American Indians:

The Nose is defined literally Skin type is light brown skin to dark, The skin color is not red, as is popularly supposed, but varies from very light to dark, dark brown eyes, prominent cheekbones, and straight black hair.

Arabs:

The Nose is the most distinguishing feature of their face Skin type is light to medium brown, dark to light eyes, high bridged long nose and thin to medium lips.

Indians:

Skin type light to dark brown, high bridged noses, any eye color, and thin to full lips.

Hawaiians, Polynesians, Samoans, Melanesians:

Clubby cheeks Skin type light to dark brown, flat wider – low bridged nose, hair color blonde to dark, and any eye color.

Aborigines:

Tan skin is flawless light to dark skin, low bridged wide noses, hair blonde to dark, any eye color but prominently dark eyes, and thin to full lips.

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Since the beginning of time, the Aryan race has always tried to define every race of the earth. They mark the white man as superior, genetically to all other races. Back in the 1800s a Swedish Botanist, Physician, and Zoologist Carl Linnaeus (The Father of Scientific Racism) are often called the Father of Taxonomy. His system for naming, ranking, and classifying organisms is still in extensive use today (with many changes). In Systema Naturae, his ideas on classification have influenced generations of biologists during and after his own lifetime, even those opposed to the philosophical and theological roots of his work introduced 5 levels under Homo Sapiens based initially on the bases of skin hue or color. 1) European 2) Asiaticus 3) American 4) Monstrous 5) Africanus. The premise was to make Caucasian, Europeans white superior to the rest of the races in the classification process. Another example of classification came from German Physician, Naturalist, Physiologist, and Anthropologist Johann Friedrich Blumenbach. He was one of the first to explore the study of mankind as an aspect of natural history. His teachings in comparative anatomy were applied to the classification of what he called human races, of which he determined there to be five. Blumenbach’s work included his description of sixty human crania (skulls) published initially been in fascicules as Decas cranium (Göttingen, 1790–1828). This was a founding work for other scientists in the field of craniometry. He divided the human species into five races in 1779, later founded on crania research (description of human skulls.) His teachings in comparative anatomy were applied to the classification of what he called human races. In which he determined there to be five: the Caucasian or white race, the Mongolian or yellow race, including all East Asians and some Central Asians, the Malayan or brown race, including Southeast Asian and Pacific Islanders, the Ethiopian or black race, including sub-Saharan Africans, the American or red race, including American Indians. Johann studies are yet another example of white supremacy around the world.

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And thou, even thyself, shalt discontinue from thine heritage that I gave thee; and I will cause thee to serve thine enemies in the land which thou knowest not: for ye have kindled a fire in mine anger, which shall burn forever. Jeremiah 17:4 King James Version Bible We were left serving our enemies and their Gods. Where did we originate from, what was our backstory? The History of the Negro is the history of a people that have been mistreated, tortured, feared, deemed unworthy and not human, a people lacking understanding of who they are, every nation in the world there is a back story. How did we get into this predicament? It was through our disobedience to our creator. And through that disobedience we were … And the LORD shall bring thee into Egypt again with ships, by way of which I spake unto thee, Thou shalt see it no more again: and there ye shall be sold unto your enemies as bondmen and bondwomen, and no man shall buy you. Deuteronomy 28: 68. We came by ways of slave ships to the Americas and the 4 corners of the world. We did we suffer such an injustice? It was through our disobedience to the Most High God and not keep his commandments. It would appear that society wants us to forget “Slavery,” but they will go on about the Jewish Holocaust forever. Our Past is relevant to our future, it was our past that shows us the way. We woke up in a world where lightness, whiteness is valued around the world through lies, brain-washing, manipulation, racism, slavery misconceptions, and fallacies. Well known by the complexity of the Bywords they call us in a specific time and place. Let’s take “Black” for an example black relates to evil, a color that has no hue a color value that has no shade as a result of the absorption of nearly all light from all visible wavelengths. How long will we identify with these bywords? They call us Niggers, Darkies, Black, African, Mulatto, Half-breeds, Savages, and Coons all by words created during slavery to brainwash us and keep us captive from our true identity. The Trans – Atlantic Slave Trade in 1450 in 1619, America joined the Trans – Atlantic Trade. Over 100 million slaves lost their heritage their lives, which were the biggest massacre of people in the world.

 

White Privilege / Black Exclusion

They say we are lazy, but we built this country… They say we lack intelligence but have birthed some of the most brilliant minds. They say we can’t do it, but we have always overcome adversity… They say nothing but in the eyes of the Most High we are somebody…
Economical Freedom brings despair…. Black Wallstreet
Let’s stroll down memory lane, shall we? Who knew that Tulsa Oklahoma the home of the white evangelical Christian had so much history, that is black history. It birthed the term “Black Wall Street” in which black people had the power to lead in business developments. Tulsa Oklahoma is also notorious for the streets: Greenwood, Archer, and Pine, famous streets known in North Tulsa. After all, the popular group “The Gap Band” pinned the roads to form the band’s name. While in Tulsa, I would often hear the local speak about how great Tulsa was back then, they should take great pride in their once thriving communities. Although Tulsa is thriving now for some, it fails in comparison to what it once was. The store windows are often seeing adorning metal bars to keep the criminals out. There is a substantial distinction between North and South Tulsa. In south Tulsa predominately white, while north Tulsa is predominately black. In north Tulsa, most of the businesses have bars on the windows with the infiltration of gangs such as the blood and the crips from California they had no choice but to take this course of action to protect their properties. Now in 2017, the remnant of gangs is gone, but economic despair still lingers. The date was June 1, 1921, when “Black Wall Street,” the name was fittingly given to one of the most affluent all-Black communities in America, was bombed from the air and burned to the ground by mobs of envious whites. In a period spanning fewer than 12 hours, a once thriving 36-Black business district in northern Tulsa lay smoldering–a model community destroyed, and a significant African-American economic movement resoundingly defused. The night’s carnage left some 3,000 African Americans dead, and over 600 successful businesses lost. Among these were 21 churches, 21 restaurants, 30 grocery stores, and two movie theaters, plus a hospital, a bank, a post office, libraries, schools, law offices, a half dozen private airplanes, and even a bus system. As could have been expected the impetus behind it all was the infamous Ku Klux Klan, working in consort with ranking city officials, and many other sympathizers. http://www.blackwallstreet.freeservers.com/

In their self-published book, Black Wallstreet: A Lost Dream, and its companion video documentary, Black Wallstreet: A Black Holocaust in America!, the authors have chronicled for the very first time in the words of area historians and elderly survivors what really happened there on that fateful summer day in 1921 and why it happened. Wallace similarly explained to me why this bloody event from the turn of the century seems to have had a recurring effect that is being felt in predominately Black neighborhoods even to this day.

According to Nielson, African-Americans currently hold a buying power of $1 trillion, a number that’s estimated to reach $1.3 trillion by 2017 and they’re blowing a lot of those bills on cosmetics spending nine times more on ethnic- targeted beauty and grooming products than the general market. The black woman, in particular, spends an estimated $7.5 billion annually on beauty products, shelling and twice as much on skin care as their non-black counterparts. Yet they’re underserved by the cosmetics industry throughout history.
Resilient Receptive and Relevant: The African American Consumer
African Americans spend more than any other group: Watch 37 % more television Read 28% more financial magazines Buy 9 times more ethnic beauty and grooming products Make 8 times more shopping trips Spend 2 times as much time on personal hosted websites (source; Resilient Receptive and Relevant: The African American Consumer) Ask Men.

Caucasian the descendants of the Aryan/Nordic Race (white people) have inherent advantages around the world.

The white concession or privilege are provisos for the social order of opportunities that benefit Nordic/Aryan people (white people) in countries where the populous is predominately white beyond what is commonly experienced by non-white people under the same social, political, or economic circumstances. The term designate advantages that white persons know they are the recipients of during slavery it was quite apparent. This is unspoken prejudice mixed with a biased account of being fortunate to receive advancement due to skin color. The conclusion can be seen in the recipients private, relationships, professional, relational, educational, occupations, and personal contexts. The concept of white privilege is universal not limited to a particular place in the earth through colonization; it has spread to the four corners of the world.

1. White people earn more money

My interview with Daphne, she is a black hand model. Q: Do you think white people earn more money than black people? Daphne: Yes, I know the modeling does those things too. Q: Explain? Daphne: I make around 1000K for a photo shoot featuring my hands, while a lot of the white hand models make around 10000K per photo shoot. There is a lot of prejudice in the modeling industry, and that determines what we get as models. Families of color will soon make up a majority of the population, but most continue to fall behind whites in building wealth. In 1963, the average wealth of white families was $117,000 higher than the average wealth of nonwhite families. By 2013, the average wealth of white families was over $500,000 higher than the average wealth of African American families ($95,000) and of Hispanic families ($112,000) sources: Survey of Financial Characteristics of Consumers 1962 (December 31), Survey of Changes in Family Finances 1963, and Survey of Consumer Finances 1983–2013.

2. Favored more in terms of getting a job

My interview with Derrick, a black man that holds a masters degree in accounting. Q: With your master’s degree, has it been easy to find work? Derrick: No. They tell me I am over qualified or they have no work for me. Q: Why do you think that is? Derrick: Racism Q: Explain? Derrick: I went to a well-known bank. I was interviewing for a job as an account manager. There was another guy there interviewing as well for the same position. We struck up a conversation, he let me know he had only a high school education with no banking experience. One week later, I received a letter stating that I was not chosen for this particular position, that my resume would be kept on file. A month then, I went to the bank for some business, and I saw the same guy there, he was now the account manager. Now that is racism. In the article (www.cepr.net) titled, Has Education Paid Off for Black Workers? June 2013, by Janelle Jones and John Schmitt, they state that… Over the past three decades, the “human capital” of the employed black workforce has increased enormously. In 1979, only one-in-ten (10.4 percent) black workers had a four-year college degree or more. By 2011, more than one in four (26.2 percent) had a college education or more. Over the same period, the share of black workers with less than a high school degree fell from almost one-third (31.6 percent) to only about one in 20 (5.3 percent) … This article clearly shows that blacks are least hired among the other nations. 3. More likely have lesser sentences for crimes compared to black men. We live in a country where a white man will get less time for killing his black wife, than a black man robbing a liquor store. In an article in Wall Street Journal by Joe Palazzolo, “Racial Gap in Men’s Sentencing” February 14th, 2013 it declares that “Prison sentences of black men were nearly 20% longer than those of white men for similar crimes in recent years, an analysis by the U.S. Sentencing Commission found. That racial gap has widened since the Supreme Court restored judicial discretion in sentencing in 2005, according to the Sentencing Commission’s findings, which were submitted to Congress last month and released publicly this week.”

4. Depicted as saints in the media

They are depicted as saints, but a lot of crimes are perpetrated by whites as well. In the article “Mass Media in the White Man’s World” by Christy La Pierre (/web.stanford.edu) Poverty & Prejudice: Media and Race June 4, 1999, Christy states, “In the eyes of many minority groups, the mass media produced in the United States may be a reflection of Anglo views regarding non-Anglo communities. “The dominant culture must constantly strive to expand its hegemony while fending off challenges and interventions from the very classes and groups it seeks to subjugate,” (Split Image, African Americans in the Mass Media, pg. 6). In American society, by reproducing the ideological hegemony of the dominant white culture, the mass media help to legitimate the inequalities in class and race relations. Two underrepresented and misrepresented minorities in the media today and in the past are African-Americans and Latinos. African-Americans and Latinos have experienced discrimination for years through print news and entertainment television. Not surprisingly, both of these mediums have been dominated by the Anglo-culture and have therefore been structured to harbor the needs and communicate the ideas of this ruling class.” Our people have suffered the most brutal instances of hate crimes, not to mention black on black crime. Most recently, Dylann Roof, a 21-year-old white gunman who killed nine people at a historic African-American church in Charleston, South Carolina, on June 17th was arrested on June 18, 2015. He was immediately forgiven by the family members of the murdered. He is definitely a victim of white privilege no matter what they do to others. The police were concerned with his safety, other than his crime. Black men have been beaten, tortured, and killed endlessly in America and around the world for their color of skin. Where is the justice? A white woman poses as a black woman, funny how people of the other nations are forgiven of their bounty, in this case, Rachel Dolezal President of NAACP Chapter from Spokane Washington, the blacks embraced her, think about how often black women are ridiculed for trying to be white. Rachel may indeed be a great person with her exploits for the NAACP, but integrity in the public eyes is fundamental as well. Self-hatred among blacks You hate me, I hate me too… Black people always want to be something they are not, if they have one drop of Indian blood in them, then they are half Indian, we are what our fathers are, our lineage is determined by what nation our father is. It is like there is a lousy enigma with being associated with being black. Why should we hate the color of your skin? The texture of our hair? The Shape of your nose and lips. We are unique among the nations. Our looks are rare. The other countries are a carbon copy of each other in terms of beauty. If we were to embrace our naturalness, we would have the uniqueness everyone would desire.
We are the trendsetters, they copy our style. Through history and now today they want our full lips, our ample behinds, and tanned skin. Wake up people there is no reason to hate each other but appreciate our God-given Beauty. Are we suffering from amnesia? White supremacy, slavery, and colonization really did a job on the psyche of the people of color. They have convinced us that we are ugly, worthless, and inhuman. They copy our music, our style, our looks, our culture, but it is the self-hatred among ourselves that has become problematic or shall I say, “‘the elephant in the room.”
Every other nation of people supports their own in word and deed. With people of color (blacks) there is a defined perpetual race war with themselves. Even in this day and age, we are yet still slaves in our minds, actions, and deeds. We are the only people that look at light skin and dark skin among blacks as to different nationalities. I have seen many times – Light skin women speak against the more colored skin women as if they are dirt and not worthy and have witnessed darker skin women treat the lighter skin different because they felt they were better. So if the shoe fits wear it, this must stop we are all on the same ship sailing through life as the dark nation of people. To the average white person, we all are dark. The Truth I think the whole theory of light skin vs. dark skin is superfluous, stupid, and redundant. It lacks intelligence, perception, and common sense. Why does it matter? This whole thing was conceived through white supremacy, the enslavement of our people, it will never validate who we are as a people or nation.
Dark skin women are not placed on a pedestal, but light skinned black women are put on pedestals by other black people. In society, white women are the only ones that can claim ownership of the foundation worldwide. White supremacy is to blame having their images valued and celebrated over all other nations. Occasionally the mainstream will appreciate a none white woman or man this is on purpose. And it’s so sinister depriving a person of color of their privilege and immunity that uncritical folks can’t discern that they have been repeatedly told by media what they should prefer, who is beautiful, and what skin color is this internalized devaluation is a way of life. At the end of the day if your black, light, or dark, you will receive the same judgment. View by white standards, light by black standards.

My interview with Natasha, a fashion model

Q: Do you think white privilege exists? And if so, how has it affected your life? Natasha: Its really no secret in the fashion industry that white models are the most famous, there is a bias of white privilege as a white model. I got lots of work as a model and its because I am white. Q: How are the black models treated? Natasha: I think if it weren’t for affirmative action on behalf of black models, there would not be any black models. In a show in Paris over a year ago, I overheard a prominent designer (I won’t say his name) called black models “monkies” or colored tokens of appreciation not as someone really worthy to be a model. White women rule this industry, we got all the contracts, deals, and endorsements. Q: Is that a view that you share as well? Natasha: No not at all, you know I think you are one of the prettiest women with your beautiful eyes and I love your vanilla-ish- brownish skin. I also love Naomi Campbell; she is a lot darker than you. Q: Anything else you want to add about your white privilege? Natasha: Yes, I forgot to mention that with this privilege, I have been able to travel around the world and have my pick of me really wealthy men. I hope in time, things will change.

My interview with Bianca, a German, one of my best friends since childhood.

Q: Do you think “White Privilege” exists? Bianca: I think Racism exists that is really white privilege.  Q: Has white privilege affected your life? Bianca: There is also a hierarchy with white women, the blondes rule. So on that list with my dark hair and dark eyes, my place on the beauty list is at the end. I think that a lot of the privilege is based on your overall look like being skinny, but I noticed when I gained weight, no one looks at me anymore. Q: Do you think black women are judged more harshly because of skin color, other than white women? Bianca: Yes, in some cases, but I remember everyone was always in awe of you, so maybe it just with darker black women they experience so much more hatred. Q: As a white woman, honestly, how do people talk in presence as regards to black women? Bianca: There is still a lot of racism in the world, they speak against blacks all the time. The exception to the rule are the lighter ones who seem to get some praise, but in the trick bag, all are viewed as black with the same harsh treatments. Little do they know that the ones they despise are the very elect of God.

It seems as though the initial argument about slavery is the definite “racism” attached to it. But for centuries prior, my people have experienced racism. We as a people were in slavery before by several empires prior. Has anyone ever that of where the racism originated from? Or do we look into a narrow window never realizing we can open it all the way. What started the initial hate, the anger coming from a people (white people), hating us for no apparent reason just because of the color of our skin. Think about it what really makes the white woman next to you better? Is it because she is a few shades lighter, her hair is straighter, and her eyes are lighter? What really turned a skin color into a full out assault on black people? And this is the brown girl and boy dilemma.

Does the color of your skin give you inherent advantages around the world?

Through the adoption of racism – the white concession or privilege are provisos for the social order of privileges that benefit Nordic/Aryan people (white people) in countries where the populous is predominately white beyond what is commonly experienced by non-white people under the same social, political, or economic circumstances. The term designate advantages that white persons know they are the recipients of during slavery it was quit apparent. This is unspoken prejudice mixed with a bias account of being fortunate to receive advancement due to skin color. The conclusion can be seen in the recipients private, relationships, professional, relational, educational, occupations, and personal contexts. The concept of white privilege is universal not limited to a particular place in the earth through colonization it has spread to the four corners of the world.

1. White people earn more money… My interview with Daphne, she is a black hand model

Q: Do you think white people earn more money than black people? Daphne: Yes, I know in the modeling industry they do. Q: Explain ? Daphne: I make around 1000K for a photo shoot featuring my hands, while a lot of the white hand models make around 10000K per photo shoot. There is a lot of prejudice in the modeling industry, and that determines what we get as models.

2. Favored more in terms of getting a job… My interview with Derrick, a black man that holds a masters degree in accounting.

Q: With your masters degree has it been easy to find work? Derrick: No. They tell me I am over qualified or they have no work for me. Q: Why do you think that is? Derrick: Racism Q: Explain? Derrick: I went to a well known bank. I was interviewing for a job as a account manager. There was another guy there interviewing as well for the same position. We struck up a conversation, he let me know he had only a high school education with no banking experience. One week later, I received a letter stating that I was not chosen for this particular position, that my resume would be kept on file. A month later, I went to the bank for some business and I saw the same guy there, he was now the account manager. Now that is racism.

Families of color will soon make up a majority of the population, but most continue to fall behind whites in building wealth. In 1963, the average wealth of white families was $117,000 higher than the average wealth of nonwhite families. By 2013, the average wealth of white families was over $500,000 higher than the average wealth of African American families ($95,000) and of Hispanic families ($112,000) sources: Survey of Financial Characteristics of Consumers 1962 (December 31), Survey of Changes in Family Finances 1963, and Survey of Consumer Finances 1983–2013.

 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 52 – "The Haters"


A white woman poses as a black woman, funny how people of the other nations are forgiven of her bounty, in this case, Rachel Dolezal President of NAACP Chapter from Spokane Washington, the blacks embraced her, think about how often black women are ridiculed for trying to be white. Rachel may indeed be a great person with her exploits for the NAACP, but integrity in the public eyes is fundamental as well.
Rachel Dolezal (left to right) These photographs are the property of their respective owners.
Self-hatred among blacks “You hate me, I hate me too…” Black people always want to be something they are not, if they have one drop of Indian blood in them, then they are half Indian, we are what our fathers are, our lineage is determined by what nation our father is. It is like there is a lousy enigma with being associated with being black. Why should we hate the color of your skin? The texture of our hair? The Shape of your nose and lips. We are unique among the nations. Our looks are rare. The other countries are a carbon copy of each other in terms of beauty. If we were to embrace our naturalness, we would have the uniqueness everyone would desire.
We are the trendsetters, they copy our style. Through history and now today they want our full lips, our ample behinds, and tanned skin. Wake up people there is no reason to hate each other but appreciate our God-given Beauty. Are we suffering from amnesia? White supremacy, slavery, and colonization really did a job on the psyche of the people of color. They have convinced us that we are ugly, worthless, and inhuman. They copy our music, our style, our looks, our culture, but it is the self-hatred among ourselves that has become problematic or shall I say, “‘the elephant in the room.”
Every other nation of people supports their own in word and deed. With people of color (blacks) there is a defined perpetual race war with themselves. Even in this day and age, we are yet still slaves in our minds, actions, and deeds. We are the only people that look at light skin and dark skin among blacks as to different nationalities. I have seen many times – Light skin women speak against the more colored skin women as if they are dirt and not worthy and have witnessed darker skin women treat the lighter skin different because they felt they were better. So if the shoe fits wear it, this must stop we are all on the same ship sailing through life as the dark nation of people. To the average white person, we all are dark.  The Truth I think the whole theory of light skin vs. dark skin is superfluous, stupid, and redundant. It lacks intelligence, perception, and common sense. Why does it matter? This whole thing was conceived through white supremacy, the enslavement of our people, it will never validate who we are as a people or nation. Dark skin women are not placed on a pedestal, but light skinned black women are put on pedestals by other black people. In society, white women are the only ones that can claim ownership of the foundation worldwide. White supremacy is to blame having their images valued and celebrated over all other nations. Occasionally the mainstream will appreciate a none white woman or man this is on purpose. And it’s so sinister depriving a person of color of their privilege and immunity that uncritical folks can’t discern that they have been repeatedly told by media what they should prefer, who is beautiful, and what skin color is this internalized devaluation is a way of life.  At the end of the day if your black, light, or dark,  you will receive the same judgment. View by white standards, light by black standards.

The Hater Syndrome

Okay if you made it to this point, I went over what you must possess to be considered a woman of the Most High, the attributes and behaviors. Does this sound familiar?

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Typical conversations among women.
Lady 1: She is gorgeous
Lady 2: Girl, you should see her when she takes off the weave and makeup then say that.
Or
Lady 3: She is cute.
Lady 4: She thinks she is all that.

Lady 2 and 4 are quite typical little did they know I don’t wear weave and never have. I have always had long hair. As far as makeup well I sometimes wear mascara, maybe some lipstick. Do we, as people expect, people on social media to say something positive, supportive, or convey a definite compliment. These people are cowards hiding behind a computer screen so their lives may be hell, so they want to make your hell to. I remember like over a decade ago, has done some modeling, my photo was featured online on a website, but it was under the wrong name. It was kind of funny how there was an ongoing conversation about my looks, and I’m sure that most of these people never seen me in person. I read the comments:

She looks like a big plastic blowup doll
Is she Somalian? No she cheeks are too chubby to be Somalian, but he is stunning.
She is as pretty as Halle Berry
In a room of women, she would stand out, but I don’t think the other beautiful women would go unnoticed.
She looks like a witch
I bet she’s an evil bitch she is too pretty.
Her eyes make her look possessed I bet her man has to cover his eyes when they have sex
I bet she has had some work done; she is to perfect.
She is cute for a biracial girl
She could earn 8000 dollars a night at a strip club that is until her novelty runs out.
Her hair is a weave (No its not)
Is she real? (Yes I am)
She is hella fine. I would date her, f*** her, and then leave her ass
I hate this yellow bitch.
I wish she would die of an aneurysm
Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned.

A hater? Yes. Sadly a woman is often measured by the eyes of haters. By the things, she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves or doesn’t curve, by the way, it sticks out or sticks in. The wooliness of her hair or the lack thereof. The hue of her skin or the darkness of it. The attractiveness of her face or the ugliness. The education or the job she possesses. The material goods that she has acquired or doesn’t have. What is one to do take to heart the comments of the hater. A hater is someone that envies what another one has that they want. Their main goal is to make you feel bad for what you have been born with or blessed with. I have never been one to hate on someone because they are pretty or have earthly possessions. This is all preposterous, hating on anyone is not going to get you what they have. I have been confident in myself, to appreciate another woman’s beauty or possessions. I compliment them, sincerely. The Most High made us all unique and special. A hater is someone that envies what another one has that they want.

If the world hates you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. John 15:18 The main point to drive home about hate is that they hated the Messiah (Christ) so if we are called by his name, then they will hate us too. So count it all joy, you must be doing something right.

Criticism

Criticism comes in many forms, one form is “Constructive criticism.” Your black dress is more acceptable for the Opera than the white dress. It aims to show that the intent or purpose of something is better served by an alternative approach. In this case, making the criticism is not necessarily estimated as being wrong, and its reason for existence is reverential. Constructive criticisms are often suggestions for improvement – how things could be done better or more acceptable. They draw attention to how an identified problem could be solved or how it could be solved better. Constructive criticism is more likely to be embraced if the objection is timely, transparent, specific, detailed, and actionable.

Negative Criticism

Friends and family members are the culprits of criticism. Most people are not sure how to handle it? They often feel that they can say anything to you with no response. I am sure that most of us have swollen lips, as we often have to bite them from saying something we shouldn’t. Trust me, I often clamped my mouth, but to no avail, it persists. I think often people speak with an undercurrent of envy or lack of knowledge. Here are some tips that will help when you have to deal with people who continuously criticize your every move. You can’t always control how other people act or what they say, but we can forever change our own behavior to better deal with the situation. Like my late husband always said to me, “Consider the source.”

“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30 KJV

I’ve never been the type to make a lot of female friends except for a group of close ones. Women don’t positively respond to me, especially the worldly ones, the ones absent of the truth of the Most High. I find myself having to defend my beauty for as long as I can remember, I’ve been hated because of the way I look. I know that beauty is something that can’t be ignored. I always seemed to invoke compliments such as your the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, you should be a model, you look like a movie star. It came to the point when someone passes me a compliment I feel funny like I wanted them to leave; I grew up knowing I would get attention because of my beauty. I am not touched by the praises of man could change without warning. What is not apparent is the inner man something no one can see the truth be told that is what touches me the most my inner beauty.

Do we as people expect, people on social media to say something positive, supportive, or convey a positive compliment. These people are cowards hiding behind a computer screen, so their live may be hell so they want to make yours hell to. I remember like over a decade ago, having done some modeling, my photo was featured online on a website but it was under the wrong name. It was kind of funny how there was an on going conversation about my looks and I’m sure that most of these people never seen me in person. I read the comments:

She looks like a big plastic blowup doll.  Is she Somalian? No she cheeks are too chubby to be Somalian but he is stunning. She is as pretty as Halle Berry.  In a room, of women, she would stand out, but I don’t think the other beautiful women would go unnoticed. She looks like a witch I bet she’s an evil bitch she is too pretty.  Her eyes make her look possessed I bet her man has to cover his eyes when they have sex.  I bet she has had some work done she is to perfect.  She is cute for a biracial girl. She could earn 8000 dollars a night at a strip club that is until her novelty runs out.  Her hair is a weave.  Is she real?  I would date her and then leave her ass.  I hate this yellow bitch I wish she would die of an aneurysm.  Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned.

Most people live in a closed box and don’t know anything other than what is placed for them in a box. Since the beginning of western civilization, we have been taught what is right and what is wrong by our slave master. In Willie Lynch days, he has an eloquently devised plan to separate our people according to class and looks. Which placed our people into a pitiless competition with one another. Today, black people still seem to embody that spirit of envy. You would like that through slavery, the civil rights era, etc.… our people would have bonded together more, or even been more supportive of each other’s pursuits. After all, all other nations bond together, start businesses and give each additional moral support. But where the black people stand, is a bit more grudge mental, to say the least. Once a black person achieves a level of success, they don’t support their own community. Is there secret envy that plagues our people? Yes. Do not envy. We have all been given a talent.. And that talent will make room for us and bring us before great men. We all have something that contributes to the body… as the hand provides to the arm.

“A man’s gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men.” Proverbs 18:16 KJV The handout – syndrome. Really I ask? I notice that when a black person comes out with a product, book or some service. Other black people want to get it free or ask can you give them a complimentary copy. But note that they never ask the white entrepreneurs can they get something free. They pay full price. Most black people envy each other while secretly longing for failure to come to a person. It has been documented that blacks spend less or invest less in black-owned businesses. According to Nielson rating, that black spending power will reach over 1 trillion dollars in a few years. The spending power among blacks is enormous, yet hardly any of it goes back into the community.

It is no secret that blacks are extremely talented the world over. We need to adopt the motto – we need to spread the wealth. The Most High gives you talents for your needs to be met and to help our people advance. But the world systems are saying that “I got mine now you get yours.” 

A faithfull friend is a strong defence: and he that hath found such an one hath found a treasure. Ecclesiasticus 6:14 KJV

Photo courtesy of Akshun Man

True friends generally, fit into one of the three categories, such as Outer Court, Inner Court, and Holies of Holies.

1. Outer Court: You share general things with them with a level of caution.

Fair-weather friends, Neighbors, Associates, Haters, People with hidden agendas or People you meet on the streets.

2. Inner Court: There is some trust that you share more intimate things with them.

Mentors, boyfriends/girlfriends, and some Relatives

3. Holy of Holies: You trust them with all your secrets and your life.

Spouses, Best Friends, Like minded people, there when hardship or difficulty rears its head, loyal friends that have stood the test of time and sticks closer than a brother.

Instead of constantly surrounding yourself with like-minded people, try to break out of your comfort zone and befriend people who hold opposing views. They will help open your eyes to different world views and you’ll learn to accept people who don’t see the world exactly the way you see it.

Instead of a friend become not an enemy; for thereby thou shalt inherit an ill name, shame, and reproach: even so, shall a sinner that hath a double tongue. Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul is not torn in pieces as a bull straying alone. Thou shalt eat up thy leaves, and lose thy fruit, and leave thyself as a dry tree. A wicked soul shall destroy him that hath it, and shall make him laugh to the scorn of his enemies. The sweet language will multiply friends: and a fairspeaking tongue will increase kind greetings. Be in peace with many: nevertheless, have but one counsellor of a thousand. If thou wouldest, get a friend, prove him first and be not hasty to credit him. For some man is a friend for his own occasion, and will not abide in the day of thy trouble. And there is a friend, who being turned to enmity, and strife will discover thy reproach. Again, some friend is a companion at the table, and will not continue in the day of thy affliction. A faithful friend is a strong defense: and he that hath found such a one hath found a treasure. Nothing doth countervail a loyal friend, and his excellency is invaluable. A faithful friend is the medicine of life, and they that fear the Lord shall find him. Whoso feareth the Lord shall direct his friendship aright: for as he is, so shall his neighbor be also. Ecclesiasticus chapter 6: 1-10, 14-17 KJV

1. Get closer to the Most High (read the bible and pray)

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3 Discovering who you are in the Most High is the key to life. We all are given one life, and we must know our purpose for living. It is more significant than you think.

2. Become your biggest cheerleader and motivator.

“And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.” 1 Samuel 30:6 Daily read quotes and scriptures to motivate yourself. Tell yourself, you can do it,… I can make it… In life, most of the time, you will not have people around to encourage you so you must promote yourself. I know that I am my biggest cheerleader, and I always have been.

3. Take care of yourself

What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? Eat right, work out, and pamper yourself. Trust nobody can say anything to you when you are healthy.

4. Don’t listen to people. Don’t fear them they have no power over you.

And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which can destroy both soul and body in hell. Matthew 10:28 If they are not an expert in an area don’t listen, nobody opinion matters. That is just like a person with cancer or diabetes, telling you how to eat. I don’t share a lot of my life with people around me because it often triggers insecurities in people they become volatile to you. That way, you keep them at bay because your life is your own, and they don’t get to own your destiny.

5. Get rid of toxic people.

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful Psalms 1:1

We have no business being with sinners in the form of toxic people. If a friend or relative is causing emotional damage in your life, this is a sign of a toxic person. Sinners or toxic people drain the life out of you with their negativity. They suck the joy and peace out of your psyche with gossip, selfishness, or extreme dependency, know it all attitude, glory hoarder, and narcissism. Most times going into crying sessions making it all about them, and how they have been done wrong.Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned

If the world hates you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. John 15:18 The main point to drive home about hate is that they hated the Messiah (Christ) so if we are called by his name, then they will hate us to. So count it all joy, you must be doing something right. Criticism may be the sister of hate. Criticism comes in many forms, one form is “Constructive criticism.” Your black dress is more acceptable for the Opera than the white dress.

It aims to show that the intent or purpose of something is better served by an alternative approach. In this case, making the criticism is not necessarily estimated as being wrong, and its reason for existence is reverential. Constructive criticisms are often suggestions for improvement – how things could be done better or more acceptable. They draw attention to how an identified problem could be solved, or how it could be solved better. Constructive criticism is more likely to be embraced if the criticism is timely, clear, specific, detailed and actionable.

Nevertheless, I persisted.

 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV