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Dilemma 11 – "The Brown Boy Dilemma"

Lead her like Abraham.  Provide for her like King David. Take comfort in her like Isaac. Fight for her love like Jacob. Care for her like Boaz. Love her like the Savior

Around the world in Africa, India, and even parts of the middle east has the lowest incidences of divorce. Have you ever wondered why? For starters, the families (mom and dad) have a more invested interest in seeing it succeed with areas of accountability as being more involved with the union of man and wife. While here in America, we have the 50/50 mentality, I’ll get mine, so you bring yours. The independent woman (I don’t need a man) product of the feminist movement meets the uneducated male (no clue on how to be a provider) or his role within the family. Before Eve, Adam had a job and several of them. He was the provider, the caregiver, and the priest. Clearly, a man should be in a position to take care of his family that is a command from the Most High because,

“The Plight of the Black man in America since the civil right movement in the time of the flower children, the baby boomers, the women’s liberation within the last 30 years, seventy-two percent of households have become a one-parent family where the women wear the pants in the family. They provide as the headship of the family because the views of the black man or Hebrew man is reliant on impregnating then leaving. We have fallen prey to immoral issues and radical movements of the sixties which brought about a desire to snow as much flesh to see its called advertisement and today its all about the American dream: the money, sex, fornication, and adultery. Lack of moral values. This is blatant throughout the media and the Christian church, our neighborhoods, the streets, schools, and especially those pits of sin – the night clubs. Such an alarming numbers of our families structures/ or foundations have been destroyed as a vast number of uninstructed mis-educated youth walking the earth being thrust into an already falling economy. Our problems have to do with spiritual issues lack of the truth.

With all the egocentricity, laying down with woman, she is with child, and then you abandon her. You don’t stick around to take care of the child. So you leave the mother and child open for anything. You are not there to nurture your son or daughter. You leave them fatherless. The mother going from man to man while instilling distorted ideas her daughter, who becomes whorish, after all, she sees her mother go from man to man. Your son, he is now conditioned to love them then leave them. He becomes effeminate and has no sense of responsibility. Due to the absence of the father, the family is in jeopardy.

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The Plight of the Black man in America since the civil right movement in the time of the flower children, the baby boomers, the women’s liberation within the last 30 years, seventy-two percent of households have become a one-parent family where the women wear the pants in the family. They provide as the headship of the family because the views of the black man or Hebrew man is reliant on impregnating then leaving. We have fallen prey to immoral issues and radical movements of the sixties which brought about a desire to snow as much flesh to see its called advertisement and today its all about the American dream: the money, sex, fornication, and adultery. Lack of moral values. This is blatant throughout the media and the Christian church, our neighborhoods, the streets, schools, and especially those pits of sin – the night clubs. Such an alarming numbers of our families structures/ or foundations have been destroyed as a vast number of uninstructed mis-educated youth walking the earth being thrust into an already falling economy. Our problems have to do with spiritual issues lack of the truth. With all the egocentricity, laying down with woman, she is with child and then you abandon her. You don’t stick around to take care of the child. So you leave the mother and child open for anything. You are not there to nurture your son or daughter. You leave them fatherless. The mother going from man to man while instill distorted ideas the her daughter, who becomes whorish, after all she see her mother go from man to man. Your son, he is now conditioned to love them then leave them. He becomes effeminate and has no sense of responsibility. Due to the absence of the father, the family is in jeopardy.

For, behold, the Lord, the Lord of hosts, doth take away from Jerusalem and from Judah the stay and the staff, the whole stay of bread, and the entire stay of water. The mighty man, and the man of war, the judge, and the prophet, and the prudent, and the ancient, The captain of fifty, and the honorable man, and the counselor, and the cunning artificer, and the eloquent orator. And I will give children to be their princes, and babes shall rule over them. And the people shall be oppressed, every one by another, and every one by his neighbor: the child shall behave himself proudly against the ancient, and the base against the honorable. When a man shall take hold of his brother of the house of his father, saying, Thou hast clothing, be thou our ruler, and let this ruin be under thy hand: Isaiah 3:1-6 (KJV)

We are affected by various political, economic, social, and spiritual dilemmas. These are facts, but there is a solution. 1. Set up the welfare system to entrap the women to keep her away from the man. 2. Incarcerate black or Latino men with maximum sentences for smaller crimes than their white counterparts. 3. Pit the man against the women 4. The feminist movement – Teach the women to be like men 5. Black men dying at alarming rates due to police brutality 6. Keeping fathers out of the homes than the next generation to being lost But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men. And he called the multitude, and said unto them, Hear, and understand: Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man. Then came his disciples, and said unto him, Knowest thou that the Pharisees were offended after they heard this saying? But he answered and said, Every plant, which my heavenly Father hath not planted, shall be rooted up. Let them alone: they are blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch. Matthew 15:9-14 (KJV)

Author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs states in his book “Love and Respect“ pg. 168 ,

“The first question a man usually asks another man when they meet for the first time is, “What do you do?” … most men identify themselves by their work. God created men to “do” something in the field. Watch young boys as they pick up sticks and turn them into imaginary guns or tools. Recently a mother told us she had prevented her son from having any toy guns or using sticks as pretend rifles, but when he made his cheese sandwich into the form of a pistol and was shooting a friend, she cried out in exasperation, “I give up.” Mothers should never give up because this is simply part of a boy’s nature. He is called to be a hunter, a worker, a doer. He wants to make his conquest in the field of life. The academic term for this is the “instrumentality of the male.” From childhood, there is something in a male that makes him like adventure and conquest. He wants to go into the field to hunt or to work some way.”
Lack of education and Indoctrination has to lead us far from the truth only with small bits of knowledge of the bible. The bible says, “my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge” and that knowledge is of self. Religion has been taught to us by gentiles and religious leaders from the Catholic Church. Sunday between 9 am to 11 am is the most segregated time. In 321 A.D. Constantine decreed that Sunday (1st day) would be the new Sabbath instead of Saturday (7th Day). Because the blindness we are blinded to the fact of a relationship with the Most High, so we are left to endear deep-seated moral and spiritual torture. Where did we wrong? We refused to follow instructions given to us, the holy commandments and statutes of the Most High given to us by the mouth of the creator that created all thing instead we followed the doctrines of self-made men. We have assimilated into the cultures of those that put us into captivity or slavery. As a result, we lost our identity the very acknowledgment of who we are as a people, but the Most High set a time that we would awake for deliverance as spoken by the mighty prophets.

Negative racial stereotypes are a special challenge for African-American males, especially in the workforce. One of the greatest challenges that I have had to overcome happens to be the negative stereotypes about African-American males. I have had countless experiences wherein people have reacted to me in a negative way simply because of my skin color. These negative reactions were the result of negative stereotypes. One of the experiences that I have had many times over the years happens to be the issue of being perceived as a thug, a robber, a thief, or someone who is extremely violent simply because of my skin color. These negative stereotypes are also present in the workforce. African-American males experience great levels of stress simply because of how they look. Without saying anything or doing anything African-Americans males are prejudged based upon negative racial stereotypes. Many people are oblivious to this truth because they have not experienced this type of stress-inducing prejudice. I have had this experience countless time. — Lenon Honor
Effeminate Black Males
Girl you ain’t nothing nice .. Snap snap
Effeminate is an offensive term: an offensive end used to describe a man whose behavior, appearance, or speech is considered to be similar to that traditionally associated with women or girls .. Men that grow up under Moms no Dad look to Mom as the head of the family structure. They emulated the feminine characteristics lacking good role models.
My Q & A with ArchbishopR
Q: What is an effeminate male?
“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,” 1 Corinthians 6:9 An “effeminate” man in this verse is one who has rejected his masculinity and identifies as a female. His attire, in some cases, is that of a female. His mannerisms are female like. Very sensitive, caught in his feelings, cries a lot, and lacks the desire to operate in the purpose he was created for. He is not an alpha male but more passive in nature. There are exceptions to this rule when there is not a man in the house, a male child is more susceptible in taking on some feminine traits. That is not to say he will be a homosexual, but his reasoning and logic may be more female emotionalism. When perversion is introduced, it escalates when men abandon their real purpose in creation. An identity crisis starts and is encouraged by society. Q: How do we solve the problem of the effeminate male? I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless, I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20). Seek the Most High, repent, and follow his laws. The Messiah is the answer no way around it.
 ***3 TYPES OF MEN***
The Wealthy man
This man is interested in you, how to fix your problems, and how to cultivate you and your lifestyle. He wants nothing from you, other than your time.
The 50/50 man
What are you bringing to the table? This type of man is referred to as a “Dusty” a “Bob the builder kind of guy” wanting you to pay half the bills these are highly coveted by the “Pick-me chicks.” This one is quite interesting, seeing over 65% of the population of men fall into this category.
The Lazy man
This type of man takes pleasure in being provided for by a woman, they tend to watch video games all day while justifying it with they can’t find a job.
~~~~A Man’s true biblical role as a husband~~~~

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. Ephesians 5: 23-30

Be a leader.

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 1 Corinthians 11:3 KJV Bible For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:23-24 In his commentary on his new book on biblical marriage, Dr. Peters points out that the Most High .. Places the ultimate responsibility on the shoulders of husband… in being the Priest, the leader, the provider, the spiritual head of the family… being the Head. The Head doesn’t mean to exert alpha male-ism, where he can misuse, beat, torment, treat her as a sex slave… but to nurture her and lead her and the family to the Most High. Men who are leaders get their instructions from the Most High. They take over, control, guide, and get things done. The Feminist movement and Slavery robbed Men of their place in the home while exerting women above the Man but with the Most High’s design for marriage, we will overcome. When God presented Eve to Adam in the Garden, Adam received her as a gift of great value to the Most High and him. When husbands, particularly Israelite husbands, do not treat their wives as a precious gift from the Most High and helpmate, they can cause those wives to search for a way to find significance and value as persons, often outside the Most High’s will.

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Love your wife

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this, the cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. Ephesians 5:25-31 KJV One of the best ways to do that is to affirm her constantly. Let her know verbally that you value her, respect her, and love her. Serve your wife. The Savior, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands and that he was come from God, and went to God; He riseth from supper, and laid aside his garments; and took a towel, and girded himself. After that, he poureth water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel wherewith he was girded. John 13: 4-5 KJV

When is the last time you washed her feet, brought her a gift, meet some of her needs. What troubles her daily, the fears she may have, and her pressures? Have you washed her with the water of the word. You must fill her cup, she fills the little ones daily. Our love for her is conveyed through action.

1. Be a leader (Priest of your home) initiate the leadership responsibility. This role was never intended for women to do.

2. Be a provider (Foot all financial responsibilities of the family)

3. A self-controlled man (Disciplined in the Bible)

4. Be a servant ( a man after the Most High own heart)

5. Teach your wife to be right with the heavenly father. To follow his standards and not the world’s standards. Glamour is for magazine covers not for everyday life.

6. Be an influencer to your family the way the creator meant it to be.

Providing for your wife and family also means taking the initiative in helping meet her spiritual needs. You do this by modeling godly character, by praying with her, by spending time together in the Bible and looking for ways to encourage her spiritually.

The bone of my Bone and Flesh of my Flesh To be a frontrunner, a lover, and a servant is to accommodate your life to the life of the gift God has given you—your wife. Give up your experience for hers and, at the judgment seat of Christ, He will say, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant.”

My Q & A with Dr. Peters, a married man of 30 years

Q: What is your secret to longevity in married? Dr. Peters: Keeping the Most High first, secondly loving my wife as Christ loves the Church. Not letting anyone come against my wife, not even our children. My wife is a gift from the Most High. Q: What advice would you give to a man thinking about entering into marriage? Dr. Peters: About 20 years ago, a man came into my office for marriage counseling, at that time, he blessed me by saying, “God created the family before he created the Church. The needs of my family come before anything, other than the Most High God. I never forgot what he said there, and later I would discover that what he was saying was a Biblical concept. A man must be the Most High first with the execution of the commandments, teach his family, and love his wife. Q: Give a wisdom pearl to share? Dr. Peters: I will tell a man never to compliment a woman higher than you would your wife, treat her as she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Q: Do you think a woman should work? Dr. Peters: That is really not what the Most High God intended from the beginning, our children need to be taught, she can stay home, I will provide. So my answer is HER place in our home. Q: What makes a Godly (Most High) husband? Dr. Peters:

1. Self Disciplined Man-

The ability to control your own behavior, especially in terms of reactions and impulses And the LORD God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. Genesis 2:15

2. Provider –

A woman should always be better than when she marries a man. Her needs and the children needs should be met in every way. The scriptures clearly say that a man is supposed to be the chief in terms of finance for his family. A woman is there to assist him with the house and the children. But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own home, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. 1 Timothy 5:8 In all labor there is profit: but the talk of the lips tendeth only to penury. Proverbs 14:23 Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise: Which having no guide, overseer, or ruler, Provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest. How long wilt thou sleep, O sluggard? When wilt thou arise out of thy sleep? Yet a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to sleep: So shall thy poverty come as one that travelleth, and thy want as an armed man. Proverbs 6:6-11

3. Communicator

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7 Pray for her and read the bible to her. Listen to her problems and be by her side.

4. Selfless

“He, that being often reproved hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.” Proverbs 29:1 Think of her feelings and put her needs before yours. 5. Protector …giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7 Lay your life down for her, let no one hurt her, or speak ill of her in your presence. Give all due respect and make others around you adapt that behavior.

6. Independent Man

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 Making your wife only second to Christ, most importantly, on this order the Most High, the Savior, then your wife, then children. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24 (KJV) The Bible shows us by the “leave and cleave” concept of marriage that as husbands once we are married, our parents now come second to our wife. So when all things are equal, while our wife comes second to God – she is to be our first priority amongst our family members and anyone but the Most High himself. But I want you to notice a key phrase I use here “when all things are equal.” “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:” – Ephesians 5:25 & 28-29 (KJV) Our children come after our wives but before other family members and priorities Remember the passage from I Timothy 5:4-8 where the Apostle Paul tells us that the first way we put our religion in practice is in our home? The needs of our children come only after our service to the Most High and then the needs of our wife. But the needs our children come before other priorities. “A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children’s children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.” – Proverbs 13:22 (KJV) “The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.” – Proverbs 20:7 (KJV) “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they are discouraged.” – Colossians 3:21 (KJV) “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” – Ephesians 6:4 (KJV) “As ye know how we exhorted and comforted and charged every one of you, as a father doth his children,” – I Thessalonians 2:11 (KJV)  As fathers we have a responsibility to care for the physical and spiritual needs of our children. In the same way that marriage is to be a model of the relationship between God and his people, so too the father/child relationship is yet another model of the relationship between our heavenly father and us as his children. We as fathers are not to discourage our children or needlessly anger them, but instead, we are to bless them, exhort them, comfort them, discipline them, teach them in the ways of God and love them as God loves his children.

 
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My interview with W. Akemi Emmanuel PhD
Q: Do you think there is actually “a brown boy dilemma?”

Akemi: Yes, gorgeous. These men and boys don’t know who they are? So with that the statistics as the status quo many of our young black men being incarcerated in high amounts of the community and being shot down daily by the police. Don‘t get me wrong in some cases they are actually guilty as the charge of the crime. By the way, I like the term “brown boy dilemma” deep-rooted in meaning just like the title of your book.

Q: Thanks! … so you think the stereotypes of black men, Latino, men of color are true?

Akemi: Yes they are in most cases but not every black man • Black men are they are about is BOOTY all they care about is sex. • Black men are thugs and criminals (doesn’t apply to all) • Black men and Latinos men are less educated they don’t even study their own history • Black men don’t know the value of a good sister to busy chasing after the white woman • Black men are lazy and don’t like to work, it is a man’s responsibility to take care of his family.

Q: What is the solution?

Akemi: The solution is to stop watching sports (which is already deprogramming your mind), playing video games, and chasing women. 1. Start by reading the KJV Bible with the Apocrypha, discover who they are to the Most High God. Study Study Study to show themselves approved. Black people don’t read, whether or not you attend university, you can still learn by reading on a scholarly level. 2. Learn a trade so you can take care of your family when you get a family, be prepared with a house and a car before you remove someone’s daughter from her father’s home. It is not a woman’s responsibility to take care of you, other than being a helpmate in the house. 3. Stop sleeping with every woman you met your body is for the woman you chose to marry because when you sexually penetrate a woman, you have already married her. If you are already married, be faithful to the one your with. 4. This should have been #1 – Fear the Lord, the Most High, remember only the things you do for him with last. That is the key to success. Follow the commandments, and He will keep you!

My conversation with Psychologist Ezrahi
Q: What is the solution for today’s brown or black man?

Ezrahi: A man must love Christ than love his wife and children, he has to be the provider, priest, and strong tower for his family. He must keep the commandments, be an example, and teach others the truth. You are head and not the tail above and not beneath, Discover who you then take your place and the rest shall follow. As the brown woman you have been enslaved, beaten, murdered, hung on trees, etc.. but unlike women, men rarely have to deal with color issues, as in skin bleaching, being revered as not attractive by society. In fact, the black man ranked #1 on many of our polls on the internet in terms of masculine perfection among women higher than that of Caucasian or Asian men. Fathers must teach their sons how to be a man! And their daughter how to be ladies. Turn away thine eye from a beautiful woman, and look not upon another’s beauty; for many have been deceived by the beauty of a woman; for herewith love is kindled like a fire. Ecclesiasticus 9: 8 Apocrypha Marry a woman of substance, it is rare and hard to find, but she exists, look around the corner.

Hatred of black women.

____ amount of years ago, you were born to a black mother, right? But you let it be known you hate black women. You hate our hair, our looks, our skin color. I would say that white supremacy has gotten the best of you. Such hatred of self, the black woman is part of you. The Most High clearly states that your affection should be with your own nation. Black women are the most beautiful women on earth, with the most unique looks. Nothing like her… Neither shalt thou makes marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou takes unto thy son. For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly. Deuteronomy 7: 3-4 KJV Sure, black men are affected by this phenomenon of hatred for the black woman… Our men were taught to hate the black woman back in slavery.
Black men desperately need to address their self-hate because it’s affecting our nation. The disrespect of black woman is showing its ugly head on social media sites as well as countless articles on the internet. The hatred and fury are out there, they think that by marrying women of other nations is the answer. Why get mad at black women when she is married to a white man when you engage in the same thing. Secretly, wanting to ravish a woman from another nation. Yes, I am pointing the finger at you black men, who are the leaders and priests of our homes. The black women should clean, herself up to by betting herself. Our motto together should be, “we are in it to win it.” together we stand!

Women, Sex, Lack of trade, training, lust, brainwashing, leadership, relationship with the Most High, lack of knowledge, self-hatred, materialism, and sin defines “the brown boy dilemma.”

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The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

"The 10 Isms"

1. Racism is indeed the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of Darkism and Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races.

What do they say we are….

NIGGERS * SPICS *COONS * DARKIES * BLACK * UGLY * MULATTOS *FEEBLE MINDED * UNFIT * IMBECILES * IMMORAL * CRIMINAL * CATTLE * SLAVES NEGROES * AFRO THIS OR THAT *MONKIES * SAVAGES * COLORED *JUNGLE BUNNIES * DIRT *JIGABOOS * ANIMALS *WET BACKS * SPOOKS *SAMBOO * ASIATIC BLACK MIXED * BIRACIAL* MULTIRACIAL * BURNT And so forth… Code words used to establish slavery.

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The differentness of races, moreover, is no evidence of superiority or of inferiority. This merely indicates that each race has certain gifts which the others do not possess. — Carter G. Woodson

Racism is indeed the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of Darkism and Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races: a profound prejudice against black people or other ethnic groups based on color. Its core belief that people of different races have different qualities and abilities, and that some tracks are inherently superior or inferior to the other races. Slavery in America was the most significant catalyst for this kind of hate. First, let me demystify the general reference to race. I call it – “the powerful illusion.” For the theory of competition to exist, there has to be a superior race and inferior race for the ideal of separation. The method of race is a man-made system of classification created to division among people to classify people into specific groups. Organizing humans into various racial groups, including a selection process of what color fits into what category. Is it redundant to say the least, many have brought into the lie? Think about it can we as people draw any scholarship on race based on what one looks like. Race a group of humans which the populations have divided into a group based on physical characteristics. Biologically speaking, traits are inherited non-concordantly through our ancestors, which means they are inherited independently. If we were to go on genetics alone, there really isn’t a single genetic trait that distinguishes one race from another, even with varying degrees of melanin in the skin. Racism is an aborted attitude believing in a man made the illusion. If people that don’t know who they are they will understand, live, and thrive off of anything. You were sold to the nations, not for your destruction: but because ye moved God to wrath, ye were delivered unto the enemies. Baruch 4:6

The biggest progenitor of racism was slavery.

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There is a massive paper trail noting slavery in the United States of America but what about the four corners of the world where it all begin, that was similar to other forms of servitude practice where our people were kept enslaved. Like the Arabian, European slavery marketing of our people, which may be brutal of them all, like castration of young male genitals to make them eunuchs. The buck breaking and brutal rape of black women and children. The slave trade was in operation in the Arab world, Western Asia, Africa, and Europe beginning during the 19th century. The History of Arab Slavery in Africa by Owen Alik Shahadah (www.arabslavetrade.com) states in the relations and perfections section, ” Africans in the Indian Diaspora. The Afro-Arab relationship was riddled with complexities lined in a cultural nexus. And there is no doubt that racial discrimination against people of African origin was a hard reality. There is an escalation of racism as a casual association with Black Skin and Slave was made. And considering the era in which Islam emerged, it is therefore even more astounding and revolutionary to find such a strong tone of racial harmony and equality.”

Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted, the indifference of those who should have known better, the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most, that has made it possible for evil to triumph. —Haile Selassie

2. Hate-ism is the practice of inequity that privileges light skin over dark skin.

The Hate….

Why don’t you straighten your hair? Are you African? #teamlightskin Why don’t you wear your hair natural? You should wear a weave! Where are you from? Can I touch your hair? You’re beautiful for a dark-skinned girl! You look like a monkey. Your hair is nappy. You are ugly. Go bleach your skin.

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The practice of inequity, hateism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. The Brown Paper bag rule – In the early 19th century the upper class black American societies would conduct the brown paper bag test to determine if a black person was sufficiently white enough to gain admittance or acceptance in church and other social clubs. If your skin was darker than a brown paper bag, you could not get in and were not accepted. Still, today in 2018, women and men are still being judged by the color of their skin, among blacks, within black communities where darkism thrives.

3. Colorism is indeed a known fact, a direct commencement of hostilities afflicted on a individual based on skin color that is used as the basis for a conclusion, or logic that interfaces that a black person possessing a lighter complexion is treated with a higher esteem than a person with a darker skin color.   This form of discrimination crosses a broad spectrum of skin color, it is the sister of light privilege and the cousin of racism. This was taught during the slavery where the lighter slaves were shown favor because their features, skin color, and hair texture was closer to that of the Aryan race (white people), the Nordic eccentric features with include, but not limited to, straight hair, light skin, light eyes, straight nose etc.. Colorism is not just limited to the black community, other dark nations suffer the injustices of it as well, both men and women. Light skinned or Biracial women are on the receiving end of this.

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Colorism, a term believed to be first coined in 1982 by Pulitzer Prize winner author Alice Walker, was defined by her to mean the “prejudicial or preferential treatment of same-race people based solely on their color.

It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women in the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, the brown girls are discriminated against based on the color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to elevated heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, in order to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women and being of a member of the dark nation.

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Margaret Hunter in her book, “Race, Gender, and the Politics of Skin tone” which in my opinion the best clinical study on the effects of colorism among blacks and Mexicans … states – “Although typically described as a “black “ or “Chicano” problem, colorism is practiced by whites and people of color alike”

4. Shadeism (Pigmentocrcy) the concept of self-hatred that has a pejorative connotation. Also, like racism, shadeism can be thought of as either dimensional in beliefs or multidimensional in perspective. In regards to shadeism, which can be manifested within or across racial and ethnic groups and can be multifaceted in views among all groups of colored people, not just black people.

5. Featurism is the discrimination of black people based on facial features.

Featurism is discrimination of black people based on facial features. Certain ethnic accentuated features such as a part of a face that contributes to its distinct character, especially the eyes, nose, or mouth. In layman terms for a black woman, could be but not limited to, wide nose, full lips, or bigger eyes. Your features are associated with your initial attractiveness. This term “featurism” was first coined by Robin Boyd in his book The Australian Ugliness (1960) but had a different connotation attached to it.

Although skin color is undoubtedly the most salient signal of racial identity in America, other actual or imagined bodily features have also been seen as distinctive markers of Negritude. These include the shapes of heads, feet, lips, and noses as well as the texture of hair. – Randall Kennedy

6. Texturism is discrimination based on hair texture of black women its roughness, smoothness, coarseness, and fineness are judged as good or bad hair.

 Through history, the black woman’s hair texture has been under scrutiny due to the excessive curly nature.
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Black hair is a target of “texturism.” The question is “why has the world scrutinized our hair?” While we are burning it with chemicals and heating tools, and tearing it out with weaves and glue. For 400 years +, the general population of black people has been imparted to by white people that their hair texture and skin is superior to that of black hair and black skin. This welcomed the birth of hair obsession. A majority of blacks perceive straight, silky and downy hair as best. When in fact, wooly hair is scientifically superior to straight hair. Coiled hair acts as antennae conducting the electromagnetic energies of the sun. These are the benefits that our ancestors had in the cotton fields in intense heat. Kinky, afros, nappy, curly, pressed, permed, weaves or silken flow? What is our obsession with hair and how does it affect our perceptions of what is considered attractive? This differentiation of various textures of hair that disregards our hair as being good that sociological programming still continues today. For as long as I remember people often asked me after examining my mid back length hair, “Is all that hair yours?” or “Do you have Indian in your family?“ In the literal sense of logic or even common sense what they are saying to me is that a black female can’t have long hair unless she is mixed with something. Now, this thought process was first initiated by Willie Lynch back in slavery times and is still relevant today. So the term “Nappy” was created by the white man and was adopted for centuries by black people but in reality, our hair has a helix (spiral) pattern. It’s the same pattern as whirlwinds and sound waves and DNA. Our hair is meant to grow outward as a tree, not downward like a cascading waterfall. When our hair is given proper care, it’s fluffy soft. Not only that, our hair is high-volume, high-definition. Our hair doesn’t hang down, it’s not limp, lifeless and flat, it never lacks volume, and you’ll never see a sister wearing a “bump-it” to get the illusion of voluminous hair. We don’t need it. We can take our hair from kinky to curly to wavy to straight and back to kinky again if that’s our desire. Our hair can even defy gravity, and do so naturally. Others can’t. Our hair is a glorious crown, the “original” crown. Look how a crown is designed! So, when you see these so-called European royalty women wearing a crown. They are imitating the beauty of our hair! Wow isn’t that amazing! For black women, the straight hair bias is the culprit of texture prejudice that privileges the white woman’s texture as the supreme texture of hair. Black women are not aware that our hair is rich with soil, the color of dark chocolate, rises to the sky, vastness as space, coiled to perfection, and a mystery of the Most High.

For me, hair is an accoutrement. Hair is jewelry. It’s an accessory. – Jill Scott

7. Lightism is discrimination targeted towards light skinned black women who are validated because of their light skin.

Is all that your hair? What are you mixed with? I’d kill for your hair! #teamlightskin You don’t look black!
The house slave says, ” I am jealous of the field negro, they are free from the master’s house, they can think on their own.”
Photo Credit: Light Girl Documentary, Bill Duke.

Lightism is discrimination targeted towards light-skinned black women who are validated because of their light skin. The recipients of light skinned privilege that is mistreated by darker skinned blacks, not fitting in based on color in both the white and black communities.

I come from an interracial family: My father is from Nigeria, and so he is African-American, and my mother is American and white, so I rarely see skin color. It’s never an issue for me. – Annie Ilonzeh

Lightism is closely related to the discrimination that I have felt through the years. Here are some comments that have been spoken to me as a light cafe au lait colored woman:

You think you all that? You think you better than me? You’re a high yellow heffa! Your piss-covered. You think you’re white. Your nice women that look like you are usually mean. You think you too good to talk to me. You’re stuck up. You’re an oreo cookie. You ain’t all that! Your high maintenance. I am not jealous of you. (Funny no one ever said that this person was) You too beautiful, I hate you. You act like a white girl. You are a BAD bitch. You are a redbone. You’re a yellow bone. Your hair has got to be a weave; it’s too long. You’re an uppity negro. Is all that your hair?

People sometimes ask me or say to me the craziest things

You are so beautiful, what are you mixed with? Which one of your parents is white? When you are done with that face and that body gives them to me. You talk proper Did you have Rhinoplasty (nose surgery) your nose is perfect so small? You’re an Angel. You are so beautiful. I bet you were raped a lot as a child by the men in your family. You’re an uppity negro Is all that your hair Are all women in your country pretty like you. Can I touch your hair? You’re a genetically gifted alien. A man asked my late husband, How do you make a woman that beautiful happy? Your beauty is so unique I don’t know whether to stare, bow, or high 5 the guy next to me. You are gorgeous for a biracial girl I am surprised that you are friendly, a lot of women that look like you are stuck up. How does it feel to be that beautiful? So they think you are the most beautiful woman in the world, but no matter how gorgeous you are, it will never be acknowledged on the level a white woman has been.

Although colorism, lights, and darkism each have a mirage of complexities and prejudices that the impact of all three can be devastating but yet the same. As people of color, we should first seek the Highest for clarity, turn from our wicked ways, and love one another. Knock down the borders that keep us shackled to the brainwashing that took place with our ancestors. Together we must walk together in truth and that truth will set us free.

8. Lookism is discrimination that affects all nations the world over, Lookism is a concept where discrimination occurs to unattractive people; mainly in the workplace but also in social settings. While not classified in the same way as racism and colorism. Lookism is worldwide and affects how people are perceived as well as changing their opportunities in terms of relationships, job opportunities, perks, and social status.

What does it mean to never pay for what you want, get all the best jobs and opportunities, attracting potential mates and the richest. Everyone wants to be the object of someone’s attention. Let’s face it, being perceived as good looking has its advantages, it means never having to change a flat tire and in some cases pay for anything. Beautiful people are perceived as good, happy and fulfilled. Society tends to treat you better when you look your best.

Lookism is a discrimination that affects all nations the world over, Lookism is a concept where discrimination occurs to  unattractive people; mainly in the workplace but also in social settings. While not classified in the same way as racism, colorism, and darkism. Lookism is worldwide and affects how people are perceived as well as affecting their opportunities in terms of relationships, job opportunities, perks, and social status.

Lookism is a funny thing, I have walked into a store and someone pays for my clothing. I have been skipped to the front of lines quit frequently. I have had my fair share of perks.

9. Tokenism. This is usually initiated by a white person that uses a non-white or black person in any form to represent the illusion that there are unity and fairness in whatever situation. An illusion of racial adversity in that any case.

This Ism has a singular narrative usually omit an entire race group but picks one to give the impression that the cause is an equal opportunity model for others to see.

10. Beauty-ism. 

All around the world, brown girls are discriminated against based on the color of their skin. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them.  Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it.
 
 
 
 
The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about the woman that nobody sees you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty. 
Some Initial Tips for Breaking free from the “isms”
1. Repent of your SINS, keep the commandments and follow the Most High God of Israel.
1. Stop watching television where it pertains to programming suggesting European standards of beauty. If watching TV, make sure your child is watching people that look like them.
2. Speak positively to your child, encourage them on their beautiful skin color and hair. Don’t show favoritism with a child over the other. Children are very impressionable at a young age. Plant good seeds where your children are concerned.
3. Never tease anyone in front of your children concerning their color only have good things to say.
4. Cease from using terms to describe the color of skin like “darkie”, “high yellow”, “redbone,” and referring to people as “Black and ugly” as if being “Black” automatically indicates that one is also “ugly.”
5. Surround yourself with images of people of color through books.
6. Don’t allow people to tell your kids that their hair is bad and the skin is too dark.
7. Read the bible to them and teach them the ways of the Most High.
8. Educate yourself then teach your children about their history.
9. Comment darker people on their looks around your children.
10. Show them movies about positive black people promoting each other.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

© Vashtiy Alsaudamir, The Brown Girl Dilemma

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What if a brown girl knew?….. What if a brown boy knew?…. Darkness followed us since the day we were born. It walked and talked to us if we were it’s own. The darkness allowed us to believe a lie from the very hands that made us cry. I often wondered why it was so sly. Now lightness has surrounded me. It has shown us the way to truth. Now that the mysteries have been revealed. AND YE SHALL KNOW THE TRUTH, AND THE TRUTH SHALL MAKE YOU FREE (John 8:32 KJV)
 
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