The Brown Male Aesthetics

What is it about the brown male aesthetics beauty that has us so enamored with its power? The answer would definitely not be a clique or fallacy but a term of endearment to the one that beholds such a pulchritude of genetic brown male perfection. When one thinks of brown male aesthetics they often refer to it as masculine perfection. 
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Shemar Moore
Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Eyebrows, Vivid Skin Color and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Karl Daniel
Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Vivid Skin Color and Eyebrows. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Photo Credit: Tibo Norman Photography
Louis Allen III

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Jawline and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.

Photo Credit: Tibo Norman Photography

Leon Gray

Best Physical Attributes:Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Jawline and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Broderick Hunter

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Vivid Skin Color and Eyebrows. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks
Photo Credit: People Magazine. This photograph is the property of its respective owners. 
Idris Elba

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Height and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Photo Credit: Echo Exposure Photography
Travis Cure

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyebrows and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Mr. Billy Dee Williams (Honorary Mention)

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Come hither smile, Eyes and Deep voice. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Phillip Michael Thomas (Honorary Mention)

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Vivid Skin Color and Eyes. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Ross Fleming

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Smile. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Charlie Vargas

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.

Tyler Lepley

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Eyebrows and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Joseph Williams

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Harmony of facial features and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Van Vicker

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Jawline. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Christian Keyes

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Vivid Skin Color, Muscular Physique and Smile. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks
Philip Anthony-Rodriguez
 Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Eyebrows, and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks
Alimi Ballard

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Torin Verdone
Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Jawline. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Photo Credit: Andrew Daley Photography
John Canada Terrell

Best Facial Features: Harmony of facial features and muscular physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Omari Hardwick
 Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Vivid Skin Color and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Kristian Kordula
Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Michael Ealy

Best Physical Attribute: Eyes. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Remy Clerima

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Eyebrows. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Don James

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Jawline and Vivid Skin Color Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Kenneth Okolie

Best Physical Attributes: Jawline and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
John Dumelo

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Cheeks. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Onald Germain

Best Physical Attribute: Eyes. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
David Otunga

Best Physical Attributes: Smile and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Benjamin Patterson

Best Physical Attributes: Smile, Eyes and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Hill Harper

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Jawline and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Adewale Akinnuoye-Agbaje

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Thomas Jones

Best Physical Attributes: Vivid Skin Color and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Redaric Williams

Best Physical Attribute: Eyes. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Laz Alonso

Best Physical Attribute: Jawline and Eyes. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Gary Dourdan

Best Physical Attribute: Eyes. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Sendhil Ramamurthy

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyebrows and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Taj Reed

Best Physical Attributes: Vivid Skin Color and Eyebrows. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Lamman Rucker

Best Physical Attributes: Smile and Height. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Photo Credit: Ryan Alston Photography
Aaron J. Oates

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of Facial Features and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good Looks.

Morris Chestnut

Best Physical Attributes: Cheeks and Smile. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Fab Morvan

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Cheekbones. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Rick Fox

Physical Attributes: Eyes and Smile. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Brad James

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Nose, and Lips. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Kayin Marchand Wright
Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Jawline. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.

Bryce Wilson

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Isha Blaaker

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Donnell Blaylock Jr

Best Physical Attributes: Smile and Eyes. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Abdi Osman

Best Physical Attributes: The symmetry of the face and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good Looks.
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4 Pillars of Male Aesthetics: 

Symmetry, Harmony of Facial Features, Vivid Skin Color and Clarity of Skin.

Dilemma 6 – "Materialism"

Set your affections on things above, not on things on the earth. Colossians Chapter 3:4 KJV

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You can be highly educated, professionally successful, and financially illiterate. Many people are making over 100k a year, and they’re still struggling with bills every month. Why? They don’t understand financial freedom. Financial problems are caused by trying to keep up with society. That’s why they live paycheck to paycheck. Once you know the difference between ASSETS and LIABILITIES, you’ll understand why you’re broke —- Emmanuel Valerio https://www.facebook.com/TheTruthMovement777.

The world entices you with the lure of brand names, especially those high-end designer logos like Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Chanel or Hermes. I must admit that we all have fallen prey to the lure of material goods at one point or another. The promotions via billboards, television promotion, and following the Joneses all perpetuate this behavior. The lust of wanting to be seen as more than you really are. This society is based on what you have and what you look like. This attitude dictates and unrealistic notion of success. This is a fantasy mirrored by Hollywood. It’s not only that the more you care about impressing other people with your appearance, the more likely you will overspend. In fact, the more focused you are on your own thoughts, feelings, and impressions you make on others, the more you’ll seek outwardly-recognizable status symbols like handbags and overpriced clothing. The EGO is the ringleader with this disorder, the thrill to maintain a different reality, the reality that goods will make you happy. It is all vanity, as King Solomon stated in the bible.
Vanity goes beyond just looking fabulous for others, it is about the praise and self-admiration that comes along with this behavior. We are to never think more highly of ourselves. This brings me to the theory by Leon Festinger in 1954, which centers on the fundamental belief that there is a drive within individuals to gain accurate self-evaluations. The theory explains how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others to reduce uncertainty in these domains and learn how to define the self. Following the initial theory, research began to focus on social comparison as a way of self-enhancement, introducing the concepts of downward and upward comparisons and expanding the motivations of social comparisons. The downward social comparison is a great coping process because it allows you to view a bad situation by looking at others who are worse off than you (more impoverished, less attractive, more stressed) and concluding that things aren’t really so bad. An upward social comparison can cause you to berate yourself unnecessarily because you feel that you’re being outdone by your neighbors, comrades, family, co-workers, and Instagram-youtube-facebook friends. Your (EGO) desire to impress people that could care less about, but not realizing that this disorder can promote psychological disorders. At the end of the day, is it really worth gaining the whole world than losing your soul?

Being that man or woman of substance not being concerned with being called a big baller or the big man or woman on campus. Life is not about how many things you own but being that real man or woman of substance.

We have a market-driven society so obsessed with buying and selling and obsessed with power and pleasure and property. — Cornel West

Terry Walker testimony…

Right now I am in $200,000 worth of credit card debt and what do I have to show for it, this ill-gotten gain now has me working 3 jobs just to make ends meet. I have no time for my wife or our kids. This American dream really isn’t worth the hassle. If I only would have lived within my means. My wife can’t live with the pressure of the bill collectors calling the house. If I would have only listened to her and kept the budget going. Now I have lost everything and what to give an appearance to my co-workers that I was a baller, but in reality, now I am worse than an infidel, can’t provide for my family. Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. 1 John 2:15-17 (KJV) When our life’s pursuit is on making the profit, pursuing pleasure, and obtaining the position, it leaves little time, energy, and ability to focus on the Most High and his plan for your existence. “No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money” (Matthew 6:24). An expression used for people surrounded by confusion living in a vicious circle of lies and illusions. They hunger for prestige and luxury and thirst for higher society while creating a bubbled reality floating over society’s misery controlled by companies, getting us to buy the image of the good life – a fantasy that values materialistic communities and they are blind to human qualities. They dream up things to brag about like expensive things or trips around the world. It has come that having the latest IPad, computers, iPod or iPhone is the norm something they can’t live without. These devices have replaced the desire to converse with actual people in person. Standing on line for 24 hours excited for a product then you complain about being 3rd online in a bookstore will allow you find that you are programmed robot just as confused and abused by the system we call materialism.

The American Dream

The white picket fence, large house, two cars, vacations every year, 2.3 children, and a dog packaged in a cup of illusion. Now, how many people do you think to live the American dream with poverty on the rise, homelessness, lack of food, and jobs. The American dream, in reality, is a nightmare. Hard-working people, and weak, most of them, in worldly goods–but how rich in compassion! How filled with the goodness of humanity and the spiritual steel forged by centuries of oppression! There was the real joy of laughter in these homes, folk-wit, and story, hearty appetites for life as for the nourishing greens and black-eyed peas and cornmeal bread they shared with me. Here in this little hemmed-in world where home must be a theatre and concert hall and social center, there was a warmth of the song. Songs of love and longing, songs of trials and triumphs, deep-flowing rivers and rollicking brooks, hymn-song and ragtime ballad, gospels and blues, and the healing comfort to be found in the illimitable sorrow of the spirituals. Paul Robeson, There is an old adage, “Keeping up with the Joneses” wanting all they have and more… There is a danger is desiring something that someone else has ever felt the pressure to maintain a level of possessions equal to those of your neighbors. When envy sets in this cause contention among friends, the desire to possess what they have. In this society your as good as what you own, drive, and where you live. This causes a social perplexity based on material goods- what I own is better than your new and improved.

The Illusion of wealth

Gary’s testimony…

“Park Avenue, on a winter day, walked into my favorite upscale store, I was wearing a hooded sweatshirt with matching pants, the shop girl ignored me as if I had the plague. Revisited the store the next day, all decked out in my Armani suit, Cartier watch and crocodile shoes. My elegant attire opens up the doors to 5-star treatment, I couldn’t keep the shop girls away all 5 of them catered to my every whim. Now, who says being wealth or appearing to be doesn’t have its advantages?” In the story of Lazarus and the rich man, (Luke 16 KJV) we see that Lazarus lacking material wealth, got something much more critical “eternal life with the Savior” while the rich man will burn “in hell for all eternity.” What the rich man failed to realize that the things on earth are temporal, and only the things you do for the Savior will last. Let that be a lesson for men and woman that put the world and its possessions before the Most High. The Book of James talks about the dangers of measuring one another by what we perceive to be the wealth of their belongings. Suppose a man comes into your meeting wearing a diamond watch and an Armani suit, and a poor man in tattered clothes also comes in, which one would you serve? If you show special attention to the man wearing beautiful clothes and say, ‘Here’s a good seat for you,’ but speak to the poor man, ‘you stand there,’ or ‘Sit on the floor by my feet,’ have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts? If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself,’ you are doing right. But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as lawbreakers” (James 2:2-4, 8-9). Possessions can become more important to us than our knowledge of the Most High. The Savior told us the story of the of a rich young ruler. The pull of his goods was so strong that the young man chose them over eternal life (Luke 18:18-30). In the Old Testament is the story of Lot’s wife who could not leave her possessions behind to flee certain death. She, too, valued her properties over spiritual truth (Genesis 19:26). Luke, in his gospel, warns us that we can be in danger of losing our life also when the Son of Man returns, if we cling to our material goods like Lot’s wife did (Luke 17:32). The Savior said, “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions” (Luke 12:15). “For where your treasure is, there your heart will also be” (Matthew 6:21). How can we escape the power of materialism? If you see your brother in need, give some of your money to him that puts your perspective in the correct place by disarming the power of possessions.

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. 1 John 2: 15-17

The choice is yours?
 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 52 – "The Haters"


A white woman poses as a black woman, funny how people of the other nations are forgiven of her bounty, in this case, Rachel Dolezal President of NAACP Chapter from Spokane Washington, the blacks embraced her, think about how often black women are ridiculed for trying to be white. Rachel may indeed be a great person with her exploits for the NAACP, but integrity in the public eyes is fundamental as well.
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Self-hatred among blacks “You hate me, I hate me too…” Black people always want to be something they are not, if they have one drop of Indian blood in them, then they are half Indian, we are what our fathers are, our lineage is determined by what nation our father is. It is like there is a lousy enigma with being associated with being black. Why should we hate the color of your skin? The texture of our hair? The Shape of your nose and lips. We are unique among the nations. Our looks are rare. The other countries are a carbon copy of each other in terms of beauty. If we were to embrace our naturalness, we would have the uniqueness everyone would desire.
We are the trendsetters, they copy our style. Through history and now today they want our full lips, our ample behinds, and tanned skin. Wake up people there is no reason to hate each other but appreciate our God-given Beauty. Are we suffering from amnesia? White supremacy, slavery, and colonization really did a job on the psyche of the people of color. They have convinced us that we are ugly, worthless, and inhuman. They copy our music, our style, our looks, our culture, but it is the self-hatred among ourselves that has become problematic or shall I say, “‘the elephant in the room.”
Every other nation of people supports their own in word and deed. With people of color (blacks) there is a defined perpetual race war with themselves. Even in this day and age, we are yet still slaves in our minds, actions, and deeds. We are the only people that look at light skin and dark skin among blacks as to different nationalities. I have seen many times – Light skin women speak against the more colored skin women as if they are dirt and not worthy and have witnessed darker skin women treat the lighter skin different because they felt they were better. So if the shoe fits wear it, this must stop we are all on the same ship sailing through life as the dark nation of people. To the average white person, we all are dark.  The Truth I think the whole theory of light skin vs. dark skin is superfluous, stupid, and redundant. It lacks intelligence, perception, and common sense. Why does it matter? This whole thing was conceived through white supremacy, the enslavement of our people, it will never validate who we are as a people or nation. Dark skin women are not placed on a pedestal, but light skinned black women are put on pedestals by other black people. In society, white women are the only ones that can claim ownership of the foundation worldwide. White supremacy is to blame having their images valued and celebrated over all other nations. Occasionally the mainstream will appreciate a none white woman or man this is on purpose. And it’s so sinister depriving a person of color of their privilege and immunity that uncritical folks can’t discern that they have been repeatedly told by media what they should prefer, who is beautiful, and what skin color is this internalized devaluation is a way of life.  At the end of the day if your black, light, or dark,  you will receive the same judgment. View by white standards, light by black standards.

The Hater Syndrome

Okay if you made it to this point, I went over what you must possess to be considered a woman of the Most High, the attributes and behaviors. Does this sound familiar?

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Typical conversations among women.
Lady 1: She is gorgeous
Lady 2: Girl, you should see her when she takes off the weave and makeup then say that.
Or
Lady 3: She is cute.
Lady 4: She thinks she is all that.

Lady 2 and 4 are quite typical little did they know I don’t wear weave and never have. I have always had long hair. As far as makeup well I sometimes wear mascara, maybe some lipstick. Do we, as people expect, people on social media to say something positive, supportive, or convey a definite compliment. These people are cowards hiding behind a computer screen so their lives may be hell, so they want to make your hell to. I remember like over a decade ago, has done some modeling, my photo was featured online on a website, but it was under the wrong name. It was kind of funny how there was an ongoing conversation about my looks, and I’m sure that most of these people never seen me in person. I read the comments:

She looks like a big plastic blowup doll
Is she Somalian? No she cheeks are too chubby to be Somalian, but he is stunning.
She is as pretty as Halle Berry
In a room of women, she would stand out, but I don’t think the other beautiful women would go unnoticed.
She looks like a witch
I bet she’s an evil bitch she is too pretty.
Her eyes make her look possessed I bet her man has to cover his eyes when they have sex
I bet she has had some work done; she is to perfect.
She is cute for a biracial girl
She could earn 8000 dollars a night at a strip club that is until her novelty runs out.
Her hair is a weave (No its not)
Is she real? (Yes I am)
She is hella fine. I would date her, f*** her, and then leave her ass
I hate this yellow bitch.
I wish she would die of an aneurysm
Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned.

A hater? Yes. Sadly a woman is often measured by the eyes of haters. By the things, she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves or doesn’t curve, by the way, it sticks out or sticks in. The wooliness of her hair or the lack thereof. The hue of her skin or the darkness of it. The attractiveness of her face or the ugliness. The education or the job she possesses. The material goods that she has acquired or doesn’t have. What is one to do take to heart the comments of the hater. A hater is someone that envies what another one has that they want. Their main goal is to make you feel bad for what you have been born with or blessed with. I have never been one to hate on someone because they are pretty or have earthly possessions. This is all preposterous, hating on anyone is not going to get you what they have. I have been confident in myself, to appreciate another woman’s beauty or possessions. I compliment them, sincerely. The Most High made us all unique and special. A hater is someone that envies what another one has that they want.

If the world hates you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. John 15:18 The main point to drive home about hate is that they hated the Messiah (Christ) so if we are called by his name, then they will hate us too. So count it all joy, you must be doing something right.

Criticism

Criticism comes in many forms, one form is “Constructive criticism.” Your black dress is more acceptable for the Opera than the white dress. It aims to show that the intent or purpose of something is better served by an alternative approach. In this case, making the criticism is not necessarily estimated as being wrong, and its reason for existence is reverential. Constructive criticisms are often suggestions for improvement – how things could be done better or more acceptable. They draw attention to how an identified problem could be solved or how it could be solved better. Constructive criticism is more likely to be embraced if the objection is timely, transparent, specific, detailed, and actionable.

Negative Criticism

Friends and family members are the culprits of criticism. Most people are not sure how to handle it? They often feel that they can say anything to you with no response. I am sure that most of us have swollen lips, as we often have to bite them from saying something we shouldn’t. Trust me, I often clamped my mouth, but to no avail, it persists. I think often people speak with an undercurrent of envy or lack of knowledge. Here are some tips that will help when you have to deal with people who continuously criticize your every move. You can’t always control how other people act or what they say, but we can forever change our own behavior to better deal with the situation. Like my late husband always said to me, “Consider the source.”

“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30 KJV

I’ve never been the type to make a lot of female friends except for a group of close ones. Women don’t positively respond to me, especially the worldly ones, the ones absent of the truth of the Most High. I find myself having to defend my beauty for as long as I can remember, I’ve been hated because of the way I look. I know that beauty is something that can’t be ignored. I always seemed to invoke compliments such as your the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, you should be a model, you look like a movie star. It came to the point when someone passes me a compliment I feel funny like I wanted them to leave; I grew up knowing I would get attention because of my beauty. I am not touched by the praises of man could change without warning. What is not apparent is the inner man something no one can see the truth be told that is what touches me the most my inner beauty.

Do we as people expect, people on social media to say something positive, supportive, or convey a positive compliment. These people are cowards hiding behind a computer screen, so their live may be hell so they want to make yours hell to. I remember like over a decade ago, having done some modeling, my photo was featured online on a website but it was under the wrong name. It was kind of funny how there was an on going conversation about my looks and I’m sure that most of these people never seen me in person. I read the comments:

She looks like a big plastic blowup doll.  Is she Somalian? No she cheeks are too chubby to be Somalian but he is stunning. She is as pretty as Halle Berry.  In a room, of women, she would stand out, but I don’t think the other beautiful women would go unnoticed. She looks like a witch I bet she’s an evil bitch she is too pretty.  Her eyes make her look possessed I bet her man has to cover his eyes when they have sex.  I bet she has had some work done she is to perfect.  She is cute for a biracial girl. She could earn 8000 dollars a night at a strip club that is until her novelty runs out.  Her hair is a weave.  Is she real?  I would date her and then leave her ass.  I hate this yellow bitch I wish she would die of an aneurysm.  Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned.

Most people live in a closed box and don’t know anything other than what is placed for them in a box. Since the beginning of western civilization, we have been taught what is right and what is wrong by our slave master. In Willie Lynch days, he has an eloquently devised plan to separate our people according to class and looks. Which placed our people into a pitiless competition with one another. Today, black people still seem to embody that spirit of envy. You would like that through slavery, the civil rights era, etc.… our people would have bonded together more, or even been more supportive of each other’s pursuits. After all, all other nations bond together, start businesses and give each additional moral support. But where the black people stand, is a bit more grudge mental, to say the least. Once a black person achieves a level of success, they don’t support their own community. Is there secret envy that plagues our people? Yes. Do not envy. We have all been given a talent.. And that talent will make room for us and bring us before great men. We all have something that contributes to the body… as the hand provides to the arm.

“A man’s gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men.” Proverbs 18:16 KJV The handout – syndrome. Really I ask? I notice that when a black person comes out with a product, book or some service. Other black people want to get it free or ask can you give them a complimentary copy. But note that they never ask the white entrepreneurs can they get something free. They pay full price. Most black people envy each other while secretly longing for failure to come to a person. It has been documented that blacks spend less or invest less in black-owned businesses. According to Nielson rating, that black spending power will reach over 1 trillion dollars in a few years. The spending power among blacks is enormous, yet hardly any of it goes back into the community.

It is no secret that blacks are extremely talented the world over. We need to adopt the motto – we need to spread the wealth. The Most High gives you talents for your needs to be met and to help our people advance. But the world systems are saying that “I got mine now you get yours.” 

A faithfull friend is a strong defence: and he that hath found such an one hath found a treasure. Ecclesiasticus 6:14 KJV

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True friends generally, fit into one of the three categories, such as Outer Court, Inner Court, and Holies of Holies.

1. Outer Court: You share general things with them with a level of caution.

Fair-weather friends, Neighbors, Associates, Haters, People with hidden agendas or People you meet on the streets.

2. Inner Court: There is some trust that you share more intimate things with them.

Mentors, boyfriends/girlfriends, and some Relatives

3. Holy of Holies: You trust them with all your secrets and your life.

Spouses, Best Friends, Like minded people, there when hardship or difficulty rears its head, loyal friends that have stood the test of time and sticks closer than a brother.

Instead of constantly surrounding yourself with like-minded people, try to break out of your comfort zone and befriend people who hold opposing views. They will help open your eyes to different world views and you’ll learn to accept people who don’t see the world exactly the way you see it.

Instead of a friend become not an enemy; for thereby thou shalt inherit an ill name, shame, and reproach: even so, shall a sinner that hath a double tongue. Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul is not torn in pieces as a bull straying alone. Thou shalt eat up thy leaves, and lose thy fruit, and leave thyself as a dry tree. A wicked soul shall destroy him that hath it, and shall make him laugh to the scorn of his enemies. The sweet language will multiply friends: and a fairspeaking tongue will increase kind greetings. Be in peace with many: nevertheless, have but one counsellor of a thousand. If thou wouldest, get a friend, prove him first and be not hasty to credit him. For some man is a friend for his own occasion, and will not abide in the day of thy trouble. And there is a friend, who being turned to enmity, and strife will discover thy reproach. Again, some friend is a companion at the table, and will not continue in the day of thy affliction. A faithful friend is a strong defense: and he that hath found such a one hath found a treasure. Nothing doth countervail a loyal friend, and his excellency is invaluable. A faithful friend is the medicine of life, and they that fear the Lord shall find him. Whoso feareth the Lord shall direct his friendship aright: for as he is, so shall his neighbor be also. Ecclesiasticus chapter 6: 1-10, 14-17 KJV

1. Get closer to the Most High (read the bible and pray)

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3 Discovering who you are in the Most High is the key to life. We all are given one life, and we must know our purpose for living. It is more significant than you think.

2. Become your biggest cheerleader and motivator.

“And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.” 1 Samuel 30:6 Daily read quotes and scriptures to motivate yourself. Tell yourself, you can do it,… I can make it… In life, most of the time, you will not have people around to encourage you so you must promote yourself. I know that I am my biggest cheerleader, and I always have been.

3. Take care of yourself

What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? Eat right, work out, and pamper yourself. Trust nobody can say anything to you when you are healthy.

4. Don’t listen to people. Don’t fear them they have no power over you.

And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which can destroy both soul and body in hell. Matthew 10:28 If they are not an expert in an area don’t listen, nobody opinion matters. That is just like a person with cancer or diabetes, telling you how to eat. I don’t share a lot of my life with people around me because it often triggers insecurities in people they become volatile to you. That way, you keep them at bay because your life is your own, and they don’t get to own your destiny.

5. Get rid of toxic people.

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful Psalms 1:1

We have no business being with sinners in the form of toxic people. If a friend or relative is causing emotional damage in your life, this is a sign of a toxic person. Sinners or toxic people drain the life out of you with their negativity. They suck the joy and peace out of your psyche with gossip, selfishness, or extreme dependency, know it all attitude, glory hoarder, and narcissism. Most times going into crying sessions making it all about them, and how they have been done wrong.Y’all only think she is pretty because she is light skinned

If the world hates you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. John 15:18 The main point to drive home about hate is that they hated the Messiah (Christ) so if we are called by his name, then they will hate us to. So count it all joy, you must be doing something right. Criticism may be the sister of hate. Criticism comes in many forms, one form is “Constructive criticism.” Your black dress is more acceptable for the Opera than the white dress.

It aims to show that the intent or purpose of something is better served by an alternative approach. In this case, making the criticism is not necessarily estimated as being wrong, and its reason for existence is reverential. Constructive criticisms are often suggestions for improvement – how things could be done better or more acceptable. They draw attention to how an identified problem could be solved, or how it could be solved better. Constructive criticism is more likely to be embraced if the criticism is timely, clear, specific, detailed and actionable.

Nevertheless, I persisted.

 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 19 – "Good Hair"

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COMMON THINGS SPOKEN ABOUT HAIR TYPE 3A – 4C:

Coily Hair

You need to straighten it, unkept! Do something with your hair. It is nappy, you look ugly, you need a weave, go and rectify it. I like you better with straight hair.

Permed Hair

You don’t love yourself, go natural! Trying to be something your not.

Curly Hair

You have some good hair. It is too wild needs to be straight. What are you mixed with?

Straight Hair

Ideal with the masses, the universal standard of hair beauty.

Most black women testify that perms, pressing combs, and relaxers make their hair more manageable. Who is the inventor of the relaxer? In 1877, the relaxer was created by accident by Garrett A. Morgan the same man that invented the traffic signal. This allowed for women and men of color to have the straight hair like their white counterparts for 100’s of years. The perm was referred as “ creamy crack” in Chris Rock’s “Good Hair Documentary” a must see if you haven’t seen it already it exposes the dangers and chemicals found in the hair treatments. Natural Hair is the best it is at its healthiest, free of chemicals and it grows fast! The chemicals in the relaxer treatments maybe damaging but many women will argue the fact that having a relaxer has contributed to their back length hair if it is taken care of.

All photographs are the property of their respective owners.

Black hair is a target of “texturism.” The question is, “why has the world scrutinized our hair?” While we are burning it with chemicals and heating tools, and tearing it out with weaves and glue. For 400 years +, the general population of black people has been imparted to by white people that their hair texture and skin is superior to that of black hair and black skin. This welcomed the birth of a hair obsession. A majority of blacks perceive straight, silky, and soft hair as best. When in fact, wooly hair is scientifically superior to straight hair. Coiled hair acts as antennae conducting the electromagnetic energies of the sun. These are the benefits that our ancestors had in the cotton fields in intense heat. Kinky, afros, nappy, curly, pressed, permed, weaves, or smooth flow? What is our obsession with hair, and how does it affect our perceptions of what is considered attractive? This differentiation of various textures of hair that disregards our hair as being good that sociological programming still continues today.

For as long as I remember people often asked me after examining my mid back length hair, “Is all that hair yours?” or “Do you have Indian in your family?“ In the literal sense of logic or even common sense what they are saying to me is that a black female can’t have long hair unless she is mixed with something. Now, this thought process was first initiated by Willie Lynch back in slavery times and is still relevant today. So the term “Nappy” was created by the white man and was adopted for centuries by black people, but in reality, our hair has a helix (spiral) pattern. It’s the same pattern as whirlwinds and sound waves and DNA. Our hair is meant to grow outward like a tree, not downward like a cascading waterfall. When our hair is given proper care, it’s fluffy soft. Not only that, our hair is high-volume, high-definition. Our hair doesn’t hang down, it’s not limp, lifeless and flat, it never lacks volume, and you’ll never see a sister wearing a “bump-it” to get the illusion of voluminous hair. We don’t need it. We can take our wool from kinky to curly to wavy to straight and back to kinky again if that’s our desire. Our hair can even defy gravity and do so naturally. Others can’t. Our hair is a glorious crown, the “original” crown. Look how a head is designed! So, when you see these so-called European royalty women wearing a top. They are imitating the beauty of our hair! Wow isn’t that amazing! For black women, the straight hair bias is the culprit of texture prejudice that privileges the white woman’s texture as the supreme texture of hair. Black women are not aware that our hair is rich with soil, the color of dark chocolate, rises to the sky, vastness as space, coiled to perfection, and a mystery of the Most High.

I must admit I love running my fingers through my hair while showering, the curls embrace my face as the water runs the length on my back. I get attention on the comeliness of my hair they suggest that its a prized possession but in reality, to my nation, it’s a god. Yes it is possible to worship hair, I have never been guilty of such worship.. frankly, I always had long hair. It was never a concern of mine. But for many of my sisters, it is, after all, it’s our crowning glory. The black women have always been guilty of false glory due to the fact that you are adorning your head with someone else’s glory. How do we get our own glory? By nourishing our own glory and owning it. I know we own our cars, clothes, or even homes but we must own our hair. We must be thankful and take care of what the Most High gave us.

My interview with Khalifa Musical, a professor of African American Studies

Q. Do you think that as children we are programmed to say that our hair is bad?

Khalifa: Yes, I remember my mother said to my sister about her kinky hair, you need to get your hair done by that she meant to straighten it by perms of straightening combs. As a man, I grow up conditioned to perceive black hair as something terrible that needed to be fixed. I used to look at the women on the commercial and think that was beauty, it was not until I because a student of consciousness that I realize my thinking was wrong. In fact with most of my students when asked about black hair – 43% (over 200 black male students) said they prepared black women with their natural hair, apart from wigs, weaves, and perms. While 57 % preferred the look of Caucasian straight hair as most attractive and 90% voted that this was conditioned by slavery misconceptions and fallacies about our hair.

Redefining the standard of beauty in terms of hair.

All photographs are the property of their respective owners.

The hair texture closely associated with European straight hair is considered almost heavenly good and esteemed most attractive. This straight hair blowing in the wind, cascading down the back, smooth to touch, and easy to comb. Is this perfection? How can this hair be the best? Willie Lynch is to blame on this one dividing and conquering the slaves based on hair texture. But who says this is true? The fault lies with the mother who never taught the daughter the beauty of her hair. The world has brought into this lie, pure and simple for some, there is no turning back from this theory. In West Africa, Nigeria to be specific the boys and young girls cut their hair off not to deal with the texture and opt to wear wigs. While in the United States, black women are literally tearing their hair out of their heads through the wearing of the weave so they can slang it back and forth. The ignorance of our people is undoubtedly devastating to know that something that created with sheer brilliance is a beast of burden to many.

Astin Downing AKA Mocha2001 is a pioneer in the natural hair movement. She gives her tips and secrets to her followers on youtube and Instagram.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JgkuM9KhTI

Q: Tell me about your hair care journey?

Astin: When I first when natural my hair was badly damaged. I had bald edges due to lace wigs and glue. I used Castro oil, Shea moisture shampoo and conditioner, Renue pure deep conditioner and green Eco styler gel.

Q: When did you stop using relaxers?

Astin: My last relaxer was 2012 when relaxed my hair, it was always dry plus it never grew to pass my shoulders. Now I’m natural I seen how my true hair texture is this curly. My hair has grown down my back very moisturized now, thick and healthy..

Q: What are your top tips for hair growth?

Astin: My top tips for hair growth is moisturize, drink water, and use less heat.

Q: What is your hair care routine?

Astin: I have 2 hair care routine one for winter and summer. In the winter, I use more moisture and I apply self-heat to my hair for straight styles. I wash my hair once a week and deep condition twice a week and grease my scalp with Castro oil twice a week. My summer routine – I add no heat to my hair, I just wash it and go. I do twist outs and wash my hair once a week deep condition once a month and grease my scalp once a month with Castro oil.

How to take care of black hair?

My Q & A with my hairdresser Diana, note she has natural hair all the way down her back.

Q: What do you think about this Good hair, Bad hair situation among black people?

Diane: I think black people are some of the most ignorant people on earth, surely they have bought into the lie of slavery. All hair is good, if it grows out of your head, it is good. What has ruined our nose is the perms and the weaves.

Q: What are some tips for the maintenance and growth of natural hair?

Diane:

1. There is a huge misconception that black hair is coarse, strong and can take a beating. That is true, in fact, black hair is the most fragile of every hair type, my Asian clients have the strongest hair very coarse now their hair can take a beating.

2. Co-washes your hair once a week with a natural moisturizing conditioner and not shampoo because it dries out the hair which can cause breakage.

3. Keep your hair moisturized with a natural moisturizer and seal the ends with olive oil. Choose natural organic products and try to avoid products with mineral oils and petroleum oil. Natural oils like almond, coconut oil, olive oil, grape seed oil, and jojoba oils are much better.

4. If you use heat styling products (blow dryers, Flatirons) on your hair, try and cut it down to 1-2 times a month if you can, and make sure you use a heat protection shampoo and/or moisturizer, or a good heat protective serum/spray on your hair before flat ironing or curling.

5. Make sure you sleep on a satin pillowcase or tie your hair up in a silk scarf so your hair can stay healthy and won’t break or tear. Silk or satin pillowcases, bonnets, and scarves will protect your hair from breakage while rubbing against certain fabrics that cause breakage.

6. Moisturize your ends nightly with coconut oil before you go to sleep

7. Once a month only use a protein treatment for deep conditioning.

8. For extend hair growth I recommend a diet of fresh fruits and vegetables and exercised weekly to get the blood flowing to your hair.

9. Massage your scalp a few times a week for extra blood flow for hair growth.

10. Use a wide tooth comb to comb your hair, stop buying bristle brushes or thin combs which will get caught in your hair and snap it off. Go for low maintenance. We should never comb our hair every day just detangle with your fingers, after applying moisturizer.

Weaves

India is known for their pagan worship of hundreds of gods, one of the rituals that go on, they get very young girls to shed their long hair for profit, then in return pray over it with a dedication to one of the gods. Then this hair appears in the heads of black women the world over. With this spiritual connotation, you are wearing hear sacrificed to idol gods. Black women are not the only ones guilty, white women and other nations were weaves as well, but they refer to them as hair extensions. Weaves illuminate the “Lie” of good hair, it created false security of beauty. In actuality, wearing a pattern makes it bad for those of us (including me) that have naturally long hair that is accused daily of wearing a weave. The long-term effects of weaves have many severe risks to your scalp, such as permanent hair loss. Wigs are a great alternative; at least you are not damaging your scalp. Wearing a weave is your choice. I am not against it if that‘s your choice, I was just stating the facts.

Front Lace Wigs beware… Actress Countess Vaughn (star of the Parkers show on television) shared her hair dilemma on the Doctors television show, wearing the front lace wigs and how they damaged her hairline she had an allergic reaction to the glue now forced to have hair restoration surgery to repair damaged hair follicles. Perms or Relaxers Because perms and relaxers tore your hair, you must keep your beard conditioned to retain length and prevent breakage — Diane (my hairdresser) Most black women testify that perms, pressing combs, and relaxers make their hair more manageable. Who is the inventor of the relaxer? In 1877, the relaxer was created by accident by Garrett A. Morgan the same man that invented the traffic signal. This allowed for women and men of color to have straight hair like their white counterparts for 100’s of years. The perm was referred as “ creamy crack” in Chris Rock’s “Good Hair Documentary” a must see if you haven’t seen it already it exposes the dangers and chemicals found in the hair treatments. Natural Hair is the best it is at its healthiest, free of chemicals, and it grows fast! The chemicals in the relaxer treatments may be damaging, but many women will argue the fact that having a relaxer has contributed to their back length hair if it is taken care of.

My Hair won’t grow

Photo Courtesy of Astin Downing

Astin Downing whose hair has grown while being nurtured naturally without chemicals, so black hair does grow no matter the texture of it.

Unfortunately, that is the gospel that most black or brown women preach. The truth is that if you keep all the weaves and chemicals off your hair, it will grow with some easy maintenance, it will grow in no time. A black woman’s hair will grow if she maintains to keep it healthy and nourished with the right natural products, contrary to popular belief, the black woman is not alone, there are some case where the white woman’s hair won’t grow either, or it’s fragile — Diane (my hairdresser)

In the past… The Curse – Moreover the LORD saith, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and making a tinkling with their feet: Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion, and the LORD will discover their secret parts. — Isaiah 3: 16-17 – Because of the haughtiness toward our men our head was smitten with baldness, which would explain the lust for long hair. We had the beauty everyone wanted at that time. We are the Daughters of Zion. That was a curse! Now today… I believe that curse is lifted… With all the beautiful hair treatments, perms, hair styling, relaxers, weaves, chemicals from shampoos, our diet, hormones, what we drink, rest, environment etc. All these elements affect the health of our hair. What is paramount is the way we care for our hair? Is long hair is possible? Yes.

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Asha Mandela, who reportedly has the most extended hair, dreads in the world at a whopping 22 foot long, her extreme long tresses were documented by the Guinness World Record in 2009. Many of us on this day have long hair. Your hair grows! Take care of the hair that grows out of your head. Black women are waking up to their true identity according to the Bible all over the world & learning to love the skin they’re in, wooly hair & all through the natural hair movement and it is absolutely awe-inspiring.

But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.1 Corinthians 11:15 KJV

Black hair is a target of the famous “Ism,” known as “Texturism.” The question is, “why has the world scrutinized our hair?” While we are burning it with chemicals and heating tools, and tearing it out with weaves and glue. For 400 years +, the general population of black people has been imparted to by white people that their hair texture and skin is superior to that of black hair and black leather. This welcomed the birth of a hair obsession. A majority of blacks perceive straight, silky, and soft hair as best. When in fact, wooly hair is scientifically superior to straight hair. Coiled hair acts as antennae conducting the electromagnetic energies of the sun. These are the benefits that our ancestors had in the cotton fields in intense heat. Kinky, afros, nappy, curly, pressed, permed, weaves, or smooth flow? What is our obsession with hair, and how does it affect our perceptions of what is considered attractive? This differentiation of various textures of hair that disregards our hair as being good that sociological programming still continues today.

For as long as I remember people often asked me after examining my mid back length hair, “Is all that hair yours?” or “Do you have Indian in your family?“ In the literal sense of logic or even common sense what they are saying to me is that a black female can’t have long hair unless she is mixed with something. Now, this thought process was first initiated by Willie Lynch back in slavery times and is still relevant today. So the term “Nappy” was created by the white man and was adopted for centuries by black people, but in reality, our hair has a helix (spiral) pattern. It’s the same pattern as whirlwinds and sound waves and DNA. Our hair is meant to grow outward like a tree, not downward like a cascading waterfall. When our hair is given proper care, it’s fluffy soft. Not only that, our hair is high-volume, high-definition. Our hair doesn’t hang down, it’s not limp, lifeless and flat, it never lacks volume, and you’ll never see a sister wearing a “bump-it” to get the illusion of voluminous hair. We don’t need it. We can take our wool from kinky to curly to wavy to straight and back to kinky again if that’s our desire. Our hair can even defy gravity and do so naturally. Others can’t. Our hair is a glorious crown, the “original” crown. Look how a head is designed! So, when you see these so-called European royalty women wearing a top. They are imitating the beauty of our hair! Wow isn’t that amazing! For black women, the straight hair bias is the culprit of texture prejudice that privileges the white woman’s texture as the supreme texture of hair. Black women are not aware that our hair is rich with soil, the color of dark chocolate, rises to the sky, vastness as space, coiled to perfection, and a mystery of the Most High.

My interview with Khalifa Musfai, a professor of African American Studies

Q. Do you think that as children we are programmed to say that our hair is bad?

Khalifa: Yes, I remember my mother said to my sister about her kinky hair, you need to get your hair done by that she meant to straighten it by perms of straightening combs. As a man, I grow up conditioned to perceive black hair as something terrible that needed to be fixed. I used to look at the women on the commercial and think that was beauty, it was not until I because a student of consciousness that I realize my thinking was wrong. In fact with most of my students when asked about black hair – 43% (over 200 black male students) said they prepared black women with their natural hair, apart from wigs, weaves, and perms. While 57 % preferred the look of Caucasian straight hair as most attractive and 90% voted that this was conditioned by slavery misconceptions and fallacies about our hair.

Redefining the standard of beauty in terms of hair.

I must admit I love running my fingers through my hair while showering, the curls embrace my face as the water runs the length on my back. I get attention on the comeliness of my hair they suggest that it’s a prized possession, but in reality, to my nation, it’s a god. Yes, it is possible to worship hair, I have never been guilty of such worship.. frankly, I always had long hair. It was never a concern of mine. But for many of my sisters, it is, after all, it’s our crowning glory. The black women have always been guilty of false glory because you are adorning your head with someone else’s beauty. How do we get our own vision? By nourishing our own glory and owning it. I know we own our cars, clothes, or even homes but we must hold our hair. We must be thankful and take care of what the Most High gave us. The hair texture closely associated with European straight hair is considered almost heavenly good and esteemed most attractive. This straight hair blowing in the wind, cascading down the back, smooth to touch, and easy to comb.

Is this perfection? How can this hair be the best? Willie Lynch is to blame on this one dividing and conquering the slaves based on hair texture. But who says this is true? The fault lies with the mother who never taught the daughter the beauty of her hair. The world has brought into this lie, pure and simple for some, there is no turning back from this theory. In West Africa, Nigeria to be specific the boys and young girls cut their hair off not to deal with the texture and opt to wear wigs. While in the United States, black women are literally tearing their hair out of their heads through the wearing of the weave so they can slang it back and forth. The ignorance of our people is undoubtedly devastating to know that something that created with sheer brilliance is a beast of pardon to many.

My conversation with a random woman I encountered at a boutique.

Woman: Girl you got some excellent hair — 

Me: All hair is good. Woman: I wish my hair were long and pretty like yours. You’re so cute. 

Me: Your hair is pretty. 

Woman: But not like yours 

Me: You know that is a fallacy created by our people that goes back to slavery. There is no right or bad hair. The Most High created all hair and its good hair. (That comment left her speechless and puzzled there was no reply) 

The contemptuous terms such as ‘good hair’ or ‘bad hair’ came out of the era of slavery, during the Willie Lynch period. Where slaves were put into groups according to the lightness of skin and hair textures the closer your hair was to Caucasian hair the better you were perceived in being that meant you would be considered “a house negro” and receive preferential treatment than the darker slaves. Our hair is our crowning glory; there are various textures of hair that black people have due to genetics and racial mixing. These textures vary from 3A to 4D, beautiful to tightly curled.

3 a – fine curl pattern

 3 b – medium curl pattern 

3 c – loose curly pattern

 4a – thicker curly pattern

4b – thicker medium pattern

4c – medium curly pattern

4d – excessively tighter curls

Facts about black hair: 

It keeps you cool and protects you from the sun.

Our hair is our crowning glory; there are many textures of hair that black people have due to genetics and interracial rations.

There is more money spend on hair care around the world then products to actually make the hair grow.

There is no such thing as bad hair, the strains of our hair was created by the Most High and trust me, he knew what He was doing in creation but through colonization and the media which suggests that long bone straight flowing hair is most attractive.

We as people have bought into that “Lie” yes I said it, that lie because that is what it is. You have been brainwashed into thinking that excessively curly or wooly hair isn’t as good as straight hair.

The Savior of this world has wooly hair.

My nation is so ignorant, how they talk about their hair. All hair is good. Embrace your wool.

I was taught I had terrible hair, so I relaxed it and added weave now I am bald headed — Brittany (a 31-year-old black woman) 

I wish my parents would have taught me that my hair wasn’t bad — Erica Wilson (18-year-old female) 

There is nothing better than a black woman that wears her natural hair — Jonathan (white male married to a black woman)

Often people ask me if my hair is real because it’s thick and long.

Male Store clerk: Is all that hair yours?

Me: Yes

Male Store clerk: Can I touch it?

Today in 2018, I walk proudly with my hair covered sometimes, it gives the mystery of what is underneath. Is it short or is it long? In late 18th century Louisiana, black women were ordered to cover their hair in public. This system was called the “Bando du Buen Gobierno,” “Edict for Good Government.” These rules were meant to change certain so-called “unacceptable” behaviors of the free black women. specifically overly ostentatious hairstyles,(designed to impress or attract notice) of which drew the attention of white men, and the jealousy of white women. These rules are called the “Tignon Laws” A tignon (pronounced “yon”) is a headdress. They are still doing this today! Where a lot of people go on interviews and are being turned away because of their natural hair, The employers say they must straighten their hair. But finally, we are waking back up to our beauty! They even fear our hair!

When wearing a weave or perming your hair, you are playing roulette with your hair, please handle with care. — Diane (my hairdresser)

ALL HAIR IS GOOD!

LITTLE GIRL IN THE STORE: Look at her hair Mom. LITTLE GIRL’S MOM: That is a weave. ME: No, it’s my hair.

It is a mere fact that us women that have long natural hair like me that grow out of our heads, always manage to get a hater or naysayers that believe that our hair is not real. In the society with all the fakers, weave wearers, and wig junkies it makes it hard for those of us that like to keep it real. It is also true that we were conditioned through slavery to hate ourselves and the texture of our hair so we commit our scalps to abusive chemicals and hair that did not grow from our scalp. The truth of the matter is that all hair is good, the creator of all made it. This hate is correlated with the term “Texturism.”

Good Hair (we have it.) 

All these photographs are the property of their respective owners. 

Teach your children who they are, what they are in the Most High.

Teach your children to love their hair.

The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

How to Pray

Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen. Matthew 6: 9-12
Prayer times: Morning (sunrise 5am) Afternoon (12-3) Evening (sunset)
1. Position 
On your knees, raise your arms as reaching for the Most High face the east.
2. Gratitude 
Praise the Most High let HIM know who much you appreciate HIM, acknowledge how GREAT HE is, love him, bring into remembrance all that HE did for you. Worship HIS holy name.
3. Confess your sins 
Confess and ask for forgiveness of your sins (iniquities and transgressions.)
4. Petition 
Let your request to know what you need to the Most High.
5. In the name of the Messiah – Seal your prayer in the name of the Messiah or Savior.
Scriptures: Psalms 55:17, 1 Kings 8:28, 1 Kings 8:38, Proverbs 15:29, 2 Chronicles 32:20, Job 8:5, Psalms 73:28, Ephesians 3:14, Ephesians 6:18, Matthew 6:7
Facts about PRAYER: It changes things and a way of communicating with the Most High.

It’s a battle daily living within the gut of this monster we denote this world. My very psyche is levy daily with apprehension and juddering, it feels as if I am suffocating every moment to the point of feeling thirsty or excessive hung but yet never having enough to quench those appetites. It is as if I am watching an Opera while everyone else is watching the same show the only difference is that our perspicacious is like night and day. In whatever seat I sit in I must see the world through the eyes of the Most High to carry me through the dilemmas of life through his perception. I am not a perfect person, my flaws are endless, in my life I have made a lot of mistakes. But I do strive daily to be more like the Savior, keep the commandments. As long as there is breath in our bodies there is hope. Life every day like your last for no one is promised tomorrow. Our lives are like the vapor, we are here for a short time. Only the things you do for the Most High will last.

Read your bible because what we have been taught are lies. We still have to keep the 10 commandments. There is no rapture. When you die you go to Abraham’s Bosom (paradise) or Hades (Hell.) There is no such thing as once saved always saved. Nobody is saved right now. Hell is real. A man is appointed to die once, no reincarnation. If you do not repent and keep the commandments you will go to hell. The is only one true God – The Most High – the God of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, and the nation of Israel. You must keep the Sabbath (Friday sundown to Saturday sundown). Sunday Church is the worship of the Sun God.

For those confessing being a part of the Nation of Israel, prayer is the best way to communicate with the Most High. Prayer is the vehicle for daily dialog with the One who created us. The importance of daily communication through prayer cannot be overestimated. It is so important that it is mentioned over 250 times in Scripture. So why is daily prayer so important? First, daily prayer gives us an opportunity to share all aspects of our lives including our circumstances daily with the Most High. Second, daily prayer gives us the chance to express our gratitude for all the things He provides out food, clothing, and shelter. Prayer provides the platform for confessing our sin and asking for help in overcoming that sin. Prayer is an act of worship and obedience. Prayer is a way to acknowledge who is really in control of our lives. Let’s take a look at each of these important reasons in a little more detail. The Prayer the Savior gave to us: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom comes, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen. Matthew 6:9-13 KJV Prayer is the direct link to the Most High. Anoint yourself and your family with anointing oil as you pray for them.

The hypothetical logic of possessing the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16) introduces a spiritual connection but first we can’t leave our minds undisciplined. The Apostle Paul understood this well: “Philippians 4:8 (KJV) – “ Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Due to your spirit and soul connection you will never obtain the mind of the Savior without first reading the word regularly.

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Meditate on the words of the Most High daily.

We can hardly overstate the importance of integrity to a generation of believers so much like the world in ethical conduct. But integrity’s benefits of character, a clear conscience, deep intimacy with the Most High argue its importance. Our speech and conduct must be intentionally following the laws and statues of the Most High. “ If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain. James 1:26 (KJV)” Our words should be offered on the altar.

Repent!

Dilemma 44 – " The Spirit, Soul, and the Body.

There are three critical components of mankind, the Spirit, Soul, and the Body. The body houses the soul and spirit.

1. (Spirit) Breath into nostrils the breath of life. The Spirit (Hebrew “Ruwach”)

Our human spirit is an element given to men to enable them to know the Most High intimately through a genuine relationship. Our human spirit is what connects us with the Most High spiritually. So to be connected with The Most High is to be alive spiritually Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;) Ephesians 2:5 KJV To be disconnected from the Most High is to be dead spiritually For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Christ our Lord. Romans 6:23 KJV Our human spirit is the element through which the Holy Spirit dwells in us as we keep his commandments and statues. Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from thy presence, and take not thy holy spirit from me. Psalms 51: 10-11 KJV When we sin the Holy Spirit departs from us.

We understand, receive, and discern spiritual truth through our human spirit by the anointing of the Holy Spirit But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. John 14:26 KJV The human spirit is like blood in our physical body, which is symbolic of material life. When a limb of the body is deprived of blood, it withers and dies. It’s the same thing that transpires when we’re disconnected from the Most High due to sin our spirit man is dead as a result. Because the spirit becomes deprived of the rich spiritual nourishment the word, provision, and support that it desperately needs from the Most High’s word for it to be alive, healthy, and in good graces with the Most High. It all happens as a result of our human spirit being disconnected from God, which is spiritual death. When that happens, utter darkness has invaded the body, soul, and spirit. This leads to enmity with the Father. A condition that occurs after you sin. It disconnects the undeviating interaction with the Most High (your Father) the gate to the nucleus of our existence the Most High God of Israel. And they fell upon their faces, and said, O God, the God of the spirits of all flesh, shall one man sin, and wilt thou be wroth with all the congregation? Numbers 16:22 KJV This verse names the Most High as the God of the spirits that are possessed by all humanity.

Notice also that it mentions the flesh (body) of all mankind, connecting it with the spirit. It’s in our spirit that we have meaning and purpose in life. At the deepest level, our spirit gives us meaning and purpose and our spirit enables us to love one another, our self and the creator. It’s through our spirit that we have communion and fellowship with the Most High God. Our spirit gives us intuition between right and wrong. “For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.” Galatians 5:17

Spirit: Holies of Holies

  (Hebrew “Ruwach”)

Revelation Worship Fears the Most High Faith Hope Prayer Intuition Charity Fruit of the Spirit

Our human spirit is an element given to men in order to enable them to know the Most High intimately through a genuine relationship. Our human spirit is what connects us with the Most High spiritually. So to be connected with The Most High is to be alive spiritually Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;) Ephesians 2:5 KJV To be disconnected from the Most High is to be dead spiritually For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Christ our Lord. Romans 6:23 KJV Our human spirit is the element through which the Holy Spirit dwells in us as we keep his commandments and statues. Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from thy presence, and take not thy holy spirit from me. Psalms 51: 10-11 KJV When we sin the Holy Spirit departs from us. We understand, receive, and discern spiritual truth through our human spirit by the anointing of the Holy Spirit But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. John 14:26 KJV The human spirit is like blood in our physical body, which is symbolic of physical life. When a limb of the body is deprived of blood, it withers and dies. It’s the same thing that transpires when we’re disconnected from the Most High due to sin our spirit man is dead as a result. Because the spirit becomes deprived of the rich spiritual nourishment the word, provision, and support that it desperately needs from the Most High’s word in order for it to be alive, healthy, and in good graces with the Most High. It all happens as a result of our human spirit being disconnected from God, which is spiritual death. When that happens, utter darkness has invaded the body, soul, and spirit. This leads to enmity with the Father. A condition that occurs after you sin. It disconnects the undeviating interaction with the Most High (your Father) the gate to the nucleus of our existence the Most High God of Israel. And they fell upon their faces, and said, O God, the God of the spirits of all flesh, shall one man sin, and wilt thou be wroth with all the congregation? Numbers 16:22 KJV This verse names the Most High as the God of the spirits that are possessed by all humanity. Notice also that it mentions the flesh (body) of all mankind, connecting it with the spirit. It’s in our spirit that we have meaning and purpose in life. At the deepest level, our spirit gives us meaning and purpose and our spirit enables us to love one another, our self and the creator. It’s through our spirit that we have communion and fellowship with the Most High God. Our spirit gives us intuition between right and wrong. “For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.” Galatians 5:17

2. (Soul) Man became a living soul. The Soul (Hebrew, “Nephesh” )

The soul is an immaterial element; in other words, the soul is spirit as well. It’s the very element in which intellect, emotion, and free will are exercised. The soul is the element which controls the body in these three areas. The soul is immortal in the sense that it can be annihilated; therefore, it remains alive even if the body is dead physically. Since it’s where free will is located; consequently, it’s the very element that carries the massive burden of sin. Our soul gives us the ability to think, choose, imagine, remember, and feel. Most importantly, the soul is the very embodiment of our mind and heart. As a result, our mind is the very part of our body that Satan and his demons contend against the truth persistently. If Satan can keep you in strong delusion and fulfilling the lusts of your flesh and eyes. Your mind will be held captive. You must flee from temptation. “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV To flee from all temptations known to man. But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. Matthew 4:4 KJV The soul is the very part of man in which his conscience resides.

The consciousness of reasoning and evaluating sin. A conscience is given by God to keep a man from evil by releasing an intense onus and discomfort feeling before committing an act of sin. Lot of times, strong guilt and remorse are experienced after people have committed something that was in clear violation of breaking the commandments, laws, and statues with their own conscience their sense of right and wrong: the understanding of what is right and wrong that governs somebody’s thoughts and actions, urging him or her to do right rather than wrong. Our soul is what gives us our personality; it’s the real you. Often referred to as your heart. Our soul has three significant components — our mind, will, and emotions. Our brain has a conscious part and a subconscious part. The conscious mind is where we do our thinking and reasoning. The sub-conscious mind is where we hold our deep beliefs and our attitudes. It’s also where we have our feeling, our emotions and retain our memories. Our will is what gives us the ability to make choices. Through a very complicated way, our mind, our will, and our emotions are connected to the body through our endocrine, nervous, and immune systems. The soul is a slave to sin. Genesis 2:7 KJV states that Man was created as a “living soul.” The soul consists of the mind (which includes the conscience), the will and the emotions. The soul and the spirit are mysteriously tied together and makeup what the Scriptures call the “heart.” And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living soul. Genesis 2:7 KJV The writer of Proverbs declares, ” Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23 KJV We see here that the “heart” which is part of the soul is central to our emotions and will. But the natural man receiveth, not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.1 Corinthians 2:14 KJV And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which can destroy both soul and body in hell. Matthew 10:28 KJV It is our soul that will go to either Abraham’s bosom or Hades after we die. But his flesh upon him shall have pain, and his soul within him shall mourn. Job 14:22 KJV

Soul: Inner Court

 (Hebrew, “Nephesh” )

Center of the Mind, will, and emotions conscious reasoning Memory Choice Carnal nature Thought processes

 The soul is an immaterial element; in other words, the soul is spirit as well. It’s the very element in which intellect, emotion, and free will are exercised. The soul is the element which controls the body in these three areas. The soul is immortal in the sense that it can be annihilated; therefore, it remains alive even if the body is dead physically. Since it’s where free will is located; consequently, it’s the very element that carries the massive burden of sin. Our soul gives us the ability to think, choose, imagine, remember, and feel. Most importantly, the soul is the very embodiment of our mind and heart. As a result, our mind is the very part of our body that Satan and his demons contend against the truth persistently. If Satan can keep you in strong delusion and fulfilling the lusts of your flesh and eyes. Your mind will be held captive. You must flee from temptation. “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV In order to flee from all temptations known to man. But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. Matthew 4:4 KJV The soul is the very part of man in which his conscience resides. The consciousness of reasoning and evaluating sin. A conscience is given by God in order to keep the man from evil by releasing an intense onus and discomfort feeling before committing an act of sin. Lot of times, strong guilt and remorse are experienced after people have committed something that was in clear violation of breaking the commandments, laws, and statues with their own conscience their sense of right and wrong: the sense of what is right and wrong that governs somebody’s thoughts and actions, urging him or her to do right rather than wrong. Our soul is what gives us our personality it’s the real you. Often referred to as your heart. Our soul has three major components — our mind, will, and emotions. Our mind has a conscious part and a subconscious part. The conscious mind is where we do our thinking and reasoning. The sub-conscious mind is where we hold our deep beliefs and our attitudes. It’s also where we have our feeling, our emotions and retain our memories. Our will is what gives us the ability to make choices. Through a very complex way, our mind, our will, and our emotions are connected to the body through our endocrine, nervous and immune systems. The soul is a slave to sin. Genesis 2:7 KJV states that Man was created as a “living soul.” The soul consists of the mind (which includes the conscience), the will and the emotions. The soul and the spirit are mysteriously tied together and makeup what the Scriptures call the “heart.” And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living soul. Genesis 2:7 KJV The writer of Proverbs declares, ” Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23 KJV We see here that the “heart” which is part of the soul is central to our emotions and will. But the natural man receiveth, not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.1 Corinthians 2:14 KJV And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell. Matthew 10:28 KJV It is our soul that will go to either Abraham’s bosom or Hades after we die. But his flesh upon him shall have pain, and his soul within him shall mourn. Job 14:22 KJV

3. (Body) formed from the dust of the ground. The Body (Hebrew, “ Graph”)

I beseech you, therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. Romans 12:1 KJV A body is allied with performing and committing to the will of the Most High. The Spirit and a Soul might have a body to occupy. A body is for doing things on this earth, so the prime reason we have a physical body is to do the will of the Most High on earth. Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God. Romans 6:13 KJV We have a physical body for procreating purposes. “And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.” Genesis 9:1 KJV A physical body allows us to enjoy and fit into the creation. Another reason as to why we have a physical body is because we’re made to dwell in a physical world, so our physicality enables us to interact and connect with our surroundings in a wide variety of ways. This is the entire material or physical structure of a human being — it is the physical part of a person.

Man is made up of physical material, the body complies with these systems that operate together to give the most harmonious operations of the organization: Cardiovascular/Circulatory system: Circulates blood around the body via the heart, arteries, and veins, delivering oxygen and nutrients to organs and cells and carrying their waste products away. Digestive system / Excretory system: Mechanical and chemical processes that provide nutrients via the mouth, esophagus, stomach, and intestines. Eliminates waste from the body. Endocrine system: Provides biochemical communications within the organization using hormones. Exocrine system: Skin, hair, nails, sweat, and other exocrine glands. Lymphatic system / Immune system: The system comprising a network of lymphatic vessels that carry a clear fluid called lymph. Defends the body against disease-causing agents. Muscular system/Skeletal system: Enables the body to move using muscles. Bones supporting the body and its organs. Nervous system: Collects and processes information from the senses via nerves and the brain and tells the muscles to contract to cause physical actions. Renal system / Urinary system: The system where the kidneys filter blood.

Reproductive system: The sex organs required for the production of offspring. Respiratory system: The lungs and the trachea that bring air into the body. The body is the indirect correlation with the 5 senses: hearing, sight, touch, smell, and taste. The body is in close relationship with the soul. They hardly ever contradict themselves. The body works in line with the flesh. “Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,” Galatians 5:19 KJV “Therefore, brethren, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live after the flesh.” Romans 8:12 KJV When your soul and spirit live your body, it results in Death.

Body: Outer Court

 (Hebrew, “ Graph”)

The body carries out lust of the flesh through touch, taste, smell, sight, hearing, and feeling formed from the dust of the ground.

 I beseech you, therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. Romans 12:1 KJV A body is allied with performing and committing to the will of the Most High. The Spirit and a Soul might have a body to occupy. A body is for doing things on this earth, so the prime reason we have a physical body is for the purpose of doing the will of the Most High on earth. Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God. Romans 6:13 KJV We have a physical body for procreating purposes. “And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.” Genesis 9:1 KJV

Death of the Body

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When we die the silver cord is broken… Our spirit and soul live in a body so when we die the silver cord is broken… Our soul pays the price for what our physical body does. When your cord breaks where will you be in Abraham’s bosom (at rest) or Hades (in torment)

“Or ever the silver cord be loosed, or the golden bowl be broken, or the pitcher be broken at the fountain or the wheel broken at the cistern.” Ecclesiastes 12:6

Hostilities and battles have inexorably the ability to turns a person’s point of view to the most intriguing thought-provoking questions about death. Life within itself is an unexplained phenomenon that ends at any time with reason or motive. Is it a climax to a bigger plan or the divine will of the Most High God? Don’t sorrow for the wounded lamb that hops to his mother, for the broken-winged blue jay that has flown away up the mountain. This is the sentiment when a loved one has departed from this world. While we lament over our loss at of our loved ones, we can revel in the fact of knowing that your loved ones went into Abraham bosom. Some deaths are met with joy, peace, longsuffering, and mourning. At the end of your life, judgment is set your body returns to the dirt, and your spirit to the Most High, your soul will enter Abraham’s bosom or Hades depending on you keep the laws and commandments of the Most High God of Israel. You exist no more your like a dream that is over, but the memories of you are trapped in the minds of your loved ones that were left behind. The loss of my husband has left me tormented with longing to touch, to feel, to talk, to get encouragement, to bask in the shadow of his glow, to walk side by side as the moon appears before our eyes, to serve him with reverence, due benevolence, love, to breath each others air, to share that last piece of cheesecake, to know that someone is there for you to accept me as I am. Death is final, and that devastation leaves you with not much to be desired but a feeling of peace in knowing that you loved one is in a better place with no pain and suffering. “And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:” Hebrews 9:27 KJV Our bodies are decaying every moment we are lead to believe that we are to pay attention to our physical body only. The spirit is knocked out with a punch. We live eternal through our spirits. In the following chapters, you will experience the direct correlation between the connection of spirit, soul, and body. The body and soul are subject to the Spirit, and your spirit is to the Most High God of Israel. Repent! Turn back from your wicked ways! No one is promised tomorrow!

Have you ever wondered where your soul goes after it has departed your body? The world would have you to believe that everyone will enter the pearly gates of heaven or be reincarnated as another person or animal. In reality, where you go is determined on how you lived your life, did you live a life of sin, or did you keep the commandments?  Let’s first get it straight that you will not leave this earth until the Most High sends the decree, and your soul is required of you on that day. The Most High God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob is in control over everything including your life. For HE is the one true and living God.

This is what happens to your soul after it leaves your body.

And I answered and said,

   “Then will time be given the souls after they are separated

 from the bodies, to see what you have told me of?"

   “They have freedom for seven days, so that during these seven days they may see the things of which you have been told, and afterwards they shall be gathered in their habitations.”

So after your soul departs from your body, you will be given seven days before going into Abraham’s Bosom/Paradise (place of rest) or Hades (place of torment.) In regards to death, whether going into Abraham’s Bosom or a place of torment, it is explained profoundly in the Holy Bible, in the parable of the rich man and Lazarus.

“There was a certain rich man, which was clothed in purple and fine linen, and fared sumptuously every day: And there was a certain beggar named Lazarus, which was laid at his gate, full of sores, And desiring to be fed with the crumbs which fell from the rich man’s table: moreover the dogs came and licked his sores. And it came to pass, that the beggar died, and was carried by the angels into Abraham’s bosom: the rich man also died, and was buried; And in hell he lift up his eyes, being in torments and seeth Abraham afar off and Lazarus in his bosom. And he cried and said, Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in this flame. But Abraham said, Son, remember that thou in thy lifetime receivedst thy good things, and likewise Lazarus evil things: but now he is comforted, and thou art tormented. Ab beside all this, between us and you there is a great gulf fixed: so that they which would pass from hence to you cannot; neither can they pass to us, that would come from thence. Then he said, I pray thee therefore, father, that thou wouldest send him to my father’s house: For I have five brethren; that he may testify unto them, lest they also come into this place of torment. Abraham saith unto him, They have Moses and the prophets; let them hear them. And he said, Nay, father Abraham: but if one went unto them from the dead, they will repent. And he said unto him, If they hear not Moses and the prophets, neither will they be persuaded, through one rose from the dead.” Luke 16:23-31 KJV Bible 8

Death of the Body

Hostilities and battles have inexorably the ability to turns a person’s point of view to the most intriguing thought-provoking questions about death. Life within itself is an unexplained phenomenon that ends at any time with reason or motive. Is it a climax to a bigger plan or the divine will of the Most High God? Don’t sorrow for the wounded lamb that hops to his mother, for the broken-winged blue jay that has flown away up the mountain. This is the sentiment when a loved one has departed from this world. While we lament over our loss at of our loved ones, we can revel in the fact of knowing that your loved ones went into Abraham bosom. Some deaths are met with joy, peace, longsuffering, and mourning. At the end of your life, judgment is set your body returns to the dirt, and your spirit to the Most High, your soul will enter Abraham’s bosom or Hades depending on you keep the laws and commandments of the Most High God of Israel. You exist no more your like a dream that is over, but the memories of you are trapped in the minds of your loved ones that were left behind. The loss of my husband has left me tormented with a longing to touch, to feel, to talk, to get encouragement. I miss basking in the shadow of his glow. Walking side by side as the moon appears before our eyes, to serve him with reverence, due benevolence, love, to breath each other’s air, to share that last piece of cheesecake, to know that someone is there for you to accept me as I am. Death is final, and that devastation leaves you with not much to be desired but a feeling of peace in knowing that you loved one is in a better place with no pain and suffering.

“And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:” Hebrews 9:27 KJV

Our bodies are decaying every moment we are lead to believe that we are to pay attention to our physical body only. The spirit is knocked out with a punch. We live eternal through our spirits. In the following chapters you will experience the direct correlation between the connection of spirit, soul, and body. The body and soul is subject to the Spirit and your spirit is to the Most High God of Israel.

Now concerning death, the teaching is: When the decisive decree has gone out from the Most High that a person shall die, as the spirit leaves the body to return again to him who gave it, first of all, it adores the glory of the Most High. If it is one of those who have shown scorn and have not kept the way of the Most Hig, who have despised his law and hated those who fear God such spirits shall not enter into habitations, but shall immediately wander about in torments, always grieving and sad, in SEVEN WAYS:



1. The FIRST WAY is that they have scorned the Law of the Most High.

2. The SECOND WAY is that they can no longer make a good respentance, so that they may live.

3. The THIRD WAY they shall see the reward laid up for those who have trusted the covenants of the Most High.

4. The FOURTH WAY they shall consider the torment laid up for themselves in the last days.

5. The FIFTH WAY they shall see how the habitations of the others are guarded by angels in profound quiet.

6. The SIXTH WAY they shall see how some of them will crossover into torments.

7. The SEVENTH WAY which is worse than all the ways that have been mentioned, because they shall utterly waste away in confusion and be consumed with shame, and shall wither with fear at seeing the glory of the Most High in whose presence they sinned while they were alive, and in whose presence they are to be judged in the last times.



Now, this is the order of those who have kept the ways of the Most High, when they shall be separated from their mortal body. During the time that they lived in it, they laboriously served the Most High and withstood danger every hour so that they might keep the law of the Lawgiver perfectly. Therefore this is the teaching concerning them; First of all, they shall see with great joy the glory of him who receives them, for they shall have rest in 7 ORDERS.


1. The FIRST ORDER  is that they have striven with much toil to conquer the

wicked thought that was formed with them so that it should not lead them away from life to death.


2. The SECOND ORDER  is that they see the labyrinth in which the souls of the ungodly wander, and the punishment that awaits them.


3. The THIRD ORDER is that they see the testimony that he who formed them had borne to them because when they were them alive, they faithfully observed the law which was given.


4. The FOURTH ORDER is that they understand the rest which they now enjoy, gathered in their chambers, in great quietness, watched over by angels, and the glory that awaits them in the last days.


5. The FIFTH ORDER is that they exult that they have now escaped what is corruptible and will possess the future as their inheritance, and besides perceive the narrowness and toilsomeness from which they have been freed and the spaciousness they are destined to receive and enjoy in immortality.


6. The SIXTH ORDER  is that it is shown to them how their face is destined to shine like the sun, and how they are to be made like the light of the stars and be incorruptible thenceforth.


7. The SEVENTH ORDER  which is higher than all  those that have been mentioned, is that they will exult boldly,  and that they will trust confidently, and rejoice fearlessly,  life, and from whom they are to receive their reward when  for they hasten to see the face of him whom they served in

they are glorified.



2 Esdras Chapter 7: 76-104 (TNOAA) Sources: The New Oxford Annotated Apocrypha 1611 Holy Bible WAKE UP and REPENT of your sins before its too late!!! Stop sinning Follow the Most High Worship and Praise HIM Keep the commandments Pray and Fast This day may be your last so Repent!

REPENT!



 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV


The Universal Standard of Beauty

 

All around the world, brown girls are discriminated against based on the color of their skin. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to lofty heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it.
The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about the woman that nobody sees you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. For a female – being beautiful is more desired than intelligence, 90% of people that were interviewed agreed. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are the judge on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth.

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I don’t think that a mathematical equation or symmetry dictates the essence of beauty. At the end of the day, beauty is merely an opinion of the person that beholds it, adores it, or analyzes it. True beauty is not derived by explaining physical anatomy, lips, eyes or skin color but by being obedient to the one that created you. A woman of virtue is highly prized. I have discovered that no matter how many people say I am beautiful, one the prettiest they have seen or I am a visual phenomenon there still will be those that don’t share that opinion. The way we love ourselves can’t be based on the opinions of others but on the one that has the power to place us in heaven or hell. The opinions of men and women will change with time, situation or what you look like from day to day.

Light eyes… Big lips… small lips…small eyes…big nose… little nose…full cheeks… longneck… Light skin… dark eyes…dark skin…blonde hair… blue eyes…slim waist. Pretty face… white woman… black women… short hair… long hair… dark hair… What is the Universal Standard of Beauty?

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A conversation between two women:

White woman:

We are the universal standard because we’re prettier with light skin and straight hair we have been declared the ideal of beauty (Perception)

Black woman:

Absolutely untrue! On average, over 60% of white women are tanning their skin, injecting your lips to make them fuller, and having surgery to enhance their gluteus maximus. These enhancements are what black women are naturally endowed with. (Reality) The power that some white people have is that they create and spread lies that imply the myth of their superiority, learning the truth empowers you from the demoralizing effect of their lies. This is the truth that will set your free while breaking the strongholds in your thought process of what you have been conditioned to believe. There are undoubtedly beautiful women in every nation around the world. It is a fallacy to think that white women are the archetype of beauty.

The construct and narrative of the universal standard of beauty established by the media:

1. Blonde long straight hair
2. Light eyes
3. Skinny body
4. Long legs
5. Long straight nose
The mainstream beauty ideal “The Universal Standard of Beauty” is singularly white, making it all the more unattainable for women of color. While colonialism and White Supremacy are to blame, this theory places a blonde white woman at the top of the hierarchy of beauty. What does this mean for black women?

This Eurocentric standard of beauty dictates to young black girls or any woman of color that they don’t measure up or not good enough. We can assume that this is an attack on the brown girl. An attack on their psyche, this starts as a child. As a young girl watches hours upon hours of television, instead of spending time with her mother. The woman that could teach her the value of her skin and hair. Instead, the young women of today are lost in trying to conform to such a theory of beauty, that really doesn’t matter. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked female.” – Erin McKean

There is a universal standard of beauty regardless of race, age, sex, and other variables but it is all exclusive to the Nordic, Aryan, or by today’s standards the white woman. Pragmatically logical thinkers, all know that the notion that white women are the archetype of beauty is unbelievable. No doubt, every nation has beautiful women. It is true that beautiful faces across the board of any race that has ideal facial proportion are beautiful. Ideal proportion is directly related to the divine proportion, and that proportion is 1 to 1.618. All living organisms, including humans, are genetically encoded to develop to this proportion because there are extreme esthetic and physiologic benefits. The vast majority of us are not perfectly proportioned because of environmental factors. Establishment of a universal standard for beauty will significantly simplify the diagnosis and treatment of facial disharmonies and abnormalities. More important, treating to this standard will maximize facial esthetics. Our face allows us to convey our every thought and feeling with those around us in a nearly instantaneous manner. Without our face, we would be stuck in an emotionless and depressing self-existence devoid of a primary vehicle of communication. Our eyes subsequently, convey our deep emotions or lack thereof. As social beings, it is in our very nature to share our expressions with the outside world. It is likewise in our nature to subconsciously judge each face, assigning certain traits to particular facial characteristics. One of the most important characteristics that we judge is “beauty”. Interestingly, there is an unusually consistent agreement of what is considered “beautiful” amongst different cultures, but only when we are referring to the face rather than the body, a topic that will be explored herein. These preferences span borders, cultures, and generations, meaning yes, there really are universal standards of beauty. And while Western women do struggle to be slim, the truth is, women in all cultures eat (or don’t) to appeal to “the male gaze.” The body size that’s idealized in a particular culture appears to correspond to the availability of food and lack of exercise. In cultures like ours, where you can’t go five miles without passing a fast food restaurant which features large amounts of sugars and fat which contribute to excess body fat and poor health. Genetically, thinner women are in. You’re completely ignoring obvious differences in concepts of “beauty” among different societies and different periods of history. There are societies where women with necks swollen by goiters are “beautiful.” There are societies where women with lips stretched far out by years of wearing metal plates in their mouths are “beautiful.” There are still some old women alive in China today who grew up in a society where deliberately deformed feet (from “footbinding”) were considered beautiful. None of those attributes is considered beautiful in the western world. There are quite a few apparently problems with the assumptions and definitions of beauty, to say that it “scientifically proves” that the world’s totally overblown theory, is that the white woman is genetically superior to all women. This is an exaggerated statement where objective historical evidence shows that not factual. Beauty = health (both physical and mental); or it is an indicator of health if it floats your boat or butters your muffin. I know in the black community, being heavy is more expectable than the other racial groups. White people are more attractive to skinny bodies. Which is why it is supposed to be objective, because humans (and animals for that matter) are genetically programmed to be attracted to healthy individuals. It’d be stupid to fight and/or blame the Most High for creating us this way. However, objectively recognizing/admitting someone’s beauty and being attracted to a specific person (real person, not a celebrity) are in fact different things. Roughly speaking we’re not only attracted to health in general but specific genetic characteristics which we might lack, too. So, the core of a beauty concept is objective (even though people don’t realize it), but its shell is subjective, indeed in the eyes of the beholder. Finally, we humans differ from animals in many ways; and one of them is that we sometimes “deviate”, we break the Nature’s laws and allow perverted/distorted standards ruin our perception of many things, including beauty. Heavy makeup, emulations, plastic surgeries, hormonal supplements, fake hair, fake body parts, unnaturally excessive physical activity, binging, purging, and materialism. All these things, in fact, mislead us and our perceptions. This must be taken into consideration every time one sees a “Barbie doll.”

In all judgments by which we describe anything as beautiful, we allow no one to be of another opinion.” ― Immanuel Kant, Critique of Judgment

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Let me tell you something – being thought of as a beautiful woman has spared me nothing in life. No heartache, no trouble. Love has been difficult. Beauty is essentially meaningless and it is always transitory. — Halle Berry

When you think of beauty, naturally Halle Berry comes to mind, with her beautiful bone structure, flawless skin, and sparkling dark eyes. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. We should be thin, but healthy; they should have a flat stomach but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. In this superficial world where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify our appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be. This concept trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda. This way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are a judge on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth. Nancy Etcoff, states in her book “Survival of the Prettiest: The Science of Beauty” that, “Beauty ensnares hearts, captures minds, and stirs up emotional wildfires.” Beauty is definitely apart of the genetic makeup of the aesthetics culturally and universal. With all the madness and craze over what one looks like, it is safe to say that it is definitely in the eyes of the beholder. Subjective and Objective.

This quote from the publisher of the book Survival of the prettiest summarizes the reality of beauty quite succinctly: “Nancy Etcoff, a faculty member at Harvard Medical School and a practicing psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital, puts forth that beauty is neither a cultural construction, an invention of the fashion industry, nor a backlash against feminism—it is in our biology. It’s an essential and ineradicable part of human nature that is revered and ferociously pursued in nearly every civilization and for good reason. Those features to which we are most attracted are often signals of fertility and fecundity.

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Physical beauty is amazing With the fervor of a gazelle, we stroll Without a concern for the world Our faces are prettier than a sunrise Drawing those glances our way With those around us silent in awe the crowd drink thirstily of our physical beauty. We know where our beauty originated from It is something that we were born with not something contrived.

Many capitalize on being genetically gifted because everyone desires beauty. To gaze at beauty is mind-numbing. Beautiful people are the recipients of the privilege – the beauty privilege. Beautiful people in their lifetime will get better jobs, better treatment, make more money, endless marriage proposals, and endless perks. On the other side, they experience hate, jealousy, and envy. Is it their fault? That all depends are they making fun of others that lack physical beauty?

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Most of us know there are huge dividends when you are good looking, after all, society spends endless hours plus billions of dollars on beauty salons, on cosmetics, and costly plastic surgery all to alter your personal appearance. But are good looking people have that certain to puts them above the rest? Based on reality, yes most certain they are highly favored in society. The award for being beautiful is anything but superficial it can really change your life.

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Good looking people are associated with being good and intelligence, in some cases, yes but in my experience, the less attractive people have higher IQ and are very intellectually stimulating, trust me it goes both ways. Beautiful people are perceived as honest, sociable, and good. In some cases that is the truth but there are also self-centered – ego tactical good looking people as well. There are always exceptions to any rule.

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Even when I see a beautiful woman, I think, ‘Aw, her life must be amazing.’ Everyone does it. That’s human nature to believe that beauty is everything — Marina and the Diamonds
The mainstream beauty ideal “The most beautiful girl in the world” is singularly of the caucasian/nordic/white groups of people, making it all the more unattainable for young girls of color. While colonialism and White Supremacy are to blame, this theory places blonde white girls at the top of the hierarchy of beauty. What does this mean for black young girls? This Eurocentric standard of beauty dictates to young black girls, that they don’t measure up or not good enough. We can assume that this is an attack on the brown girl. An attack on their psyche, this starts as a child. As a young girl watches hours upon hours of television, instead of spending time with her mother. The woman that could teach her the value of her skin color and hair texture. Instead, the young women of today are lost in trying to conform to such a theory of beauty, that really doesn’t matter. I came across a post where this beautiful Nigerian girl was dubbed “The Most Beautiful” I thought finally “Dark Brown Beauty” is getting a long-awaited stamp of approval but unfortunately judging by the reception on several media outlets the backlash through the comment sections were trying to discredit this claim. Not only was it people from the Nordic/Aryan race (we know as white people) but there were black people as well shouting their disapproval. This only happens when a black person is called the most beautiful. Sadly, black women are frowned upon in terms of personal beauty. I know this stems from slavery; the conditioning and brainwashing past down from generation to generation. The very words of our slave masters haunt the minds and psyche of the black race. What are they hiding why such an attack, Learn your history boys and girls, it goes way back before the slave ships and the captivity around the world. Beauty is subjective, in the eye of the beholder and no child should grow up rejecting his or her own beauty. How can we create a society that looks beyond skin color and accepts the personal beauty of each individual?

Meet the 5-year-old Nigerian beauty, Jare Ijalana, the most beautiful girl in the world. She is definitely a babydoll and well deserving of the title.

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Jare’s personal beauty replaces the theory, while breaking the stereotype of a eurocentric kind of beauty and replaces it with a beautiful dark brown face mirroring the new image of what is truly beautiful.
Anastasia Knyazeva (L) and Thylane Blondeau (R)
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Nordic beauties Anastasia and Thylane both in previous years dubbed, “The Most Beautiful Girl in the World,” with no backlash what so ever. One manifestation of white supremacy is the use of whiteness as the standard of beauty. When whiteness (pale skin) is considered superior, white people are considered more attractive by definition and ifs the appearance of people of other races deviates from that standard, they are considered ugly. Lisa Wade Ph.D., “When whiteness is the standard of beauty” article on societypages.org

Type A Amber Heard (Top L)Angelina Jolie (Top R) Brooke Shields (Bottom L) Aishwarya Rai Bachchan ( Bottom R) – They are beautiful women and have all topped internet polls declaring them ‘the most beautiful woman in the world.’ What they all have in common are their Nordic-European facial features.

Amber (the most beautiful face according to science), Angelina, Brooke, and Aishwarya have been cited as “the most beautiful woman in the world.” What do they have in common they have very Nordic facial features. Although Aishwarya is Indian, her facial features and skin color, with the exception of her nose are very Nordic. When the white European male sets the standards the world follows, this doesn’t make it true but creates an illusion. To speak of a reality where light skin, light eyes, and tall slender bodies are presented as the benchmarks of European dogma a spectacle of breathtaking provincialism – “The universal standard of beauty“ It universalizes the concept of whiteness to epitomize beauty around the world. It suggests, perversely, and seriously, dictates what is beautiful and what is not.

Type B Cicely Tyson (Top L) Halle Berry (Top R) Vanessa Williams (Bottom L) Jayne Kennedy Overton (Bottom R) – This gorgeous woman of color have received a level of notoriety because of their good looks but not to the point of “Type A” group above.

“Women of Color” around the world – Suffering from low self-esteem brought on by colonization, slavery, and the media. Some aspire to look more white. Through the globalization of media, advertisements, magazines, and movies have trended toward a standard of beauty, whereby we are all encouraged to appear tall, thin, fair skin and our face should resemble that of the Europeans the fair-skinned Europeans that is. The image of the beautiful Caucasian woman with the blonde hair and blue eyes has become the world standard in terms of what is perceived as beauty but I will go a step further and say all white women have become the norm all around the world that looks is highly coveted or is it the media that has everyone hoodwinked by power of suggestion? Propaganda? The women around the world covet the straight hair and light skin through colonization to make a certain group of people full less than human. The world has actually been whitewashed with the alliance of lightness with desirability and beauty in women. The western-dominated culture and media have played in the propagation of the idyllic of light skin globally as perfection. The society that we live in my never changes so we must look for our validation elsewhere with our creator. As far as the earth has been here, they have been many forms of spectacular beauty. The woman has been symbolic of beauty stereotypes founded by ancient and present history. Today there is a valid argument of who the most beautiful woman is on earth. Certain news programs and people have tagged many caucasian celebrities (or ones that closely mimic they look) as the most beautiful, and internet polls can only go so far in there depiction of the perfect woman. Colonization is to be held responsible through concurring the world, they changed the perception of beauty into their women and their style through the power of persuasion, you say something for so long it becomes the truth the standard throughout the world and with the brainwashing for the media outlets they dictate who you should perceive as the standard of beauty. Women and Men are beautiful the world over no matter the skin tone. There is NO one standard of beauty, the world is full of unique people from every nationality, it is our differences that make us unique and beautiful from the palest Caucasian to the darkest African and in between. “The Pedestal” mentality and The Porcelain Doll” effect. A child is conditioned to accept everything that is put before them, there is a conditioning process that stimulates the thought processed before puberty subliminal messages programmed into the brain in terms of what is beauty what is expectable and what is not. Through media and magazines, this has been made possible to dictate to the masses what the standard of beauty is, before television, it was revealed through colonization. If something is constantly subjected or put before you then you will adopt it as your own and that becomes your reality and belief.

Nearly all black and brown skins are beautiful, but a beautiful white skin is rare. Where dark complexions are massed, they make the whites look bleached-out, unwholesome, and sometimes frankly ghastly. I could notice this as a boy, down South in the slavery days before the war. The splendid black satin skin of the South African Zulus of Durban seemed to me to come very close to perfection. The white man’s complexion makes no concealments. It can’t. It seemed to have been designed as a catch-all for everything that can damage it. Ladies have to paint it, and powder it, and cosmetic it, and diet it with arsenic, and enamel it, and be always enticing it, and persuading it, and pestering it, and fussing at it, to make it beautiful; and they do not succeed. But these efforts show what they think of the natural complexion, as distributed. As distributed it needs these helps. The complexion which they try to counterfeit is one which nature restricts to the few–to the very few. To ninety-nine persons, she gives a bad complexion, to the hundredth a good one. The hundredth can keep it–how long? Ten years, perhaps. The advantage is with the Zulu, I think. He starts with a beautiful complexion, and it will last him through. And as for the Indian brown–firm, smooth, blemishless, pleasant, and restful to the eye, afraid of no color, harmonizing with all colors and adding a grace to them all–I think there is no sort of chance for the average white complexion against that rich and perfect tint. — Mark Twain, Skin Deep – Complexions
The Black skin is not a badge of shame, but rather a glorious symbol of national greatness. — Marcus Garvey
“Dipped in chocolate, bronzed in elegance, enameled with grace, toasted with beauty. My lord, she’s a black woman.” –Yosef A.A. Ben-Jochannan
Why black women are considered ugly and less than human?
Racism is truly the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of  Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races: a profound prejudice against black people or other ethnic groups based on color. Its core belief that people of different races have different qualities and abilities, and that some races are inherently superior or inferior to the other races. Slavery in America was the biggest catalyst for this kind of hate. Thus, we are programmed into the valid rules of attraction, in what we may choose or are compelled to choose, in what is beautiful and good and what is not. For over 400 years, black people have been programmed to believe that they are less than human. When indeed, our melanin is superior to all the nations, our hair faces the Most High, we are his people. We are CHOSEN and the powers that be know that, this is why we have been conditioned to believe that we are less than nothing. The images that you see every day have a negative impact on your thinking, it is negative programming.
Views from around the world


The white woman is the universal standard of beauty — Zacharyxo Some things can’t be contested. Some might argue that beauty is subjective, and therefore, not global. While the concept of human beauty can be a personal thing, I feel that natural beauty is ubiquitous. It’s hard to argue the universal beauty of a sunset. Regardless of your own concepts of beauty, most people agree that such a scene is beautiful. Many such things exist in nature. Natural beauty is universal, transcending subjectivity. — Anonymous

Chloe Boucher

Beauty is a meaningless construct. Despite culturally self-gratifying pop science ramblings to the contrary, physical beauty does not exist. Beauty is a response, elicited when exposed to various cues which are often paired with that which is desirable in media, both mass and cultural. Observe the homogenizing of beauty standards with the advent of mass media, and the ever-fluctuating, vapid ideals which people around the world chase endlessly. By homogenizing the idea of beauty and manipulating it, the fashion, diet, and cosmetic industries can generate billions in revenue. But beauty, initially, was deeply tied to intimate cultural forces and has only recently been molded into something with some degree of universality.— Skepsikyma Standards of beauty vary greatly. From culture to culture, standards of beauty vary. Such rules have also changed throughout history. Our modern ideas of beauty are greatly affected by the fashion industry and advertising campaigns. The idea that women must be thin, be free of body hair and sweat, and be perfectly coiffed and made up comes from deodorant companies, razor companies, diet-food companies, and hair care companies trying to sell more products. Sadly, modern western beauty ideals are in danger of becoming more universal because of globalization and the spread of advertising imagery. —- ChevalR Yes it is I live in India and beauty here is what westerners believe in beauty, Indians look a bit dark and don’t have such features, but I always see western models in an advertisement in hoardings. India also has a fairness obsession. I have not seen this in any other country like Malaysia or Indonesia, where they always cast a local model instead of a western model. Maybe because Indians and Europeans are both Caucasians and indeed we Indians like the lighter variant of the two subsets. —Anonymous Beauty is universal Beauty, on the other hand, should not be descriptive, nor should it be normative. I believe that beauty is universal. Although our perceptions of taste and style may differ from one another; does not mean that we find other flavors hideous? Of course, we will always think our taste is better than the rest, but you will still appreciate different styles of art. I believe that we were all born with an idea of what beauty is, but as life went on, other views (culture, media, etc.) have influenced us very much. That being the reason for our different tastes. But the fact that we can still recognize something beautiful proves that beauty is universal. —- Anonymous Constants have been shown across culture and time Google image search models from non-western countries. Google image search models from previous periods. What do they all have in common? They are attractive by today’s so-called “modern western beauty standard.” With this exercise, it will become very apparent to you that there’s nothing actually ‘modern’ or ‘western’ about what we find beautiful. —– Anonymous This has been validated by science. Studies show universal preferences for several physical characteristics, including facial symmetry, high gender polarity (i.E., Masculine men and feminine women), and in women, a waist-hip ratio around 0.7. — Anonymous Yes, it is I believe that all cultures should have a chance to express what they think is a beauty. Just because someone doesn’t think something is beautiful, one place doesn’t mean it isn’t beautiful somewhere else. Beauty does not necessarily mean it is found on the inside but on the outside as well. — Anonymous

What is beauty?
The three wishes of every man: to be healthy, to be productive by honest means, and to be beautiful. —PLATO 

We all know beauty when we notice its radiance, yet it is entirely transient. It has to do with subtle yet meaningless things like the beauty of your eyes, symmetry, the clarity of the skin, the balance of the cheekbones, the prominence of the nose, the fullness of the lips, and the shape of the body. We all know ugly the lack of symmetry and visual perception of beauty when we see it too. Yet this whole concept about beauty is incongruous. Like Science, beauty is based on theory. Is Beauty in the one of the beholder? Really that depends on who you ask? – “The Universal Standard of Beauty” in which black women are affected the most because of the European standard of beauty, which makes them the recipient of many comments like:

She is ugly … She’s fat … She’s Dark … Her nose is big. Her lips are so big.. She looks like a man..

But indeed all nonwhite people suffer from this dilemma but are often in ignorance associating with this standard uplifting European white women as the standard of beauty. The dangerous effects of judging one’s own personal beauty leave devastating consequences around the world. In China, Face – umbrellas are used to prevent tanning. Skin lighting products are famous across the globe, especially in India and Africa Black women are getting western rhinoplasty to make their noses more Caucasian Light eyes are the craze, colored contact sales are on the rise. Straight hair is associated with the universal standard of Slim beauty frames are desired the most, which lead to eating disorders around the world.

The Perception of the beautiful is gradual, and not a lightning revelation; it requires not only time, but some study —- Giovanni Ruddini, Poet (1807-1881)

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Oxford’s Dictionary refers to beauty as “A combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight.” What is it about the beauty that has us so enamored with its power and aesthetics? The answer would definitely not be a clique or fallacy but a term of endearment to the one that beholds such a pulchritude of perfection. When one thinks of beauty, they often refer to it as bewitching, extraordinary, alluring, universal, timeless, and youthful. Natural beauty within itself has the power to influence the beholder of its magnificence. The Human eye knows beauty when it sees it is ethereal. It has components that hypnotize the beholders as in eyes, cheekbones, noses, and full lips. Beauty is superficial but enchanting, but there are really only a few that are genetically gifted with physical beauty.

1. The Contrast and vividness of Skin Color.
What combinations that are more intensified from dark skin to light skin? Most faces with bright eyes, darker skin presents a vivid contrast – Faces with light skin and dark eyes give a sharp contrast. Dark eyes with Dark skin the difference is intensified by color, Light skin with bright eyes is strengthened by receding light tones. Your skin is the canvas on which your facial features translate its beauty.
2. The congruence of facial features
In the front of the head where the eyes, nose, lips, chin, cheeks, forehead all in alliance with each other giving a staggering computation of facial beauty in a combination of aesthetic perfection in harmony together. It is your facial features that make your face attractive, not your skin color.
3. The Symmetry (1.618)
In numbers, the Greeks believed that perfect symmetry was responsible for the attractiveness of a face and that attractive looks were closer to the beauty ratio of 1.618. This brings me to what is “Universal Attractiveness,” which is determined through nations, cultures, personal tastes, and eras, which is a common denominator in both female and male attractiveness. Feminine beauty: big eyes, small nose, full lips, narrow jaw line, youthful appearance, thick hair, and hourglass figure. Male Beauty: thick Eyebrows, little eyes, a more large nose, tanned skin, prominent jawline, and a V-shaped body. Even with defining what is really beautiful, the rule of thumb is that Beauty is Subjective. It is based on somebody’s opinions or feelings rather than on facts or evidence this subjectivity can translate into the phrase “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” This analogy goes far beyond theory where science bases beauty strictly on the approach the eye gate is the final verdict on what it viewed as physical attractiveness through personal thought, reasoning, or cultural influence. In general, beauty is a beauty, but aesthetic attractiveness can be different many things are perceived as beautiful can vary from place to era and culture. Physical Attraction Physical attraction is what relationships are based on at first glance, it plays a vital role in attraction in what we perceive as a masculine or feminine perfection of physical beauty determined by first glance. There is an age-old prowess, “the hunter to the prey syndrome” men are hunters, women are the prey. Physical attraction often implies sexual attractiveness or desirability. There are many levels which influence one person’s magnetism to another, with physical characteristics being one of them. The physical attraction itself includes global assessments of all human civilization, as well as aspects that are culturally and socially dependent, along with individual subjective and objective preferences. There are always exceptions to any rule, the science of beauty is based on a theory for physical is definitely in the eyes of the beholder.
Women:

 Youthful appearance, big eyes, small nose, full lips, low waist to hip ratio, full breasts, ample backside an hourglass physique.

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Men:

Thick eyebrows, strong and prominent jawline, larger nose, facial hair, tan skin and v-shaped torso, and muscular physique.

Is Beauty is the eyes of the beholder?

Conceivably the most customary issue in the principle of beauty is whether beauty is subjective— or even objective located ‘in the eye of the beholder’— However, if beauty is entirely subjective—that is, if the opinion is shared by many does that equate the beauty of a face. Would I be presumptuous to believe that every man, woman, or child will behold my beauty? Or would I appreciate their subjective on the beauty of my face? In fact, numerous people, as I have been told find me quite beautiful with a strong emphasis on my facial beauty. But for the numerous that do, I believe that there is a small community that doesn’t. That is really across the board for everyone. On the other hand, it seems senseless to say that beauty has no connection to subjective response or that it is entirely objective. That would seem to entail, for example, that a world with no perceivers could be beautiful or ugly, or perhaps that beauty could be detected by scientific instruments. Even if it could be, beauty would seem to be connected to subjective response, and though we may argue about whether something is beautiful, the idea that one’s experiences of beauty might be disqualified as simply inaccurate or false might arouse puzzlement.

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I remember about 10 years ago…. I commented on a well-known actor, I remarked that he wasn’t that attractive to me… and then the person I told this to got some violent she was ready to tear me apart. Then she replied, “You need to get your eyes checked!” We often disagree concerning the physical beauty of others. We argue and fight to prove our points of who is undeniably beautiful. We debate, share our sentiments in hopes of someone agreeing when indeed its merely a judgment or preference. We often regard other people’s taste while trying to prove ours, when it differs from theirs, as tentatively showing respect, as we may not, for example, in cases of moral, political, or factual opinions. All plausible accounts of beauty connect it to a pleasurable or profound or loving response, even if they do not locate beauty purely in the eye of the beholder. beauty is subjective from personal experience and preconceived ideas… But also the product of manipulation through passing the media and global conditioning.

There are no makeovers in my books. The ugly duckling does not become a beautiful swan. She becomes a confident duck able to take charge of her own life and problems. —Maeve Binchy

I personally don’t refer to people as being “ugly” I don’t agree with that terminology or invoke that judgment on anyone, I prefer to call them “not attractive” .. If you were not born by what the world esteems as “attractive” – which is strictly in the eye of the beholder. Less attractive people are look over more than their attractive counterparts in dating, jobs, and society. But hold on, just wait a minute because there are numerous other talents, gifts and abilities that you have which should be exploited to their full potential. The world is not evenly balanced between opposing sides of beauty equally; it’s your responsibility to take what you have and make something productive and valuable from that. Your character is the most essential aspect of your being. Having this ugly disadvantage is such “social injustice.” really it is because some of the most inspiring and beautiful people I know are not genetically gifted but have such an intellectual prowess. Ugly people are perceived to be lazy and unfriendly. That may be true in some cases, but in other causes that are not true.

As children we are programmed to believe that something is attractive or a possessor of aesthetic perfection. When in reality what we see is not really what we see, we gravitate to things that affect our five senses, the five traditionally recognized methods of perception, or sense: taste, sight, touch, smell, and sound. No two people look the same to each other for our perceptions of what we esteemed as beauty can be quite different. This proves the theory without a doubt, that beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder.

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The eyeballs generate an opinion based on emotions, features, and lustful feelings when you stare intently at a subject. The model above, Leon Grey is very handsome and most women will agree. Do you think that every woman would find him attractive? No, because our perceptions vary from person to person depending on our 5 senses.

“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder” is an orthodoxy phrase that is to denote subjectivity or objectivity in physical beauty. What I might find disgusting or unattractive, you may find attractive, is the subjectivity or objectivity verified and vindicate the justice of elegance with this world-renowned phrase. What is missing from this obsessive focus on subjective interpretation of beauty is the inherent manifestation of beauty in the object or person. The human face is inherently, intrinsically beautiful when created, though no beholders’ eyes saw the beauty? Many have expressed that the term should actually be titled, “Physical Attractiveness lies in the opinion of the beholder.” because attractiveness is based on personal taste derived from the real face or body attributes. While “Beauty” is based purely on facial beauty, features, and symmetry. On the website, “theperfecthumanface.com” identifies and clarifies that physical beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder 54% agreed on their recent polls featured on that site. In the eye of the beholder 54% Golden Ratio, Symmetry, Phi masks 1.618 20% Genetics 17% Science 1% World Standards of Beauty Eurocentric beliefs 9%

The Power of Beauty
Kristina Urribarres

“Beauty in its prowess has the power to manipulate the senses the mind, especially the eye, which is dangerous because you’re under its supremacy” — Scientist Welerbee It captivates women. Men desire it. It is adored, worshipped, highly sought after, and envied it is a beauty! How you ever wondered what happens when 10,000 bolts of electricity hit a lightning rod in a storm? The brain becomes scrambled eyes this is pretty powerful in retrospect clearly exhibits a staggering conclusion this happens when we view beauty there is a theory of fireworks releasing shooting off like a rocket at the same time an internal explosion of some sort, blood starts to pump faster to the heart, and breathing becomes rapid. The eyes bulge out of the head, and the saliva glands begin to release that is the power of beauty. “To be beautiful, handsome, means that you possess a power which makes all smile upon and welcome you; that everybody is impressed in your favor and inclined to be of your opinion; that you have only to pass through a street or to show yourself on a balcony to make friends and to win mistresses from among those who look upon you. What a splendid, what a magnificent gift is that which spares you the need to be amiable in order to be loved, which relieves you of the need of being clever and ready to serve, which you must be if ugly, and enables you to dispense with the innumerable moral qualities which you must possess in order to make up for the lack of personal beauty.” ― Théophile Gautier, Mademoiselle de Maupin

Judgments of Beauty
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The Male Prospective on Female beauty from around the world.
A beautiful woman makes me want to give up my paycheck to her— Michel from Paris France Beautiful woman are a dime a dozen I pass hundreds daily — David from Scotland.
A beautiful woman is awesome to look at — Lenny from Kingston, Jamaica.
A woman can be stupid as long as she is pretty — J.J from Bronx New York the USA
Beautiful woman are angels — Chuma from Nigeria Africa
Being beautiful inside out is what matters — Raj from Hong Kong
I love a woman with a big butt very sexy —- Juan from Puerto Rico
A tall stunning red-head is out of the ordinary — Harry from Australia
I get speechless and tongue-tied when I see a good looking woman — Julio from Spain
The Female Perspective on Male beauty from around the world.
There is nothing like a great pair of biceps to get you through the day — Cheryl from London England
Men are so much more attractive then women they don’t have to rely on superficial means like makeup daily to look good — Claire from Pennsylvania USA
Tall, Light, and handsome is how I like them — Anita from Jaipur India
A man that takes care of his body that is healthy is most attractive — Angelica from Los Angeles California
I personally find a man with money more attractive — Montana from Australia
I love a man with beautiful eyes — Samantha from Seychelles
A nice muscular body the male form is hot — Chloe from France
I love a six pack, and I don’t mean beer — Tiffany from Russia
“In all judgments by which we describe anything as beautiful, we allow no one to be of another opinion.” ― Immanuel Kant, Critique of Judgment This quote from the author of the book Survival of the prettiest summarizes the reality of beauty quite succinctly: “Nancy Etcoff, a faculty member at Harvard Medical School and a practicing psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital, puts forth that beauty is neither a cultural construction, an invention of the fashion industry, nor a backlash against feminism—it is in our biology. It’s an essential and ineradicable part of human nature that is revered and ferociously pursued in nearly every civilization and for a good reason. Those features to which we are most attracted are often signals of fertility and fecundity. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. We should be thin, but healthy; they should have a flat stomach but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. In this superficial world where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify our appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think about a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are judged on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth. Nancy Etcoff, states in her book “Survival of the Prettiest: The Science of Beauty” that, “Beauty ensnares hearts, captures minds, and stirs up emotional wildfires.” Beauty is definitely apart of the genetic makeup of the aesthetics culturally and universal. With all the madness and craze over what one looks like, it is safe to say that it is definitely in the eyes of the beholder. Subjective and Objective.
The Beauty Privilege
Let me tell you something – being thought of as a beautiful woman has spared me nothing in life. No heartache, no trouble. Love has been difficult. Beauty is essentially meaningless, and it is always transitory. — Halle Berry 

Physical beauty is amazing With the fervor of a gazelle, we stroll Without a concern for the world Our faces are prettier than a sunrise Drawing those glances our way With those around us silent in awe the crowd drink thirstily of our physical beauty. We know where our beauty originated from It is something that we were born with not something contrived.

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Many capitalize on being genetically gifted because everyone desires beauty. To gaze at beauty is mind-numbing. Beautiful people are the recipients of the privilege – the beauty privilege. Gorgeous people in their lifetime will get better jobs, better treatment, make more money, endless marriage proposals, and unlimited perks. On the other side, they experience hate, jealousy, and envy. Is it their fault? That all depends are they making fun of others that lack physical beauty? Most of us know there are huge dividends when you are good looking, after all, society spends endless hours plus billions of dollars on beauty salons, on cosmetics, and costly plastic surgery entirely to alter your personal appearance. But are good looking people have that certain to puts them above the rest? Based on reality, yes most certain they are highly favored in society. The award for being beautiful is anything but superficial it can really change your life. Good looking people are associated with being right and intelligence, in some cases, yes but in my experience, the less attractive people have higher IQ and are very intellectually stimulating, trust me it goes both ways. Beautiful people are perceived as honest, sociable, and useful.
In some cases, that is the truth, but there are also self-center – ego tactical good looking people as well. There are always exceptions to any rule.

The Ugly disadvantage

There are no makeovers in my books. The ugly duckling does not become a beautiful swan. She becomes a confident duck able to take charge of her own life and problems. —Maeve Binchy I personally don’t refer to people as being “ugly” I don’t agree with that terminology or invoke that judgment on anyone, I prefer to call them “not attractive” .. If you were not born by what the world esteems as “attractive” – which is strictly in the eye of the beholder. Less attractive people are look over more than their attractive counterparts in dating, jobs, and society. But hold on, just wait a minute because there are numerous other talents, gifts, and abilities that you have which should be exploited to their full potential. The world is not evenly balanced between opposing sides of beauty equally; it’s your responsibility to take what you have and make something productive and valuable from that. Your character is the most crucial aspect of your being. Having this ugly disadvantage is such “social injustice.” really it is because some of the most inspiring and beautiful people I know are not genetically gifted but have such an intellectual prowess. Ugly people are perceived to be lazy and unfriendly. That may be true in some cases, but in other causes that are not true.

Eurocentric Beauty Standards

One manifestation of white supremacy is the use of whiteness as the standard of beauty. When whiteness (pale skin) is considered superior, white people are considered more attractive by definition, and if the appearance of people of other races deviates from that standard, they are considered ugly. Lisa Wade Ph.D., “When whiteness is the standard of beauty” article on societypages.org When the white European male sets the standards the world follows, this doesn’t make it real but creates an illusion. To speak of a reality where light skin, light eyes, and tall, slender bodies are presented as the benchmarks of European dogma a spectacle of breathtaking provincialism – “The universal standard of beauty“ It universalizes the concept of whiteness to epitomize beauty around the world. It suggests, perversely, and seriously, dictates what is beautiful and what is not.

White Beauty Privilege

Do blondes really have more fun? In this case, they do… Caucasian Women are presented as “The Universal Standard of Beauty” the benchmarks of perfection. Characteristics of Eurocentric White Female Beauty: Straight hair, Pale white skin, straight nose, thin lips, light eyes, tall, slender, and blonde hair. The Dominate Culture “White People” creates what beauty is even for a beautiful black woman she will go unnoticed. Every woman is affected by a perception of beauty. “White Women” around the world – Suffering from eating disorders, not measuring up to the fashion models or what they perceive as beautiful. “Women of Color” across the globe – Suffering from low self-esteem brought on by colonization, slavery, and the media. Some aspire to look more white. Through the globalization of media, advertisements, magazines, and movies have trended toward a standard of beauty, whereby we are all encouraged to appear tall, thin, fair skin and our face should resemble that of the Europeans the fair-skinned Europeans that is. The image of the beautiful Caucasian woman with blonde hair and blue eyes has become the world standard in terms of what is perceived as beauty.
I will go a step further and say all white women have become the norm all around the world that looks is highly coveted, or is it the media that has everyone hoodwinked by the power of suggestion? Propaganda? The women around the globe want straight hair and light skin through colonization to make a particular group of people full less than human. The world has actually been whitewashed with the alliance of lightness with desirability and beauty in women. The western-dominated culture and media have played in the propagation of the idyllic of light skin globally as perfection. The society that we live in my never changes so we must look for our validation elsewhere with our creator. As far as the earth has been here, they have been many forms of spectacular beauty. The woman has been symbolic of beauty stereotypes founded by ancient and present history. Today there is a valid argument of who the most beautiful woman is on earth. Specific news programs and people have tagged many caucasian celebrities (or ones that closely mimic they look) as the most beautiful, and internet polls can only go so far in there depiction of the perfect woman. Colonization is to be held responsible throughout the world. It changed the perception of beauty into their own standards and their style through the power of persuasion. If you say something for so long, it becomes the truth the norm throughout the world and with the brainwashing for the media outlets they dictate who you should perceive as the standard of beauty. Women and Men are beautiful the world over no matter the skin tone. There is NO one standard of beauty, the world is full of unique people from every nationality, it is our differences that make us unique and beautiful from the palest Caucasian to the darkest African and in between. “The Pedestal” mentality and The Porcelain Doll” effect. A child is conditioned to accept everything that is put before them, there is a conditioning process that stimulates the thought processed before puberty subliminal messages programmed into the brain in terms of what is beauty what is expectable and what is not. Through media and magazines, this has been made possible to dictate to the masses what the standard of beauty is, before television, it was revealed through colonization. If something is subjected continuously or put before you, then you will adopt it as your own, and that becomes your reality and belief.

Most women have brought into the image of the illusion of beauty which Is founded on a lie – an illusion absolute smoke and mirrors staged by the advertisers and magazines of what is relevant to the masses in terms of beauty and how to attain the impossible perfection. I know you passed a new stand at one point this week, and ogled your favorite celebrity photo, do you actually know what they photo goes through before it makes it to magazine rack – a team of makeup artists, stylists, airbrushing, retouching, and of course photoshop all to make the image unbelievably flawless. It takes literally a team to make the perfect image. If you had a team of beauty professional at your beck and call you would look like a celebrity too. Beauty is an illusion it is easily distorted and manipulated. The products they advertise we put facial products on our face daily the ingredients cause cancer or premature aging because we believe that these things we make us look better or even younger. Women, in general, go through so much to be what the powers-that-be say is beauty from spending their hard earned cash to get the latest designers clothes or the newest eyeshadow palette in hopes to get the validation they need to make it yet another day. We press our feet into high heels which are destroying our health and breaking our toes all in the name of beauty. It is not surprising that the beauty industry is billions strong, fueled by the hopeless wonders that seek the esteem of others. I would not say beauty is necessarily an illusion. Beauty within itself is not an illusion but what is misleading and deceptive in how the advertisers paint the picture of beauty. But there is not one solid definition of beauty because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is something that can be changed and manipulated by society. Images are powerful but surface driven. Our hearts are not in the right place, don‘t buy into the illusion.
The Media is to blame

According to the article “Negative Influences of Media on the Society” states that The media affects the way we act and think. It has a profound influence on the behavior of its audience. When people try to imitate something we had seen or heard, are they capable enough to distinguish between right from wrong? Young people often imitate their role models blindly. What is being highlighted in the entertainment industry is the wrongdoings of these celebrities whom the young people idolize. And because they are heroes in the youth’s minds, they are still celebrated despite the bad behavior they have been showing to the public. Subliminal messages are programmed into our brains daily. There are 1500 Newspapers, 1100 magazines, 9000 Radio Stations, 1500 TV stations, and 2400 publishers. They control 90% of what 277 million Americans see, hear, meditate on, and read. Through time, through the invention of moving pictures, birthed the power of the media, they can suggest, claim, and dictate what is right or what is wrong through, television, radio, magazines, newspapers, movies etc.. Media has had an influence on universal beauty standards throughout the world; therefore, it affects women and men of all nationalities. Through television and advertising in magazines who are responsible for planting “idealism” into the brain of the masses. The media is fueled by propaganda, deceptive, or distorted information that is systematically spread throughout the world every minute of the day. The Media has enslaved us to becoming entertainment driven by sports and reality series. Through the influence of the media from childhood on we are bombarded with images and messages that reinforce the idea that to be happy we must be a certain way, drive a particular car, and look a certain way. It is nearly irresolvable to open a magazine, listen to the radio, shop at a mall or turn on a TV without being confronted with what seems to be perfection, the invention, the illusion of the media. For argument sake, if the media’s portrayal of is just a looking glass of this culture and not an originator, the media still needs to take some responsibility for at least dissemination the failure to perform its function correctly in the best interest of society.
In the article “Brain, Behavior, and Media. Is media influencing your brain and your behavior through psychology?” published in Psychology Today, Bennard J Luskin Ed.D. states that “Recent studies now validate the reality of Internet Addiction Disorder (IAD). It can cause tremors, shivers, nausea, and anxiety in some addicts. Try removing a young “gamer” from a video game in a hurry. You will discover how difficult it is to break the attachment between the teen and the screen.” The media has been the main component in our every day lives as a form of personal sabotage.

Distortion of Body Image

According to  www.nationaleatingdisorders.org, “Body Image” is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror or when you picture yourself in your mind. It encompasses: What you believe about your own appearance (including your memories, assumptions, and generalizations). How you feel about your body, including your height, shape, and weight. How you sense and control your body as you move. How you feel in your body, not just about your body.

In Society, the images they portray perfection on ads, television, they made me feel inadequate about the way I look. I know you have heard this before or have even contemplative it in your mind, “If I could just lose 5 more pounds they world would love me” one in three girls have an eating disorder… But still, in reality, millions of young girls, woman, and some men suffer from eating disorders annually a lot under the 18. These specific eating disorders are often triggered by bouts of depression, distorted body image, or perfectionism itself. The four major eating disorders: 1. Anorexia Nervosa, voluntary starvation for long periods. 2. Bulimia Nervosa, marked by bouts of binge eating excessive amounts of food followed by compensatory behavior such as purging then vomiting or use of laxatives to rid themselves of the food eaten 3. Binge-eating, marked by episodes of out-of-control gorging, similar to Bulimia without the purging. 4. EDNOS, the most dangerous of all 4, it is the combination of Anorexia and Bulimia, each day it takes on one the eating often disorders. Females are much more likely than males to develop an eating disorder. Eating disorders are closely related to other psychiatric illnesses such as depression, substance abuse, or anxiety disorders. Besides, people who suffer from eating disorders can experience a wide range of physical health complications, including severe heart conditions, teeth enamel erosion, various organ failure including kidney failure, which may lead to death. If eating disorders weren’t enough, many woman and men would resort to cosmetic surgery that gains what they perceive as perfection. Women, both young and old, are taking enormous risks in the pursuit of beauty. Liposuction, Nose Jobs, botox, tummy tucks, breast implants, and bottom augmentation. Who is responsible? The media? The advertisers? They all are trying to sell this image of perfect beauty when, in reality, no one is perfect but a work in progress. Do we have to ask ourselves what are we doing? We must be comfortable in our own skin. We are our sister and brother’s keeper, and it starts in the home, the duty of the parents are to teach their children how valuable they are.
 
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