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Dilemma 3 – "Racism"

What do they say we are….

NIGGERS * SPICS *COONS * DARKIES * BLACK * UGLY * MULATTOS *FEEBLE MINDED * UNFIT * IMBECILES * IMMORAL * CRIMINAL * CATTLE * SLAVES NEGROES * AFRO THIS OR THAT *MONKIES * SAVAGES * COLORED *JUNGLE BUNNIES * DIRT *JIGABOOS * ANIMALS *WET BACKS * SPOOKS *SAMBOO * ASIATIC BLACK MIXED * BIRACIAL* MULTIRACIAL * BURNT And so forth… Code words used to establish slavery.

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The differentness of races, moreover, is no evidence of superiority or of inferiority. This merely indicates that each race has certain gifts which the others do not possess. — Carter G. Woodson

Racism is truly the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of Darkism and Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races: a profound prejudice against black people or other ethnic groups based on color. Its core belief that people of different races have different qualities and abilities, and that some races are inherently superior or inferior to the other races. Slavery in America was the biggest catalyst for this kind of hate. First, let me demystify the proverbial reference to race. I call it – “the powerful illusion.” For the theory of race to exist there has to be a superior race and inferior race for the ideal of separation. The theory of race is a man-made system of classification created to division among people to classify people into certain groups. Classifying humans into various racial groups including a selection process of what color fits into what category. Is it redundant to say the least, many have brought into the lie? Think about it can we as people draw any scholarship on race based on what one looks like. Race a group of humans which the populations have divided into a group based on physical characteristics. Biologically speaking, traits are inherited non-concordantly through our ancestors, which means they are inherited independently. If we were to go on genetics alone there really isn’t a single genetic trait that distinguishes one race from another, even with varying degrees of melanin in the skin. Racism is an attitude aborted believing in a man made the illusion. If people that don’t know who they are they will believe, live, and thrive off of anything. You were sold to the nations, not for your destruction: but because ye moved God to wrath, ye were delivered unto the enemies. Baruch 4:6

The biggest progenitor of racism was slavery.

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There is a massive paper trail noting slavery in the United States of America but what about the four corners of the world where it all begin, that was similar to other forms of servitude practice where our people were kept enslaved. Like the Arabian, European slavery marketing of our people, which may be brutal of them all, like castration of young male genitals to make them eunuchs. The buck breaking and brutal rape of black women and children. The slave trade was in operation in the Arab world, Western Asia, Africa, and Europe beginning during the 19th century. The History of Arab Slavery in Africa by Owen Alik Shahadah (www.arabslavetrade.com) states in the relations and perfections section, ” Africans in the Indian Diaspora. The Afro-Arab relationship was riddled with complexities lined in a cultural nexus. And there is no doubt that racial discrimination against people of African origin was a hard reality. There is an escalation of racism as a casual association with Black Skin and Slave was made. And considering the era in which Islam emerged, it is therefore even more astounding and revolutionary to find such a strong tone of racial harmony and equality.”

The fate of black people from 1933 to 1945 in Nazi Germany and in German-occupied territories ranged from isolation to persecution, sterilization, medical experimentation, incarceration, brutality, and murder. However, there was no systematic program for their elimination as there was for Jews and other groups. Hitler wanted to ensure that white women did have children with black soldiers. Children birthed by German women and black men were often referred to as “Rhineland Bastards.” Rhineland bastard (German: Rheinland bastard) was a derogatory term used in Nazi Germany to describe multiracial children with Caucasian, German mothers who had been fathered by Africans serving with French colonial troops during the Occupation of the Rhineland after World War I. According to Nazi racial theory, these children were considered inferior to Aryan children and consigned to compulsory sterilization. I grew up in Germany and was often referred to as “War Baby” although it was because of my light skin, long hair, facial features, and ability to speak the language, I was treated as such. So we have established that most Germans like most Nordic people don’t like African people, this brings me to a discussion about…..

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Adolf Hitler

Hitler was a German politician who was the leader of the Nazi Party, the chancellor of Germany from 1933 to 1945, and Führer (“leader”) of Nazi Germany from 1934 to 1945. As dictator of Nazi Germany, he initiated World War II in Europe with the invasion of Poland in September 1939 and was a central figure of the Holocaust. Hitler remarked that “The Passing of the Great Race or the Racial Basis of European by Madison Grant was his bible. The difference between the Jew and Aryan is as insurmountable as that between black and white…. German has set a pattern which other nations must follow.

“On December 6, 1913, a team led by German archaeologist Ludwig Borchardt discovered a sculpture buried upside-down in the sandy rubble on the floor of the excavated workshop of the royal sculptor Thutmose in Amarna. A year later the Nefertiti bust was put on display in Berlin, countering the “English” Tut with a German appropriation of old glamour. Throughout the 20th century’s upheavals, the bust remained in German hands. It was revered by Hitler (who said, “I will never relinquish the head of the Queen”), hidden from Allied bombs in a salt mine and coveted by East Germany throughout the Cold War. Today it draws more than 500,000 visitors annually to Berlin’s Neues Museum.” reference: http://www.history.com/topics/ancient-history/nefertiti
Is it that beauty transcends even racism? Or was Hitler indeed, a racist?

I will provide excerpts from Hitler’s Book “Mein Kampf” (My Struggle) where he clearly speaks his disrespect and disdain for Negroes (Black People) even going as far as to call us “Half Apes”, Blacks too were thrown in Concentration Camps and summarily sterilized because Hitler did not want Blacks having babies with German White Women. How Hitler really viewed blacks: Hitler skips the first recorded sin in the bible of Eve taking a bite out of some fruit tree to declare race mixing between blacks and his pure Aryan white blood was “The original sin of humanity” (MKp.624) Marcus Garvey said the same thing he believes in the purity of the negro race and purity of the white race” (Race First by Tony Martin p.22) Garvey was against miscegenation. And hated rich blacks marrying poor whites. The hybrid organization that would take over from the UNIA would be the NOI. Hitler was appalled at society, allowing blacks to become a lawyer, teacher, even a pastor. He thought it is criminal lunacy to keep on drilling a born half-ape ..while members of the highest culture-race must remain in unworthy positions” ( MKp.430) Hitler believed that the Blackman shouldn’t be allowed to keep his so-called “****** nation” Hitler also stated: “This world belongs only to the whole forceful man and not to the weak half man” ( MK p.257).
Hitler viewed the Blackman like Hollywood viewed the Blackman in The Birth of a Nation. In that woman, the Blackman’s eyes grow big in lust for a white woman. Hitler thought of us as a big King Kong gorilla. “Systematically these black parasites of the nation defile our inexperienced young blond girls and thereby destroy something which can no longer be replaced in this world” (MK p.562).
If Hitler would have won the war, the fate of the Blackman in this world has been slavery and cremation. On a scale of 1-10, his abuse would have been 10, but between 1619-1960’s in America, our miss treatment was a steady 8. I would invite curious students to read Hitler because he has so many relatives here in America like Hoover, The FBI, The KKK, etc. We prevent repeats of history by understanding our past.-(Austin, N.D.) The Nazis’ obsession with racial purity and eugenics was provoked and intensified in 1918, following Germany’s defeat in World War I. Under the terms of the peace treaty signed at Versailles, Germany was stripped of its African colonies and forced to submit to the occupation of the Rhineland. The deployment of African troops from the French provinces to police the territory incensed many Germans.
To many, it was the final humiliation that began with their 1918 defeat in the World War I. Germans complained bitterly in newspapers and propaganda films about African soldiers from the French colonial army having relations with their women. As soon as Hitler reoccupied the Rhineland in 1936, he retaliated by targeting black people living there. At least 400 mixed-race children were forcibly sterilized in the area by the end of 1937, while 400 others disappeared into camps Hitler thought that all people who weren’t blonde, blue-eyed, light-skinned and Germanic were inferior. This included Jews, Gypsies, anyone from the Middle East, Asians and black people. He was very bitter and unsportsmanlike when he had to award the gold medal to Jesse Owens during the 1936 Berlin Olympics and refused to shake his hand.
Few blacks were living in Germany in the 1930s and 1940s, and of the few, many were rounded up and put in concentration camps and forcibly sterilized or subjected to medical experiments.
References: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adolf_Hitler

He believed in a perfect Aryan race. He admired blue-eyed, white, blond haired people. He had a warped interpretation of Darwin’s Origin of Species and theory of natural selection and believed that the traditional German man (Aryan) was the fittest and the strongest, therefore everything else – Jews, Blacks, Asians, etc would have to be eliminated. — Dr. Yehoshua Ben Ephraim, 

My people have suffered great injustices at the hands of the Aryan/Nordic race, better known as the white man; still today, the slavery mentality is again stirring the pot of racism. I could only imagine the pain my ancestors endured at the hands of the slave masters. This man is a king among the princes of bigotry and hatred.

He skinned my people, castrated my brothers, raped my sisters and brutally murdered my people in recorded numbers in the name of Satan. He is the Devil incarnate!

This devil goes by the name of “King Leopold II” The man who killed more than 10 million people, yet is not seen as hideous. His persona and methods of punishment were as cruel as Hitler. He slaughtered and brutally killed a lot of African people, a lot of them where castrate, raped, and skinned alive. King Leopold II is a person that many believe should be put in the same sentence with Hitler, Stalin and other dictators of the modern world. However, he is not. It is funny that he is rarely part of the history books, and not many people are known for his actions and deeds. Leopold II is mostly remembered as the founder of the Congo Free State, a country that is nowadays known as the Democratic Republic of Congo. But what many do not know is that Leopold murdered more than 10 million people in Congo and exploited the country and its sources. He donated most of his property to Belgium in order to preserve it. Leopold ruled from 1865 and for the next 44 years until his death.

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To get a better understanding of King Leopold II and his thoughts, we distinguish some of the quotes he used during his speech in 1883. In the statement, Leopold tried to explain to “loyal” patriots in Belgium that what they do in Congo is rightful, and that they need to evangelize the “niggers.” Here are some quotes from the speech.

Teach the niggers to forget their heroes and to adore only ours. Never present a chair to a black that comes to visit you. Don’t give him more than one cigarette. Never invite him for dinner even if he gives you a chicken every time you arrive at his house; They know that to kill, to sleep with someone else’s wife, to lie and to insult is bad. Have the courage to admit it; you are not going to teach them what they know already; Your action will be directed essentially to the younger ones, for they won’t revolt when the recommendation of the priest is contradictory to their parent’s teachings. The children have to learn To obey what the missionary recommends, who is the father of their soul. You must singularly insist on their total submission and obedience, avoid developing the spirits in the schools, teach students to read and not to reason; Evangelize the niggers so that they stay forever in submission to the white colonialists, so they never revolt against the restraints they are undergoing. Recite every day – “happy are those who are weeping because the kingdom of God is for them.” Reference: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leopold_II_of_Belgium

Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted, the indifference of those who should have known better, the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most, that has made it possible for evil to triumph. —Haile Selassie

With almost 8 billion people around the world and many prototypes of what science calls a “human being,” The physical traits of mankind have stood out since the time of Adam and Eve, through colonialism and slavery, tried to define what prototype was superior to the other, this is where the theory of race classification was started around the globe. Every member of mankind is from a nation not a race of people.

Negro Types: African, Shemites,and Canaanites

Caucasian Types: Nordic, Aryan, and Mediterraneans

Mongolian Types: Asians, Indians, Arabs

Common physical traits of mankind:

Negroids:

Have the most profound features of all they literally gravitate from the face Blonde to Black Hair, Skin tone Light brown to dark brown, any eye size or shape or color, medium to thick lips, wider or low bridged noses, some smaller noses in different parts of Africa. some.

Middle Eastern:

Any hair color type, Any eye color, Skin tone Pale to brown, thin to full lips, and High or low bridged noses.

Asians:

Monolid eyes make them unique have brown to black thick hair, monolid /double eyelid small brown/black eyes, Skin tone pale with yellow undertones to dark sandy brown, thin to medium lips.

Latinas (South America, Mexico, Puerto Ricans):

Facial features are dominant any hair color, texture thickness, Any eye shape or color, skin tone light tan to medium brown, Thin to medium lips, low bridged noses.

Aryan-Nordic Caucasians Descendants of Europe, or white people:

Skin is most coveted around the world by default Skin color is pale very fair- pinkish in tone, All eyes light colors to brown, Small straight low bridged noses or high bridged, Thin lips predominately, Hair is straight predominately.

Native American Indians:

The Nose is defined literally Skin type is light brown skin to dark, The skin color is not red, as is popularly supposed, but varies from very light to dark, dark brown eyes, prominent cheekbones, and straight black hair.

Arabs:

The Nose is the most distinguishing feature of their face Skin type is light to medium brown, dark to light eyes, high bridged long nose and thin to medium lips.

Indians:

Skin type light to dark brown, high bridged noses, any eye color, and thin to full lips.

Hawaiians, Polynesians, Samoans, Melanesians:

Clubby cheeks Skin type light to dark brown, flat wider – low bridged nose, hair color blonde to dark, and any eye color.

Aborigines:

Tan skin is flawless light to dark skin, low bridged wide noses, hair blonde to dark, any eye color but prominently dark eyes, and thin to full lips.

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Since the beginning of time, the Aryan race has always tried to define every race of the earth. They mark the white man as superior, genetically to all other races. Back in the 1800s a Swedish Botanist, Physician, and Zoologist Carl Linnaeus (The Father of Scientific Racism) are often called the Father of Taxonomy. His system for naming, ranking, and classifying organisms is still in extensive use today (with many changes). In Systema Naturae, his ideas on classification have influenced generations of biologists during and after his own lifetime, even those opposed to the philosophical and theological roots of his work introduced 5 levels under Homo Sapiens based initially on the bases of skin hue or color. 1) European 2) Asiaticus 3) American 4) Monstrous 5) Africanus. The premise was to make Caucasian, Europeans white superior to the rest of the races in the classification process. Another example of classification came from German Physician, Naturalist, Physiologist, and Anthropologist Johann Friedrich Blumenbach. He was one of the first to explore the study of mankind as an aspect of natural history. His teachings in comparative anatomy were applied to the classification of what he called human races, of which he determined there to be five. Blumenbach’s work included his description of sixty human crania (skulls) published initially been in fascicules as Decas cranium (Göttingen, 1790–1828). This was a founding work for other scientists in the field of craniometry. He divided the human species into five races in 1779, later founded on crania research (description of human skulls.) His teachings in comparative anatomy were applied to the classification of what he called human races. In which he determined there to be five: the Caucasian or white race, the Mongolian or yellow race, including all East Asians and some Central Asians, the Malayan or brown race, including Southeast Asian and Pacific Islanders, the Ethiopian or black race, including sub-Saharan Africans, the American or red race, including American Indians. Johann studies are yet another example of white supremacy around the world.

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And thou, even thyself, shalt discontinue from thine heritage that I gave thee; and I will cause thee to serve thine enemies in the land which thou knowest not: for ye have kindled a fire in mine anger, which shall burn forever. Jeremiah 17:4 King James Version Bible We were left serving our enemies and their Gods. Where did we originate from, what was our backstory? The History of the Negro is the history of a people that have been mistreated, tortured, feared, deemed unworthy and not human, a people lacking understanding of who they are, every nation in the world there is a back story. How did we get into this predicament? It was through our disobedience to our creator. And through that disobedience we were … And the LORD shall bring thee into Egypt again with ships, by way of which I spake unto thee, Thou shalt see it no more again: and there ye shall be sold unto your enemies as bondmen and bondwomen, and no man shall buy you. Deuteronomy 28: 68. We came by ways of slave ships to the Americas and the 4 corners of the world. We did we suffer such an injustice? It was through our disobedience to the Most High God and not keep his commandments. It would appear that society wants us to forget “Slavery,” but they will go on about the Jewish Holocaust forever. Our Past is relevant to our future, it was our past that shows us the way. We woke up in a world where lightness, whiteness is valued around the world through lies, brain-washing, manipulation, racism, slavery misconceptions, and fallacies. Well known by the complexity of the Bywords they call us in a specific time and place. Let’s take “Black” for an example black relates to evil, a color that has no hue a color value that has no shade as a result of the absorption of nearly all light from all visible wavelengths. How long will we identify with these bywords? They call us Niggers, Darkies, Black, African, Mulatto, Half-breeds, Savages, and Coons all by words created during slavery to brainwash us and keep us captive from our true identity. The Trans – Atlantic Slave Trade in 1450 in 1619, America joined the Trans – Atlantic Trade. Over 100 million slaves lost their heritage their lives, which were the biggest massacre of people in the world.

 

White Privilege / Black Exclusion

They say we are lazy, but we built this country… They say we lack intelligence but have birthed some of the most brilliant minds. They say we can’t do it, but we have always overcome adversity… They say nothing but in the eyes of the Most High we are somebody…
Economical Freedom brings despair…. Black Wallstreet
Let’s stroll down memory lane, shall we? Who knew that Tulsa Oklahoma the home of the white evangelical Christian had so much history, that is black history. It birthed the term “Black Wall Street” in which black people had the power to lead in business developments. Tulsa Oklahoma is also notorious for the streets: Greenwood, Archer, and Pine, famous streets known in North Tulsa. After all, the popular group “The Gap Band” pinned the roads to form the band’s name. While in Tulsa, I would often hear the local speak about how great Tulsa was back then, they should take great pride in their once thriving communities. Although Tulsa is thriving now for some, it fails in comparison to what it once was. The store windows are often seeing adorning metal bars to keep the criminals out. There is a substantial distinction between North and South Tulsa. In south Tulsa predominately white, while north Tulsa is predominately black. In north Tulsa, most of the businesses have bars on the windows with the infiltration of gangs such as the blood and the crips from California they had no choice but to take this course of action to protect their properties. Now in 2017, the remnant of gangs is gone, but economic despair still lingers. The date was June 1, 1921, when “Black Wall Street,” the name was fittingly given to one of the most affluent all-Black communities in America, was bombed from the air and burned to the ground by mobs of envious whites. In a period spanning fewer than 12 hours, a once thriving 36-Black business district in northern Tulsa lay smoldering–a model community destroyed, and a significant African-American economic movement resoundingly defused. The night’s carnage left some 3,000 African Americans dead, and over 600 successful businesses lost. Among these were 21 churches, 21 restaurants, 30 grocery stores, and two movie theaters, plus a hospital, a bank, a post office, libraries, schools, law offices, a half dozen private airplanes, and even a bus system. As could have been expected the impetus behind it all was the infamous Ku Klux Klan, working in consort with ranking city officials, and many other sympathizers. http://www.blackwallstreet.freeservers.com/

In their self-published book, Black Wallstreet: A Lost Dream, and its companion video documentary, Black Wallstreet: A Black Holocaust in America!, the authors have chronicled for the very first time in the words of area historians and elderly survivors what really happened there on that fateful summer day in 1921 and why it happened. Wallace similarly explained to me why this bloody event from the turn of the century seems to have had a recurring effect that is being felt in predominately Black neighborhoods even to this day.

According to Nielson, African-Americans currently hold a buying power of $1 trillion, a number that’s estimated to reach $1.3 trillion by 2017 and they’re blowing a lot of those bills on cosmetics spending nine times more on ethnic- targeted beauty and grooming products than the general market. The black woman, in particular, spends an estimated $7.5 billion annually on beauty products, shelling and twice as much on skin care as their non-black counterparts. Yet they’re underserved by the cosmetics industry throughout history.
Resilient Receptive and Relevant: The African American Consumer
African Americans spend more than any other group: Watch 37 % more television Read 28% more financial magazines Buy 9 times more ethnic beauty and grooming products Make 8 times more shopping trips Spend 2 times as much time on personal hosted websites (source; Resilient Receptive and Relevant: The African American Consumer) Ask Men.

Caucasian the descendants of the Aryan/Nordic Race (white people) have inherent advantages around the world.

The white concession or privilege are provisos for the social order of opportunities that benefit Nordic/Aryan people (white people) in countries where the populous is predominately white beyond what is commonly experienced by non-white people under the same social, political, or economic circumstances. The term designate advantages that white persons know they are the recipients of during slavery it was quite apparent. This is unspoken prejudice mixed with a biased account of being fortunate to receive advancement due to skin color. The conclusion can be seen in the recipients private, relationships, professional, relational, educational, occupations, and personal contexts. The concept of white privilege is universal not limited to a particular place in the earth through colonization; it has spread to the four corners of the world.

1. White people earn more money

My interview with Daphne, she is a black hand model. Q: Do you think white people earn more money than black people? Daphne: Yes, I know the modeling does those things too. Q: Explain? Daphne: I make around 1000K for a photo shoot featuring my hands, while a lot of the white hand models make around 10000K per photo shoot. There is a lot of prejudice in the modeling industry, and that determines what we get as models. Families of color will soon make up a majority of the population, but most continue to fall behind whites in building wealth. In 1963, the average wealth of white families was $117,000 higher than the average wealth of nonwhite families. By 2013, the average wealth of white families was over $500,000 higher than the average wealth of African American families ($95,000) and of Hispanic families ($112,000) sources: Survey of Financial Characteristics of Consumers 1962 (December 31), Survey of Changes in Family Finances 1963, and Survey of Consumer Finances 1983–2013.

2. Favored more in terms of getting a job

My interview with Derrick, a black man that holds a masters degree in accounting. Q: With your master’s degree, has it been easy to find work? Derrick: No. They tell me I am over qualified or they have no work for me. Q: Why do you think that is? Derrick: Racism Q: Explain? Derrick: I went to a well-known bank. I was interviewing for a job as an account manager. There was another guy there interviewing as well for the same position. We struck up a conversation, he let me know he had only a high school education with no banking experience. One week later, I received a letter stating that I was not chosen for this particular position, that my resume would be kept on file. A month then, I went to the bank for some business, and I saw the same guy there, he was now the account manager. Now that is racism. In the article (www.cepr.net) titled, Has Education Paid Off for Black Workers? June 2013, by Janelle Jones and John Schmitt, they state that… Over the past three decades, the “human capital” of the employed black workforce has increased enormously. In 1979, only one-in-ten (10.4 percent) black workers had a four-year college degree or more. By 2011, more than one in four (26.2 percent) had a college education or more. Over the same period, the share of black workers with less than a high school degree fell from almost one-third (31.6 percent) to only about one in 20 (5.3 percent) … This article clearly shows that blacks are least hired among the other nations. 3. More likely have lesser sentences for crimes compared to black men. We live in a country where a white man will get less time for killing his black wife, than a black man robbing a liquor store. In an article in Wall Street Journal by Joe Palazzolo, “Racial Gap in Men’s Sentencing” February 14th, 2013 it declares that “Prison sentences of black men were nearly 20% longer than those of white men for similar crimes in recent years, an analysis by the U.S. Sentencing Commission found. That racial gap has widened since the Supreme Court restored judicial discretion in sentencing in 2005, according to the Sentencing Commission’s findings, which were submitted to Congress last month and released publicly this week.”

4. Depicted as saints in the media

They are depicted as saints, but a lot of crimes are perpetrated by whites as well. In the article “Mass Media in the White Man’s World” by Christy La Pierre (/web.stanford.edu) Poverty & Prejudice: Media and Race June 4, 1999, Christy states, “In the eyes of many minority groups, the mass media produced in the United States may be a reflection of Anglo views regarding non-Anglo communities. “The dominant culture must constantly strive to expand its hegemony while fending off challenges and interventions from the very classes and groups it seeks to subjugate,” (Split Image, African Americans in the Mass Media, pg. 6). In American society, by reproducing the ideological hegemony of the dominant white culture, the mass media help to legitimate the inequalities in class and race relations. Two underrepresented and misrepresented minorities in the media today and in the past are African-Americans and Latinos. African-Americans and Latinos have experienced discrimination for years through print news and entertainment television. Not surprisingly, both of these mediums have been dominated by the Anglo-culture and have therefore been structured to harbor the needs and communicate the ideas of this ruling class.” Our people have suffered the most brutal instances of hate crimes, not to mention black on black crime. Most recently, Dylann Roof, a 21-year-old white gunman who killed nine people at a historic African-American church in Charleston, South Carolina, on June 17th was arrested on June 18, 2015. He was immediately forgiven by the family members of the murdered. He is definitely a victim of white privilege no matter what they do to others. The police were concerned with his safety, other than his crime. Black men have been beaten, tortured, and killed endlessly in America and around the world for their color of skin. Where is the justice? A white woman poses as a black woman, funny how people of the other nations are forgiven of their bounty, in this case, Rachel Dolezal President of NAACP Chapter from Spokane Washington, the blacks embraced her, think about how often black women are ridiculed for trying to be white. Rachel may indeed be a great person with her exploits for the NAACP, but integrity in the public eyes is fundamental as well. Self-hatred among blacks You hate me, I hate me too… Black people always want to be something they are not, if they have one drop of Indian blood in them, then they are half Indian, we are what our fathers are, our lineage is determined by what nation our father is. It is like there is a lousy enigma with being associated with being black. Why should we hate the color of your skin? The texture of our hair? The Shape of your nose and lips. We are unique among the nations. Our looks are rare. The other countries are a carbon copy of each other in terms of beauty. If we were to embrace our naturalness, we would have the uniqueness everyone would desire.
We are the trendsetters, they copy our style. Through history and now today they want our full lips, our ample behinds, and tanned skin. Wake up people there is no reason to hate each other but appreciate our God-given Beauty. Are we suffering from amnesia? White supremacy, slavery, and colonization really did a job on the psyche of the people of color. They have convinced us that we are ugly, worthless, and inhuman. They copy our music, our style, our looks, our culture, but it is the self-hatred among ourselves that has become problematic or shall I say, “‘the elephant in the room.”
Every other nation of people supports their own in word and deed. With people of color (blacks) there is a defined perpetual race war with themselves. Even in this day and age, we are yet still slaves in our minds, actions, and deeds. We are the only people that look at light skin and dark skin among blacks as to different nationalities. I have seen many times – Light skin women speak against the more colored skin women as if they are dirt and not worthy and have witnessed darker skin women treat the lighter skin different because they felt they were better. So if the shoe fits wear it, this must stop we are all on the same ship sailing through life as the dark nation of people. To the average white person, we all are dark. The Truth I think the whole theory of light skin vs. dark skin is superfluous, stupid, and redundant. It lacks intelligence, perception, and common sense. Why does it matter? This whole thing was conceived through white supremacy, the enslavement of our people, it will never validate who we are as a people or nation.
Dark skin women are not placed on a pedestal, but light skinned black women are put on pedestals by other black people. In society, white women are the only ones that can claim ownership of the foundation worldwide. White supremacy is to blame having their images valued and celebrated over all other nations. Occasionally the mainstream will appreciate a none white woman or man this is on purpose. And it’s so sinister depriving a person of color of their privilege and immunity that uncritical folks can’t discern that they have been repeatedly told by media what they should prefer, who is beautiful, and what skin color is this internalized devaluation is a way of life. At the end of the day if your black, light, or dark, you will receive the same judgment. View by white standards, light by black standards.

My interview with Natasha, a fashion model

Q: Do you think white privilege exists? And if so, how has it affected your life? Natasha: Its really no secret in the fashion industry that white models are the most famous, there is a bias of white privilege as a white model. I got lots of work as a model and its because I am white. Q: How are the black models treated? Natasha: I think if it weren’t for affirmative action on behalf of black models, there would not be any black models. In a show in Paris over a year ago, I overheard a prominent designer (I won’t say his name) called black models “monkies” or colored tokens of appreciation not as someone really worthy to be a model. White women rule this industry, we got all the contracts, deals, and endorsements. Q: Is that a view that you share as well? Natasha: No not at all, you know I think you are one of the prettiest women with your beautiful eyes and I love your vanilla-ish- brownish skin. I also love Naomi Campbell; she is a lot darker than you. Q: Anything else you want to add about your white privilege? Natasha: Yes, I forgot to mention that with this privilege, I have been able to travel around the world and have my pick of me really wealthy men. I hope in time, things will change.

My interview with Bianca, a German, one of my best friends since childhood.

Q: Do you think “White Privilege” exists? Bianca: I think Racism exists that is really white privilege.  Q: Has white privilege affected your life? Bianca: There is also a hierarchy with white women, the blondes rule. So on that list with my dark hair and dark eyes, my place on the beauty list is at the end. I think that a lot of the privilege is based on your overall look like being skinny, but I noticed when I gained weight, no one looks at me anymore. Q: Do you think black women are judged more harshly because of skin color, other than white women? Bianca: Yes, in some cases, but I remember everyone was always in awe of you, so maybe it just with darker black women they experience so much more hatred. Q: As a white woman, honestly, how do people talk in presence as regards to black women? Bianca: There is still a lot of racism in the world, they speak against blacks all the time. The exception to the rule are the lighter ones who seem to get some praise, but in the trick bag, all are viewed as black with the same harsh treatments. Little do they know that the ones they despise are the very elect of God.

It seems as though the initial argument about slavery is the definite “racism” attached to it. But for centuries prior, my people have experienced racism. We as a people were in slavery before by several empires prior. Has anyone ever that of where the racism originated from? Or do we look into a narrow window never realizing we can open it all the way. What started the initial hate, the anger coming from a people (white people), hating us for no apparent reason just because of the color of our skin. Think about it what really makes the white woman next to you better? Is it because she is a few shades lighter, her hair is straighter, and her eyes are lighter? What really turned a skin color into a full out assault on black people? And this is the brown girl and boy dilemma.

Does the color of your skin give you inherent advantages around the world?

Through the adoption of racism – the white concession or privilege are provisos for the social order of privileges that benefit Nordic/Aryan people (white people) in countries where the populous is predominately white beyond what is commonly experienced by non-white people under the same social, political, or economic circumstances. The term designate advantages that white persons know they are the recipients of during slavery it was quit apparent. This is unspoken prejudice mixed with a bias account of being fortunate to receive advancement due to skin color. The conclusion can be seen in the recipients private, relationships, professional, relational, educational, occupations, and personal contexts. The concept of white privilege is universal not limited to a particular place in the earth through colonization it has spread to the four corners of the world.

1. White people earn more money… My interview with Daphne, she is a black hand model

Q: Do you think white people earn more money than black people? Daphne: Yes, I know in the modeling industry they do. Q: Explain ? Daphne: I make around 1000K for a photo shoot featuring my hands, while a lot of the white hand models make around 10000K per photo shoot. There is a lot of prejudice in the modeling industry, and that determines what we get as models.

2. Favored more in terms of getting a job… My interview with Derrick, a black man that holds a masters degree in accounting.

Q: With your masters degree has it been easy to find work? Derrick: No. They tell me I am over qualified or they have no work for me. Q: Why do you think that is? Derrick: Racism Q: Explain? Derrick: I went to a well known bank. I was interviewing for a job as a account manager. There was another guy there interviewing as well for the same position. We struck up a conversation, he let me know he had only a high school education with no banking experience. One week later, I received a letter stating that I was not chosen for this particular position, that my resume would be kept on file. A month later, I went to the bank for some business and I saw the same guy there, he was now the account manager. Now that is racism.

Families of color will soon make up a majority of the population, but most continue to fall behind whites in building wealth. In 1963, the average wealth of white families was $117,000 higher than the average wealth of nonwhite families. By 2013, the average wealth of white families was over $500,000 higher than the average wealth of African American families ($95,000) and of Hispanic families ($112,000) sources: Survey of Financial Characteristics of Consumers 1962 (December 31), Survey of Changes in Family Finances 1963, and Survey of Consumer Finances 1983–2013.

 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 6 – "Materialism"

Set your affections on things above, not on things on the earth. Colossians Chapter 3:4 KJV

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You can be highly educated, professionally successful, and financially illiterate. Many people are making over 100k a year, and they’re still struggling with bills every month. Why? They don’t understand financial freedom. Financial problems are caused by trying to keep up with society. That’s why they live paycheck to paycheck. Once you know the difference between ASSETS and LIABILITIES, you’ll understand why you’re broke —- Emmanuel Valerio https://www.facebook.com/TheTruthMovement777.

The world entices you with the lure of brand names, especially those high-end designer logos like Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Chanel or Hermes. I must admit that we all have fallen prey to the lure of material goods at one point or another. The promotions via billboards, television promotion, and following the Joneses all perpetuate this behavior. The lust of wanting to be seen as more than you really are. This society is based on what you have and what you look like. This attitude dictates and unrealistic notion of success. This is a fantasy mirrored by Hollywood. It’s not only that the more you care about impressing other people with your appearance, the more likely you will overspend. In fact, the more focused you are on your own thoughts, feelings, and impressions you make on others, the more you’ll seek outwardly-recognizable status symbols like handbags and overpriced clothing. The EGO is the ringleader with this disorder, the thrill to maintain a different reality, the reality that goods will make you happy. It is all vanity, as King Solomon stated in the bible.
Vanity goes beyond just looking fabulous for others, it is about the praise and self-admiration that comes along with this behavior. We are to never think more highly of ourselves. This brings me to the theory by Leon Festinger in 1954, which centers on the fundamental belief that there is a drive within individuals to gain accurate self-evaluations. The theory explains how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others to reduce uncertainty in these domains and learn how to define the self. Following the initial theory, research began to focus on social comparison as a way of self-enhancement, introducing the concepts of downward and upward comparisons and expanding the motivations of social comparisons. The downward social comparison is a great coping process because it allows you to view a bad situation by looking at others who are worse off than you (more impoverished, less attractive, more stressed) and concluding that things aren’t really so bad. An upward social comparison can cause you to berate yourself unnecessarily because you feel that you’re being outdone by your neighbors, comrades, family, co-workers, and Instagram-youtube-facebook friends. Your (EGO) desire to impress people that could care less about, but not realizing that this disorder can promote psychological disorders. At the end of the day, is it really worth gaining the whole world than losing your soul?

Being that man or woman of substance not being concerned with being called a big baller or the big man or woman on campus. Life is not about how many things you own but being that real man or woman of substance.

We have a market-driven society so obsessed with buying and selling and obsessed with power and pleasure and property. — Cornel West

Terry Walker testimony…

Right now I am in $200,000 worth of credit card debt and what do I have to show for it, this ill-gotten gain now has me working 3 jobs just to make ends meet. I have no time for my wife or our kids. This American dream really isn’t worth the hassle. If I only would have lived within my means. My wife can’t live with the pressure of the bill collectors calling the house. If I would have only listened to her and kept the budget going. Now I have lost everything and what to give an appearance to my co-workers that I was a baller, but in reality, now I am worse than an infidel, can’t provide for my family. Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. 1 John 2:15-17 (KJV) When our life’s pursuit is on making the profit, pursuing pleasure, and obtaining the position, it leaves little time, energy, and ability to focus on the Most High and his plan for your existence. “No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money” (Matthew 6:24). An expression used for people surrounded by confusion living in a vicious circle of lies and illusions. They hunger for prestige and luxury and thirst for higher society while creating a bubbled reality floating over society’s misery controlled by companies, getting us to buy the image of the good life – a fantasy that values materialistic communities and they are blind to human qualities. They dream up things to brag about like expensive things or trips around the world. It has come that having the latest IPad, computers, iPod or iPhone is the norm something they can’t live without. These devices have replaced the desire to converse with actual people in person. Standing on line for 24 hours excited for a product then you complain about being 3rd online in a bookstore will allow you find that you are programmed robot just as confused and abused by the system we call materialism.

The American Dream

The white picket fence, large house, two cars, vacations every year, 2.3 children, and a dog packaged in a cup of illusion. Now, how many people do you think to live the American dream with poverty on the rise, homelessness, lack of food, and jobs. The American dream, in reality, is a nightmare. Hard-working people, and weak, most of them, in worldly goods–but how rich in compassion! How filled with the goodness of humanity and the spiritual steel forged by centuries of oppression! There was the real joy of laughter in these homes, folk-wit, and story, hearty appetites for life as for the nourishing greens and black-eyed peas and cornmeal bread they shared with me. Here in this little hemmed-in world where home must be a theatre and concert hall and social center, there was a warmth of the song. Songs of love and longing, songs of trials and triumphs, deep-flowing rivers and rollicking brooks, hymn-song and ragtime ballad, gospels and blues, and the healing comfort to be found in the illimitable sorrow of the spirituals. Paul Robeson, There is an old adage, “Keeping up with the Joneses” wanting all they have and more… There is a danger is desiring something that someone else has ever felt the pressure to maintain a level of possessions equal to those of your neighbors. When envy sets in this cause contention among friends, the desire to possess what they have. In this society your as good as what you own, drive, and where you live. This causes a social perplexity based on material goods- what I own is better than your new and improved.

The Illusion of wealth

Gary’s testimony…

“Park Avenue, on a winter day, walked into my favorite upscale store, I was wearing a hooded sweatshirt with matching pants, the shop girl ignored me as if I had the plague. Revisited the store the next day, all decked out in my Armani suit, Cartier watch and crocodile shoes. My elegant attire opens up the doors to 5-star treatment, I couldn’t keep the shop girls away all 5 of them catered to my every whim. Now, who says being wealth or appearing to be doesn’t have its advantages?” In the story of Lazarus and the rich man, (Luke 16 KJV) we see that Lazarus lacking material wealth, got something much more critical “eternal life with the Savior” while the rich man will burn “in hell for all eternity.” What the rich man failed to realize that the things on earth are temporal, and only the things you do for the Savior will last. Let that be a lesson for men and woman that put the world and its possessions before the Most High. The Book of James talks about the dangers of measuring one another by what we perceive to be the wealth of their belongings. Suppose a man comes into your meeting wearing a diamond watch and an Armani suit, and a poor man in tattered clothes also comes in, which one would you serve? If you show special attention to the man wearing beautiful clothes and say, ‘Here’s a good seat for you,’ but speak to the poor man, ‘you stand there,’ or ‘Sit on the floor by my feet,’ have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts? If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself,’ you are doing right. But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as lawbreakers” (James 2:2-4, 8-9). Possessions can become more important to us than our knowledge of the Most High. The Savior told us the story of the of a rich young ruler. The pull of his goods was so strong that the young man chose them over eternal life (Luke 18:18-30). In the Old Testament is the story of Lot’s wife who could not leave her possessions behind to flee certain death. She, too, valued her properties over spiritual truth (Genesis 19:26). Luke, in his gospel, warns us that we can be in danger of losing our life also when the Son of Man returns, if we cling to our material goods like Lot’s wife did (Luke 17:32). The Savior said, “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions” (Luke 12:15). “For where your treasure is, there your heart will also be” (Matthew 6:21). How can we escape the power of materialism? If you see your brother in need, give some of your money to him that puts your perspective in the correct place by disarming the power of possessions.

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. 1 John 2: 15-17

The choice is yours?
 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 52 – "The Haters"


A white woman poses as a black woman, funny how people of the other nations are forgiven of her bounty, in this case, Rachel Dolezal President of NAACP Chapter from Spokane Washington, the blacks embraced her, think about how often black women are ridiculed for trying to be white. Rachel may indeed be a great person with her exploits for the NAACP, but integrity in the public eyes is fundamental as well.
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Self-hatred among blacks “You hate me, I hate me too…” Black people always want to be something they are not, if they have one drop of Indian blood in them, then they are half Indian, we are what our fathers are, our lineage is determined by what nation our father is. It is like there is a lousy enigma with being associated with being black. Why should we hate the color of your skin? The texture of our hair? The Shape of your nose and lips. We are unique among the nations. Our looks are rare. The other countries are a carbon copy of each other in terms of beauty. If we were to embrace our naturalness, we would have the uniqueness everyone would desire.
We are the trendsetters, they copy our style. Through history and now today they want our full lips, our ample behinds, and tanned skin. Wake up people there is no reason to hate each other but appreciate our God-given Beauty. Are we suffering from amnesia? White supremacy, slavery, and colonization really did a job on the psyche of the people of color. They have convinced us that we are ugly, worthless, and inhuman. They copy our music, our style, our looks, our culture, but it is the self-hatred among ourselves that has become problematic or shall I say, “‘the elephant in the room.”
Every other nation of people supports their own in word and deed. With people of color (blacks) there is a defined perpetual race war with themselves. Even in this day and age, we are yet still slaves in our minds, actions, and deeds. We are the only people that look at light skin and dark skin among blacks as to different nationalities. I have seen many times – Light skin women speak against the more colored skin women as if they are dirt and not worthy and have witnessed darker skin women treat the lighter skin different because they felt they were better. So if the shoe fits wear it, this must stop we are all on the same ship sailing through life as the dark nation of people. To the average white person, we all are dark.  The Truth I think the whole theory of light skin vs. dark skin is superfluous, stupid, and redundant. It lacks intelligence, perception, and common sense. Why does it matter? This whole thing was conceived through white supremacy, the enslavement of our people, it will never validate who we are as a people or nation. Dark skin women are not placed on a pedestal, but light skinned black women are put on pedestals by other black people. In society, white women are the only ones that can claim ownership of the foundation worldwide. White supremacy is to blame having their images valued and celebrated over all other nations. Occasionally the mainstream will appreciate a none white woman or man this is on purpose. And it’s so sinister depriving a person of color of their privilege and immunity that uncritical folks can’t discern that they have been repeatedly told by media what they should prefer, who is beautiful, and what skin color is this internalized devaluation is a way of life.  At the end of the day if your black, light, or dark,  you will receive the same judgment. View by white standards, light by black standards.

The Hater Syndrome

Okay if you made it to this point, I went over what you must possess to be considered a woman of the Most High, the attributes and behaviors. Does this sound familiar?

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Typical conversations among women.
Lady 1: She is gorgeous
Lady 2: Girl, you should see her when she takes off the weave and makeup then say that.
Or
Lady 3: She is cute.
Lady 4: She thinks she is all that.

Lady 2 and 4 are quite typical little did they know I don’t wear weave and never have. I have always had long hair. As far as makeup well I sometimes wear mascara, maybe some lipstick. Do we, as people expect, people on social media to say something positive, supportive, or convey a definite compliment. These people are cowards hiding behind a computer screen so their lives may be hell, so they want to make your hell to. I remember like over a decade ago, has done some modeling, my photo was featured online on a website, but it was under the wrong name. It was kind of funny how there was an ongoing conversation about my looks, and I’m sure that most of these people never seen me in person. I read the comments:

She looks like a big plastic blowup doll
Is she Somalian? No she cheeks are too chubby to be Somalian, but he is stunning.
She is as pretty as Halle Berry
In a room of women, she would stand out, but I don’t think the other beautiful women would go unnoticed.
She looks like a witch
I bet she’s an evil bitch she is too pretty.
Her eyes make her look possessed I bet her man has to cover his eyes when they have sex
I bet she has had some work done; she is to perfect.
She is cute for a biracial girl
She could earn 8000 dollars a night at a strip club that is until her novelty runs out.
Her hair is a weave (No its not)
Is she real? (Yes I am)
She is hella fine. I would date her, f*** her, and then leave her ass
I hate this yellow bitch.
I wish she would die of an aneurysm
Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned.

A hater? Yes. Sadly a woman is often measured by the eyes of haters. By the things, she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves or doesn’t curve, by the way, it sticks out or sticks in. The wooliness of her hair or the lack thereof. The hue of her skin or the darkness of it. The attractiveness of her face or the ugliness. The education or the job she possesses. The material goods that she has acquired or doesn’t have. What is one to do take to heart the comments of the hater. A hater is someone that envies what another one has that they want. Their main goal is to make you feel bad for what you have been born with or blessed with. I have never been one to hate on someone because they are pretty or have earthly possessions. This is all preposterous, hating on anyone is not going to get you what they have. I have been confident in myself, to appreciate another woman’s beauty or possessions. I compliment them, sincerely. The Most High made us all unique and special. A hater is someone that envies what another one has that they want.

If the world hates you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. John 15:18 The main point to drive home about hate is that they hated the Messiah (Christ) so if we are called by his name, then they will hate us too. So count it all joy, you must be doing something right.

Criticism

Criticism comes in many forms, one form is “Constructive criticism.” Your black dress is more acceptable for the Opera than the white dress. It aims to show that the intent or purpose of something is better served by an alternative approach. In this case, making the criticism is not necessarily estimated as being wrong, and its reason for existence is reverential. Constructive criticisms are often suggestions for improvement – how things could be done better or more acceptable. They draw attention to how an identified problem could be solved or how it could be solved better. Constructive criticism is more likely to be embraced if the objection is timely, transparent, specific, detailed, and actionable.

Negative Criticism

Friends and family members are the culprits of criticism. Most people are not sure how to handle it? They often feel that they can say anything to you with no response. I am sure that most of us have swollen lips, as we often have to bite them from saying something we shouldn’t. Trust me, I often clamped my mouth, but to no avail, it persists. I think often people speak with an undercurrent of envy or lack of knowledge. Here are some tips that will help when you have to deal with people who continuously criticize your every move. You can’t always control how other people act or what they say, but we can forever change our own behavior to better deal with the situation. Like my late husband always said to me, “Consider the source.”

“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30 KJV

I’ve never been the type to make a lot of female friends except for a group of close ones. Women don’t positively respond to me, especially the worldly ones, the ones absent of the truth of the Most High. I find myself having to defend my beauty for as long as I can remember, I’ve been hated because of the way I look. I know that beauty is something that can’t be ignored. I always seemed to invoke compliments such as your the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, you should be a model, you look like a movie star. It came to the point when someone passes me a compliment I feel funny like I wanted them to leave; I grew up knowing I would get attention because of my beauty. I am not touched by the praises of man could change without warning. What is not apparent is the inner man something no one can see the truth be told that is what touches me the most my inner beauty.

Do we as people expect, people on social media to say something positive, supportive, or convey a positive compliment. These people are cowards hiding behind a computer screen, so their live may be hell so they want to make yours hell to. I remember like over a decade ago, having done some modeling, my photo was featured online on a website but it was under the wrong name. It was kind of funny how there was an on going conversation about my looks and I’m sure that most of these people never seen me in person. I read the comments:

She looks like a big plastic blowup doll.  Is she Somalian? No she cheeks are too chubby to be Somalian but he is stunning. She is as pretty as Halle Berry.  In a room, of women, she would stand out, but I don’t think the other beautiful women would go unnoticed. She looks like a witch I bet she’s an evil bitch she is too pretty.  Her eyes make her look possessed I bet her man has to cover his eyes when they have sex.  I bet she has had some work done she is to perfect.  She is cute for a biracial girl. She could earn 8000 dollars a night at a strip club that is until her novelty runs out.  Her hair is a weave.  Is she real?  I would date her and then leave her ass.  I hate this yellow bitch I wish she would die of an aneurysm.  Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned.

Most people live in a closed box and don’t know anything other than what is placed for them in a box. Since the beginning of western civilization, we have been taught what is right and what is wrong by our slave master. In Willie Lynch days, he has an eloquently devised plan to separate our people according to class and looks. Which placed our people into a pitiless competition with one another. Today, black people still seem to embody that spirit of envy. You would like that through slavery, the civil rights era, etc.… our people would have bonded together more, or even been more supportive of each other’s pursuits. After all, all other nations bond together, start businesses and give each additional moral support. But where the black people stand, is a bit more grudge mental, to say the least. Once a black person achieves a level of success, they don’t support their own community. Is there secret envy that plagues our people? Yes. Do not envy. We have all been given a talent.. And that talent will make room for us and bring us before great men. We all have something that contributes to the body… as the hand provides to the arm.

“A man’s gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men.” Proverbs 18:16 KJV The handout – syndrome. Really I ask? I notice that when a black person comes out with a product, book or some service. Other black people want to get it free or ask can you give them a complimentary copy. But note that they never ask the white entrepreneurs can they get something free. They pay full price. Most black people envy each other while secretly longing for failure to come to a person. It has been documented that blacks spend less or invest less in black-owned businesses. According to Nielson rating, that black spending power will reach over 1 trillion dollars in a few years. The spending power among blacks is enormous, yet hardly any of it goes back into the community.

It is no secret that blacks are extremely talented the world over. We need to adopt the motto – we need to spread the wealth. The Most High gives you talents for your needs to be met and to help our people advance. But the world systems are saying that “I got mine now you get yours.” 

A faithfull friend is a strong defence: and he that hath found such an one hath found a treasure. Ecclesiasticus 6:14 KJV

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True friends generally, fit into one of the three categories, such as Outer Court, Inner Court, and Holies of Holies.

1. Outer Court: You share general things with them with a level of caution.

Fair-weather friends, Neighbors, Associates, Haters, People with hidden agendas or People you meet on the streets.

2. Inner Court: There is some trust that you share more intimate things with them.

Mentors, boyfriends/girlfriends, and some Relatives

3. Holy of Holies: You trust them with all your secrets and your life.

Spouses, Best Friends, Like minded people, there when hardship or difficulty rears its head, loyal friends that have stood the test of time and sticks closer than a brother.

Instead of constantly surrounding yourself with like-minded people, try to break out of your comfort zone and befriend people who hold opposing views. They will help open your eyes to different world views and you’ll learn to accept people who don’t see the world exactly the way you see it.

Instead of a friend become not an enemy; for thereby thou shalt inherit an ill name, shame, and reproach: even so, shall a sinner that hath a double tongue. Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul is not torn in pieces as a bull straying alone. Thou shalt eat up thy leaves, and lose thy fruit, and leave thyself as a dry tree. A wicked soul shall destroy him that hath it, and shall make him laugh to the scorn of his enemies. The sweet language will multiply friends: and a fairspeaking tongue will increase kind greetings. Be in peace with many: nevertheless, have but one counsellor of a thousand. If thou wouldest, get a friend, prove him first and be not hasty to credit him. For some man is a friend for his own occasion, and will not abide in the day of thy trouble. And there is a friend, who being turned to enmity, and strife will discover thy reproach. Again, some friend is a companion at the table, and will not continue in the day of thy affliction. A faithful friend is a strong defense: and he that hath found such a one hath found a treasure. Nothing doth countervail a loyal friend, and his excellency is invaluable. A faithful friend is the medicine of life, and they that fear the Lord shall find him. Whoso feareth the Lord shall direct his friendship aright: for as he is, so shall his neighbor be also. Ecclesiasticus chapter 6: 1-10, 14-17 KJV

1. Get closer to the Most High (read the bible and pray)

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3 Discovering who you are in the Most High is the key to life. We all are given one life, and we must know our purpose for living. It is more significant than you think.

2. Become your biggest cheerleader and motivator.

“And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.” 1 Samuel 30:6 Daily read quotes and scriptures to motivate yourself. Tell yourself, you can do it,… I can make it… In life, most of the time, you will not have people around to encourage you so you must promote yourself. I know that I am my biggest cheerleader, and I always have been.

3. Take care of yourself

What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? Eat right, work out, and pamper yourself. Trust nobody can say anything to you when you are healthy.

4. Don’t listen to people. Don’t fear them they have no power over you.

And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which can destroy both soul and body in hell. Matthew 10:28 If they are not an expert in an area don’t listen, nobody opinion matters. That is just like a person with cancer or diabetes, telling you how to eat. I don’t share a lot of my life with people around me because it often triggers insecurities in people they become volatile to you. That way, you keep them at bay because your life is your own, and they don’t get to own your destiny.

5. Get rid of toxic people.

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful Psalms 1:1

We have no business being with sinners in the form of toxic people. If a friend or relative is causing emotional damage in your life, this is a sign of a toxic person. Sinners or toxic people drain the life out of you with their negativity. They suck the joy and peace out of your psyche with gossip, selfishness, or extreme dependency, know it all attitude, glory hoarder, and narcissism. Most times going into crying sessions making it all about them, and how they have been done wrong.Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned

If the world hates you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. John 15:18 The main point to drive home about hate is that they hated the Messiah (Christ) so if we are called by his name, then they will hate us to. So count it all joy, you must be doing something right. Criticism may be the sister of hate. Criticism comes in many forms, one form is “Constructive criticism.” Your black dress is more acceptable for the Opera than the white dress.

It aims to show that the intent or purpose of something is better served by an alternative approach. In this case, making the criticism is not necessarily estimated as being wrong, and its reason for existence is reverential. Constructive criticisms are often suggestions for improvement – how things could be done better or more acceptable. They draw attention to how an identified problem could be solved, or how it could be solved better. Constructive criticism is more likely to be embraced if the criticism is timely, clear, specific, detailed and actionable.

Nevertheless, I persisted.

 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 6 – "Sexual Sin"

Every other sin that a man commits is outside his body, but the immoral man (fornicator) sins against his own body (1 Corinthians 6:18) Sex glands in the body are part of the autonomic nervous system. Normal sexual functioning is a regular, rhythmic cycle of life. But when the Messiah said, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Matthew 5:28 KJV 
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The Messiah intended us to have relations within a marital union. The word for lust is apothems. The prefix epi means “to add to.” signifying that something is being added to a regular drive. The only way to control your sexual drive is to manage your thought life realizing that each time a man connects with a woman sexually and releases his life form energy within her, he leaves a part of his information (DNA) in her birth canal. The desire for sex is the most powerful of human desires. “When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times,” says Napoleon Hill in his classic book, Think and Grow Rich. Sexual lust demands physical expression, and that is where, Roman 6 comes into play, “ Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.” Romans 6:12 (KJV) Commend not a man for his beauty; neither abhor a man for his outward appearance Ecclesiasticus 11:2 Apocrypha
 
The Sexual  Satanic Ritual of  Ass Worship

We truly live in a culture of ASS worship. We have a culture of attention whoring, of superficial likes and followers on social media. We are living in a generation where dressing to impress is a thing of the past. And acting ratchet, twerking, being practically naked in public or all over the internet showing off your assets to the world is the latest trend. No matter how big or small the ASS is, it should be displayed, that seems to be the new thing. No matter how big or small the breasts are, they must be out in the open. This culture is lust driven, whether you the pursuer or the initiator. When you only display your gluteus maxima , do you think men will care about your mind or your well-being? Visually you leave nothing to the imagination your appeal to the lust within the male psyche. Will you become his wife, absolutely not. When you put more attention into how much your ASS is exposed to the general public, you will be overlooked in terms of intelligence. Never let your beauty be the only advantage of getting attention or seeking favorability. You should care about what you project and what you display. Stop allow men to worship your body.

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They want to keep us focus on basic knowledge while serving the creation but not the creator like, for example, “Tossing the Salad” To lick and pleasure the anus. What are the origins of such worship? Baal worship especially called for sensual indulgence. Partly male and partly female deity having the physical characteristics of both sexes; hermaphrodite. The sun god/ moon goddess is androgynous, which means the blending masculine and feminine: neither male nor female in appearance but having both conventional masculine and feminine traits and giving an impression of ambiguous sexual identity. The lord of the opening the anal cavity the offering he received was the residue of one’ digestion from temple prostitutes. The worship of this idol consisted in exposing that part of the body which all persons usually take the utmost care to conceal. It is related that on one occasion a strange ruler came to the place where Peor was worshiped, to sacrifice to him; but when he heard of this silly practice, he caused his soldiers to attack and kill the worshipers of the god (Sifre, Num. 131; Sanh. 106a). The same sources mention various other facts concerning the cult, all of which give the impression that it still existed at the time of the Tannaim. That the statements of the Rabbis are not wholly imaginative and do not take their coloring from the rites of some heathen or antinomian-Gnostic sects is shown by the fact that the worship of Peor is ridiculed. Nowhere stigmatized as moral depravity, by the Rabbis, which latter might have been expected, had the assertions of the Rabbis been based on the Gnostic cults mentioned. source: Jewish encyclopedia

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And Israel joined himself unto Baalpeor: and the anger of the LORD was kindled against Israel. Numbers 25:3 KJV And Israel joined himself unto Baalpeor: and the anger of the LORD was kindled against Israel. Numbers 25:3. And shed innocent blood, even the blood of their sons and of their daughters, whom they sacrificed unto the idols of Canaan: and the land was polluted with blood. Psalm 106:38 KJV

Osculum infame is the name of a witch’s supposed ritual greeting upon meeting with the Devil. The name means The Shameful Kiss, or The Kiss of Shame since it involved kissing the devil’s anus, his other mouth. According to folklore, it was this kiss that allowed the Devil to seduce women. As explained in the Infernal Dictionary how the witches go forth in their rituals for the devil by J. Collin De Plancy (1592) Another term for this behavior falls under the lines of Sodomy which is any of the sexual acts regarded as perverted, especially anal intercourse, oral-anal contact, or sexual intercourse with an animal.

There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel. Deuteronomy 23:17King James Version (KJV)

Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonor their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. For this cause, God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. Romans 1:24-27King James Version (KJV)

This sexual revolution spreads even further to ancient Egyptian. The Turin Erotic Papyrus (Papyrus 55001, also called the Erotic Papyrus or even Turin Papyrus) is an ancient Egyptian papyrus scroll-painting that was created during the Ramesside Period, approximately in 1150 B.C. Discovered in Deir el-Medina in the early 19th century, it has been dubbed “world’s first men’s mag.” Measuring 8.5 feet (2.6 m) by 10 inches (25 cm), it consists of two parts, one of which contains twelve erotic vignettes depicting various sex positions. It is currently housed by the Museo Egizio in Turin, Italy. Containing twelve successive scenes, the erotic section takes up two-thirds of the Turin Papyrus. Not confirming the convention of human perfection in ancient Egyptian art, the men depicted on the papyrus are “scruffy, balding, short, and paunchy” with exaggeratedly large genitalia.
In contrast, the women are nubile and appear with canonical erotic images of convolvulus leaves, Hathoric imagery, lotus flowers, monkeys, and sistra. Overall, the artistic merit of the pictures is high, suggesting that the Erotic Papyrus had an elite owner and audience. The various male images have also been interpreted as a single protagonist, who has several encounters with a courtesan. And Israel joined himself unto Baalpeor: and the anger of the LORD was kindled against Israel. Numbers 25:3. And shed innocent blood, even the blood of their sons and of their daughters, whom they sacrificed unto the idols of Canaan: and the land was polluted with blood. Psalm 106:38 There are physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of sexual intercourse. There is often significant emotional trauma associated with sexual immorality, and it usually manifests itself in a variety of ways, including the development of a soul tie. Soul ties are exactly what they sound like. They are ties from one person’s soul to another person’s soul. According to 1 Thessalonians 5:23, man is made up of three parts: spirit, soul, and body. Soul ties are intimate bonds to another human being.

1 Corinthians 6:12-20 says: All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power. Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

In these verses, Paul made it perfectly clear to the Corinthian Christians sexual intercourse is more than a biological experience; it involves a communion of life. Every time you have sexual intercourse with someone, you become one flesh with that person. You are united to that person in every way possible. Your spirit, emotions, every aspect of your being is combined with that person. It is not just a physical activity where you release sexual tension. You become joined to the person or people you have sex with. One of the meanings of the world participated in the Greek means “glued to” so when you have sex with someone that you are not married to you become glued to them. Whenever you pull apart something that has been glued together, there is always damage to one or both parts and some times it is excruciating to disconnect the parts. That is why the emotional trauma after single adults are involved in sexual immorality is so intense. Sometimes when there is a separation of something glued together, a portion of one of the parts may remain attached even when the two regions have separated. Some of us have glued ourselves to all kinds of people through fornication and adultery, and that is why our lives are so messed up, and we are not free to live for Jesus. Only the power of God can set you free from the entrapments sexual immorality bring into your lives. Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. Romans 6:12 (KJV)

Oral Sex and Baal-Poer Worship

The way the Most High created us sexually to face each other, to look into each other’s eyes when they are the only creation that looks face to face. Anything other than what the Most High intended is an act of sexual immorality. We are not to engage in such practices. Oral Sex is the act of stimulating a person’s genitals with your mouth, lips, or tongue. This could involve sucking or licking their penis (also called fellatio), vagina, vulva or clitoris (cunnilingus), or anus (anilingus). The bible says, “They joined themselves unto “Baal-Peor” and ate sacrifices to the dead.” Immoral sexual acts which do not bring life into this world such as masturbation, homosexual acts, multiple partners, sex involving objects or devices, animals, anal sex, and Oral sex. These acts are unnatural because they violate natural law and are not open to life. Humans were designed by Yahuah so that sexual relations would consist in acts of genital-to-genital intercourse; bring life between a man and a woman. Other kinds of actions are contrary to this intention. The Scriptures speak of an incident where Israel has led astray into sexual sin. The seriousness of this event is so significant that the Savior warns the assembly in Revelations against this sort of idolatry. He wrote: “But I have a few things against thee because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumbling block before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornication.” Revelations 2:14. What was the stumbling block Balaam offered to King Balak? It was the worship of Baal-Peor. After Balaam departs from Moab, we see the ramifications of this instruction as Israel joins itself to Baal-Peor: “Now Israel remained in Acacia Grove, and the people began to commit harlotry with the women of Moab. They invited the people to the sacrifices of their gods, and the people ate and bowed down to their gods. So Israel was joined to Baal of Peor, and the anger of the Savior was aroused against Israel.” Numbers 25:1-3. This caused a plague on the nation of Israel, which resulted in 24,00 slain (Numbers 31:16).

So what is Baal-Peor?

Baal-Peor is a Moabite god who was worshiped with obscene rituals. The name means “Lord of the opening” from Baal meaning owner/ husband and Peor coming from pa’ar meaning “open wide.” They were killed for idolatry. The Savior said, “I found Israel Like grapes in the wilderness; I saw your fathers As the firstfruits on the fig tree in its first season. But they went to Baal Peor, And separated themselves to that shame; They became an abomination like the thing they loved.” Hosea 9:10. The worship of Baal-Peor IS an abomination. Notice that those who join themselves to Baal-Peor also “become “AN ABOMINATION” before Yahuah. Those who delight and love to partake in Peor’s rites shall be guilty of the love idolatry…. Therefore hell hath enlarged herself, and opened her mouth without measure: and their glory, and their multitude, and their pomp, and he that rejoiced shall descend into it. Isaiah 5:14. The act of Homosexual sex (sodomy) is considered an abomination in the sight of the Messiah.

Many believe that homosexuality began with European civilizations. It was then adopted their generations. It was depicted in Grecian and Roman art. Homosexuality has made its way through many cultures since the beginning of time.

So he shall give them up to uncleanness through the Lusts of their own hearts, to dishonor their own bodies between themselves: They dishonor themselves by participating in sodomy. The Hebrew word for sodomy is “burning” Sodomy is defined as Anal or Oral copulation in every dictionary look it up. It is still considered sodomy when it pertains to the same sex as well. Its idolatry, and considered uncleanness. Besides physically unclean, it has spiritual components. Romans Ch1 describe man’s degradation into reprobation, To become reprobate takes time. You don’t wake up reprobate. There are a series of steps that take you further into sin. If you don’t turn away from it……The Messiah said that for this cause I will give them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature. And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. Romans 1:26-28. And even as they did not like to retain Yahuah in their knowledge, He gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; This is what has happened with so many today concerning sodomy practices. They have been given over to it, and now they love it and see nothing wrong with partaking in this rite. Open wide is concerning cavities of the body. Baal Peor is not just about one specific opening, but all opportunities of the body that can be corrupted for worship and sexual purposes. One of the main rites or rituals of Baal Peor is to get people to participate in eating from places where body waste comes from. Those who delight and love to partake in Peor’s rites shall be guilty of the love idolatry…. Baal Peor possesses people through lust of their eyes and pierces their minds (Pornography is another opening) Sexual devices, sex dolls, toys, etc. In fact, the art of pole dancing is another tool used in the worship of Baal Peor. It’s nothing more than a modern-day Asherah Penis Pole. Pole dancing ensnares the eyes and corrupts the mind. The enemy seeks to desensitize men by pretending that these acts are good. They even came up with “Pole dancing for the Savior” Baal Peor does one of many things. It trains a person to lose all inhibitions. It is an idol whose form of worship also includes defecation before it. The worshiper would bare their backside and defecate in honor of the icon. Peor was the epitome of idolatry! It encourages shameful licentiousness sin. Some say that the Savior only disapproves of this act as it relates to temple prostitutes, yet the act itself is considered idolatry no matter who performs it. One does not have to be a temple whore of Baal for the law to be sinful. These are Homosexual acts of Baal, no matter what gender. Temple prostitutes would perform the action on anyone who came to them. The law joins you to Baal (Baal indwells the participant). The marriage bed should be kept in honor (Heb 13:4). Sexual fornication or pornea, which means illicit sexual intercourse is sex acts that the Savior deems illicit, and are not acceptable because it defiles the marriage bed. So ask yourself again, are acts of sodomy considered unlawful? Remember that children can only come as a result of natural intercourse. The action of any kind of other sex is not gendered specific. It formats the mind to be A-sexual. So again, “The act is considered sodomy even when it pertains to the opposite sex. Heterosexuals who participate in this act are “sodomites” by the very definition of the word. It doesn’t take long in reviewing the Scriptures to understand how the Savior feels about sodomy if you don’t close your eyes to see it. The Bible is not silent on this topic if you study the deity Baal Peor and understand what it requires to worship it.

Sexual Sin open your soul up to Soul ties, beware!

Do you remember your first kiss, your first touch, or your first love? Sure, you do! Chances are that you were intimate with him or her, and you entered the world of the soul tie. Maybe you gave in gradually, and it felt good. Did he or she melt your heart? You felt that they would be with you forever. Well, in this case, they are. A soul tie is like a linkage in the soul realm between two people. It links their souls together, which can bring forth both beneficial results or negative results. The positive effect of a soul tie: In a godly marriage, the Most High links the two together and the Bible tells us that they become one flesh. As a result of them becoming one flesh, it binds them together, and they will uniquely cleave onto one another. The purpose of this cleaving is to build a very healthy, strong, and close relationship between a man and a woman in marriage as the Most High intended. These ties are physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of sexual intercourse. There is often significant emotional trauma associated with sexual immorality, and it usually manifests itself in a variety of ways, including the development of a soul tie. Soul ties are exactly what they sound like. They are ties from one person’s soul to another person’s soul. Matthew 19:5, “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh.” Soul ties can also be found in long-distance internet talking or close in person friendships. They are not just limited to a marriage, as we can see with King David and Jonathan in friendship. 1 Samuel 18:1, “And it came to pass when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” The negative effect of a soul tie: Soul ties can also be used for the devil’s advantage by tying your soul to another person, he has ultimate control over you. And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel. Genesis 34:2-3 The link of unresolved emotions has encamped a person’s spirit. The feelings are still strong years down the road. Their first lover becomes the trademark or standard for all other men or women. He or she has another spouse and children but still desiring the first original person they slept with. This is why you must only join with the person the Most High wants you to be with. As we ask the Most High for things, we can surely inquire who we should be with as a lifetime partner in marriage. Demonic spirits or familiar spirits can also take advantage of ungodly soul ties, and use them to transfer spirits from one person to another. “And the Babylonians came to her into the bed of love, and they defiled her with their whoredom, and she was polluted with them, and her mind was alienated from them.” Ezekiel 23:17 Many people have equated this as Astral projection (or astral travel) is a term used in esotericism to describe a willful out-of-body experience (OBE), a supposed form of telepathy, that assumes the existence of a soul or consciousness called an “astral body” that is separate from the physical body and capable of traveling outside of it throughout the universe. The idea of astral travel is rooted in esotericism and occultism and was promoted by 19th-century Theosophists—philosophers who explored the mystical and preternatural origins of the natural world. It is sometimes reported in association with dreams, and forms of meditation. Some individuals have reported perceptions similar to descriptions of astral projection that were induced through various hallucinogenic and hypnotic means (including self-hypnosis). There is no scientific evidence that there is a consciousness or soul which is separate from normal neural activity or that one can consciously leave the body and make observations. Claims of scientific evidence of astral projection are pseudoscientific. When in fact, astral projection, could be associated with familiar spirits, that make you think you are leaving the body and visiting other places. Anton LaVey, the founder of the Satanic Bible, often was quoted as saying he travels a lot through this and had sex with many women that he desired by this. All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. And God hath both raised up the Lord and will also raise up us by his own power. Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of a harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which is God’s.” When men or women decide to have multiple partners, it can send mixed emotional signals to the inside of the body through a sexual connection. Women must be cautious of the spiritual forces polluting their temple. Men are sub planters .. Women are incubators, she receives into her wound, so all that man is and what is motivating him will pass into the womb. So her heart longs for a man that has been out of her life

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What is a soul tie?

The Bible speaks of what is today known as soul ties. In the Bible, it doesn’t use the word soul tie, but it speaks of them when it talks about souls being knit together, becoming one flesh, etc. A soul tie can serve many functions, but in it’s purest form, it ties two souls together in the spiritual realm. Soul ties between married couples draw them together like magnets, while soul ties between fornicators can draw a beaten and abused the woman to the man who is the natural realm she would hate and run from, but instead, she runs to him even though he doesn’t love her, and treats her like dirt. In the demonic world, unholy soul ties can serve as bridges between two people to pass satanic garbage through. I helped a young man not too long ago break free from downright awful visitations from demons, all due to an ungodly soul tie he had with a witch. The man was a Christian, and the only thing that allowed her to send demonic torment his way is through the soul tie. Other soul ties can do things such as allow one person to manipulate and control another person, and the other person is unaware to what is going on or knows what is going on, but for no real reason, allows it to continue.

How soul ties are formed

I believe there are other ways in which soul ties are formed, but here are some that I am aware of. 1. Sexual relations: Godly soul ties are formed when a couple are married (Ephesians 5:31, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”), and the Godly soul tie between a husband and the wife that God intended him to have is unbreakable by man (Mark 10:7-9). However, when a person has ungodly sexual relations with another person, an immoral soul tie is then formed (1 Corinthians 6:16, “What? know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.”). This soul tie fragments the soul and is destructive. People who have many past relationships find it very difficult to ‘bond’ or be joined to anybody because their soul is fragmented. 2. Friendships like King David and Jonathan had a right soul tie as a result of a good bond (1 Samuel 18:1.) “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”), but lousy soul ties can form from bad relationships as well. Idolizing somebody can cause an evil soul tie. 3. Worship of a celebrity: You can create a soul tie with a star by becoming obsessed with their music. Which explains the strong pull towards certain music that seems almost irresistible. 4. Vows agreements: Vows are known to bind the soul (Numbers 30:2), marriage itself consists of vows and links the two people together (Ephesians 5:31), therefore I have little reason to overlook the concept of promises or commitments as being a means to create a soul tie. 5. Verbal communication through phone calls or internet: In the form of Spiritual adultery which is unfaithfulness to the Most High or your spouse. Spiritually adultery is analogous to the unfaithfulness of one’s spouse: “‘But like a woman faithless to her lover, even so, have you been faithless to me, O house of Israel,’ says the LORD” (Jeremiah 3:20) When a person gives there time to others in intimate talk and time, not necessarily sex but your emotions are with the person. This can happen in these days of Facebook and Online dating services, this is predicated on talking to an individual apart from your spouse on private matters. The positive effect of a soul tie: In a godly marriage, God links the two together, and the Bible tells us that they become one flesh. As a result of them becoming one flesh, it binds them together, and they will uniquely cleave onto one another. The purpose of this cleaving is to build a very healthy, active, and close relationship between a man and a woman. “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh.” Matthew 19:5, KJV The negative effect of a soul tie: Soul ties can also be used for the devil’s advantage. Soul ties formed from sex outside of marriage causes a person to become defiled: “And the Babylonians came to her into the bed of love, and they defiled her with their whoredom, and she was polluted with them.” Ezekiel 23:17 KJV Demonic connection with soul ties. Demonic spirits can also take advantage of ungodly soul ties and use them to transfer spirits from one person to another.

My conversation with Dr Samuel Okoro, a clinical psychologist
Q: What can you tell me about soul ties? Dr. Okoro: They are transferred from physical to spiritual. A woman becomes one with the man she has sex with. This famous quote is so factual when it comes to having sexual intercourse, “When you sleep with someone you are sleeping with everyone they slept with,” so your emotion are tired together with sex. Q: Anything else you want to add about soul ties? Dr. Okoro: I remember one young woman I led through a deliverance as an elder; she was facing severe demonic visitations and torment all thanks to an ungodly soul tie. I led her to broke the soul tie, and the attacks stopped completely! She had to renounce that man that she gave her body too. Soul ties have their share of memories and feelings attached to it. In the book “ Deliverance from Incubus & Succubus: Sex Demons of the Night” by Apostle Gedeon Landu uncovers the spirits of Incubus & the Succubus demons that have sex with people as they sleep. He states that the demon says, “No, I’m not going, she’s my wife..” or “He’s my husband.” This demonstrates their possessive nature over the soul of the victim, and the strength of the covenant established through sex. Incubus and succubus are not usually willing to let go of their victim, because that covenant is binding through the access they are given” The worship of our bodies is energy-seeping. The act of worship allows the person that penetrates you enslave you emotionally for it weakens them as you become one as in a marriage. Interview with Mya, a tax attorney Q: What was your experience with soul ties? Mya: I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years, this guy was the first man I have sex with. During the time of the relationship, he repeatedly beat me, cheated on me, and abandoned me many times. I could not for my life shake this guy loose, although, he treated me like shit. Q: How did you break loose from him? Mya: I repented from sleeping with him outside a commitment of marriage, developed a real relationship with Christ, and I moved out of the apartment we shared into an apartment 100 miles away. Through time I was set free totally. Ran into him years later and I had no feelings for him. And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. Mark 10:8 KJV Bible The term “one flesh” comes from the Genesis account of the creation of Eve. Genesis 2:21-24 describes the process by which God created Eve from a rib taken from Adam’s side as he slept. Adam recognized that Eve was part of him—they were, in fact, “one flesh.” The term “one flesh” means that just as our bodies are one whole entity and cannot be divided into pieces and still be a whole, so God intended it to be with the marital relationship between man and woman. There are no longer two entities (two individuals), but now there is one entity (a married couple). This will make you think twice before opening your legs for every Mark, David, and Shaun… DNA From Sperm Of Ex-Partners Lingers In Female Flies And Influences The Genetics Of Her Offspring by Dana Dovey on medicaldaily.com states that “Researchers found out that any man that has unprotected sex will permanently leave his DNA to his partner’s body after ejaculation. the semen which released thru ejaculation contains lymphocytes that will pass through the woman’s bloodstream and will definitely stay her organs. It has been proven through blood samples from various body parts and brain tissue in women where they have detected the presence of – This Male DNA can stay in a woman’s body for decades. So, when a woman and man have a child with her present husband, it is possible that traces of the man she slept with previously will still be in her body.” When you have sex with others, you develop what you call a “Soul Tie” with the individual through the confines of marriage. A soul tie is a bond of souls of two people that have sex through that union it links their mind, will, and emotions into their soulish realm together, which can bring forth both beneficial results or negative results. In a godly marriage, as we marry, we have sought that marries us together, linking us together through that action. As a result, we become one flesh, we cleave to each other, we become closer, more intimate, and in the eyes of the Most High we are married in the spirit, soul to soul. “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh.” Matthew 19:5 KJV How to break a soul tie? 1. Repent of all sins (Turn away from the sins) change your mind. 2. Renounce the covenant created with the person/an or persons 4. Give back any gifts that link you to the person/and or persons. 5. Fast Now pray this prayer verbally for deliverance Heavenly Father. God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. Forgive me for my sins. I renounce and break myself from an ungodly soul tie or satanic bondage, knowing or unknowingly formed between myself and ________ you say whatever we bound on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever we loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. I bound the soul tie. In the Savior’s name. Amen
Masturbation

The blood rushes to your face and lower region as your eyes are scorching through her or his clothing. No one is there just you and your computer screen – Envisioning your lust, those images of that naked body stimulating your senses as you move into ecstasy and spill your seed. Learn here why there is no excuse to claim to be a child of the Most High and masturbate at the same time.

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My interview with D-Jay
Q: How long did you masturbate? Did you masturbate while you were married?

D-Jay: Since I was a teenager yes I had a porn addiction so I masturbated all day long.

Q: How has the act affected your life?

D-Jay: It destroyed my marriage it ended. I made my wife watch porn with me and do all kinds of ungodly things.

Q: How did you get delivered?

D-Jay: When I met you a few years back you revealed to me the truth and that set my thinking free.

Q: What advice would you give to someone struggling with this sin?

D-Jay: Fast and seek the creator for deliverance. Watching porn and masturbation will destroy your life.

My interview with Frederick Jenkins

Q: What is your experience with masturbation?

Frederick: It is like living a fantasy when you have the porn element with it. It is like making love with the beautiful woman that never gets tired that is perfect all the time. It gives you a false sense of gratification. It doesn’t last, and when you wake up, you feel guilty. I even stating sucking myself off for pleasure.

Q: When did you start masturbating and how did you stop?

Frederick: I was molested when I was 6, it started then. I know that there was a demonic presence with me from that point on. Now I am 50, and how I broke out of that funk. I prayed and did some fasting. It was not easy. Every time I took a shower, I had to take a cold one because that was when I masturbated. I have not masturbated in 10 years now. A lot of people are under the illusion that masturbation is referenced in the story of Onan who spilled his seed on the ground instead of fathering a child like he was told with his dead brother’s wife, but it has no relation at all with masturbation.

Genesis 38:8-10 KJV And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother’s wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother. And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother’s wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the Lord: wherefore he slew him also.

There is really nothing in the bible that talks about masturbation but the principles of lust are clearly stated in the Scripture, but the Savior states in Matthew 5:28 KJV,

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

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In 1 Thessalonians 4: 3-5 KJV, Apostle Paul states that we should, For this is the will of the Most High, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not the Most High. Sex is a powerful thing, and just say a man finds a way to please himself, that denotes the chase of finding or winning the affection of a woman in marriage to please those urges which takes away the sanctification of the marital union. It feeds the carnality of the flesh. Beware and not feed your flesh.

Steps to be delivered from masturbation:
1. Fast
2. Pray
3. Stop watching porn
4. Better to marry than to burn
5. Get in the word.

 “For a whore is a deep ditch; and a strange woman is a narrow pit.”  Proverbs 23:27

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My interview with a 39 year old white woman, who wants to remain anonymous. She reveals the secrets on how she seduces men for a living.

——-Question: So in what ways have you seduced men?——-

1. I Praise them.

I tell them what they want to hear about themselves. Oh, baby, you are wonderful Your manhood is big etc.… The Bible says,  With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him — Proverbs 7: 21 KJV

2. I chase them.

I buy them gifts I go see them unannounced. Be very present in their day to day operations Call them many times during the day or night. I keep them for their girlfriends and wives. Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner. Proverbs 7:12

3. I become his dream girl

I convince him that I am into his interests If its church, I can be the church girl And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot, and subtil of heart. Proverbs 7:10

4. I will seduce him

Put certain scents on my body to entice him I will show him with my body Whatever gets he off I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Proverbs 7:17

5. I will play the victim

I will make him fill sorry for me To buy me gifts I will tell him I need money for this and that but really don’t He hath taken a bag of money with him and will come home at the day appointed. Proverbs 7:20

6. I will impress him

I will give him the appearance that I am smart and innocent. Wear fancy clothes to give the illusion of wealth. I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt Proverbs 7:15 KJV.

7. I will lie to him

Tell him what he wants to hear, you know how great he is. How much I love him That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words. Proverbs 7:6

8. I will be his play wife

I will cook for him and give him a bath. Passing through the street near her corner, and he went the way to her house. Proverbs 7:8

9. I will give the illusion that I love the Most High

Tell him to pray for me Let’s study the Bible together

Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death. Proverbs 7:27 KJV In 1 Thessalonians 4:7-8, “God has called us to be holy, not to live impure lives. Anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying worldly knowledge, the world tell you to lust and sleep around. The true disobeying is in rejecting the laws of the Most High. ” If you currently struggle with lust, it is time to come clean before the Most High and ask for his forgiveness, fast, repent, and live a holy life set apart from sin.

My conversation with Melvin Burch, Author of “Book of Poems: Esoterically Written”

Q: How does a man overcome lust?

Melvin: “Lust will always be there. To overcome it is to deny yourself totally” All scriptures are from the KJV of the Bible: 1 John 2:16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father but is of the world. John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. Luke 9:23 And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. If Christ overcame the world, then we can follow his footsteps.

Q: What would you tell black men about being men?

Melvin: The Bible tells us that Men have to step up and become the head again. Everything is reverse these days. The woman has stepped up into pastoral positions of authority. Ezekiel 34:31 And ye my flock, the flock of my pasture, are men, and I am your God, saith the Lord God. Luke 12:48 But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more. We have a job to do. We Have to be more involved with our kids and not be baby daddies. This is a hard thing to teach in these days because we have the court system in the middle.

Confessions of a lustful man….

A child hood friend of mine, very lustful man posted this under one of my photos.

He wrote…

“I stood immobilized at your entrance in the room paralyzed by your beauty and the sweet anticipation of your body cleaving to mine. It is so Hard to averted my eyes elsewhere from your beauty just thinking the way those taught strings over your shoulders are holding, cradling the soft and supple milk mounds like a frustrated hammock, suspending with care and desire, the round, jiggling way they sway as you move, unable to escape from the modest black dress as it confines them. Your small and taut waist, curvy backside and legs that went on forever.  Your body is perfection literally to die for.  Your big mesmerizing eyes, your long dark mane was loose and wild with several strands framing her face. At that moment,  I silently vowed I would worship the ground you walk on.”

Did you know that LUST was an open doorway into the spirit realm? Not only that: it’s a one way door, meaning that whatever lies on the other side of that door has permission to enter your life by the simple act of you lusting after it. The spirit realm is a very real inter-dimensional world that exists right alongside our three dimensional world of reality. To keep it simple, let’s just say it’s an extra layer of a deeper reality that we all swim in daily. Most just do so unaware. When the Messiah warned us not to lust after women, it had a deeper purpose than just stopping men from being “poon” hounds. He was actually showing you how to keep yourself from being invaded by one of these foul spirits of lust. Your lust is the open invitation and legal grounds for these spirits of lust to enter you and control your life to enslave you to that lust.  That lust will utterly consume your life. Turn your eyes away my brother; look to the east where thy help comes from — Michael Sanders

Incubus/Succubus Demons 
Known as the night terrors, husband and wife spirits, and marine spirits.

Charlie as he stepped into the shower, he remembered the night before…
Well past midnight, Charlie awaken, still caught by sleep and consciousness. He felt a presence on top of him, the presence held his mouth closed. He could see nothing but he knew something was there to pleasure his body. He began to shoot out to the Most High to help him move, but to no avail, the presence stayed with him for a least a few minutes then he was pleased and felt violated.
Throughout the day he wondered what had happened to him the night before…
Caught between sleep and consciousness, this encounter has only happened to me a few times, the last time in particular was last year. In a dream, after reaching for a pillow that falls from my bed, something grabbed me, was on top of me – I couldn‘t speak or move. I didn’t see anything. I called on the name of the Most High and it left after a few seconds. I felt violated and confused, nevertheless, I woke up. (True Story) I have experienced Night Paralyze, like many people all over the world. What I found helped was to is to anoint your bed and yourself with anointing oil.
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Often called night paralyze, night terrors, succubus, husband or wife spirits, and night stalkers. There are hordes of human beings who are afflicted with various degrees of problems in their waking life because they have had a sexual encounter or more in their dream with a spirit spouse. This phenomenon, depending on the degree of attack, is known by several names including sleep paralysis and night terror, which results from the unwanted visit by spirit entities known generally as night visitors or better yet, Incubus and the Succubus aka Sex demons. Frequently, the people involved in such spiritual, sexual encounters and relationships or marriages are not even aware they have been violating by a sex demon. These spirits are introduced in my masturbation but not in all cases like mine, for example. More often than not, it turns out that the Incubus (Male sex demon) or the Succubus (Female sex demon) was actually ‘invited,’ though unknowingly and indirectly, by the victim through careless daily, yet spiritual, habits and ignorance. Now, at this point, I’d like to point your attention to specific issues of interest aimed at quickly getting to the root of the night terror the paralyzes spirit that wants nothing better than to use your body sexually by sexual encounters in your dream. One of the various things that attract a spirit husband or spirit wife to a human being is ‘sexual appeal’ as in sleeping naked, or some attacks can be the result of astral projection.

The Holy Bible states that in the biblical days of Noah, that even the Angels of God in Heaven couldn’t resist the beauty of human maidens on earth as they came down to choose wives for themselves. Read the interesting story in the book of Genesis, chapter 6 and the book of Enoch. “There were giants in the earth in those days; and also after that, when the sons of God came in unto the daughters of men, and they bare children to them, the same became mighty men which were of old, men of renown.” Genesis 6:4 Most of the information we have about the Watchers and their activities come from the Book of Enoch. Praying, anointing your bed with oil, and fasting will send the incubus and succubus demons away.

How to break free from the succubus/incubus demons:
1. Fast
2. Prayer
3. Repent of all sins
4. Put anointing oil on you and your bed.

Sex is a form of worship in a marriage. It is a beautiful thing the Most High gave mankind to enjoy the bonds of marriage. All SEX without marriage is unlawful. So think about it the next time you want to hop into bed with someone that you are not married too, you are wrong for that Ladies and Gentlemen.

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“Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4 KJV

My conversation with Melvin Burch, Author of “Book of Poems: Esoterically Written”

Q: How does a man overcome lust?

Melvin: “Lust will always be there. To overcome it is to deny yourself totally” All scriptures are from the KJV of the Bible: 1 John 2:16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father but is of the world. John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. Luke 9:23 And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. If Christ overcame the world then we can follow in his footsteps.

Q: What would you tell black men about being men?

Melvin: The Bible tells us that Men have to step up and become the head again. Everything is reverse these days. The woman has stepped up into pastoral positions of authority. Ezekiel 34:31 And ye my flock, the flock of my pasture, are men, and I am your God, saith the Lord God. Luke 12:48 But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more. We have a job to do. We Have to be more involved with our kids and not be baby daddies. This is a hard thing to teach in these days because we have the court system in the middle.
Repent of all of your sins! Ask for forgiveness.
 

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9 KJV

 
Fast
 
Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting. Matthew 17:21 KJV
Pray this prayer for deliverance:
My Heavenly Father,
I praise you. I worship you. I glorify your name.
I renounce all sin in my life. Forgive for my sins. I denounce the spirits of sexual immorality, homosexuality, fornication, adultery and any alters built, soul ties, or covenant agreements with any dark spirits or demons. I thank you, I praise you and worship you and you only.
I pray this in the name of the Messiah, your son, the Savior of this world. Amen.
Go and sin no more…
The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 48 – "Singleness"

 

1. Being Single is a gift from the Most High.

I spend my day looking to the hills in which my help comes from. I can worship with full attention and clarity… Only concerned with the things of the Most High God of Israel… So much of our society is inoculated that being single is terrible when indeed it’s a gift.  The Savior says it is right “for those to whom it has been given” (Matthew 19:11 KJV). But there is a gift or singleness, only you can determine if you possess it. Some may be lonely, while others can entertain themselves. Some long for affection while others don’t need it. Apostle Paul speaks of it as a gift. (1 Corinthians 7:7 KJV)Marriage is a gift to most, and so is being single. Pray to the Most High for what you want. Be content in whatever state you are in, you are there for a purpose. So rejoice and be happy in that state.

Emmanuel Sdi speaks on being single,

“I love being single. I get to spend all my time with the Most High. No pressure, just sheer happiness.”

2. Being Single has its virtues.

I can do the Most High business whatever, and whenever he requires me to do it that is a virtue… In the new testament Apostle, Paul mentions two advantages of singleness in 1 Corinthians 7 KJV. Single people are spared the “troubles” of marriage. In marriage there are many troubles, you have to be concerned about the other person. It can’t be taken lightly because what the Most High joins together will stay together. So you have the task of wanting on the Most High to bring you a mate suitable for you.  Single people can devote themselves more fully to the Most High’s work.  “An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided” He or She can worship anytime they like and drop everything to do the work of the Most High (1 Cor. 7:32-34).

Lena Garth speaks on being single,

“I don’t envy those married people having to deal with each other problems. Please each other daily. Dealing with children. I can just come and go as I please. Doing my mission work is much easy, and if I were married, it would be harder, I imagine.”

3. Being Single is problematic.

It is not suitable for man to be alone… Will lust consume you, shackle your soul, cause you to masturbate, or fornicate? When the Most High saw Adam in the garden busy, he said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18). So Eve was created to meet Adam’s need for companionship, and the two came together in the lifelong, sexual relationship of marriage. Although the New Testament is positive about singleness, there’s no doubt marriage is regarded as the norm. The society promotes it as the only acceptable way to go. It is God’s loving gift to humanity and the chief context in which our desire for intimacy is met. Single people are, therefore, likely to struggle with loneliness and sexual temptation. Those struggles are certainly not exclusive to the unmarried, but they are very much a part of the single condition. Some will seek to lessen them by getting married. Others will either choose not to marry or will feel unable to because of their circumstances, personality, or sexual attraction. They are likely to face a lifelong battle with loneliness and sexual temptation. Those two battles are closely related. The lonelier we are, the more likely we are to struggle with sexual fantasy, watch pornography, and fall into sin. We need to be proactive in seeking help in these areas. We aren’t designed to be on our own, and if we aren’t to be married, whether in the short or long term, we should seek to satisfy our need for intimacy in other relationships. That will mean taking the initiative in keeping in close contact with friends and family. And we must be self-disciplined in “fleeing from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18). It often helps to have one or two close friends to whom we are accountable in this area. Stay clear of pornography and masturbation, fast, and pray that you don’t fall into temptation.

ZakaYah Banath Yasharahla speaks on being single (not edited)

“To hell with this independent woman, I don’t need no man, do bad all by myself thing…I’m ready to be dependent on my king to lead, guide, protect and provide for me and in turn I will support, help, nurture and love him in his endeavors. Do you know how tiring and debasing it is to have to go out into the world every day as a woman and deal with disrespectful males, harsh work environments, taking orders from other men, and building someone else’s (mostly heathens) wealth when I could be helping my future husband build our empire based on righteous, scriptural principles? Do you know how stressful it is to juggle a career and a household? I’m not trying to win the “Strong Black Woman of the Year” award, I desire to be the feminine, soft, sweet, quiet, nurturing skilled in home economics, family oriented virtuous woman that Yah designed me to be, not no damn superhero, kick a**, lousy b**** like how you see these white women on movies and TV. I just came back from experiencing a few days of what it’s like to be my feminine self, to be the natural nurturer that I am, to be taken care of, to be looking out for, to happily serve a man of Yah who deserved to be served as he was busy being about his Fathers business. I didn’t feel degraded or disrespected, I actually felt good about the whole experience. It’s a beautiful thing to serve, to love, to listen, to comfort, to be sweet and caring, to be vulnerable and sensitive as a woman, that’s our nature, and it’s high time to get back to life. I’m tired of having to defend myself from males outside my home, tired of being exposed to their worldly ways, tired of them thinking that all women want to be treated like them (thanks to all the feminists), I’m just tired of it all. I want to be in my element of keeping the home, I want to wake up every day knowing that the work I’m about to do for the rest of the day will be to the glory of the Most High first, and my household second. I want to be able to dress like a modest Hebrew Israelite woman without having to get permission or approval from some heathen at work. I want to be able to keep the laws, statutes, and commandments, the High Holy days, the feasts without having to take time off work or getting approved ahead of time. This is the price a woman pays when she decides she wants to walk in a man’s shoes. Being independent of him and his guidance and headship and I must say that it’s a massive mistake unless she desires to be out in the filthy world dealing with all sorts of unclean spirits and has no desire to be a woman of TMH. Yes, I know many of us HAVE to work because we have no head, or he isn’t making enough money to support the household, but we should all DESIRE to be virtuous keepers at home and modest women of the Most High. I’m praying for the day to come when I can let all the stresses of being “superwoman” go, and I can lay my burdens down and be who I was created to be a helpmeet.”

4. Singleness is undeviating.

The single will marry that is a given.  Others will remain single throughout their lives. But no follower of the Most High is single for eternity. Human marriage reflects the marriage the Most High wants to enjoy with his people forever. The Holy Bible speaks of the Savior as the bridegroom who will one day return to take his bride, the church, to be with him in the perfect new world. At this time, all pain and suffering will cease. The Most High will dry the eyes His chosen people. That day will be awesome to bask in His glory, the lamb of the Most High has come, and we shall reign with Him forever. (Revelations 7:17.)

Samuel Geitz speaks on being single, 

“I look forward to getting married, but at 40 it seems so hard to find someone in the truth. I pray that I will experience married before I die. Pray for me to find my Sarah.”

The “Six Commandments” for Single Women
1. Seek the Most High… the bible is your blueprint for life.
You have to study to show thyself approved. Majority of your time should be spent in the Bible.
2. Stay in your parents’ house until you get married.
Our ancestor’s daughter proudly stayed with Daddy and Mommy, this gives you a sense of protection being in your father’s home.
3. Don’t listen to the man that says, “The Most High told me that you would be my wife.”
I experienced this after my husband died., numerous men coming out of nowhere, and some I knew personally speaking those words to me. They all were liars. As I began to pray, the Most High revealed all to me. Now one guy told me that the Most High said, “That is your wife go get her.” This guy had never seen me before, but he turned out to be mentally insane, a liar, lacked integrity, don’t keep the Sabbath, etc.… Be meticulous ladies and gentlemen. Always take everything to the Most High in prayer concerning these men an women. The Most High will reveal all to you.
4. Keep your body healthy.
Eat lots of fruits and vegetables for a healthy body and mind.
5. Dress modest – Cover your body parts.
This avoids unwanted attention from men. You don’t want to cause them to lust after you.
6. Stay a virgin until marriage.
No one deserves your body other than your husband.

The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Brown Beauty Personified Series (1) featuring Denise "Vanity" Matthews

The world marvels at being the symbol of beauty. You can see how this narcissism explodes the life nook of our existence. You gaze that image of beauty still stuck in your eyes, as you stare from picture to picture wondering when it will be your chance, to imitate the Greek God or Goddess of Narcissism, who tragically fell in love with the sight of his or her own reflection, not realizing it was his or her own image in the water. Or the likes of Oscar Wilde’s depiction of the portrait “Dorian Gray” wish that he would never grow old but his soul was lost. Like most women, that minor obsession with this filtered beauty showcased on the internet. The fascination with being beautiful has gone from a desire to passion. The biggest devil of them all, Satan – Lucifer was cast out of heaven because of pride in his beauty, after all, it was said he was the most beautiful of them all. This Series will highlight people whose vision is far beyond the distinct aesthetics of physical beauty.

There is no better way than to start a series featuring one of the most beautiful women in the world.

 Denise “Vanity” Matthews
Photo of Denise taken in 1981 is used by permission and copyright of photographer Steve Landis. 
Denise’s outer beauty was definitely God-given, but that she was even more beautiful from the inside after she gave her life to Christ, she undoubtedly realized where true beauty lies far beyond what you have or what you look like. Her genetic makeup (aesthetics) was vastly ravished and exploited by the entertainment entity we call Hollywood which is merely a cesspool of sin leading to her destruction, but unlike her other counterparts that claimed Christ, she held fast despite her medical issues, she did continue to uplift the name of Christ.

Dilemma 7 – "Colorism"

Colorism is indeed a known fact, a direct commencement of hostilities afflicted on an individual based on skin color that is used as the basis for a conclusion, or logic that interfaces that a black person possessing a lighter complexion is treated with a higher esteem than a person with a darker skin color. This form of discrimination crosses a broad spectrum of skin color, it is the sister of light privilege and the cousin of racism. This was taught during the slavery where the lighter slaves were shown favor because their features, skin color, and hair texture was closer to that of the Aryan race (white people), the Nordic eccentric features with include, but not limited to, straight hair, light skin, light eyes, straight nose etc.. Colorism is not just limited to the black community, other dark nations suffer the injustices of it as well, both men and women. Light skinned or Biracial women are on the receiving end of this.

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Colorism, a term believed to be first coined in 1982 by Pulitzer Prize winner author Alice Walker, was defined by her to mean the “prejudicial or preferential treatment of same-race people based solely on their color.

It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women in the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, the brown girls are discriminated against based on the color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to elevated heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, in order to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women and being of a member of the dark nation.

Confessions of a “Colorist.”

Colorist | Unlike a racist, a colorist doesn’t factor race but uses the tone of ones skin to determine chracteristics about an individual.

The Colorist seeks nothing less than to objectify the color aesthetics of dark skin.

My interview with Michael, a 48 year old, Colorist.

Q: What do you think a colorist is?

Michael: A person that denies a person strictly by the color of their skin.

Q: Are you a colorist?

Michael: I think that the term “colorist” is redundant, I would call it to preference instead.

Q: What is your preference?

Michael: I like light women (like yourself) with pretty good long hair, eyes, pretty smile, beautiful figure, and so forth.

Q: You know you can find all the external qualities in dark women to, do you agree?

Michael: No darker women are ugly. I need me a red-bone, yellow-bone dimepiece.

Q: You are a dark skinned man is this a product of self-hate?

Michael: No, not at all. I don’t want someone darker than me I want someone that can make me look good, improve my status, and give me pretty children I can be proud of.

Q: Do you think that there is a problem with your belief system regarding skin color?

Michael: Yes, well, maybe.

Q: Do your thinking your european preception of beauty where did it originate, from the outside world influence or was it taught by your parents?

Michael: When I was a child, my mom always told me to date a light/white woman to have some pretty children with that good hair. I was not able to date darker women, and as I got older, my preference for lighter women never changed. Just maybe there was a level of influence at that young age but its not my fault.

Q: Do you think that your opportunity for success will be impacted by your skin color?

Michael: Dark-skinned men are a hot commodity around the world. I don’t see that happening.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 KJV

The mystery of what the elephant in the room is “”””?”””….Drum roll please, it’s a big one so make preparations right now. Now before you get your panties or boxers in a bunch. Relax free your thinking this is the reality for all of us. This is not something contrived or a figment of our imagination. Now go get you some tea and coffee as we analyze this topic together. The elephant in the room is….. *The Isms* “Racism-Colorism-Texturism-Featurism-Lightism-Shadeism (Pigmentocrcy)-Lookism-Hateism

It is no accident that people of color have been plagued with the nine “isms” associated with our destruction economically, the family, financially, legally, socially, and historically. The ideology of the “isms” progresses from one experience to another. Systemic injustice has plagued our experience and there seems to be on antidotes or solutions in sight.

“The isms”

There are 64 color shades & 64 hair textures. Colorism is indeed a known fact, a direct commencement of hostilities afflicted on an individual based on skin color that is used as the basis for a conclusion, or logic that interfaces that a black person possessing a lighter complexion are treated with higher esteem than a person with darker skin color. This word was first introduced by Alice Walker, the author.  Featurism is discrimination of black women based on facial features. Certain ethnic accentuated features such as a part of a face that contributes to its distinct character, especially the eyes, nose, or mouth. This term was first coined by Robin Boyd in his book The Australian Ugliness (1960). Texturism is discrimination based on hair texture of black women its roughness, smoothness, coarseness, and fineness are judged as good or bad hair. Lightism is the discrimination targeted at light-skinned black women who are validated because of their light skin. The recipients of light-skinned privilege that is mistreated by darker skinned blacks, not fitting in based on color in both the white and black communities.

Colorism, Pigmentocracy, As with racism or prejudice, the concept of colorism has a pejorative connotation. Also, like racism, colorism can be thought of as either dimensional in beliefs or multidimensional in perspective. In regards to colorism, which can be manifested within or across racial and ethnic groups and can be multifaceted in views among all groups of colored people, not just black people. The brown paper bag theory, Snow and Glow organizations have perpetrated the fallacies associated with these mindsets and beliefs. The One drop rule, and Shadeism with Hashtags: #teamlightskin, #teamdarkskin This issue of colorism not only effects black people but any people of color – nonwhite people like East Indians, Asian, South Americans and so on…. In India, light skin on a pedestal whereas here in the United States, white people frequently tan to look darker like us. The British colonization and slavery played a significant role in the separation of people due to their color. Never understood the reasoning because brown is beautiful! The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. The Brown Paper bag rule – In the early 19th century the upper class black American societies would conduct the brown paper bag test to determine if a black person was sufficiently white enough to gain admittance or acceptance in church and other social clubs. If your skin was darker than a brown paper bag, you could not get in and were not accepted. One drop rule was instated in the United States to keep the white lineage pure. Colorism, a term coined by Alice Walker in 1982, is not a synonym for racism. “Race” depends on multiple factors (including ancestry); therefore, the racial categorization does not solely rely on skin color. Skin color is only one mechanism used to assign individuals to an ethnic category, but the race is the set of beliefs and assumptions assigned to that category. Pigmentocracy is the chart in which light skin is measured. The even bigger elephant in the room is the hatred among black people and other nations that view skin color as the determining factor of beauty and success. This brings me to “Lookism,” which is discrimination that affects all countries the world over, Lookism is a concept where discrimination occurs to unattractive people; mainly in the workplace but also in social settings. While not classified in the same way as racism, colorism, and Darkism. Lookism is worldwide and affects how people are perceived as well as changing their opportunities in terms of relationships, job opportunities, perks, and social status.

The “isms” effect all dark nations of the world:

Cuba Tila said, “They hate my nappy hair and dark skin.”

Brazil Adriana said, “My skin is too dark.”

 Mexico Rulo said, “They say I will never get married, I am too dark

 India Mena said, “My Mom buys me the bleaching cream

 Dominican Republic Maricel said, “They said I was dark and ugly.”

 Australia Tessa, “They say my skin is so dark.”

 Nigeria Eunice said, “They say I should bleach my skin.”

 Ethiopia Merit said, “They say I look like a black African.

 Pakistan Nida said, “My friend was prettier because she is fair skinned.

 Canada Jessica said, “They say I am too dark.”

 China Margaret said, “They say I should carry an umbrella to shield me from the sun, my skin is too dark.”

Margaret Hunter in her book, “Race, Gender, and the Politics of Skin tone” which in my opinion the best clinical study on the effects of colorism among blacks and Mexicans … states – “Although typically described as a “black “ or “Chicano” problem, colorism is practiced by whites and people of color alike”

“To be beautiful, handsome, means that you possess a power which makes all smile upon and welcome you; that everybody is impressed in your favor and inclined to be of your opinion; that you have only to pass through a street or to show yourself on a balcony to make friends and to win mistresses from among those who look upon you. What a splendid, what a magnificent gift is that which spares you the need to be amiable in order to be loved, which relieves you of the need of being clever and ready to serve, which you must be if ugly, and enables you to dispense with the innumerable moral qualities which you must possess in order to make up for the lack of personal beauty.” ― Théophile Gautier, Mademoiselle de Maupin

© Vashtiy Alsaudamir, this interview is included in my new book.

Meet the electrifying beauty, Venika Kalambay, a London based fashion model and youtube beauty influencer.

Q: As a model have you ever experienced racism or colorism? If so, give me an example?

I think there are small instances where you can sense undercurrents of racism but I, fortunately, have not had any severe experiences of direct racism, perhaps growing up in London has meant that I am a part of a broader range of cultures and people are more accepting of different religions here. My father lived and worked in the Middle East for about 3 years and visiting him was one of the first experiences where I felt as though I was in a completely different era in terms of time because people were so fascinated by me, my black mother and black sisters.

Q: What was the best compliment you ever received and what was the worst?

I always get complimented on my eyes, I have super big eyes (at least I think) and people always tell me how drawn to them they are. One of the worst compliments I received was actually something that wasn’t outwardly rude but reading between the lines, I understood what was being said. I was at the till point at my job, and I was serving a lady, I could clearly hear from her accent that she was South African. We began to chat and then she said that she thought I was beautiful, to which I replied with the apparent niceties. She then proceeded to ask where I was from, and I replied The Democratic Republic of Congo, to which she then asked if both my parents were black and I replied yes, they were brought up in the same area of Congo. She then asked if I was sure, to which I replied yes, to add another level of awkwardness to this situation she then began to point at my face and say, no, this, this – looking at me – you have to be mixed with something, is there anyone white in your family? At this point, I was convinced she was honestly just trying to find out more about where I had come from when it was explicitly evident what she was trying to say. After this whole awkward conversation, I relayed the entire thing to my colleague, who happened to be a black male and at this point, I was beginning to feel so incredibly stupid and naive as he was attempting to make it clear to me precisely what the woman was hinting at. It was obviously too hard for her to just point out that I was pretty and leave it at that, she couldn’t believe that I was 100% black. This was my very first “pretty for a black girl situation,” and I was fortunate enough to be old enough, I believe I was 21 at the time, to not allow the situation to knock my confidence in any way. The most shocking thing that was her daughter was standing next to her the whole time, and I was so confused as to why she would allow her daughter to be around her when she was making such blatantly racist comments.

Q: Tell me something about yourself that nobody knows?

As confident as I may appear now, it took me a long time to get to this point. I would honestly say that I never really felt beautiful until I was about 19 years old and now I cannot possibly understand how and why it took me so long to appreciate my talents and the qualities I possess that are so unique to me. When I was maybe 14 or 15, I read a book by Kimora Lee Simmons called ‘Fabulosity: What It Is & How to Get It,’ which taught me so much about being a woman, it taught me such incredible and valuable life lessons and most importantly the book helped me to finally gain some confidence and start loving myself. I am so incredibly grateful to Kimora for indirectly giving me that through what she offered in that book, she holds an unusual place in my heart and to this day I always refer to that book as the book that changed my life.

Q: What would you say to a younger girls growing up with issues of colorism? Being hated because she has a darker skin tone?

It took me a long time to finally begin to love myself and my skin and all the little imperfections so I can understand how hard it is for young girls growing up in 2017. My advice would be to stay true to your reality, do whatever it is that makes you happy and have a belief in your magic that is so unwavering that there is not one person that can tell you otherwise. Don’t focus on growing up too fast, as apparent as that advice may seem, as you get older you will definitely wish for those happy moments that you only really have when you’re young, where nothing else matters but having fun at that moment. Be kind and have courage.

Q: Do you think that light skinned women are treated better?

I most definitely think that light skinned women are seen as more desirable. I think particularly in the case of love and relationships, men, especially black men, do always gravitate towards light skinned women, I cannot speak for other areas of life, but that is mainly where I can see evidence of this. I think music culture has definitely contributed towards this, as these women are often more glorified in music videos and popular culture as opposed to darker skinned women, however, I think we see a shift and people are realizing how beautiful darker skin is.

Q: How has been dark-skinned affected your life? Both negatively and positively..?

I wouldn’t necessarily define myself as dark-skinned, I see myself as a black woman, I never put those kinds of labels on myself because I believe people can sometimes get fixated on just being that one thing. What is often the most frustrating thing is that I am black. I have brown skin, I have cousins who have fairer skin than me, but I don’t feel my complexion is particularly dark. But often I think that because some people only see light skin women as the norm, they label everyone even a tad bit darker as dull skin, which I don’t feel is right and it is almost seen as though is a bad thing to be darker. God created us in all different shapes, colors, sizes, and this is the positive that I choose to take from something that can be so negative. I don’t allow those experiences to stay embedded in my head, I remember I am beautiful, smart, kind, and I keep it moving. In the past 2 years, however, being black is definitely being more celebrated, and I am incredibly proud to say that now more than ever, I feel a part of such a healthy community. Since I am a beauty blogger, I would definitely say that sometimes it is challenging because I don’t truly feel that black creators are given opportunities to grow as quick as our white counterparts and this is something we need to push for. I think there are so many beauty brands that are incredibly problematic in not having shade selections that are available for the lightest of light to the darkest of the dark because this contributes to the feeling of colored skin girls not feeling worthy enough to be included. To name a few, Too Faced, Tarte, it is not acceptable, and I will always use my voice to speak about such injustices. While not attempting to discount everything I have just said, I have to be honest and the state as a black woman, I understand the power in my voice, and overall, I have had a positive experience as a black woman in this industry. Whether it be because I am on the lighter end of the spectrum when it comes to “dark-skinned girls,” I’m not sure. I am always going to choose to love myself and to ensure that what I do and my contribution to the world is what sets me apart and not the color of my skin.

My light skin privilege, her dark skin disadvantage

1. Society, media and television programming promote (glibly facile) among black women. 2. Dividing black into the lines of color (willie lynch letter) in slavery days. 3. Parents don’t teach their children how valuable they are in skin color and hair texture but promote self-hatred (tongue) self-hatred spoken in words.

Envy of others is something taught you have been programmed to perceive something that is not necessarily better than you. From the moment you are born, imagery plays a big part, what you hear about yourself. Blacks were taught to be envious of each other in relevance to light skin and dark skin. The light skinned is raised to fill entitlement while the darker skinned is taught to hate the way they look it’s not good enough. Before slavery, there were no weaves, perms, relaxers, lighting creams, or a desire to be anything other than what you were created for. In the beginning, we are beautiful from our hair to the color of our skin. I clothed thee also with broidered work and shod thee with badgers’ skin, and I girded thee about with fine linen, and I covered thee with silk. I decked thee also with ornaments, and I put bracelets upon thy hands and a chain on thy neck. And I put a jewel on thy forehead, and earrings in thine ears, and a beautiful crown upon thine head. Thus wast thou decked with gold and silver, and thy raiment was of fine linen, and silk, and broidered work; thou didst eat fine flour and honey, and oil: and thou wast exceeding beautiful, and thou didst prosper into a kingdom. And thy renown went forth among the heathen for thy beauty: for it was perfect through my comeliness, which I had put upon thee, saith the Lord God. Ezekiel 16:10-14 KJV

Dark Vs Light series… Do light skinned women feel a sense of entitlement? Part 1

90 % of people I questioned stated that MOST but not all light skinned women felt entitled. Here are a few views on this subject. Charmaine, a light-skinned woman with green eyes and kinky short hair. “First of all I am light skinned, but I feel that light skinned women/biracial/multiracial women have a sense of entitlement… we feel entitled in everything we do, and we are better than dark skinned women. We are loved by all the men, and they treat us like trophies and that we are. We are competitive with one another we compete for men and position all the time. Secretly we don’t like each other, at least, with dark skin women, we are sure to stand out without trying, but with one our color we get picked through all the time. So light women, we are the most insecure and hateful because society and people make us feel we are better than the rest. After who do you think started #teamlightskin.” Tiffany, a product of a black father and white mother, light skinned with dark eyes and long curly hair Comment from Tiffany to Jaci, ” Two of my best friends are light skinned we live close to one another, have known each other since university days. We are not backstabbing one another through endless, so your stereotypes are ridiculous. You look black to me just black you just happen to be light, but you still have pure Negroid features and nappy hair. You are nothing like us light skinned people the beautiful ones the ones that count because we are exotic the biracial ones or the multiracial ones. You are just a nappy headed negro who just got lucky to have lighter skin, so don’t speak about us like you are one of us.”

Light Vs Dark Series.. Are dark skinned women filled with jealousy and hatred toward light women? Part 2

80% of dark-skinned women I questioned stated that there was no underlined hatred of light-skinned woman, and if there was it was because of the treatment from the light skinned women or other people in general.


Omokoyo, a dark-skinned coffee shop owner, I hate no one, the experiences that I had with light skinned women have been nothing but evil. I was picked on a lot by light-skinned girls that thought they were better than me, I was teased called darkie and ugly. They had the unwarranted favor they felt they were the shit and the guys loved them. Oh, how I wanted to be them.


Angela, A dark-skinned former beauty queen, Participating in pageants my whole life, the competition was fierce, but most of my light skin fellow contestants were downright nasty to me, but fortunately for me, I have tough skin, and hey I won the pageants! They always said to me, “Don’t play in the sun, my sister.” The Envy among WOMEN in general. The Haters.

Contrary to popular belief, “Envy” is a universal social epidemic not only prevalent to the black woman but to white, Asian, Hispanic, and so many more nationalities. The common thread of this insecurity has spread through white supremacy. The desire to possess something that another has, whether property or even their looks. Women engaged in this pandemonium of envy are at the root of why women compete with one another. The triggers of jealousy for men and women are different. Like some women, most men, are envious of superficial attributes, money, and position in life. Ladies, no woman, like no man, is perfect. No woman is genuinely and utterly content with herself light or dark. It’s a curse to envy I’m not sure we’ll ever fully break the bonds of jealousy, but we can learn to love the skin we are in.

My interview with Emmitel Abongwa Ndumu Ph.D

Q: Do you think colorism and racism the biggest elephants in the room?

Emmitel: Certainly, they were birthed from white supremacy and European colonialism, this thinking is the philosophy of civilization. In Race and the dogma of skin hue, it is the real war but I say throw the baby out with the bath water. When people wake up then change will come.

Q: Does skin color define beauty?

Emmitel: Facial features define beauty – the harmony of facial features along with symmetry places a big part in identifying facial beauty. Skin hue or color is not responsible for defining beauty. Although, people do pay more attention to lighter skin.

Q: What is your take on the light skin/ dark skin situation among people of color?

Emmitel: Worldwide it’s a real struggle among our people, and a superficial one that has taken a dangerous turn with skin lightening creams which has cancer agents in them but still they are going down that path. Bottom line, a woman of any shade must be comfortable in her skin don’t buy into the lie that light is better. Diversity is beautiful and unique.

 Since “Dark Skin” is highly criticized, these are some of the stereotypes and fallacies associated with melanin-carbon enriched dark skin:

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Dark Skinned women are ashy… They are ugly… They are lazy … They are on welfare… They look like monkeys… They are the ugliest woman in the world… They will never get married… They all wear weave… They are evil… Everyone hates them… They don’t get good jobs… They will always be poor… The hair is so nappy… Recipient of Pretty for a dark girl syndrome… Perceived as being envious of all light skinned women… Discriminated against because of skin color… Automatically perceived as being a bad person… Judged primarily on skin color and hair texture…

My Q & A with Roderick Israel, a dark skinned Investment Banker

Q: Do dark skin men experience the same colorism as dark-skinned women?

Roderick: Not exactly but in the business world we really have to prove ourselves.

Q: How do date dark skinned women?

Roderick: Yes exclusively. You are drop dead gorgeous but I love my dark skinned sisters.

Q: What advice would you give to a dark-skinned woman facing colorism?

Roderick: That things will not change for her until she gets into the truth and surrenders all to Christ. Like I told my daughter, the world will never accept her, she must accept herself.

Elvira “Cookie“, a fashion consultant from Panama.

Q. What is the best compliment you have received on your skin color?

Cookie: You’re beautiful for a dark-skinned girl!

Q: How did that make you feel?

Cookie: Actually I wanted to slap the guy that said if he was so ignorant to my feelings. He was saying that dark skin women were not attractive.

Q: What has been your experience as a dark-skinned female?

Cookie: Not good.

Q: Tell me about your experiences.

Cookie: for starters, I was picked on a lot as you know, I was looked over for modeling jobs. I was called ugly, darkie, smut dog, burnt wood, and being from Panama didn’t help they are just as color struck as being blacks in America. None of the guys wanted me they always looked at you, I felt left out, but you ever made me feel good about myself. The guys really were the worst.

Q: Some black men can be so ignorant.

Cookie: They always gave more attention to the light skinned women like you, even if they are not as beautiful as you. That is one thing I couldn’t also understand if a woman is light but ugly, they still preferred her. That is why I dated and married a white man, he treats me like a queen. Q: It is really the facial features that make someone pretty, not the skin color. Those guys had brought into a lie that was set into motion long before we existed.

Cookie: You are so right but it doesn’t take away the pain of not being excepted by your own race.

Q: How did your mother help you deal with it?

Cookie: She didn’t at first, she told me I would never be a symbol of beauty because I was dark. Now she tells me that I am an excellent role model for dark women. Enough about me so – we are talking about me but how about you being light skinned? What is your biggest problem with being light skinned?

Q: I will cover that in the light-skinned privilege section.

Cookie: That is good to know.

Q: Do you think that light skinned women issues are more damaging than dark skin women issues?

Cookie: No, I think dark skinned women have it worse.

Q: So what advice would you give to other dark-skinned girls/women?

Cookie: To be comfortable in your black skin. Your black skin will never change. So love it.

I must admit that it was tough for me to write on this topic of “privilege” I didn’t want to appear to be a narcissist or presumptuous. I believe that physical beauty is measured by your features and symmetry, not skin color. It’s really in the eye of the beholder literally. I have traveled the world, there are endless beautiful dark and light woman the world over, all possess one common thing – their facial features an in harmony together. So the theory that your skin color makes you attractive only is a fallacy. Not to be believed. The whole premise of a debate of light vs. dark is unsettling, ignorant, and not edifying the unity between women of all shades of brown. Willie Lynch created a standard method for teaching slaves divisive behavior and through colonization people around the world have adopted these self – denigrating issues that light skin is the best and anything that deviates from that theory is not good. Lynch supported division to keep the light slaves against the dark slaves to prevent rebellion and unity among blacks. Still, today that residue from the past has conditioned people around the world to adopt “light Skin” as the best. This is a general world problem not just by black people but many nations face this reality daily in America, India, Africa, Latin American, South America, Brazil, Dominican Republic, the West Indies, Mexico, Puerto Rico, and Cuba just to name a few. In these countries, the lighter you are, the more beautiful you are perceived as, the smarter, and the nicer. The Darker you are, the more you have recognized the s menace to society, evil, and ugly. These stereotypes are far from the truth, people of color are still suffering from healthy delusional thinking based on skin color. Most feel that a light-skinned woman has attained a status, reached a level of success, met the European standard of beauty that dark-skinned women could never measure up to. As for the white woman, she doesn’t have to try, they woke up in privilege. They have been born this way. They have become a god.

My light skin privilege

Is Beauty a Gift or a Curse? I was born into the privilege of walking the earth as a genetic freak, often referred to as beautiful. In a world where beauty is considered a gift and a curse. You see it is a double-edged sword for me, on the one hand, I have been praised highly for my physical attributes. Considered the “outcast” or the polar opposite “the trophy doll.” In my lifetime, people have been extremely generous with their compliments on my physical attributes, but on another hand, I live with the curse of being a darker hue toned woman, a non-white woman. There are opportunities that I will never get because of my skin color. The acceptable light skinned synopsis. What is it like to be in a shell, melanin light café au lait hue woman? Honestly, I never thought my color played much in my life, success, or in general. I never really came to that realization until now. I always thought that my personal beauty was based on my facial features and other attributes not so much the pigmentation of my skin I will have to admit that my alleged light-skinned privilege has given me endless opportunities: Opulent gifts from men, modeling opportunities, many marriage proposals, free stuff, better treatment, etc. Is all that people say about you is that you are pretty? Aren’t you tired of people always telling you you’re beautiful? That question was asked continuously of me… People were uncomfortable around me. I was embarrassed about being pretty whenever eruptions of phases referred to my beauty in front of others. I don’t handle attention concerning my aesthetics well. I felt insecure that I would get a compliment while others around me became unnoticed, people around me were irritated by that, even on social media. The negative treatment. This aspect runs so deep, finding myself in the pit on many occasions. Most of the animosity that I experienced from women, in general, were primarily but in the black community, it has been from both light and dark skinned women. Some of my friends are black, but most of my friends throughout the years have been Aryan Caucasian. Enduring many years of haters, negative remarks, jealousy, threats of injury to my being or violence, backstabbers, insecure women, sabotaging opportunities for me, prejudgment, and envy, jealousy, strife from my own people and other nations I have become desensitized by the effects of it now it just rolls off like water on a duck’s back. The Downside of Beauty. I know a lot of women would put the “unfairness treatment” on a specific shade of color, but my negative experiences have been with both light and dark skin women, and also other nationalities. Women, in general, suffer insecurities about their beauty across the board. Caucasian woman, as well as other nations of women, have their own beast of burdens like fitting into the media perception of perfection the supermodel fantasy look. I learned a long time ago that what people say about doesn’t dictate who you are. You have to be comfortable in your own skin.

The image I see in the mirror is what I really look like? Is my image a reflection of the Most High? My outer shell is made of dirt; it will return to the earth as dirt. The real me is not what is apparent to the eye, my soul perhaps? To be politically correct, my soul is my mind, will, and emotions. My soul will separate from my body when the silver cord is broken, at my death. My soul will receive the harshest judgment of all, whether it is placed in Abraham’s bosom of Hades, according to how I lived my life. The image I see is really just an outward expression of skin and features that are judged or scrutinized by the opinions of others. Mankind judges the outside but the Most High looks on the heart. “For man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:17 ..With that said, our emphasis should not be on the flesh but on the condition of our souls.

Ceira

1. Tell me one of your darkest experiences being a light-skinned woman and how you were treated?

In my adult life I’ve never really had any dark experiences being the ‘dark or mixed girl’ in Ireland but when I was a child I was surrounded by white people and kids and was teased a lot of people would call me the “N-word,” made fun of my hair and tell me to straighten it. There was a grown woman that lived in my neighborhood who used to call me a monkey.

2. Is being beautiful a blessing or a curse? 

I think being physically beautiful is a curse because people tend to rely on it to get them through in life when it’s not a permanent thing. Also, people tend to criticize you and direct unwanted attention towards you. If you accept yourself and have confidence in how you look, being a beautiful person on the inside is a blessing as I do believe in karma.

3. What is the best compliment that you have received about your physical appearance? And the worst? 

The best compliments I receive are usually to do with my hair. The worst, “I like your face, but I’m just not into the whole black hair.”

4. Who in the black community treats you the best? Dark skinned women or lighter women? How do the people in Ireland treat you? 

I feel I get the most positive comments from dark-skinned women.

5. Do you feel that black women are united? 

Yes definitely. I’m obsessed with social media and every site I’m a part of the women support and accept each other, especially on Tumblr.

6. Do you think colorism exists and how would you change it? 

Yes, colorism definitely exists but I think most people discriminate subconsciously they don’t set out to hurt people of different races. The best way to start a change is to educate yourself and others and try to be open-minded towards people you don’t identify with an open-minded towards people who don’t identify with you.

7. What advice what you give to black women about life in general?

My advice to black women, in general, always believes you are worthy of love and respect you are terrific.

Astin 



1. Tell me something about you that nobody knows? 

No one really knows that I’m super sensitive. I play it off like I’m ok, but honestly, I’m super responsive.

2. What has been your experiences being a light-skinned woman? How were you treated? By dark-skinned women and other light skinned women? 

My experience being a light-skinned woman has been excellent and bad, on the one hand, other light skin women welcome me with open arms, and some dark skin women did too but not many growing up especially with having long hair. They often accused me of thinking, “I am cute.” Now, as an adult, people often think I am mixed due to my light skin color, the length, and the grade of my hair.

3. Do you think virtue is more important than physical beauty? 

Yes, virtue is more important than physical beauty, especially today. Physical attraction isn’t even real, whereas, getting caught up in physical beauty can and will lead you down the wrong path.

4. Do you think there is an injustice with the way dark-skinned black women are treated? Do you think the Willie Lynch Syndrome still exists today?

I think dark skinned women aren’t really being seen as the real beauty they really are. Their darkness of there skin is vibrant and beautiful, but society makes them seem ugly. The latest trends are mixed girls with black features. Dark skinned women are put in the back view a lot. Yes, I genuinely believe the Willie Lynch syndrome still exist today.

5. What is the best compliment that you have received about your physical appearance? 

My 8-year-old niece told my mom she wants to as beautiful as me and like me when she grew up. I am a woman of the Most High and family woman with modesty and live a natural lifestyle. I want to set an example for another young person is more than I can ask for. Too many lousy role models today.

6. What advice or would you tell a woman or young girl about how your life has changed coming into the truth about the Most High? 

I always thought I would come to the Most High when I was much older. Now I’m in the truth I wish I was way before now. All I need is to know the Most High and that bible is a special gift through the book your eyes will be opened to know good and evil what to watch out for. Your life will be for things that will make sense. And knowing that you and your children can be saved is the more excellent gift. Knowing the truth can really save your soul.

Her dark skin disadvantage

“Blacker the Berry the sweeter the juice. Darker the flesh the deeper the roots” — Tupac Shakur 

The degradation of dark skin has lingering effects from slavery and colonialism. The recipients of the most beautiful hues the most Melanin in the skin. Dark Skinned women are so regal the most beautiful of all their skin is silky and smooth such richness and history. What is Melanin? The pigment that gives human skin, hair, and eyes their color. Dark-skinned people have more melanin in their skin than light-skinned people have. Dark skin has been the ridicule of jokes. Stated as being the ugliest skin color. The most hated but yet the most emulated around the world many Caucasians tan annually to darken their skin. There is a deeper reason, a more sinister revelation, a deeper root conspiracy against the darker skin people. Whose hue unlocks their history. The reason why I named this segment “Dark Skin” disadvantage this is metaphoric representing the pain the injustice to all the dark women around the world. Dark skin is often associated with a lack of privilege with eliminates – “The Dark Skin disadvantage,“ But now in 2017 through social media, these perceptions may change for the better in la la land. Dark skin women are flaunting their melanin and gaining a massive following through natural hair movement and social media outlet only still be ridiculed by their peers. Black women have gone neck to neck with European standards of beauty. In slavery time, the dark-skinned slaves served as field Negros having to endure hot temperatures out in the heat of the south. They lacked the advantages of education, food, clothing, and opportunities as their light-skinned counterparts, who emulated whiteness for their benefits. So the perplexity of sorrow that has been endured by the darker skinned woman can only be deep-rooted in pain for generations. The mere fact of being overlooked by the very people of your race can be disheartening, to say the least. My hearts and my prayers go out to all my beautiful dark skinned sisters. I endorse your beauty as my own, we may be of different colors, but we are of the same stock and dilemma.

I remember the first time I heard this phrase, “The Dark the Berry, the sweeter the juice.” My dark skinned cousin made it in reference to her dark skin being better than my lighter skin.

Although there is a hatred for the darker woman of color, through my studies, there have been instances were the darker girls were perceived as beautiful. Here is another perspective of being Dark Skin from the strikingly beautiful Fumi Desalu-Vold, a dark-skinned fashion model and actress. This exert is from an episode of her youtube program “Sister2Sister” – the episode titled “DARK GIRLS” -My life as a DARK skinned woman” (Fumi Fashion and Beauty), Not all experiences of black women are alike, relatively that depends on what area of the earth you reside in.

I was very intrigued by what she said, “While in Scotland, she and her other siblings were spoiled by everyone, they were perceived as being special she experiences no racism what so ever this was in the ’70s.” Then when she moved to Nigeria, she noticed that a lot of women who bleached their skin. I think the most fundamental thing in any young girl’s life is her father, his acceptance of her beauty, and she had it. He told her she was beautiful. She didn’t experience any white supremacy, becoming the first supermodel of Nigeria. While at University in London she was often asked to model for the art department as well as the fashion department, they marveled at her look and skin color. The men from many nationalities highly regarded her as beautiful, especially the men from Italy, a country that is known for their love of black women. While in America, she discovered that it is a melting pot of nations and that her perceptive of herself might have been different if she lives there first.”

Wahima

Q: What was your most negative experience being a dark skin girl?

Wahima: As a dark-skinned adolescence I had many things said to me because of my skin tone. I was called names like “blackie” and “Tar baby”, but the worst is when I was called ugly directly to my face in a very casual, nonchalant manner by a boy in my class.

Q: What is the best compliment you have received on your physical beauty?

Wahima: The best compliment I’ve ever gotten was when I was 17 and a guy said to me “You know how they say a picture is worth a thousand words? You’re worth 2000”

Q: Who was your greatest inspiration?

Wahima: My older sister has been the greatest inspiration in my life. She has been through a lot in her life and yet she manages to keep her head up and move forward. She is one of the most pleasant, caring and loving people I’ve come in contact with.

Q: List anything you want to share your experiences as a dark-skinned woman?

Wahima: I’ve had good and bad experiences with being dark skinned, and most of it has been uphill through a tunnel. I’ve been so lucky to be able to come out the other side with confidence. The purpose  is to help uplift and help encourage other dark-skinned ladies to embrace their skin and their beauty. I want them to feel like they are apart of the beauty conversation and know that their beauty is valuable and worthy of praise.

Colorism around the World 

(Nigeria) Olaniyi Adeosun-Obabiyi

Q: How does skin bleaching affect Nigerian women?

Olaniyi: In Nigeria, it has become a common trend for women to bleach their skins. I have often asked other women the reason the phenomenon is on the rise, the women tell me that it’s because of the men; that men seem to prefer light skinned women. My respondent said to me if women are gathered in a place, they always see only the light-skinned ones. So in all of this, my understanding is that women who bleach have this sense of inadequacy and inferiority complex. The most unfortunate is the fact that some use very cheap creams to carry out this their trade. I have once had close ties with women that do the business of mixing these bleaching creams, and they tell me, they make a lot of money from their fellow women.

Q: Do you prefer light skinned women?

Olaniyi: I think I have dated lighter skinned women more in my life. Yea I can tell u I like stunning women and somehow, unfortunately, I tried to drop my taste, and unfortunately, it never fell. But if you ask me in all sincerity, what I usually look out for is a woman I am attracted and connected to. If a woman is light skinned and empty-headed, I am not interested. I am, and I will always be attracted to intelligence. Beauty will ever fade away, what’s left is the content.

(Mexico) Maria

Q: What are some of your experiences as a Mexican with the light skin vs. dark skin issue?

Marie: In my country, they value light skin at birth if you have light skin and bright eyes you are appreciated. Dark people are not worthy.

(USA) James

Q: How do white people view this light skin vs. dark skin issue among people of color?

James: I am married to a dark-skinned black woman who is very beautiful. As a white man and other white men can attest to this – We don’t look at the color of a black woman, dark is dark, there are no light people within the black community to us there are all black and we often wonder why it is such an issue along with natural hair with black people.

(Germany) Earnest

Q: What do you think about the rivalry between light vs. dark?

Earnest: It is only black people to measure themselves on skin color; it is time to wake up from our slumber and unite as a people.

(France) Julian

Q: Does the issue of light skin affect black men too?

Julian: No as bad as women but I do recall being called light bright and almost white in school as well be referred to as a ghost, but the white people treated me as one of them literally. Where women are concerned, I think the problem is that a lot of black men are color struck and that plays into all the hype surrounding this issue. Being a light-skinned man is was called the pretty boy a lot growing up

(China) Huang

Q: Is skin color relevant in China?

Huang: Pale skin is the epitome of beauty in China. A lot of women bleach their skin daily to achieve this look. We stay out of the sun.

Q: What is your experience?

Huang: I don’t use bleaching creams, but a lot of my relatives do. I just enjoy the skin I have that comes with ridicule from my relatives, but I have to learn to live with it. ‘Bai Fu Mei,’ which means the white, wealthy, and beautiful ideal standard for beauty for my country. In Asia, light skin is esteemed highly because it reflects high class in social circles, while dark skin is indicative of working manual labor outside associated with the poor.

(South Africa) Roger Tinley

Q: Is light skin important to men or is it just a woman issue?

Roger: It is relevant to everyone, men and women. We perceive light skin as a trophy because it is closer to white. I love the look of light skin.

(India) Shweta Rai

Q: Is light skin relevant in India?

Shweta: Yes, very much so. We worship light skin, we all want it, desire it. We think it makes us more beautiful and desirable in terms of marriage. We are told as girls that if we’re going to be chosen in marriage, we must lighten our skin. Bollywood endorses light skin that needs to change. Many dark girls and guys in India are pretty too. I am dusky that is why I support various lighting creams, I want to be fair and beautiful plus I want a husband, and this gives me a fair chance. Billions of dollars are spent annually for fairness creams in India, this is a precursor to marital status, and the naked Bollywood celebrities are literally worshipped as gods.

(Dominican Republic) Angela Gonzales

Q: Is being light skin important in the Dominican Republic?

Angela: My mother taught us to use bleaching creams and marry someone lighter than us to keep our race white looking. Like all the Caribbean and Hispanics countries all like light skin.

(Nigeria) Ugo Nwoke

Q: How important is light skin in Nigeria?

Ugi: Light skin from my personal observation seems to be selling in Nigeria. As far as looking beautiful goes, most women chose to lighten up their skin, and that calls for bleaching. The women in Nigeria bleach their skin as they wear lipstick daily. People pay more attention to light-skinned people, and a lot of women bleach their skin. I instead think Its more the colonial thing and what is seen on television and magazines. There is a fascination for light skin.

(Mexico) Maria Elena

Q: Is being light skinned or dark skinned an issue in Mexico?

Maria Elena: Yes, as a child, my Mom told me I was too dark. She would never let me go outside in the sun. I noticed that the lighter Mexicans were valued as being prettier. If you had bright eyes and skin, you were considered a treasure.

(North American Indian) Steven

Q: Is being light skin important within Indians?

Steven: When a tribe has a baby that has blonde hair and blue eyes, they are treated like this baby is a symbol of God. The baby is esteemed as very special and will have all the benefits entitled to light skin people.

(South Africa) Joyce

Q: How many procedures do you do annual to lighten the skin?

Joyce: 100 per month, maybe more or less but on the average 100 procedures per month. Q: Do you think light skin should be a reflection of beauty?

Joyce: No I think your features are they are more celebrated to change in my line of work.

I think people in my country place to much value on the way they look.

Q: What was a personal experience that you had with colorism?

Joyce: My first experience was with my Mom, who said, “I was so cute, but if I had light skin and long hair, I would be a beauty queen.” This was devastating to me, parents need to be aware of what they say to their children.

The Light Skin Preference

Dense, short, skinny, light eyes, dark eyes, white teeth, big but, long legs, long hair, short hair, or big boobs. These and other terms are associated with general preferences of individuals. The dividing line where choice becomes detrimental when you down another to fulfill your quota of personal preference. Clearly, preference can be defined as a selection of somebody or something: the view that one person, object, or course of action is more desirable than another, or a choice based on such a view. From the perspective of the “big picture,” we have options some are manipulated by our parents and the media as we identify with the culture and skin color. The psychological problems associated with preference, we are hard-wired at birth or in our most impressionable years to perceive you truth of another. We have got to come to an understanding of who we are (dilemma 11) and come together as a people. We as a people are so indifferent instead of embracing the whole spectrum of our array of color or hue we discriminate among our own people. I am sure that Willie Lynch is clapping in his grave for him did an excellent job of separating a people according to skin color, are we the modern day Willie Lynch? When will black people wake up? What are the preferences? Is beauty in the eye of the beholder or is it … Preference? We all have choices – Do we prefer coffee or tea? Do we prefer to wear this or that? Do you favor or dark people? What is a preference? A selection of somebody or something; the view that one person, object, or course of action is more desirable than another, or a choice based on such a view. What is a preference made? It can be embedded in teachings and philosophy by society. The power of suggestion like beauty can convince a person of believing a myth or lie. You hear or see something so much that it can become a preference. Preferences are actually performed to us through media, what you see is what you esteem the best. As a child, they can be programmed to accept anyone standard of beauty, through watching hours of television programming. We all have our preferences but where the danger lies when our decisions affect another person or shed light on an individual in a negative light. For examples:

1. Taking negative about your own race. (the self-hating negro)

2. Marrying someone to have light kids with curly hair. (the lousy hair myth)

3. Putting all black women or man in a bag together. (stereotypes of the black woman that don’t apply to everyone)

Proverbs 22:6 KJV “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Which is stating that there is a level of conditioning training that a child must go through to be able to except themselves and not be a partaker of negative views of superficial aspects of one’s self. Trying to differentiate the reason why there is such a light skin preference which leads to destruction mentally. I sometimes feel that it has always been about the white people controlling the slaves encouraging the controlled populations to fight amongst themselves so that they can be more easily manipulated. So I go back to slavery which was the biggest determiner of our psyche as black people. Willie Lynch Letter + Colonization = The Great Divide among our ancestor’s Media views of black people + parental agreement = Disillusionment of our people

Fullten, who is a mixed raced woman on tumblr stated,

“As a product of a black man chasing after white women, it makes me super uncomfortable when black men reblog my photos, and I go to their page, and it’s nothing but either, white girls or lite bites. Like, my dad dated nothing but white women, and my mother seemed to gravitate towards this type of black man, who would get a ton of arbitrary African statues from pier 1, listen to nothing but jazz, only buy from black artists, and yet, seemed to exclusively go for white women. I’ve heard my stepfather at the time say he loved her pale skin, and that he didn’t even know she was Spanish, he just saw white. These men foolishly gravitate towards whiteness like a moth to a low watt light bulb in the dark. My father and stepfather used the whiteness of my mother and the women they dated as a status symbol. It was common for my father to say ‘I got a big house, a Corvette, and a hot wife,’ she was tall, white, and blonde, and she hated when he said that. She hated when he listed her among his possessions. He used her as ‘proof’ of his success at the time. That if anyone looked at his life, they would see a successful black man, and a white wife solidified that. I hate it because this mentality comes at the price of dark-skinned black women and women who are proud of their blackness. It seems like something they need to stomp out. I dated a lot of black men who fetishized my light skin, and hated dark skin and anything that was linked to blackness in women, they tied it in with failure, ugliness, poverty… So many comments about my afro and hair, they wanted straight hair, I had to adhere to the European ideal of beauty as best as I could. I remember drawing black women and getting comments from these guys, laughing at my work, ‘why did you draw her so dark??’ but when I brought dark men, there was never any laughing. I noticed how my father treated my grandmother, sometimes well, but towards the end, it was horrible. Just using her and nothing else. There was no respect. Black men who chase white women and lite bites ain’t shit. They hate dark skin women, and they hate blackness outside and inside themselves.”

“If you’re black, stay back; if you’re brown, stick around; if you’re yellow, you’re mellow; if you’re white, you’re all right.”

Redbone – Yellow Bone – Bright – Light bright almost white – Wannabee – White girl – Darkie – Ugly – Tar Baby – Blackie – mellow yellow – midnight – Jigaboo – pretty for a dark girl – burnt – angel – blue-black It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women in the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, brown girls are discriminated against based on color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to lofty heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think about a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be. Its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women and being of a member of the dark nation.

Racial Caste System

This system introduces the white woman as the hierarchy of beauty, which has been the world’s declaration since the dawn of slavery. Through media, and the invention of television, we are brainwashed daily with the Eurocentric kind of beauty. What indeed is the Racial Caste System? The caste system as it exists today is thought to be the result of developments during the collapse of the Mughal era and the British colonial regime in India. The failure of the Mughal age saw the rise of powerful men who associated themselves with kings, priests, and ascetics, affirming the regal and martial form of the caste ideal, and it also reshaped many apparently casteless social groups into differentiated caste communities. The British Raj furthered this development, making rigid caste organization a central mechanism of administration. Between 1860 and 1920, the British government segregated Indians by caste, granting administrative jobs and senior appointments only to the upper castes. Social unrest during the 1920s led to a change in this policy. From then on, the colonial administration began a policy of positive discrimination by reserving a certain percentage of government jobs for the lower castes. Aryan Race is the master race that was a concept in Nazi ideology in which the Nordic or Aryan races, which were thought to predominate among Germans and other northern European peoples, were deemed the highest in an assumed racial hierarchy. The Nazi official Alfred Rosenberg believed that the Nordic race (not limited to blondes but all classes of hair color with Nordic features) was descended from Proto-Aryans who he believed had prehistorically dwelt on the North German Plain and who had ultimately originated from the lost continent of Atlantis. The Nazis declared that the Nordics (now referred to as the Germanic peoples), or Aryan as they sometimes called them, were superior to all other races. The Nazis believed they were entitled to expand territorially.

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What is the most celebrated skin color? (www.theperfechumanface.com)

49% Light skin 20% Dark Skin 32% It doesn’t matter.

Order of rank for Racial Caste System

1. Nordic/Aryan (white)

2. Asian

3. Hispanics

4. Black

Standard of beauty for the world – Nordic beauty is arguably the most promoted beauty in the media around the world. Cited as “the ideal beauty” (White women) possessing blonde hair, blue eyes are arguably the archetype of beauty.

Straight hair, pale skin, thin body, and light eyes.

Asian standard of beauty – Pale white skin, Heart shaped face (v face shaped), large eyes, small pointed nose, little feet, and slender frame. The

Hispanic standard of beauty – Light skinned and light eyes (features that adopted a more European look)

The black standard of beauty – Light skinned and long hair (features intimately favoring that of white women) This prejudice exists among blacks

Order of rank for Black Caste System

1. Light Skin Blacks

2. Dark Skin Blacks

The light skinned woman is questionably considered the most beautiful among black people. Long hair is preferred. The dark-skinned woman has been declared the ugliest of the black woman, the subject of ridicule because of skin color and hair texture.

My interview with Trina, a light-skinned Indian model & businesswoman

Q: What are the views in India concerning beauty? Is light skin or dark skin an issue?

Trina: International standards are fast modeling and re-shaping the precepts of beauty in India- at least to my knowledge. I can’t opine on behalf of almost a billion people but according to my individual experiences big eyes-pointed straight nose-bow lips-at least 5’7 is the general beauty paradigm. Fair skin is a HUGE advantage and does add to a girl’s reputation. But thankfully, people realize the importance of healthy, glowing skin irrespective of the tone. In 20 years maybe India will be as appreciative of the dark and glossy surface as it is of excellent and luminescent today. I have had an unfair advantage in several situations because of my fair skin. Like interviews and even a positive impression on teachers in college. Put a light complexioned studious girl beside a dark-skinned equally diligent girl, and the former will always come out better!

Q: What I would like to know about in India is the skin lightening epidemic and what has been your experience with that? How much do Indians spend on skin lightening creams annually?

Trina: Skin lightening is definitely NOT a fad where India is concerned. Even though the British have left, the yoke of fair skin oppression still afflicts us. Fair is beautiful, without exception almost all over the country. Men might deny that they aren’t complexion conscious and label actresses like Bipasha Basu attractive. But at the end of the day, it is a Kareena Kapoor who rules the Box Office. I personally do not spend much on skin lightening products. But I would say the average Indian woman quickly spends Rs. 5000 a year on facials and enhancers.

My interview with Anita, a dark-skinned Indian student

Q: What are the views in India concerning dark skin and light skin?

Anita: Light skin is definitely favored, it can affect you getting the good job or a husband.

Q: How has this affected you?

Anita: When I was young I was told by Mum and other family members that I was too dark and that I would never get married. It’s about the Caste system you know. Us dark Indians are frowned upon in society. This is why I had to leave India. My country is the worst, a girl and gets martyred because of her dark skin color. I was not willing to bleach my brown skin. India is very satanic with the worship of so many pagan gods.

Q: With a country is so heavy into idol god worship, how did you escape?

Anita: The attitudes of my family drove me away then I saw the light when I traveled to the west.

Q: Who is your beauty inspiration? Anita: That is easy, you are, I have admired your striking beauty, grace, kindness, and charisma.

My interview with Sanjay, an Indian web designer

Q: What are the views in India concerning dark skin and light skin?

Sanjay: Light skin is better is the motto of the South Asian. That is not my view but it is shared by most. The women in my family endorse fairness creams. I know the British regime is to blame for this. I have been told I must marry light skin so our children will be fair.

Q: You live in Ghana (Africa) now, how is it different from India?

Sanjay: The people are more chill. India is far worse, from what I have seen with the obsession with having light skin.

Q: Is it a custom in India only to marry light skinned women?

Sanjay: Yes, well most of the marriages are arranged, and the dowry may be higher to marry a darker woman. They love women that look like Aishwarya Rai, she is highly desired for the mere fact of the light eyes and skin. I personally, don’t find her attractive, she looks white. If you looking at Indian actresses, I think Priyanka Chopra is much more beautiful.

Q: How did this affect you when you chose your wife? And how did your family react to your chose of the wife?

Sanjay: It had no effect, my wife is a black smoking hot, dark-skinned woman, from South Africa. My family was not happy about it, they wanted me to marry a Bengali girl they picked. I wasn’t having it. The people in my country have a hatred for black people, but secretly they know there is something peculiar about them.

Light skin is favored to divide and conquer the dark nations. To keep our people divided to retain the oppressor dominance in this world, this oppressor wants to remain its position on top. If the wicked countries would discover the truth in who they really are, it would literally set them free. The dividing lines of color are among the dark nations, the people of color, to most Caucasian/white people we are all considered Dark skinned.

Colorism is defined as the racism between people that possess color to their skin, stating that light skin is the most coveted. Colorism is something that was taught during Slavery to separate the light from the dark, the excessively curly hair from the loosely textured hair. The descendants of slaves have bought these myths and dwell on these beliefs daily. They hate each other and anything that is a close resemblance to the white race is praised. The white people of that time conditioned the minds of the Negro that further their agenda that they are the superior being. Through much negative mind conditioning, the black people bought this lie. Who told us that our hair or skin color wasn’t good enough, mere people, right? Truthfully, people don’t have a heaven or hell to put you in, do they? We can put up a thousand articles about Colorism and videos nothing will ever change.

 What defines us?

Is our virtue not our color Let’s embrace our uniqueness Ladies Just like your eye color dimensions to your fingerprint were as unique Why should the world win in the mist of sin I’m light you dark we both can win.

Don’t let the world define you. Don’t let them tell you who you are. Don’t let them stop you from taking your rightful place. Don’t let them stop you. Don’t let them tell you that light skin is better than dark skin. Don’t let them tell you to fit into the Europeans standards of beauty. Don’t let them stop you from being all the creator wants you to be. Don’t let them define you. Don’t let them tell you that you are not made in the creator image and likeness. Don’t let them separate us. Don’t let them keep you from the kingdom of God.

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The answer to “Colorism” is to repent of our sins, seek the father in heaven, our creator, the Most High God of Israel. Purify your mind and thoughts with the word of the Most High (the holy bible) He will teach you who you are, your purpose and destiny. We were sold into slavery due to our iniquities and transgressions against the Most High. Seeking the Most High and renewing your mind will change your thinking about yourself, making people aware of it will not change, the conditioning as already permeating the souls of our people. Repent and return to the Most High, that is the only way.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV