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Genetics: An Empirical Analysis of the "Wooly Hair" the tree to the heavens.

Our hair stands in awe of the Most High, the creator of all creation. The sunbeams of the golden fleece that raptures our skins (no matter the hue) and the heat crystalize the tones in wooly hair. What a fabulous creation we are. 
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In his book, “The Chemical Key to Black Greatness” American Biochemist, Carol Barnes, described melanin as, “a civilizing chemical that acts as a sedative to help keep the black human calm, relaxed, caring, creative, energetic and civilized.” Research also revealed that melanin enables black skin to actively interact with the sun, to produce Vitamin D from a biochemical substance, 7- dehydrocholesterol. The study also detected that melanin has spiritual dynamics as well as physical since it acts as a sensory ‘receptor’ and ‘transmitter’; communicating with cosmic energy fields in the vast universe converting light energy to sound energy and back. Dr. Richard King, MD, stated that “melanin, by its ability to capture light and hold it in a memory mode, reveals that blackness converts light into knowledge.”

Melanin refines the nervous system in such a way that messages from the brain reach other areas of the body most rapidly in dark people, the primary race. The abundance of melanin in our skin gives us genetic inferiority. We are physically stronger. Mentally more sound. Spiritually more connected.

Wooly hair is the tree that points to the heavens.
His head and his hairs were white like wool, as white as snow; and his eyes were as a flame of fire; Revelation 1:14 KJV.

Our roots run long straight to the sky. Wooly hair can withstand heat at high temperatures.
‘Although there are no biochemical differences among black, Caucasian, and Asian hair types, there are differences in the hair morphology (8). Black hair appears elliptical or flattened in cross-section, whereas Caucasian hair is oval, and Asian hair round. The follicle of black hair is curved, in contrast to a straight follicle in Caucasians and Asians.’ – Callender, V. D., McMichael, A. J. and Cohen, G. F. (2004), Medical and surgical therapies for alopecias in black women. Dermatologic Therapy, 17: 164–176. doi:10.1111/j.1396-0296.2004.04017.x

Khumalo NP, Doe PT, Dawber PR, Ferguson DJP.What is healthy black African hair? A light and scanning electron microscopic study. J Am Acad Dermatol 2000: 43:814–820.
‘African hair is curly and frequently exhibits knots ‘However, increased evidence of wearing with some loss of the cuticular pattern was observed towards the tip of the nose in all 3 racial groups most extreme wearing, with complete loss of cuticular structure, was seen toward the tip of the hairs of the Caucasian subject with the most extended hair . However, the hair shafts of the African volunteers did exhibit structural damage with evidence of longitudinal fissures, resulting in the splitting of the hair shafts. The splitting was also associated with knot formation. Longitudinal cracks were not observed in the Caucasian or Asian hairs. It was also found that many of the black African hairs (approximately 40%) were fractured with no attached root.

‘The African hair shafts were enclosed by a well-preserved cuticle similar to that observed for the other racial groups. ‘The most significant feature was that the majority of the tips of the African hair had fractured ends …Similarly, the basal end also exhibited evidence of breakage in contrast to the Caucasian and Asian samples in which the majority of hairs had attached roots.’

‘From these observations, it could be proposed that any procedure that reduces knotting of hair and/or the need for combing would result in an increase in the length of the hair by reducing the incidence of breaks in the hair shafts.’

Konishi, S., (2008). Tied in rolled knots and powdered with ochre’: Aboriginal hair and eighteenth-century cross-cultural encounters. Borderlands, 7(2), 1-20. Through the influential work of the great taxonomer, Carolus Linnaeus,… Homo europaeus ‘yellow, brown, flowing’, Homo asiaticus ‘abundant black,’ and Homo after ‘black, frizzled’ (cited in Rosenthal, 2004: 2).

This eighteenth-century definition and conceptualization of African hair as ‘woolly’ intersected with slavery discourses which dehumanized the African body to justify its abject treatment. The Oxford English Dictionary indicates that this derogatory term signifying ‘the short, tightly-curled hair of Negroid peoples’ was first used in a runaway slave advertisement in 1697. This type of hair was also ascribed sexual connotations, according to Allan Peterkin, ‘frizzy’ hair was seen as ‘demonic, licentious, and public.’

… ‘Negro’ possessed ‘wool instead of hair,’ and that this difference, in concert with others concerning skin and facial features, suggested that they ‘appear to constitute a new species of man’ (in Diderot and d’Alembert, 1765, v. 11: 76).  uaresma, M. V., Martinez Velasco, M. A., & Tosti, A. (2015). Hair Breakage in Patients of African Descent: Role of Dermoscopy. Skin Appendage Disorders, 1(2), 99–104. http://doi.org/10.1159/000436981

In addition to these properties, the water content in African descent hair is slightly lower than in Caucasian hair, and the sebaceous glands often secrete a small amount of sebum, which has an uneven distribution along the shaft due to its spiral shape, leaving the hair with a dry appearance. M [17,20]

When we associate the term “Mixed Race Hair” we get a visual that it is wild, unruly, hard to tame hair. The curly, wavy, coiled or full-bodied curls, mostly the combination of different genetic factors that contributions to the texture of feel, the length, the volume, the plethora of different hair textures. the truth is mixed race hair has more ortho-cortical cells which make it less prone to breakage and damage then finely coiled hair from the scalp. However, the bottom strands are closer to the coily nature of an afro.

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Mixed hair, curly or wavy is often referred to as “Good Hair,” All hair is good hair, it all was created by the Most High.

The great phenomenon of wooly hair, the spiral shaped, tightly coiled, excessive curly mass that tends to hold its shape and grows as a tree straight up on the head. Who are the recipients of such hair? The E1B1A gene carriers – the descendants are the a biologically related ancestors far beyond the african disapora. This is one topic that science has been perplexed by the origin of wooly hair. Geneticist will often say, “The genetic determinants of hair texture in humans are largely not found by science.” It’s either pleiotropic, and selection was for its research fails in comparision to the impact of genetically putting a stamp on its true origin. What genes of phenotypes put together has created such hair type? What is clear is that wooly hair been passed down from Adam to each generation after his existence.

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With black hair the curl pattern is unique ranges from curly to coily. “

His head and his hairs were white like wool, as white as snow; and his eyes were as a flame of fire;” Revelation 1:14 KJV. It refers to the Messiah as having hair white like wool.

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Black hair can withstand extreme temperatures.

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There are more than a thousand different texture patterns of black hair.

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Black hair grows up as a tree, facing our creator; The Most High.

The Brown Male Aesthetics

What is it about the brown male aesthetics beauty that has us so enamored with its power? The answer would definitely not be a clique or fallacy but a term of endearment to the one that beholds such a pulchritude of genetic brown male perfection. When one thinks of brown male aesthetics they often refer to it as masculine perfection. 
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Shemar Moore
Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Eyebrows, Vivid Skin Color and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Karl Daniel
Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Vivid Skin Color and Eyebrows. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
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Louis Allen III

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Jawline and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.

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Leon Gray

Best Physical Attributes:Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Jawline and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Broderick Hunter

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Vivid Skin Color and Eyebrows. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks
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Idris Elba

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Height and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
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Travis Cure

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyebrows and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Mr. Billy Dee Williams (Honorary Mention)

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Come hither smile, Eyes and Deep voice. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Phillip Michael Thomas (Honorary Mention)

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Vivid Skin Color and Eyes. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Ross Fleming

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Smile. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Charlie Vargas

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.

Tyler Lepley

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes, Eyebrows and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Joseph Williams

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Harmony of facial features and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Van Vicker

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Jawline. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Christian Keyes

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Vivid Skin Color, Muscular Physique and Smile. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks
Philip Anthony-Rodriguez
 Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Eyebrows, and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks
Alimi Ballard

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Torin Verdone
Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Jawline. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
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John Canada Terrell

Best Facial Features: Harmony of facial features and muscular physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Omari Hardwick
 Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Vivid Skin Color and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Kristian Kordula
Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Michael Ealy

Best Physical Attribute: Eyes. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Remy Clerima

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Eyebrows. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Don James

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Jawline and Vivid Skin Color Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Kenneth Okolie

Best Physical Attributes: Jawline and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
John Dumelo

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Cheeks. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Onald Germain

Best Physical Attribute: Eyes. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
David Otunga

Best Physical Attributes: Smile and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Benjamin Patterson

Best Physical Attributes: Smile, Eyes and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Hill Harper

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Jawline and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Adewale Akinnuoye-Agbaje

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Thomas Jones

Best Physical Attributes: Vivid Skin Color and Muscular Physique. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Redaric Williams

Best Physical Attribute: Eyes. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Laz Alonso

Best Physical Attribute: Jawline and Eyes. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Gary Dourdan

Best Physical Attribute: Eyes. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Sendhil Ramamurthy

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyebrows and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Taj Reed

Best Physical Attributes: Vivid Skin Color and Eyebrows. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Lamman Rucker

Best Physical Attributes: Smile and Height. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
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Aaron J. Oates

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of Facial Features and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good Looks.

Morris Chestnut

Best Physical Attributes: Cheeks and Smile. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Fab Morvan

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Cheekbones. Beauty Type: Exotic Good looks.
Rick Fox

Physical Attributes: Eyes and Smile. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.
Brad James

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes, Nose, and Lips. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Kayin Marchand Wright
Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Jawline. Beauty Type: Rugged Good looks.

Bryce Wilson

Best Physical Attributes: Harmony of facial features, Eyes and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Isha Blaaker

Best Physical Attributes: Eyes and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Donnell Blaylock Jr

Best Physical Attributes: Smile and Eyes. Beauty Type: Boyish Good looks.
Abdi Osman

Best Physical Attributes: The symmetry of the face and Vivid Skin Color. Beauty Type: Boyish Good Looks.
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4 Pillars of Male Aesthetics: 

Symmetry, Harmony of Facial Features, Vivid Skin Color and Clarity of Skin.

Dilemma 6 – "Materialism"

Set your affections on things above, not on things on the earth. Colossians Chapter 3:4 KJV

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You can be highly educated, professionally successful, and financially illiterate. Many people are making over 100k a year, and they’re still struggling with bills every month. Why? They don’t understand financial freedom. Financial problems are caused by trying to keep up with society. That’s why they live paycheck to paycheck. Once you know the difference between ASSETS and LIABILITIES, you’ll understand why you’re broke —- Emmanuel Valerio https://www.facebook.com/TheTruthMovement777.

The world entices you with the lure of brand names, especially those high-end designer logos like Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Chanel or Hermes. I must admit that we all have fallen prey to the lure of material goods at one point or another. The promotions via billboards, television promotion, and following the Joneses all perpetuate this behavior. The lust of wanting to be seen as more than you really are. This society is based on what you have and what you look like. This attitude dictates and unrealistic notion of success. This is a fantasy mirrored by Hollywood. It’s not only that the more you care about impressing other people with your appearance, the more likely you will overspend. In fact, the more focused you are on your own thoughts, feelings, and impressions you make on others, the more you’ll seek outwardly-recognizable status symbols like handbags and overpriced clothing. The EGO is the ringleader with this disorder, the thrill to maintain a different reality, the reality that goods will make you happy. It is all vanity, as King Solomon stated in the bible.
Vanity goes beyond just looking fabulous for others, it is about the praise and self-admiration that comes along with this behavior. We are to never think more highly of ourselves. This brings me to the theory by Leon Festinger in 1954, which centers on the fundamental belief that there is a drive within individuals to gain accurate self-evaluations. The theory explains how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others to reduce uncertainty in these domains and learn how to define the self. Following the initial theory, research began to focus on social comparison as a way of self-enhancement, introducing the concepts of downward and upward comparisons and expanding the motivations of social comparisons. The downward social comparison is a great coping process because it allows you to view a bad situation by looking at others who are worse off than you (more impoverished, less attractive, more stressed) and concluding that things aren’t really so bad. An upward social comparison can cause you to berate yourself unnecessarily because you feel that you’re being outdone by your neighbors, comrades, family, co-workers, and Instagram-youtube-facebook friends. Your (EGO) desire to impress people that could care less about, but not realizing that this disorder can promote psychological disorders. At the end of the day, is it really worth gaining the whole world than losing your soul?

Being that man or woman of substance not being concerned with being called a big baller or the big man or woman on campus. Life is not about how many things you own but being that real man or woman of substance.

We have a market-driven society so obsessed with buying and selling and obsessed with power and pleasure and property. — Cornel West

Terry Walker testimony…

Right now I am in $200,000 worth of credit card debt and what do I have to show for it, this ill-gotten gain now has me working 3 jobs just to make ends meet. I have no time for my wife or our kids. This American dream really isn’t worth the hassle. If I only would have lived within my means. My wife can’t live with the pressure of the bill collectors calling the house. If I would have only listened to her and kept the budget going. Now I have lost everything and what to give an appearance to my co-workers that I was a baller, but in reality, now I am worse than an infidel, can’t provide for my family. Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. 1 John 2:15-17 (KJV) When our life’s pursuit is on making the profit, pursuing pleasure, and obtaining the position, it leaves little time, energy, and ability to focus on the Most High and his plan for your existence. “No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money” (Matthew 6:24). An expression used for people surrounded by confusion living in a vicious circle of lies and illusions. They hunger for prestige and luxury and thirst for higher society while creating a bubbled reality floating over society’s misery controlled by companies, getting us to buy the image of the good life – a fantasy that values materialistic communities and they are blind to human qualities. They dream up things to brag about like expensive things or trips around the world. It has come that having the latest IPad, computers, iPod or iPhone is the norm something they can’t live without. These devices have replaced the desire to converse with actual people in person. Standing on line for 24 hours excited for a product then you complain about being 3rd online in a bookstore will allow you find that you are programmed robot just as confused and abused by the system we call materialism.

The American Dream

The white picket fence, large house, two cars, vacations every year, 2.3 children, and a dog packaged in a cup of illusion. Now, how many people do you think to live the American dream with poverty on the rise, homelessness, lack of food, and jobs. The American dream, in reality, is a nightmare. Hard-working people, and weak, most of them, in worldly goods–but how rich in compassion! How filled with the goodness of humanity and the spiritual steel forged by centuries of oppression! There was the real joy of laughter in these homes, folk-wit, and story, hearty appetites for life as for the nourishing greens and black-eyed peas and cornmeal bread they shared with me. Here in this little hemmed-in world where home must be a theatre and concert hall and social center, there was a warmth of the song. Songs of love and longing, songs of trials and triumphs, deep-flowing rivers and rollicking brooks, hymn-song and ragtime ballad, gospels and blues, and the healing comfort to be found in the illimitable sorrow of the spirituals. Paul Robeson, There is an old adage, “Keeping up with the Joneses” wanting all they have and more… There is a danger is desiring something that someone else has ever felt the pressure to maintain a level of possessions equal to those of your neighbors. When envy sets in this cause contention among friends, the desire to possess what they have. In this society your as good as what you own, drive, and where you live. This causes a social perplexity based on material goods- what I own is better than your new and improved.

The Illusion of wealth

Gary’s testimony…

“Park Avenue, on a winter day, walked into my favorite upscale store, I was wearing a hooded sweatshirt with matching pants, the shop girl ignored me as if I had the plague. Revisited the store the next day, all decked out in my Armani suit, Cartier watch and crocodile shoes. My elegant attire opens up the doors to 5-star treatment, I couldn’t keep the shop girls away all 5 of them catered to my every whim. Now, who says being wealth or appearing to be doesn’t have its advantages?” In the story of Lazarus and the rich man, (Luke 16 KJV) we see that Lazarus lacking material wealth, got something much more critical “eternal life with the Savior” while the rich man will burn “in hell for all eternity.” What the rich man failed to realize that the things on earth are temporal, and only the things you do for the Savior will last. Let that be a lesson for men and woman that put the world and its possessions before the Most High. The Book of James talks about the dangers of measuring one another by what we perceive to be the wealth of their belongings. Suppose a man comes into your meeting wearing a diamond watch and an Armani suit, and a poor man in tattered clothes also comes in, which one would you serve? If you show special attention to the man wearing beautiful clothes and say, ‘Here’s a good seat for you,’ but speak to the poor man, ‘you stand there,’ or ‘Sit on the floor by my feet,’ have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts? If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself,’ you are doing right. But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as lawbreakers” (James 2:2-4, 8-9). Possessions can become more important to us than our knowledge of the Most High. The Savior told us the story of the of a rich young ruler. The pull of his goods was so strong that the young man chose them over eternal life (Luke 18:18-30). In the Old Testament is the story of Lot’s wife who could not leave her possessions behind to flee certain death. She, too, valued her properties over spiritual truth (Genesis 19:26). Luke, in his gospel, warns us that we can be in danger of losing our life also when the Son of Man returns, if we cling to our material goods like Lot’s wife did (Luke 17:32). The Savior said, “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions” (Luke 12:15). “For where your treasure is, there your heart will also be” (Matthew 6:21). How can we escape the power of materialism? If you see your brother in need, give some of your money to him that puts your perspective in the correct place by disarming the power of possessions.

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. 1 John 2: 15-17

The choice is yours?
 The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 19 – "Good Hair"

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COMMON THINGS SPOKEN ABOUT HAIR TYPE 3A – 4C:

Coily Hair

You need to straighten it, unkept! Do something with your hair. It is nappy, you look ugly, you need a weave, go and rectify it. I like you better with straight hair.

Permed Hair

You don’t love yourself, go natural! Trying to be something your not.

Curly Hair

You have some good hair. It is too wild needs to be straight. What are you mixed with?

Straight Hair

Ideal with the masses, the universal standard of hair beauty.

Most black women testify that perms, pressing combs, and relaxers make their hair more manageable. Who is the inventor of the relaxer? In 1877, the relaxer was created by accident by Garrett A. Morgan the same man that invented the traffic signal. This allowed for women and men of color to have the straight hair like their white counterparts for 100’s of years. The perm was referred as “ creamy crack” in Chris Rock’s “Good Hair Documentary” a must see if you haven’t seen it already it exposes the dangers and chemicals found in the hair treatments. Natural Hair is the best it is at its healthiest, free of chemicals and it grows fast! The chemicals in the relaxer treatments maybe damaging but many women will argue the fact that having a relaxer has contributed to their back length hair if it is taken care of.

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Black hair is a target of “texturism.” The question is, “why has the world scrutinized our hair?” While we are burning it with chemicals and heating tools, and tearing it out with weaves and glue. For 400 years +, the general population of black people has been imparted to by white people that their hair texture and skin is superior to that of black hair and black skin. This welcomed the birth of a hair obsession. A majority of blacks perceive straight, silky, and soft hair as best. When in fact, wooly hair is scientifically superior to straight hair. Coiled hair acts as antennae conducting the electromagnetic energies of the sun. These are the benefits that our ancestors had in the cotton fields in intense heat. Kinky, afros, nappy, curly, pressed, permed, weaves, or smooth flow? What is our obsession with hair, and how does it affect our perceptions of what is considered attractive? This differentiation of various textures of hair that disregards our hair as being good that sociological programming still continues today.

For as long as I remember people often asked me after examining my mid back length hair, “Is all that hair yours?” or “Do you have Indian in your family?“ In the literal sense of logic or even common sense what they are saying to me is that a black female can’t have long hair unless she is mixed with something. Now, this thought process was first initiated by Willie Lynch back in slavery times and is still relevant today. So the term “Nappy” was created by the white man and was adopted for centuries by black people, but in reality, our hair has a helix (spiral) pattern. It’s the same pattern as whirlwinds and sound waves and DNA. Our hair is meant to grow outward like a tree, not downward like a cascading waterfall. When our hair is given proper care, it’s fluffy soft. Not only that, our hair is high-volume, high-definition. Our hair doesn’t hang down, it’s not limp, lifeless and flat, it never lacks volume, and you’ll never see a sister wearing a “bump-it” to get the illusion of voluminous hair. We don’t need it. We can take our wool from kinky to curly to wavy to straight and back to kinky again if that’s our desire. Our hair can even defy gravity and do so naturally. Others can’t. Our hair is a glorious crown, the “original” crown. Look how a head is designed! So, when you see these so-called European royalty women wearing a top. They are imitating the beauty of our hair! Wow isn’t that amazing! For black women, the straight hair bias is the culprit of texture prejudice that privileges the white woman’s texture as the supreme texture of hair. Black women are not aware that our hair is rich with soil, the color of dark chocolate, rises to the sky, vastness as space, coiled to perfection, and a mystery of the Most High.

I must admit I love running my fingers through my hair while showering, the curls embrace my face as the water runs the length on my back. I get attention on the comeliness of my hair they suggest that its a prized possession but in reality, to my nation, it’s a god. Yes it is possible to worship hair, I have never been guilty of such worship.. frankly, I always had long hair. It was never a concern of mine. But for many of my sisters, it is, after all, it’s our crowning glory. The black women have always been guilty of false glory due to the fact that you are adorning your head with someone else’s glory. How do we get our own glory? By nourishing our own glory and owning it. I know we own our cars, clothes, or even homes but we must own our hair. We must be thankful and take care of what the Most High gave us.

My interview with Khalifa Musical, a professor of African American Studies

Q. Do you think that as children we are programmed to say that our hair is bad?

Khalifa: Yes, I remember my mother said to my sister about her kinky hair, you need to get your hair done by that she meant to straighten it by perms of straightening combs. As a man, I grow up conditioned to perceive black hair as something terrible that needed to be fixed. I used to look at the women on the commercial and think that was beauty, it was not until I because a student of consciousness that I realize my thinking was wrong. In fact with most of my students when asked about black hair – 43% (over 200 black male students) said they prepared black women with their natural hair, apart from wigs, weaves, and perms. While 57 % preferred the look of Caucasian straight hair as most attractive and 90% voted that this was conditioned by slavery misconceptions and fallacies about our hair.

Redefining the standard of beauty in terms of hair.

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The hair texture closely associated with European straight hair is considered almost heavenly good and esteemed most attractive. This straight hair blowing in the wind, cascading down the back, smooth to touch, and easy to comb. Is this perfection? How can this hair be the best? Willie Lynch is to blame on this one dividing and conquering the slaves based on hair texture. But who says this is true? The fault lies with the mother who never taught the daughter the beauty of her hair. The world has brought into this lie, pure and simple for some, there is no turning back from this theory. In West Africa, Nigeria to be specific the boys and young girls cut their hair off not to deal with the texture and opt to wear wigs. While in the United States, black women are literally tearing their hair out of their heads through the wearing of the weave so they can slang it back and forth. The ignorance of our people is undoubtedly devastating to know that something that created with sheer brilliance is a beast of burden to many.

Astin Downing AKA Mocha2001 is a pioneer in the natural hair movement. She gives her tips and secrets to her followers on youtube and Instagram.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JgkuM9KhTI

Q: Tell me about your hair care journey?

Astin: When I first when natural my hair was badly damaged. I had bald edges due to lace wigs and glue. I used Castro oil, Shea moisture shampoo and conditioner, Renue pure deep conditioner and green Eco styler gel.

Q: When did you stop using relaxers?

Astin: My last relaxer was 2012 when relaxed my hair, it was always dry plus it never grew to pass my shoulders. Now I’m natural I seen how my true hair texture is this curly. My hair has grown down my back very moisturized now, thick and healthy..

Q: What are your top tips for hair growth?

Astin: My top tips for hair growth is moisturize, drink water, and use less heat.

Q: What is your hair care routine?

Astin: I have 2 hair care routine one for winter and summer. In the winter, I use more moisture and I apply self-heat to my hair for straight styles. I wash my hair once a week and deep condition twice a week and grease my scalp with Castro oil twice a week. My summer routine – I add no heat to my hair, I just wash it and go. I do twist outs and wash my hair once a week deep condition once a month and grease my scalp once a month with Castro oil.

How to take care of black hair?

My Q & A with my hairdresser Diana, note she has natural hair all the way down her back.

Q: What do you think about this Good hair, Bad hair situation among black people?

Diane: I think black people are some of the most ignorant people on earth, surely they have bought into the lie of slavery. All hair is good, if it grows out of your head, it is good. What has ruined our nose is the perms and the weaves.

Q: What are some tips for the maintenance and growth of natural hair?

Diane:

1. There is a huge misconception that black hair is coarse, strong and can take a beating. That is true, in fact, black hair is the most fragile of every hair type, my Asian clients have the strongest hair very coarse now their hair can take a beating.

2. Co-washes your hair once a week with a natural moisturizing conditioner and not shampoo because it dries out the hair which can cause breakage.

3. Keep your hair moisturized with a natural moisturizer and seal the ends with olive oil. Choose natural organic products and try to avoid products with mineral oils and petroleum oil. Natural oils like almond, coconut oil, olive oil, grape seed oil, and jojoba oils are much better.

4. If you use heat styling products (blow dryers, Flatirons) on your hair, try and cut it down to 1-2 times a month if you can, and make sure you use a heat protection shampoo and/or moisturizer, or a good heat protective serum/spray on your hair before flat ironing or curling.

5. Make sure you sleep on a satin pillowcase or tie your hair up in a silk scarf so your hair can stay healthy and won’t break or tear. Silk or satin pillowcases, bonnets, and scarves will protect your hair from breakage while rubbing against certain fabrics that cause breakage.

6. Moisturize your ends nightly with coconut oil before you go to sleep

7. Once a month only use a protein treatment for deep conditioning.

8. For extend hair growth I recommend a diet of fresh fruits and vegetables and exercised weekly to get the blood flowing to your hair.

9. Massage your scalp a few times a week for extra blood flow for hair growth.

10. Use a wide tooth comb to comb your hair, stop buying bristle brushes or thin combs which will get caught in your hair and snap it off. Go for low maintenance. We should never comb our hair every day just detangle with your fingers, after applying moisturizer.

Weaves

India is known for their pagan worship of hundreds of gods, one of the rituals that go on, they get very young girls to shed their long hair for profit, then in return pray over it with a dedication to one of the gods. Then this hair appears in the heads of black women the world over. With this spiritual connotation, you are wearing hear sacrificed to idol gods. Black women are not the only ones guilty, white women and other nations were weaves as well, but they refer to them as hair extensions. Weaves illuminate the “Lie” of good hair, it created false security of beauty. In actuality, wearing a pattern makes it bad for those of us (including me) that have naturally long hair that is accused daily of wearing a weave. The long-term effects of weaves have many severe risks to your scalp, such as permanent hair loss. Wigs are a great alternative; at least you are not damaging your scalp. Wearing a weave is your choice. I am not against it if that‘s your choice, I was just stating the facts.

Front Lace Wigs beware… Actress Countess Vaughn (star of the Parkers show on television) shared her hair dilemma on the Doctors television show, wearing the front lace wigs and how they damaged her hairline she had an allergic reaction to the glue now forced to have hair restoration surgery to repair damaged hair follicles. Perms or Relaxers Because perms and relaxers tore your hair, you must keep your beard conditioned to retain length and prevent breakage — Diane (my hairdresser) Most black women testify that perms, pressing combs, and relaxers make their hair more manageable. Who is the inventor of the relaxer? In 1877, the relaxer was created by accident by Garrett A. Morgan the same man that invented the traffic signal. This allowed for women and men of color to have straight hair like their white counterparts for 100’s of years. The perm was referred as “ creamy crack” in Chris Rock’s “Good Hair Documentary” a must see if you haven’t seen it already it exposes the dangers and chemicals found in the hair treatments. Natural Hair is the best it is at its healthiest, free of chemicals, and it grows fast! The chemicals in the relaxer treatments may be damaging, but many women will argue the fact that having a relaxer has contributed to their back length hair if it is taken care of.

My Hair won’t grow

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Astin Downing whose hair has grown while being nurtured naturally without chemicals, so black hair does grow no matter the texture of it.

Unfortunately, that is the gospel that most black or brown women preach. The truth is that if you keep all the weaves and chemicals off your hair, it will grow with some easy maintenance, it will grow in no time. A black woman’s hair will grow if she maintains to keep it healthy and nourished with the right natural products, contrary to popular belief, the black woman is not alone, there are some case where the white woman’s hair won’t grow either, or it’s fragile — Diane (my hairdresser)

In the past… The Curse – Moreover the LORD saith, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and making a tinkling with their feet: Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion, and the LORD will discover their secret parts. — Isaiah 3: 16-17 – Because of the haughtiness toward our men our head was smitten with baldness, which would explain the lust for long hair. We had the beauty everyone wanted at that time. We are the Daughters of Zion. That was a curse! Now today… I believe that curse is lifted… With all the beautiful hair treatments, perms, hair styling, relaxers, weaves, chemicals from shampoos, our diet, hormones, what we drink, rest, environment etc. All these elements affect the health of our hair. What is paramount is the way we care for our hair? Is long hair is possible? Yes.

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Asha Mandela, who reportedly has the most extended hair, dreads in the world at a whopping 22 foot long, her extreme long tresses were documented by the Guinness World Record in 2009. Many of us on this day have long hair. Your hair grows! Take care of the hair that grows out of your head. Black women are waking up to their true identity according to the Bible all over the world & learning to love the skin they’re in, wooly hair & all through the natural hair movement and it is absolutely awe-inspiring.

But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.1 Corinthians 11:15 KJV

Black hair is a target of the famous “Ism,” known as “Texturism.” The question is, “why has the world scrutinized our hair?” While we are burning it with chemicals and heating tools, and tearing it out with weaves and glue. For 400 years +, the general population of black people has been imparted to by white people that their hair texture and skin is superior to that of black hair and black leather. This welcomed the birth of a hair obsession. A majority of blacks perceive straight, silky, and soft hair as best. When in fact, wooly hair is scientifically superior to straight hair. Coiled hair acts as antennae conducting the electromagnetic energies of the sun. These are the benefits that our ancestors had in the cotton fields in intense heat. Kinky, afros, nappy, curly, pressed, permed, weaves, or smooth flow? What is our obsession with hair, and how does it affect our perceptions of what is considered attractive? This differentiation of various textures of hair that disregards our hair as being good that sociological programming still continues today.

For as long as I remember people often asked me after examining my mid back length hair, “Is all that hair yours?” or “Do you have Indian in your family?“ In the literal sense of logic or even common sense what they are saying to me is that a black female can’t have long hair unless she is mixed with something. Now, this thought process was first initiated by Willie Lynch back in slavery times and is still relevant today. So the term “Nappy” was created by the white man and was adopted for centuries by black people, but in reality, our hair has a helix (spiral) pattern. It’s the same pattern as whirlwinds and sound waves and DNA. Our hair is meant to grow outward like a tree, not downward like a cascading waterfall. When our hair is given proper care, it’s fluffy soft. Not only that, our hair is high-volume, high-definition. Our hair doesn’t hang down, it’s not limp, lifeless and flat, it never lacks volume, and you’ll never see a sister wearing a “bump-it” to get the illusion of voluminous hair. We don’t need it. We can take our wool from kinky to curly to wavy to straight and back to kinky again if that’s our desire. Our hair can even defy gravity and do so naturally. Others can’t. Our hair is a glorious crown, the “original” crown. Look how a head is designed! So, when you see these so-called European royalty women wearing a top. They are imitating the beauty of our hair! Wow isn’t that amazing! For black women, the straight hair bias is the culprit of texture prejudice that privileges the white woman’s texture as the supreme texture of hair. Black women are not aware that our hair is rich with soil, the color of dark chocolate, rises to the sky, vastness as space, coiled to perfection, and a mystery of the Most High.

My interview with Khalifa Musfai, a professor of African American Studies

Q. Do you think that as children we are programmed to say that our hair is bad?

Khalifa: Yes, I remember my mother said to my sister about her kinky hair, you need to get your hair done by that she meant to straighten it by perms of straightening combs. As a man, I grow up conditioned to perceive black hair as something terrible that needed to be fixed. I used to look at the women on the commercial and think that was beauty, it was not until I because a student of consciousness that I realize my thinking was wrong. In fact with most of my students when asked about black hair – 43% (over 200 black male students) said they prepared black women with their natural hair, apart from wigs, weaves, and perms. While 57 % preferred the look of Caucasian straight hair as most attractive and 90% voted that this was conditioned by slavery misconceptions and fallacies about our hair.

Redefining the standard of beauty in terms of hair.

I must admit I love running my fingers through my hair while showering, the curls embrace my face as the water runs the length on my back. I get attention on the comeliness of my hair they suggest that it’s a prized possession, but in reality, to my nation, it’s a god. Yes, it is possible to worship hair, I have never been guilty of such worship.. frankly, I always had long hair. It was never a concern of mine. But for many of my sisters, it is, after all, it’s our crowning glory. The black women have always been guilty of false glory because you are adorning your head with someone else’s beauty. How do we get our own vision? By nourishing our own glory and owning it. I know we own our cars, clothes, or even homes but we must hold our hair. We must be thankful and take care of what the Most High gave us. The hair texture closely associated with European straight hair is considered almost heavenly good and esteemed most attractive. This straight hair blowing in the wind, cascading down the back, smooth to touch, and easy to comb.

Is this perfection? How can this hair be the best? Willie Lynch is to blame on this one dividing and conquering the slaves based on hair texture. But who says this is true? The fault lies with the mother who never taught the daughter the beauty of her hair. The world has brought into this lie, pure and simple for some, there is no turning back from this theory. In West Africa, Nigeria to be specific the boys and young girls cut their hair off not to deal with the texture and opt to wear wigs. While in the United States, black women are literally tearing their hair out of their heads through the wearing of the weave so they can slang it back and forth. The ignorance of our people is undoubtedly devastating to know that something that created with sheer brilliance is a beast of pardon to many.

My conversation with a random woman I encountered at a boutique.

Woman: Girl you got some excellent hair — 

Me: All hair is good. Woman: I wish my hair were long and pretty like yours. You’re so cute. 

Me: Your hair is pretty. 

Woman: But not like yours 

Me: You know that is a fallacy created by our people that goes back to slavery. There is no right or bad hair. The Most High created all hair and its good hair. (That comment left her speechless and puzzled there was no reply) 

The contemptuous terms such as ‘good hair’ or ‘bad hair’ came out of the era of slavery, during the Willie Lynch period. Where slaves were put into groups according to the lightness of skin and hair textures the closer your hair was to Caucasian hair the better you were perceived in being that meant you would be considered “a house negro” and receive preferential treatment than the darker slaves. Our hair is our crowning glory; there are various textures of hair that black people have due to genetics and racial mixing. These textures vary from 3A to 4D, beautiful to tightly curled.

3 a – fine curl pattern

 3 b – medium curl pattern 

3 c – loose curly pattern

 4a – thicker curly pattern

4b – thicker medium pattern

4c – medium curly pattern

4d – excessively tighter curls

Facts about black hair: 

It keeps you cool and protects you from the sun.

Our hair is our crowning glory; there are many textures of hair that black people have due to genetics and interracial rations.

There is more money spend on hair care around the world then products to actually make the hair grow.

There is no such thing as bad hair, the strains of our hair was created by the Most High and trust me, he knew what He was doing in creation but through colonization and the media which suggests that long bone straight flowing hair is most attractive.

We as people have bought into that “Lie” yes I said it, that lie because that is what it is. You have been brainwashed into thinking that excessively curly or wooly hair isn’t as good as straight hair.

The Savior of this world has wooly hair.

My nation is so ignorant, how they talk about their hair. All hair is good. Embrace your wool.

I was taught I had terrible hair, so I relaxed it and added weave now I am bald headed — Brittany (a 31-year-old black woman) 

I wish my parents would have taught me that my hair wasn’t bad — Erica Wilson (18-year-old female) 

There is nothing better than a black woman that wears her natural hair — Jonathan (white male married to a black woman)

Often people ask me if my hair is real because it’s thick and long.

Male Store clerk: Is all that hair yours?

Me: Yes

Male Store clerk: Can I touch it?

Today in 2018, I walk proudly with my hair covered sometimes, it gives the mystery of what is underneath. Is it short or is it long? In late 18th century Louisiana, black women were ordered to cover their hair in public. This system was called the “Bando du Buen Gobierno,” “Edict for Good Government.” These rules were meant to change certain so-called “unacceptable” behaviors of the free black women. specifically overly ostentatious hairstyles,(designed to impress or attract notice) of which drew the attention of white men, and the jealousy of white women. These rules are called the “Tignon Laws” A tignon (pronounced “yon”) is a headdress. They are still doing this today! Where a lot of people go on interviews and are being turned away because of their natural hair, The employers say they must straighten their hair. But finally, we are waking back up to our beauty! They even fear our hair!

When wearing a weave or perming your hair, you are playing roulette with your hair, please handle with care. — Diane (my hairdresser)

ALL HAIR IS GOOD!

LITTLE GIRL IN THE STORE: Look at her hair Mom. LITTLE GIRL’S MOM: That is a weave. ME: No, it’s my hair.

It is a mere fact that us women that have long natural hair like me that grow out of our heads, always manage to get a hater or naysayers that believe that our hair is not real. In the society with all the fakers, weave wearers, and wig junkies it makes it hard for those of us that like to keep it real. It is also true that we were conditioned through slavery to hate ourselves and the texture of our hair so we commit our scalps to abusive chemicals and hair that did not grow from our scalp. The truth of the matter is that all hair is good, the creator of all made it. This hate is correlated with the term “Texturism.”

Good Hair (we have it.) 

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Teach your children who they are, what they are in the Most High.

Teach your children to love their hair.

The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

The Universal Standard of Beauty

 

All around the world, brown girls are discriminated against based on the color of their skin. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to lofty heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it.
The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about the woman that nobody sees you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. For a female – being beautiful is more desired than intelligence, 90% of people that were interviewed agreed. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are the judge on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth.

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I don’t think that a mathematical equation or symmetry dictates the essence of beauty. At the end of the day, beauty is merely an opinion of the person that beholds it, adores it, or analyzes it. True beauty is not derived by explaining physical anatomy, lips, eyes or skin color but by being obedient to the one that created you. A woman of virtue is highly prized. I have discovered that no matter how many people say I am beautiful, one the prettiest they have seen or I am a visual phenomenon there still will be those that don’t share that opinion. The way we love ourselves can’t be based on the opinions of others but on the one that has the power to place us in heaven or hell. The opinions of men and women will change with time, situation or what you look like from day to day.

Light eyes… Big lips… small lips…small eyes…big nose… little nose…full cheeks… longneck… Light skin… dark eyes…dark skin…blonde hair… blue eyes…slim waist. Pretty face… white woman… black women… short hair… long hair… dark hair… What is the Universal Standard of Beauty?

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A conversation between two women:

White woman:

We are the universal standard because we’re prettier with light skin and straight hair we have been declared the ideal of beauty (Perception)

Black woman:

Absolutely untrue! On average, over 60% of white women are tanning their skin, injecting your lips to make them fuller, and having surgery to enhance their gluteus maximus. These enhancements are what black women are naturally endowed with. (Reality) The power that some white people have is that they create and spread lies that imply the myth of their superiority, learning the truth empowers you from the demoralizing effect of their lies. This is the truth that will set your free while breaking the strongholds in your thought process of what you have been conditioned to believe. There are undoubtedly beautiful women in every nation around the world. It is a fallacy to think that white women are the archetype of beauty.

The construct and narrative of the universal standard of beauty established by the media:

1. Blonde long straight hair
2. Light eyes
3. Skinny body
4. Long legs
5. Long straight nose
The mainstream beauty ideal “The Universal Standard of Beauty” is singularly white, making it all the more unattainable for women of color. While colonialism and White Supremacy are to blame, this theory places a blonde white woman at the top of the hierarchy of beauty. What does this mean for black women?

This Eurocentric standard of beauty dictates to young black girls or any woman of color that they don’t measure up or not good enough. We can assume that this is an attack on the brown girl. An attack on their psyche, this starts as a child. As a young girl watches hours upon hours of television, instead of spending time with her mother. The woman that could teach her the value of her skin and hair. Instead, the young women of today are lost in trying to conform to such a theory of beauty, that really doesn’t matter. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked female.” – Erin McKean

There is a universal standard of beauty regardless of race, age, sex, and other variables but it is all exclusive to the Nordic, Aryan, or by today’s standards the white woman. Pragmatically logical thinkers, all know that the notion that white women are the archetype of beauty is unbelievable. No doubt, every nation has beautiful women. It is true that beautiful faces across the board of any race that has ideal facial proportion are beautiful. Ideal proportion is directly related to the divine proportion, and that proportion is 1 to 1.618. All living organisms, including humans, are genetically encoded to develop to this proportion because there are extreme esthetic and physiologic benefits. The vast majority of us are not perfectly proportioned because of environmental factors. Establishment of a universal standard for beauty will significantly simplify the diagnosis and treatment of facial disharmonies and abnormalities. More important, treating to this standard will maximize facial esthetics. Our face allows us to convey our every thought and feeling with those around us in a nearly instantaneous manner. Without our face, we would be stuck in an emotionless and depressing self-existence devoid of a primary vehicle of communication. Our eyes subsequently, convey our deep emotions or lack thereof. As social beings, it is in our very nature to share our expressions with the outside world. It is likewise in our nature to subconsciously judge each face, assigning certain traits to particular facial characteristics. One of the most important characteristics that we judge is “beauty”. Interestingly, there is an unusually consistent agreement of what is considered “beautiful” amongst different cultures, but only when we are referring to the face rather than the body, a topic that will be explored herein. These preferences span borders, cultures, and generations, meaning yes, there really are universal standards of beauty. And while Western women do struggle to be slim, the truth is, women in all cultures eat (or don’t) to appeal to “the male gaze.” The body size that’s idealized in a particular culture appears to correspond to the availability of food and lack of exercise. In cultures like ours, where you can’t go five miles without passing a fast food restaurant which features large amounts of sugars and fat which contribute to excess body fat and poor health. Genetically, thinner women are in. You’re completely ignoring obvious differences in concepts of “beauty” among different societies and different periods of history. There are societies where women with necks swollen by goiters are “beautiful.” There are societies where women with lips stretched far out by years of wearing metal plates in their mouths are “beautiful.” There are still some old women alive in China today who grew up in a society where deliberately deformed feet (from “footbinding”) were considered beautiful. None of those attributes is considered beautiful in the western world. There are quite a few apparently problems with the assumptions and definitions of beauty, to say that it “scientifically proves” that the world’s totally overblown theory, is that the white woman is genetically superior to all women. This is an exaggerated statement where objective historical evidence shows that not factual. Beauty = health (both physical and mental); or it is an indicator of health if it floats your boat or butters your muffin. I know in the black community, being heavy is more expectable than the other racial groups. White people are more attractive to skinny bodies. Which is why it is supposed to be objective, because humans (and animals for that matter) are genetically programmed to be attracted to healthy individuals. It’d be stupid to fight and/or blame the Most High for creating us this way. However, objectively recognizing/admitting someone’s beauty and being attracted to a specific person (real person, not a celebrity) are in fact different things. Roughly speaking we’re not only attracted to health in general but specific genetic characteristics which we might lack, too. So, the core of a beauty concept is objective (even though people don’t realize it), but its shell is subjective, indeed in the eyes of the beholder. Finally, we humans differ from animals in many ways; and one of them is that we sometimes “deviate”, we break the Nature’s laws and allow perverted/distorted standards ruin our perception of many things, including beauty. Heavy makeup, emulations, plastic surgeries, hormonal supplements, fake hair, fake body parts, unnaturally excessive physical activity, binging, purging, and materialism. All these things, in fact, mislead us and our perceptions. This must be taken into consideration every time one sees a “Barbie doll.”

In all judgments by which we describe anything as beautiful, we allow no one to be of another opinion.” ― Immanuel Kant, Critique of Judgment

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Let me tell you something – being thought of as a beautiful woman has spared me nothing in life. No heartache, no trouble. Love has been difficult. Beauty is essentially meaningless and it is always transitory. — Halle Berry

When you think of beauty, naturally Halle Berry comes to mind, with her beautiful bone structure, flawless skin, and sparkling dark eyes. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. We should be thin, but healthy; they should have a flat stomach but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. In this superficial world where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify our appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be. This concept trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda. This way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are a judge on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth. Nancy Etcoff, states in her book “Survival of the Prettiest: The Science of Beauty” that, “Beauty ensnares hearts, captures minds, and stirs up emotional wildfires.” Beauty is definitely apart of the genetic makeup of the aesthetics culturally and universal. With all the madness and craze over what one looks like, it is safe to say that it is definitely in the eyes of the beholder. Subjective and Objective.

This quote from the publisher of the book Survival of the prettiest summarizes the reality of beauty quite succinctly: “Nancy Etcoff, a faculty member at Harvard Medical School and a practicing psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital, puts forth that beauty is neither a cultural construction, an invention of the fashion industry, nor a backlash against feminism—it is in our biology. It’s an essential and ineradicable part of human nature that is revered and ferociously pursued in nearly every civilization and for good reason. Those features to which we are most attracted are often signals of fertility and fecundity.

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Physical beauty is amazing With the fervor of a gazelle, we stroll Without a concern for the world Our faces are prettier than a sunrise Drawing those glances our way With those around us silent in awe the crowd drink thirstily of our physical beauty. We know where our beauty originated from It is something that we were born with not something contrived.

Many capitalize on being genetically gifted because everyone desires beauty. To gaze at beauty is mind-numbing. Beautiful people are the recipients of the privilege – the beauty privilege. Beautiful people in their lifetime will get better jobs, better treatment, make more money, endless marriage proposals, and endless perks. On the other side, they experience hate, jealousy, and envy. Is it their fault? That all depends are they making fun of others that lack physical beauty?

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Most of us know there are huge dividends when you are good looking, after all, society spends endless hours plus billions of dollars on beauty salons, on cosmetics, and costly plastic surgery all to alter your personal appearance. But are good looking people have that certain to puts them above the rest? Based on reality, yes most certain they are highly favored in society. The award for being beautiful is anything but superficial it can really change your life.

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Good looking people are associated with being good and intelligence, in some cases, yes but in my experience, the less attractive people have higher IQ and are very intellectually stimulating, trust me it goes both ways. Beautiful people are perceived as honest, sociable, and good. In some cases that is the truth but there are also self-centered – ego tactical good looking people as well. There are always exceptions to any rule.

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Even when I see a beautiful woman, I think, ‘Aw, her life must be amazing.’ Everyone does it. That’s human nature to believe that beauty is everything — Marina and the Diamonds
The mainstream beauty ideal “The most beautiful girl in the world” is singularly of the caucasian/nordic/white groups of people, making it all the more unattainable for young girls of color. While colonialism and White Supremacy are to blame, this theory places blonde white girls at the top of the hierarchy of beauty. What does this mean for black young girls? This Eurocentric standard of beauty dictates to young black girls, that they don’t measure up or not good enough. We can assume that this is an attack on the brown girl. An attack on their psyche, this starts as a child. As a young girl watches hours upon hours of television, instead of spending time with her mother. The woman that could teach her the value of her skin color and hair texture. Instead, the young women of today are lost in trying to conform to such a theory of beauty, that really doesn’t matter. I came across a post where this beautiful Nigerian girl was dubbed “The Most Beautiful” I thought finally “Dark Brown Beauty” is getting a long-awaited stamp of approval but unfortunately judging by the reception on several media outlets the backlash through the comment sections were trying to discredit this claim. Not only was it people from the Nordic/Aryan race (we know as white people) but there were black people as well shouting their disapproval. This only happens when a black person is called the most beautiful. Sadly, black women are frowned upon in terms of personal beauty. I know this stems from slavery; the conditioning and brainwashing past down from generation to generation. The very words of our slave masters haunt the minds and psyche of the black race. What are they hiding why such an attack, Learn your history boys and girls, it goes way back before the slave ships and the captivity around the world. Beauty is subjective, in the eye of the beholder and no child should grow up rejecting his or her own beauty. How can we create a society that looks beyond skin color and accepts the personal beauty of each individual?

Meet the 5-year-old Nigerian beauty, Jare Ijalana, the most beautiful girl in the world. She is definitely a babydoll and well deserving of the title.

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Jare’s personal beauty replaces the theory, while breaking the stereotype of a eurocentric kind of beauty and replaces it with a beautiful dark brown face mirroring the new image of what is truly beautiful.
Anastasia Knyazeva (L) and Thylane Blondeau (R)
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Nordic beauties Anastasia and Thylane both in previous years dubbed, “The Most Beautiful Girl in the World,” with no backlash what so ever. One manifestation of white supremacy is the use of whiteness as the standard of beauty. When whiteness (pale skin) is considered superior, white people are considered more attractive by definition and ifs the appearance of people of other races deviates from that standard, they are considered ugly. Lisa Wade Ph.D., “When whiteness is the standard of beauty” article on societypages.org

Type A Amber Heard (Top L)Angelina Jolie (Top R) Brooke Shields (Bottom L) Aishwarya Rai Bachchan ( Bottom R) – They are beautiful women and have all topped internet polls declaring them ‘the most beautiful woman in the world.’ What they all have in common are their Nordic-European facial features.

Amber (the most beautiful face according to science), Angelina, Brooke, and Aishwarya have been cited as “the most beautiful woman in the world.” What do they have in common they have very Nordic facial features. Although Aishwarya is Indian, her facial features and skin color, with the exception of her nose are very Nordic. When the white European male sets the standards the world follows, this doesn’t make it true but creates an illusion. To speak of a reality where light skin, light eyes, and tall slender bodies are presented as the benchmarks of European dogma a spectacle of breathtaking provincialism – “The universal standard of beauty“ It universalizes the concept of whiteness to epitomize beauty around the world. It suggests, perversely, and seriously, dictates what is beautiful and what is not.

Type B Cicely Tyson (Top L) Halle Berry (Top R) Vanessa Williams (Bottom L) Jayne Kennedy Overton (Bottom R) – This gorgeous woman of color have received a level of notoriety because of their good looks but not to the point of “Type A” group above.

“Women of Color” around the world – Suffering from low self-esteem brought on by colonization, slavery, and the media. Some aspire to look more white. Through the globalization of media, advertisements, magazines, and movies have trended toward a standard of beauty, whereby we are all encouraged to appear tall, thin, fair skin and our face should resemble that of the Europeans the fair-skinned Europeans that is. The image of the beautiful Caucasian woman with the blonde hair and blue eyes has become the world standard in terms of what is perceived as beauty but I will go a step further and say all white women have become the norm all around the world that looks is highly coveted or is it the media that has everyone hoodwinked by power of suggestion? Propaganda? The women around the world covet the straight hair and light skin through colonization to make a certain group of people full less than human. The world has actually been whitewashed with the alliance of lightness with desirability and beauty in women. The western-dominated culture and media have played in the propagation of the idyllic of light skin globally as perfection. The society that we live in my never changes so we must look for our validation elsewhere with our creator. As far as the earth has been here, they have been many forms of spectacular beauty. The woman has been symbolic of beauty stereotypes founded by ancient and present history. Today there is a valid argument of who the most beautiful woman is on earth. Certain news programs and people have tagged many caucasian celebrities (or ones that closely mimic they look) as the most beautiful, and internet polls can only go so far in there depiction of the perfect woman. Colonization is to be held responsible through concurring the world, they changed the perception of beauty into their women and their style through the power of persuasion, you say something for so long it becomes the truth the standard throughout the world and with the brainwashing for the media outlets they dictate who you should perceive as the standard of beauty. Women and Men are beautiful the world over no matter the skin tone. There is NO one standard of beauty, the world is full of unique people from every nationality, it is our differences that make us unique and beautiful from the palest Caucasian to the darkest African and in between. “The Pedestal” mentality and The Porcelain Doll” effect. A child is conditioned to accept everything that is put before them, there is a conditioning process that stimulates the thought processed before puberty subliminal messages programmed into the brain in terms of what is beauty what is expectable and what is not. Through media and magazines, this has been made possible to dictate to the masses what the standard of beauty is, before television, it was revealed through colonization. If something is constantly subjected or put before you then you will adopt it as your own and that becomes your reality and belief.

Nearly all black and brown skins are beautiful, but a beautiful white skin is rare. Where dark complexions are massed, they make the whites look bleached-out, unwholesome, and sometimes frankly ghastly. I could notice this as a boy, down South in the slavery days before the war. The splendid black satin skin of the South African Zulus of Durban seemed to me to come very close to perfection. The white man’s complexion makes no concealments. It can’t. It seemed to have been designed as a catch-all for everything that can damage it. Ladies have to paint it, and powder it, and cosmetic it, and diet it with arsenic, and enamel it, and be always enticing it, and persuading it, and pestering it, and fussing at it, to make it beautiful; and they do not succeed. But these efforts show what they think of the natural complexion, as distributed. As distributed it needs these helps. The complexion which they try to counterfeit is one which nature restricts to the few–to the very few. To ninety-nine persons, she gives a bad complexion, to the hundredth a good one. The hundredth can keep it–how long? Ten years, perhaps. The advantage is with the Zulu, I think. He starts with a beautiful complexion, and it will last him through. And as for the Indian brown–firm, smooth, blemishless, pleasant, and restful to the eye, afraid of no color, harmonizing with all colors and adding a grace to them all–I think there is no sort of chance for the average white complexion against that rich and perfect tint. — Mark Twain, Skin Deep – Complexions
The Black skin is not a badge of shame, but rather a glorious symbol of national greatness. — Marcus Garvey
“Dipped in chocolate, bronzed in elegance, enameled with grace, toasted with beauty. My lord, she’s a black woman.” –Yosef A.A. Ben-Jochannan
Why black women are considered ugly and less than human?
Racism is truly the largest “Elephant in the room” the progenitor of hatred and slavery. It is the grandfather of  Colorism, The Apex of a belief system that one race is superior to the rest: animosity toward other races: a profound prejudice against black people or other ethnic groups based on color. Its core belief that people of different races have different qualities and abilities, and that some races are inherently superior or inferior to the other races. Slavery in America was the biggest catalyst for this kind of hate. Thus, we are programmed into the valid rules of attraction, in what we may choose or are compelled to choose, in what is beautiful and good and what is not. For over 400 years, black people have been programmed to believe that they are less than human. When indeed, our melanin is superior to all the nations, our hair faces the Most High, we are his people. We are CHOSEN and the powers that be know that, this is why we have been conditioned to believe that we are less than nothing. The images that you see every day have a negative impact on your thinking, it is negative programming.
Views from around the world


The white woman is the universal standard of beauty — Zacharyxo Some things can’t be contested. Some might argue that beauty is subjective, and therefore, not global. While the concept of human beauty can be a personal thing, I feel that natural beauty is ubiquitous. It’s hard to argue the universal beauty of a sunset. Regardless of your own concepts of beauty, most people agree that such a scene is beautiful. Many such things exist in nature. Natural beauty is universal, transcending subjectivity. — Anonymous

Chloe Boucher

Beauty is a meaningless construct. Despite culturally self-gratifying pop science ramblings to the contrary, physical beauty does not exist. Beauty is a response, elicited when exposed to various cues which are often paired with that which is desirable in media, both mass and cultural. Observe the homogenizing of beauty standards with the advent of mass media, and the ever-fluctuating, vapid ideals which people around the world chase endlessly. By homogenizing the idea of beauty and manipulating it, the fashion, diet, and cosmetic industries can generate billions in revenue. But beauty, initially, was deeply tied to intimate cultural forces and has only recently been molded into something with some degree of universality.— Skepsikyma Standards of beauty vary greatly. From culture to culture, standards of beauty vary. Such rules have also changed throughout history. Our modern ideas of beauty are greatly affected by the fashion industry and advertising campaigns. The idea that women must be thin, be free of body hair and sweat, and be perfectly coiffed and made up comes from deodorant companies, razor companies, diet-food companies, and hair care companies trying to sell more products. Sadly, modern western beauty ideals are in danger of becoming more universal because of globalization and the spread of advertising imagery. —- ChevalR Yes it is I live in India and beauty here is what westerners believe in beauty, Indians look a bit dark and don’t have such features, but I always see western models in an advertisement in hoardings. India also has a fairness obsession. I have not seen this in any other country like Malaysia or Indonesia, where they always cast a local model instead of a western model. Maybe because Indians and Europeans are both Caucasians and indeed we Indians like the lighter variant of the two subsets. —Anonymous Beauty is universal Beauty, on the other hand, should not be descriptive, nor should it be normative. I believe that beauty is universal. Although our perceptions of taste and style may differ from one another; does not mean that we find other flavors hideous? Of course, we will always think our taste is better than the rest, but you will still appreciate different styles of art. I believe that we were all born with an idea of what beauty is, but as life went on, other views (culture, media, etc.) have influenced us very much. That being the reason for our different tastes. But the fact that we can still recognize something beautiful proves that beauty is universal. —- Anonymous Constants have been shown across culture and time Google image search models from non-western countries. Google image search models from previous periods. What do they all have in common? They are attractive by today’s so-called “modern western beauty standard.” With this exercise, it will become very apparent to you that there’s nothing actually ‘modern’ or ‘western’ about what we find beautiful. —– Anonymous This has been validated by science. Studies show universal preferences for several physical characteristics, including facial symmetry, high gender polarity (i.E., Masculine men and feminine women), and in women, a waist-hip ratio around 0.7. — Anonymous Yes, it is I believe that all cultures should have a chance to express what they think is a beauty. Just because someone doesn’t think something is beautiful, one place doesn’t mean it isn’t beautiful somewhere else. Beauty does not necessarily mean it is found on the inside but on the outside as well. — Anonymous

What is beauty?
The three wishes of every man: to be healthy, to be productive by honest means, and to be beautiful. —PLATO 

We all know beauty when we notice its radiance, yet it is entirely transient. It has to do with subtle yet meaningless things like the beauty of your eyes, symmetry, the clarity of the skin, the balance of the cheekbones, the prominence of the nose, the fullness of the lips, and the shape of the body. We all know ugly the lack of symmetry and visual perception of beauty when we see it too. Yet this whole concept about beauty is incongruous. Like Science, beauty is based on theory. Is Beauty in the one of the beholder? Really that depends on who you ask? – “The Universal Standard of Beauty” in which black women are affected the most because of the European standard of beauty, which makes them the recipient of many comments like:

She is ugly … She’s fat … She’s Dark … Her nose is big. Her lips are so big.. She looks like a man..

But indeed all nonwhite people suffer from this dilemma but are often in ignorance associating with this standard uplifting European white women as the standard of beauty. The dangerous effects of judging one’s own personal beauty leave devastating consequences around the world. In China, Face – umbrellas are used to prevent tanning. Skin lighting products are famous across the globe, especially in India and Africa Black women are getting western rhinoplasty to make their noses more Caucasian Light eyes are the craze, colored contact sales are on the rise. Straight hair is associated with the universal standard of Slim beauty frames are desired the most, which lead to eating disorders around the world.

The Perception of the beautiful is gradual, and not a lightning revelation; it requires not only time, but some study —- Giovanni Ruddini, Poet (1807-1881)

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Oxford’s Dictionary refers to beauty as “A combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight.” What is it about the beauty that has us so enamored with its power and aesthetics? The answer would definitely not be a clique or fallacy but a term of endearment to the one that beholds such a pulchritude of perfection. When one thinks of beauty, they often refer to it as bewitching, extraordinary, alluring, universal, timeless, and youthful. Natural beauty within itself has the power to influence the beholder of its magnificence. The Human eye knows beauty when it sees it is ethereal. It has components that hypnotize the beholders as in eyes, cheekbones, noses, and full lips. Beauty is superficial but enchanting, but there are really only a few that are genetically gifted with physical beauty.

1. The Contrast and vividness of Skin Color.
What combinations that are more intensified from dark skin to light skin? Most faces with bright eyes, darker skin presents a vivid contrast – Faces with light skin and dark eyes give a sharp contrast. Dark eyes with Dark skin the difference is intensified by color, Light skin with bright eyes is strengthened by receding light tones. Your skin is the canvas on which your facial features translate its beauty.
2. The congruence of facial features
In the front of the head where the eyes, nose, lips, chin, cheeks, forehead all in alliance with each other giving a staggering computation of facial beauty in a combination of aesthetic perfection in harmony together. It is your facial features that make your face attractive, not your skin color.
3. The Symmetry (1.618)
In numbers, the Greeks believed that perfect symmetry was responsible for the attractiveness of a face and that attractive looks were closer to the beauty ratio of 1.618. This brings me to what is “Universal Attractiveness,” which is determined through nations, cultures, personal tastes, and eras, which is a common denominator in both female and male attractiveness. Feminine beauty: big eyes, small nose, full lips, narrow jaw line, youthful appearance, thick hair, and hourglass figure. Male Beauty: thick Eyebrows, little eyes, a more large nose, tanned skin, prominent jawline, and a V-shaped body. Even with defining what is really beautiful, the rule of thumb is that Beauty is Subjective. It is based on somebody’s opinions or feelings rather than on facts or evidence this subjectivity can translate into the phrase “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” This analogy goes far beyond theory where science bases beauty strictly on the approach the eye gate is the final verdict on what it viewed as physical attractiveness through personal thought, reasoning, or cultural influence. In general, beauty is a beauty, but aesthetic attractiveness can be different many things are perceived as beautiful can vary from place to era and culture. Physical Attraction Physical attraction is what relationships are based on at first glance, it plays a vital role in attraction in what we perceive as a masculine or feminine perfection of physical beauty determined by first glance. There is an age-old prowess, “the hunter to the prey syndrome” men are hunters, women are the prey. Physical attraction often implies sexual attractiveness or desirability. There are many levels which influence one person’s magnetism to another, with physical characteristics being one of them. The physical attraction itself includes global assessments of all human civilization, as well as aspects that are culturally and socially dependent, along with individual subjective and objective preferences. There are always exceptions to any rule, the science of beauty is based on a theory for physical is definitely in the eyes of the beholder.
Women:

 Youthful appearance, big eyes, small nose, full lips, low waist to hip ratio, full breasts, ample backside an hourglass physique.

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Men:

Thick eyebrows, strong and prominent jawline, larger nose, facial hair, tan skin and v-shaped torso, and muscular physique.

Is Beauty is the eyes of the beholder?

Conceivably the most customary issue in the principle of beauty is whether beauty is subjective— or even objective located ‘in the eye of the beholder’— However, if beauty is entirely subjective—that is, if the opinion is shared by many does that equate the beauty of a face. Would I be presumptuous to believe that every man, woman, or child will behold my beauty? Or would I appreciate their subjective on the beauty of my face? In fact, numerous people, as I have been told find me quite beautiful with a strong emphasis on my facial beauty. But for the numerous that do, I believe that there is a small community that doesn’t. That is really across the board for everyone. On the other hand, it seems senseless to say that beauty has no connection to subjective response or that it is entirely objective. That would seem to entail, for example, that a world with no perceivers could be beautiful or ugly, or perhaps that beauty could be detected by scientific instruments. Even if it could be, beauty would seem to be connected to subjective response, and though we may argue about whether something is beautiful, the idea that one’s experiences of beauty might be disqualified as simply inaccurate or false might arouse puzzlement.

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I remember about 10 years ago…. I commented on a well-known actor, I remarked that he wasn’t that attractive to me… and then the person I told this to got some violent she was ready to tear me apart. Then she replied, “You need to get your eyes checked!” We often disagree concerning the physical beauty of others. We argue and fight to prove our points of who is undeniably beautiful. We debate, share our sentiments in hopes of someone agreeing when indeed its merely a judgment or preference. We often regard other people’s taste while trying to prove ours, when it differs from theirs, as tentatively showing respect, as we may not, for example, in cases of moral, political, or factual opinions. All plausible accounts of beauty connect it to a pleasurable or profound or loving response, even if they do not locate beauty purely in the eye of the beholder. beauty is subjective from personal experience and preconceived ideas… But also the product of manipulation through passing the media and global conditioning.

There are no makeovers in my books. The ugly duckling does not become a beautiful swan. She becomes a confident duck able to take charge of her own life and problems. —Maeve Binchy

I personally don’t refer to people as being “ugly” I don’t agree with that terminology or invoke that judgment on anyone, I prefer to call them “not attractive” .. If you were not born by what the world esteems as “attractive” – which is strictly in the eye of the beholder. Less attractive people are look over more than their attractive counterparts in dating, jobs, and society. But hold on, just wait a minute because there are numerous other talents, gifts and abilities that you have which should be exploited to their full potential. The world is not evenly balanced between opposing sides of beauty equally; it’s your responsibility to take what you have and make something productive and valuable from that. Your character is the most essential aspect of your being. Having this ugly disadvantage is such “social injustice.” really it is because some of the most inspiring and beautiful people I know are not genetically gifted but have such an intellectual prowess. Ugly people are perceived to be lazy and unfriendly. That may be true in some cases, but in other causes that are not true.

As children we are programmed to believe that something is attractive or a possessor of aesthetic perfection. When in reality what we see is not really what we see, we gravitate to things that affect our five senses, the five traditionally recognized methods of perception, or sense: taste, sight, touch, smell, and sound. No two people look the same to each other for our perceptions of what we esteemed as beauty can be quite different. This proves the theory without a doubt, that beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder.

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The eyeballs generate an opinion based on emotions, features, and lustful feelings when you stare intently at a subject. The model above, Leon Grey is very handsome and most women will agree. Do you think that every woman would find him attractive? No, because our perceptions vary from person to person depending on our 5 senses.

“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder” is an orthodoxy phrase that is to denote subjectivity or objectivity in physical beauty. What I might find disgusting or unattractive, you may find attractive, is the subjectivity or objectivity verified and vindicate the justice of elegance with this world-renowned phrase. What is missing from this obsessive focus on subjective interpretation of beauty is the inherent manifestation of beauty in the object or person. The human face is inherently, intrinsically beautiful when created, though no beholders’ eyes saw the beauty? Many have expressed that the term should actually be titled, “Physical Attractiveness lies in the opinion of the beholder.” because attractiveness is based on personal taste derived from the real face or body attributes. While “Beauty” is based purely on facial beauty, features, and symmetry. On the website, “theperfecthumanface.com” identifies and clarifies that physical beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder 54% agreed on their recent polls featured on that site. In the eye of the beholder 54% Golden Ratio, Symmetry, Phi masks 1.618 20% Genetics 17% Science 1% World Standards of Beauty Eurocentric beliefs 9%

The Power of Beauty
Kristina Urribarres

“Beauty in its prowess has the power to manipulate the senses the mind, especially the eye, which is dangerous because you’re under its supremacy” — Scientist Welerbee It captivates women. Men desire it. It is adored, worshipped, highly sought after, and envied it is a beauty! How you ever wondered what happens when 10,000 bolts of electricity hit a lightning rod in a storm? The brain becomes scrambled eyes this is pretty powerful in retrospect clearly exhibits a staggering conclusion this happens when we view beauty there is a theory of fireworks releasing shooting off like a rocket at the same time an internal explosion of some sort, blood starts to pump faster to the heart, and breathing becomes rapid. The eyes bulge out of the head, and the saliva glands begin to release that is the power of beauty. “To be beautiful, handsome, means that you possess a power which makes all smile upon and welcome you; that everybody is impressed in your favor and inclined to be of your opinion; that you have only to pass through a street or to show yourself on a balcony to make friends and to win mistresses from among those who look upon you. What a splendid, what a magnificent gift is that which spares you the need to be amiable in order to be loved, which relieves you of the need of being clever and ready to serve, which you must be if ugly, and enables you to dispense with the innumerable moral qualities which you must possess in order to make up for the lack of personal beauty.” ― Théophile Gautier, Mademoiselle de Maupin

Judgments of Beauty
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The Male Prospective on Female beauty from around the world.
A beautiful woman makes me want to give up my paycheck to her— Michel from Paris France Beautiful woman are a dime a dozen I pass hundreds daily — David from Scotland.
A beautiful woman is awesome to look at — Lenny from Kingston, Jamaica.
A woman can be stupid as long as she is pretty — J.J from Bronx New York the USA
Beautiful woman are angels — Chuma from Nigeria Africa
Being beautiful inside out is what matters — Raj from Hong Kong
I love a woman with a big butt very sexy —- Juan from Puerto Rico
A tall stunning red-head is out of the ordinary — Harry from Australia
I get speechless and tongue-tied when I see a good looking woman — Julio from Spain
The Female Perspective on Male beauty from around the world.
There is nothing like a great pair of biceps to get you through the day — Cheryl from London England
Men are so much more attractive then women they don’t have to rely on superficial means like makeup daily to look good — Claire from Pennsylvania USA
Tall, Light, and handsome is how I like them — Anita from Jaipur India
A man that takes care of his body that is healthy is most attractive — Angelica from Los Angeles California
I personally find a man with money more attractive — Montana from Australia
I love a man with beautiful eyes — Samantha from Seychelles
A nice muscular body the male form is hot — Chloe from France
I love a six pack, and I don’t mean beer — Tiffany from Russia
“In all judgments by which we describe anything as beautiful, we allow no one to be of another opinion.” ― Immanuel Kant, Critique of Judgment This quote from the author of the book Survival of the prettiest summarizes the reality of beauty quite succinctly: “Nancy Etcoff, a faculty member at Harvard Medical School and a practicing psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital, puts forth that beauty is neither a cultural construction, an invention of the fashion industry, nor a backlash against feminism—it is in our biology. It’s an essential and ineradicable part of human nature that is revered and ferociously pursued in nearly every civilization and for a good reason. Those features to which we are most attracted are often signals of fertility and fecundity. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. We should be thin, but healthy; they should have a flat stomach but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. In this superficial world where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify our appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think about a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Women are the archetypes of beauty around the world, they are more likely to be judged solely on their aesthetic beauty, which makes them more susceptible to judgment good or bad on their beauty alone. Men, however, are judged on appearance but more so through other measures like their status and wealth. Nancy Etcoff, states in her book “Survival of the Prettiest: The Science of Beauty” that, “Beauty ensnares hearts, captures minds, and stirs up emotional wildfires.” Beauty is definitely apart of the genetic makeup of the aesthetics culturally and universal. With all the madness and craze over what one looks like, it is safe to say that it is definitely in the eyes of the beholder. Subjective and Objective.
The Beauty Privilege
Let me tell you something – being thought of as a beautiful woman has spared me nothing in life. No heartache, no trouble. Love has been difficult. Beauty is essentially meaningless, and it is always transitory. — Halle Berry 

Physical beauty is amazing With the fervor of a gazelle, we stroll Without a concern for the world Our faces are prettier than a sunrise Drawing those glances our way With those around us silent in awe the crowd drink thirstily of our physical beauty. We know where our beauty originated from It is something that we were born with not something contrived.

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Many capitalize on being genetically gifted because everyone desires beauty. To gaze at beauty is mind-numbing. Beautiful people are the recipients of the privilege – the beauty privilege. Gorgeous people in their lifetime will get better jobs, better treatment, make more money, endless marriage proposals, and unlimited perks. On the other side, they experience hate, jealousy, and envy. Is it their fault? That all depends are they making fun of others that lack physical beauty? Most of us know there are huge dividends when you are good looking, after all, society spends endless hours plus billions of dollars on beauty salons, on cosmetics, and costly plastic surgery entirely to alter your personal appearance. But are good looking people have that certain to puts them above the rest? Based on reality, yes most certain they are highly favored in society. The award for being beautiful is anything but superficial it can really change your life. Good looking people are associated with being right and intelligence, in some cases, yes but in my experience, the less attractive people have higher IQ and are very intellectually stimulating, trust me it goes both ways. Beautiful people are perceived as honest, sociable, and useful.
In some cases, that is the truth, but there are also self-center – ego tactical good looking people as well. There are always exceptions to any rule.

The Ugly disadvantage

There are no makeovers in my books. The ugly duckling does not become a beautiful swan. She becomes a confident duck able to take charge of her own life and problems. —Maeve Binchy I personally don’t refer to people as being “ugly” I don’t agree with that terminology or invoke that judgment on anyone, I prefer to call them “not attractive” .. If you were not born by what the world esteems as “attractive” – which is strictly in the eye of the beholder. Less attractive people are look over more than their attractive counterparts in dating, jobs, and society. But hold on, just wait a minute because there are numerous other talents, gifts, and abilities that you have which should be exploited to their full potential. The world is not evenly balanced between opposing sides of beauty equally; it’s your responsibility to take what you have and make something productive and valuable from that. Your character is the most crucial aspect of your being. Having this ugly disadvantage is such “social injustice.” really it is because some of the most inspiring and beautiful people I know are not genetically gifted but have such an intellectual prowess. Ugly people are perceived to be lazy and unfriendly. That may be true in some cases, but in other causes that are not true.

Eurocentric Beauty Standards

One manifestation of white supremacy is the use of whiteness as the standard of beauty. When whiteness (pale skin) is considered superior, white people are considered more attractive by definition, and if the appearance of people of other races deviates from that standard, they are considered ugly. Lisa Wade Ph.D., “When whiteness is the standard of beauty” article on societypages.org When the white European male sets the standards the world follows, this doesn’t make it real but creates an illusion. To speak of a reality where light skin, light eyes, and tall, slender bodies are presented as the benchmarks of European dogma a spectacle of breathtaking provincialism – “The universal standard of beauty“ It universalizes the concept of whiteness to epitomize beauty around the world. It suggests, perversely, and seriously, dictates what is beautiful and what is not.

White Beauty Privilege

Do blondes really have more fun? In this case, they do… Caucasian Women are presented as “The Universal Standard of Beauty” the benchmarks of perfection. Characteristics of Eurocentric White Female Beauty: Straight hair, Pale white skin, straight nose, thin lips, light eyes, tall, slender, and blonde hair. The Dominate Culture “White People” creates what beauty is even for a beautiful black woman she will go unnoticed. Every woman is affected by a perception of beauty. “White Women” around the world – Suffering from eating disorders, not measuring up to the fashion models or what they perceive as beautiful. “Women of Color” across the globe – Suffering from low self-esteem brought on by colonization, slavery, and the media. Some aspire to look more white. Through the globalization of media, advertisements, magazines, and movies have trended toward a standard of beauty, whereby we are all encouraged to appear tall, thin, fair skin and our face should resemble that of the Europeans the fair-skinned Europeans that is. The image of the beautiful Caucasian woman with blonde hair and blue eyes has become the world standard in terms of what is perceived as beauty.
I will go a step further and say all white women have become the norm all around the world that looks is highly coveted, or is it the media that has everyone hoodwinked by the power of suggestion? Propaganda? The women around the globe want straight hair and light skin through colonization to make a particular group of people full less than human. The world has actually been whitewashed with the alliance of lightness with desirability and beauty in women. The western-dominated culture and media have played in the propagation of the idyllic of light skin globally as perfection. The society that we live in my never changes so we must look for our validation elsewhere with our creator. As far as the earth has been here, they have been many forms of spectacular beauty. The woman has been symbolic of beauty stereotypes founded by ancient and present history. Today there is a valid argument of who the most beautiful woman is on earth. Specific news programs and people have tagged many caucasian celebrities (or ones that closely mimic they look) as the most beautiful, and internet polls can only go so far in there depiction of the perfect woman. Colonization is to be held responsible throughout the world. It changed the perception of beauty into their own standards and their style through the power of persuasion. If you say something for so long, it becomes the truth the norm throughout the world and with the brainwashing for the media outlets they dictate who you should perceive as the standard of beauty. Women and Men are beautiful the world over no matter the skin tone. There is NO one standard of beauty, the world is full of unique people from every nationality, it is our differences that make us unique and beautiful from the palest Caucasian to the darkest African and in between. “The Pedestal” mentality and The Porcelain Doll” effect. A child is conditioned to accept everything that is put before them, there is a conditioning process that stimulates the thought processed before puberty subliminal messages programmed into the brain in terms of what is beauty what is expectable and what is not. Through media and magazines, this has been made possible to dictate to the masses what the standard of beauty is, before television, it was revealed through colonization. If something is subjected continuously or put before you, then you will adopt it as your own, and that becomes your reality and belief.

Most women have brought into the image of the illusion of beauty which Is founded on a lie – an illusion absolute smoke and mirrors staged by the advertisers and magazines of what is relevant to the masses in terms of beauty and how to attain the impossible perfection. I know you passed a new stand at one point this week, and ogled your favorite celebrity photo, do you actually know what they photo goes through before it makes it to magazine rack – a team of makeup artists, stylists, airbrushing, retouching, and of course photoshop all to make the image unbelievably flawless. It takes literally a team to make the perfect image. If you had a team of beauty professional at your beck and call you would look like a celebrity too. Beauty is an illusion it is easily distorted and manipulated. The products they advertise we put facial products on our face daily the ingredients cause cancer or premature aging because we believe that these things we make us look better or even younger. Women, in general, go through so much to be what the powers-that-be say is beauty from spending their hard earned cash to get the latest designers clothes or the newest eyeshadow palette in hopes to get the validation they need to make it yet another day. We press our feet into high heels which are destroying our health and breaking our toes all in the name of beauty. It is not surprising that the beauty industry is billions strong, fueled by the hopeless wonders that seek the esteem of others. I would not say beauty is necessarily an illusion. Beauty within itself is not an illusion but what is misleading and deceptive in how the advertisers paint the picture of beauty. But there is not one solid definition of beauty because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is something that can be changed and manipulated by society. Images are powerful but surface driven. Our hearts are not in the right place, don‘t buy into the illusion.
The Media is to blame

According to the article “Negative Influences of Media on the Society” states that The media affects the way we act and think. It has a profound influence on the behavior of its audience. When people try to imitate something we had seen or heard, are they capable enough to distinguish between right from wrong? Young people often imitate their role models blindly. What is being highlighted in the entertainment industry is the wrongdoings of these celebrities whom the young people idolize. And because they are heroes in the youth’s minds, they are still celebrated despite the bad behavior they have been showing to the public. Subliminal messages are programmed into our brains daily. There are 1500 Newspapers, 1100 magazines, 9000 Radio Stations, 1500 TV stations, and 2400 publishers. They control 90% of what 277 million Americans see, hear, meditate on, and read. Through time, through the invention of moving pictures, birthed the power of the media, they can suggest, claim, and dictate what is right or what is wrong through, television, radio, magazines, newspapers, movies etc.. Media has had an influence on universal beauty standards throughout the world; therefore, it affects women and men of all nationalities. Through television and advertising in magazines who are responsible for planting “idealism” into the brain of the masses. The media is fueled by propaganda, deceptive, or distorted information that is systematically spread throughout the world every minute of the day. The Media has enslaved us to becoming entertainment driven by sports and reality series. Through the influence of the media from childhood on we are bombarded with images and messages that reinforce the idea that to be happy we must be a certain way, drive a particular car, and look a certain way. It is nearly irresolvable to open a magazine, listen to the radio, shop at a mall or turn on a TV without being confronted with what seems to be perfection, the invention, the illusion of the media. For argument sake, if the media’s portrayal of is just a looking glass of this culture and not an originator, the media still needs to take some responsibility for at least dissemination the failure to perform its function correctly in the best interest of society.
In the article “Brain, Behavior, and Media. Is media influencing your brain and your behavior through psychology?” published in Psychology Today, Bennard J Luskin Ed.D. states that “Recent studies now validate the reality of Internet Addiction Disorder (IAD). It can cause tremors, shivers, nausea, and anxiety in some addicts. Try removing a young “gamer” from a video game in a hurry. You will discover how difficult it is to break the attachment between the teen and the screen.” The media has been the main component in our every day lives as a form of personal sabotage.

Distortion of Body Image

According to  www.nationaleatingdisorders.org, “Body Image” is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror or when you picture yourself in your mind. It encompasses: What you believe about your own appearance (including your memories, assumptions, and generalizations). How you feel about your body, including your height, shape, and weight. How you sense and control your body as you move. How you feel in your body, not just about your body.

In Society, the images they portray perfection on ads, television, they made me feel inadequate about the way I look. I know you have heard this before or have even contemplative it in your mind, “If I could just lose 5 more pounds they world would love me” one in three girls have an eating disorder… But still, in reality, millions of young girls, woman, and some men suffer from eating disorders annually a lot under the 18. These specific eating disorders are often triggered by bouts of depression, distorted body image, or perfectionism itself. The four major eating disorders: 1. Anorexia Nervosa, voluntary starvation for long periods. 2. Bulimia Nervosa, marked by bouts of binge eating excessive amounts of food followed by compensatory behavior such as purging then vomiting or use of laxatives to rid themselves of the food eaten 3. Binge-eating, marked by episodes of out-of-control gorging, similar to Bulimia without the purging. 4. EDNOS, the most dangerous of all 4, it is the combination of Anorexia and Bulimia, each day it takes on one the eating often disorders. Females are much more likely than males to develop an eating disorder. Eating disorders are closely related to other psychiatric illnesses such as depression, substance abuse, or anxiety disorders. Besides, people who suffer from eating disorders can experience a wide range of physical health complications, including severe heart conditions, teeth enamel erosion, various organ failure including kidney failure, which may lead to death. If eating disorders weren’t enough, many woman and men would resort to cosmetic surgery that gains what they perceive as perfection. Women, both young and old, are taking enormous risks in the pursuit of beauty. Liposuction, Nose Jobs, botox, tummy tucks, breast implants, and bottom augmentation. Who is responsible? The media? The advertisers? They all are trying to sell this image of perfect beauty when, in reality, no one is perfect but a work in progress. Do we have to ask ourselves what are we doing? We must be comfortable in our own skin. We are our sister and brother’s keeper, and it starts in the home, the duty of the parents are to teach their children how valuable they are.
 
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Dilemma 9 – "Vanity"

She hopes that when she walks into a room that every eye is on her. She stalks her prey intently. She desires to be the most beautiful woman in the room. Her desire is for the world to feed her insecurity. Longs for every guy to get off on her beauty that’s why she exposes her body parts. She wants to be valued, adored, and loved at any cost. She seeks out individuals that will worship her like a goddess. She has an unnatural sense of self importance. Requires excessive admiration and attention. She is arrogant and Haughty. Takes advantage of others kindness. Fantasies about being the person with unlimited admiration. She purchases costly attire, name brands items and accessories to be admired. Has a unnatural sense of self entitlement. Her beauty is mystifying in a demonic sort of way. Her eyes a full with lust and desire. Most men are snared into her trap of sin. People often worship the ground she walks on. She wants the world to bow down to her very existence. And her name is VANITY.

 
Truthfully, how does a black woman fare in this beauty-paranoid urbanity?

The Daughters of Zion are now becoming “mature“ in the ways of the Most High. While others still marvel at the relics of being that symbol of beauty. You can see how this narcissism explodes the life nock of your existence. You gaze that image of beauty still stuck in your eyes, as you gaze from picture to picture wondering when it will be your chance, to imitate the greek god of narcissus, who tragically fell in love with the sight of his reflection, not realizing it was his own image in the water. Or the likes of Oscar Wilde’s depiction of the portrait “Dorian Gray” wish that he would never grow old but his soul was lost. Like most women that mere obsession into this filtered beauty showcased on the internet. The fascination with being beautiful has gone from desire to obsession. The biggest devil of them all, Satan – Lucifer was cast out of heaven because of pride in his beauty, after all, it was said he was the most beautiful of them all. Son of man, take up a lamentation upon the king of Tyrus, and say unto him, Thus saith the Lord GOD; Thou sealest up the sum, full of wisdom, and perfect in beauty. Thou hast been in Eden the garden of God; every precious stone was thy covering, the sardius, topaz, and the diamond, the beryl, the onyx, and the jasper, the sapphire, the emerald, and the carbuncle, and gold: the workmanship of thy tabrets and of thy pipes was prepared in thee in the day that thou wast created. Thou art the anointed cherub that covereth; and I have set thee so: thou wast upon the holy mountain of God; thou hast walked up and down in the midst of the stones of fire. Thou wast perfect in thy ways from the day that thou wast created, till iniquity was found in thee. Ezekiel 28:12 KJV Beauty isn’t everything it’s the only thing so we are told. To be a recipient of beauty many would envy, kill, starve to death, stuff, tuck, or even sale their soul to the devil to look like me boasts the neon demon of Vanity., the god of pride, narcissism, self-importance, conceit, arrogance, egotism, worthlessness, presumptuous, and bigheadedness. It is safe to say that every woman wants to possess what she has. By the time I was 10 years old, I had heard an eruption of phrases that solidified me as being “beautiful“ or “pretty”, numerous times, being declared as such at this young age, it became embedded in my psyche. For young girls out there it is much better to learn to be smart or learn what it takes to develop your character. The character thing is something I learned much later but on the other hand, I was always smart and intrigued by knowledge. I often found myself, in that trap of consciously trying to impress people. Always concerned if they liked me or not. Bought them gifts to achieve lasting friendship but to my dismay they still envied me or hated me. If wasn’t until I came into the knowledge of the truth (about who I am and who the Most High is to me) about 5 years ago, that I realize that I hadn’t really been myself this whole time, the reflection in the mirror was in fact, “The Neon Demon: Vanity” and that was a huge wakeup call. You see this image of beauty that had men drooling and panting wasn’t really me. Eccentrically, I felt his eyes on me; almost boring a hole in my flesh, our eyes met. I thought to myself, “Another man beguiled by my physical attributes.” It actually made me happy to see his jaws-drop knowing that he would never have me. I am not that kind of girl to sleep with any man until marriage but I must admit that my fun came with him just looking at me. Here he comes, what will it be this time am I beautiful or sexy. Not knowing subconsciously that I was causing a man to lust by my attire, it was like a game to me. I loved the attention I got. My attire consist of long fitted dresses with a split down the side that classy but sexy edginess. The truth of the matter is that if a man notices a woman and finds her attractive, even in a sexual way, with all her clothes on. Then it is not the woman’s fault she is gazing on her beauty, but if she purposely sets out to cause him to lust after her beauty then it is an iniquity, and then with the action of sex it becomes sin.After I arise every morning, I drop to my knees and raise my hands giving all Praise to my Abba Father while torn between a desire to awaken the world to the knowledge of the Most High God and enjoy my life. The lighting is always perfect when I am in front of the mirror. It’s hard to resist not to stare at me while being grateful that I made it another day. My thoughts reflect on how good the Most High is and this internal change He has taken mine through. The selfless love that overwhelms my spirit, my soul, and my body. I look at me and think about how I was created in HIS image and likeness. The world around me has changed, and especially my thoughts on physical beauty. Beauty isn’t everything; it’s the only thing, so we are told. To be a recipient of grace many would envy, kill, starve to death, stuff, tuck, or even sell their soul to the devil to look like me boasts the neon demon of Vanity., the god of pride, narcissism, self-importance, conceit, arrogance, egotism, worthlessness, presumptuous, and pigheadedness. It is safe to say that every woman wants to possess what she has. By the time I was 10 years old, I had heard an eruption of phrases that solidified me as being “beautiful“ or “pretty,” numerous times, being declared as such at this young age, it became embedded in my psyche. For young girls out there, it is much better to learn to be smart or learn what it takes to develop your character. The character thing is something I learned much later, but on the other hand, I was always smart and intrigued by knowledge. I often found myself, in that trap of consciously trying to impress people. Always concerned if they liked me or not. Bought them gifts to achieve lasting friendship, but to my dismay, they still envied me or hated me. If wasn’t until I came into the knowledge of the truth (about who I am and who the Most High is to me) about 5 years ago, that I realize that I hadn’t really been myself this whole time, the reflection in the mirror was in fact, “Vanity” and that was a massive wake up call. You see this image of beauty that had men drooling and panting wasn’t really me.

Eccentrically, I felt his eyes on me; almost boring a hole in my flesh, our eyes met. I thought to myself, “Another man beguiled by my physical attributes.” It actually made me happy to see his jaws-drop knowing that he would never have me. I am not that kind of girl to sleep with any man until marriage but I must admit that my fun came with him just looking at me. Here he comes, what will it be this time am I beautiful or sexy.

Not knowing subconsciously that I was causing a man to lust by my attire, it was like a game to me. I loved the attention I got. My attire consists of long fitted dresses with a split down the side that classy but sexy edginess. The truth of the matter is that if a man notices a woman and finds her attractive, even in a sexual way, with all her clothes on. Then it is not the woman’s fault she is gazing on her beauty, but if she purposely sets out to cause him to lust after her beauty then it is iniquity, and then with the act of sex it becomes sin. So the world tells us to be more beautiful, erogenous and poised while governing your body by the way we sway our hips, exposing our breasts and rear end deliberately in hopes of manipulating men, arousing them sexually with one single glance. Letting other women or even mothers, tell you to wear seducing outfits in hopes of attracting men.

There is much to be said about a woman who can humbly modestly present herself while everything surrounding her in based on how you look. She is bombarded with influences telling her to walk talk look dress and act like a woman with no maker, no guidance, no soul in an ignorant world, a bright light in the darkness! This breed of woman is scarce! But she exists, I am living proof now. If you are a woman that has no shame exposing herself by wearing tight or revealing clothes where your breast, thighs, and even labia (camel toe) can be seen. Please reconsider your spirit and be truthful with yourself about just what you are really doing. Because what we say, do and how we dress affects others, especially those that are younger and more impressionable, all young sisters you should see as your daughters. There is much to be said about a woman that presents yourself in such a way. You have the same body parts every other woman has. A man can quickly get that somewhere else. There is always another female with more to share. What he can’t understand is someone who has that unique personality coupled with the Most High’s character. It is your character that will keep him not your bottom size. If you notice, most women you see with these attributes, have no man with a house full of kids. It is your character that will keep him at the end of the day. Tight jeans, tight dresses, short shorts, and leggings leave nothing to the imagination only reveal the intimate details of your body. These clothing options are the fashion equivalent of too much information. This gratuitous divulgence of assets repels where skin tight clothing or private physical attribute revealers presumably with the hope to entice men. In layman’s terms, you know what you are doing, and the Most High is watching. You will be judge, ladies!

“But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7 KJV

So the world tells us to be more beautiful, erogenous and poised while governing your body by the way we sway our hips, exposing our breasts and rear end deliberately in hopes of manipulating men, arousing them sexually with one single glance. Letting other women or even mothers, tell you to wear seducing outfits in hopes of attracting men. There is much to be said about a woman who can humbly modestly present herself while everything surrounding her in based on how you look. She is bombarded with influences telling her to walk talk look dress and act like a woman with no maker, no guidance, no soul in an ignorant world, a bright light in the darkness! This breed of woman is scarce! But she exists, I am living proof now. If you are a woman that has no shame exposing herself by wearing tight or revealing clothes where your breast, thighs, and even labia (camel toe) can be seen. Please reconsider your spirit and be truthful with yourself about just what you are really doing. Because what we say, do and how we dress affects others, especially those that are younger and more impressionable, all young sisters you should see as your daughters. There is much to be said about a woman that presents yourself in such a way. You have the same body parts every other woman has. A man can quickly get that somewhere else. There is always another female with more to share. What he can’t understand is someone who has that unique personality coupled with the Most High’s character. It is your character that will keep him not your bottom size. If you notice, most women you see with these attributes, have no man with a house full of kids. It is your character that will keep him at the end of the day. Tight jeans, tight dresses, short shorts, and leggings leave nothing to the imagination only reveal the intimate details of your body. These clothing options are the fashion equivalent of too much information. This gratuitous divulgence of assets repels where skin tight clothing or private physical attribute revealers presumably with the hope to entice men. In layman’s terms, you know what you are doing, and the Most High is watching. You will be judge, ladies!

Ecclesiasticus 26:9-12 KJVA 9 The whoredom of a woman may be known in her haughty(prideful) looks and eyelids. 10 If thy daughter be shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuse herself through overmuch liberty. 11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass(sin) against thee. 12 She will open her mouth, as a thirsty traveller when he hath found a fountain, and drink of every water near her: by every hedge will she sit down, and open her quiver against every arrow. The most High did NOT create our sisters to be bad bitches! But contrarily, to be women that fear the most High God and to be ashamed of exposing themselves. Ecclesiasticus 26:25 KJV 25 A shameless woman shall be counted as a dog; but she that is shamefaced will fear the Lord.

The “Sexual Objectification” and “The Moral Decay” of the women of color.

A sunny day at the park, I walked and repeatedly pranced over the leaves as they sunbathed beneath my feet, At 9 years old, I was wearing shorts, not to short but I jacked them up higher, leaving my buttocks exposed a little. I was at the park alone that day, I was prancing around as I walk I felt a wind, and then something bizarre happened, all of a sudden, something, maybe an entity that felt like it was trying to enter my body. I resisted, and it blows away like the wind. We live in a spiritual world, a sometimes our actions can invite spirits of sexual perversions to attack us at any age.

My interview with Harold, a Barrister from Canada

Q: So, Harold, what do you think about all the ladies showing their body parts on social media?

Harold: I think they need to re-evaluate what they are putting out there, what message they are sending about themselves – Are you a whore or a lady? For me I prefer the beautiful lady that covers her body leaving something to the imagination like you, for example, you are the epitome of beauty and you always wear a nice dress that accentuates your curves but leaves a lot to the imagination.

Q: Thank you! .. Why do you think about men praise these woman that wear nothing literally?

Harold: A man is going to praise a whore because he is thinking about sex with her, getting that thrill. Men are visual hell we can look but these types of women will be never be taken to meet Momma. Most of the guys that compliment these whorish women are Simps and Captain-save-a hoes. The woman only degrades themselves by the way the dress, it’s not pretty and they will never get a good man. Real talk they will sex you and move to the next one showing her booty. Ladies wake up!

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And let your adorning be — Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. I Peter 3:3-4 King James Version Bible. Don’t let your soul purpose of existence by the way you look! Peace Israel, if you are a sister that has no shame in exposing herself by wearing tight or revealing clothes where your breast, thighs and even labia(camel toe) can be seen. Please reconsider your spirit and be truthful with yourself about just what you are really doing. Because what we say, do and how we dress affects others especially those that are younger and more impressionable, all young sisters you should see as your daughters.

Photo Courtesy of Nathalie Gonzalez

Ecclesiasticus 26:9-12 KJVA 9 The whoredom of a woman may be known in her haughty(prideful) looks and eyelids. 10 If thy daughter is shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuses herself through overmuch liberty. 11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass(sin) against thee. 12 She will open her mouth, as a thirsty traveler when he hath found a fountain, and drink of every water near her: by every hedge will she sit down, and open her quiver against every arrow. The most High did NOT create our sisters to be bad bitches! But contrarily, to be women that fear the most High God and to be ashamed of exposing themselves. Ecclesiasticus 26:25 KJV 25 A shameless woman shall be counted as a dog, but she that is shamefaced will fear the Lord. Titus 2:3-5 KJV 3 The aged women likewise, that they are in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

The fascination of the body has been around as long as the earth, many want to place it on a pedestal for all to see, acquire it, and lust after it. This was definitely the sad demise of and in the case of South African “Sarah Saartjie Brightman” the Hottentot Venus. For those of you that don’t know was made famous for her curvaceous body, large buttocks that were exhibited as freak show attractions in 19th-century Europe in the early 1800s in England and France then later after her death she was given up to science for study, her private parts were on display in a jar. They call her the “Hottentot Venus” the Europeans were so spellbound by her body structure; it was like nothing they had seen before. She was degraded unto death.

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The counterproductive is the production of our identity we must abort the hyper-sexualized image. Beauty in itself is not something for you to inspire to chase after, you either have it or you don’t so the thought of being so self-absorbed in the way one looks is preposterous leads you into the trap of the lust. Through the era of social media etc. We are inclined to adopt a sexy image and pass it around. We must develop Standard and Modesty about us. Being considered ‘Gorgeous” or “Beautiful” is a lot more conservative than being considered sexy is being and inspiring lust. The joy of the social media high… What would you do without the admiration of the adoring public? Unfortunately Sarah didn’t have a choice but the women are today must be responsible for their own image.
 
Twitter 20 likes – 2400 followers Facebook 2000 likes – 5000 friends Youtube 89,000 likes 1 million followers
Social Media is designed to keep you self absorbed, narcissistic.

Forlornly, I witness an enormous cessation between women around the world where social media sites that promote instant celebrity. The narcissist viewpoint is creating a stifling ecosystem on the internet filled with envy, hatred, insecurity, and cyberbullying. The beauty critics and fashion industry define beauty as impeccable. This fallacy is caused by photoshop, filters, lighting, smoke, and mirrors. Both men and women love this attention, relying on their body parts to grab attention. In the Bible – Sarah, Abraham’s wife, even in old age she was considered beautiful, Joseph, David, Rachel, and Queen Esther, were deemed to be lovely people. Their aesthetics were superb no reference to them being sexy. Ladies you need to think twice about the “oversexed/ ravish me/ come hither” on social media. I mean seriously, What are you trying to do? I know you want a man, but come on, many other women are doing the same things you are such fierce competition all wanting the admiration. Your actions are causing men to fall into lust. A true daughter of Zion wouldn’t cause a man to stumble. You should be ashamed of yourself in tight or revealing clothes where your breast, thighs and even labia (camel toe) can be seen. Please reconsider your spirit and be truthful with yourself about just what you are really doing. Do you want the attention that bad? My worst comment under one of my photographs on Facebook, “My nuts are doing pushups.” Now, this was under a photo where I was completely covered. Another under the same picture, “You can turn heads with your clothes on.” Think about the younger girls that are watching your every action and that will impersonate your activities later on done the line, becoming just another woman with no respect.

Eccentrically, I felt his eyes on me; almost boring a hole in my flesh, our eyes met. I thought to myself, “Another man beguiled by my physical attributes.” It actually made me happy to see his jaws-drop knowing that he would never have me. I am not that kind of girl to sleep with any man until marriage but I must admit that my fun came with him just looking at me. Here he comes, what will it be this time am I beautiful or sexy.

Not knowing subconsciously that I was causing a man to lust by my attire, it was like a game to me. I loved the attention I got. My attire consists of long fitted dresses with a split down the side that classy but sexy edginess. The truth of the matter is that if a man notices a woman and finds her attractive, even in a sexual way, with all her clothes on. Then it is not the woman’s fault she is gazing on her beauty, but if she purposely sets out to cause him to lust after her beauty then it is an iniquity, and then with the act of sex it becomes sin.

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So the world tells us to be more beautiful, erogenous and poised while governing your body by the way we sway our hips, exposing our breasts and rear end deliberately in hopes of manipulating men, arousing them sexually with one single glance. Letting other women or even mothers, tell you to wear seducing outfits in hopes of attracting men. There is much to be said about a woman who can humbly present herself in a modest way while everything surrounding her in based on how you look. She is bombarded with influences telling her to walk talk look dress and act like a woman with no maker, no guidance, no soul in an ignorant world, a bright light in the darkness! This breed of woman is extremely rare! But she exists, I am living proof now. If you are a woman that has no shame exposing herself by wearing tight or revealing clothes where your breast, thighs and even labia (camel toe) can be seen. Please reconsider your spirit and be truthful with yourself about just what you are really doing. Because what we say, do and how we dress affects others especially those that are younger and more impressionable, all young sisters you should see as your daughters. There is much to be said about a woman that presents yourself in such a way. You have the same body parts every other woman has. A man can easily get that somewhere else. There is always another female with more to share. What he can’t get is someone who has that unique personality coupled with the Most High’s character. It is your character that will keep him not your bottom size. If you notice, most women you see with these attributes, have no man with a house full of kids. It is your character that will keep him at the end of the day. Tight jeans, tight dresses, short shorts, and leggings leave nothing to the imagination only reveal the intimate details of your body. These clothing options are fashion equivalent of too much information. This gratuitous divulgence of assets repels where skin tight clothing or private bodily attribute revealers presumably with the hope to entice men. In layman’s terms, you know what you are doing and the Most High is watching. You will be judge ladies!

Ecclesiasticus 26:9-12 KJVA 9 The whoredom of a woman may be known in her haughty(prideful) looks and eyelids. 10 If thy daughter is shameless, keep her in straitly, lest she abuses herself through overmuch liberty. 11 Watch over an impudent eye: and marvel not if she trespass(sin) against thee. 12 She will open her mouth, as a thirsty traveler when he hath found a fountain, and drink of every water near her: by every hedge will she sit down, and open her quiver against every arrow.

Despite it all, I remained a virgin until marriage. Teach your daughters how to dress and keep themselves pure.

The attention whore syndrome. Females certainly aren’t the only ones who can be attention whores, but, whether through sexism or because it truly is more common among females (I think the verdict is definitely still out on that one), this dreadful disorder is most commonly associated with females. Attention whores are a sad breed of female that thrives upon and is therefore in constant, desperate need of attention – particularly of the male variety. It doesn’t matter whether she’s romantically interested in a guy or not, the attention whore wants as much attention from as many people as possible, and is willing to degrade herself in the process. If you’re one of those guys who says, “Well, isn’t that just how girls are?” then don’t bother reading any further. If your opinion of women and expectations of how you should be treated by them are that low, an attention whore is probably all that you deserve.

 
An attention whore is an unhealthy, dysfunctional person who likely did not get what she needed as a child to mature into a secure adult. Just because there are (unfortunately) quite a few of them, doesn’t mean “attention whore” is the natural state of the female. Conversely, just because there are lots of shitty men out there, it doesn’t mean “scumbag” is the natural state of the male. Being roped in by an attention whore will never lead you anywhere right. If she’s not interested in you, the attention whore is capable of leading you on quite mercilessly. And if she is interested in you and you get into a real relationship with her, you’re in for some real hell. While some attention whores are incapable of being physically faithful to just one guy, you better believe that, whether physically or emotionally, she will continuously be carrying on inappropriate relationships with other guys in one way or another. The attention of one man is never enough for this kind of creature, and being in a relationship will hardly slow down her constant care whoring behavior. — Emmanuel Valerio

Seduce him with your love. Entice him with your intellect. Blow his mind with your brilliance. YOU all have the same thing between your legs, but you have got to bring something to the table that the next woman can’t, or won’t, so that you can have what many of them don’t. YOU must be intuitive enough to realize that engaging of the minds leads to marrying of the souls. If the only thing you have to offer is a pretty face, nice body and good sex, you ain’t worth a penny.

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What is it with females taking pictures with their ASS facing the camera? We truly live in a culture of ASS worship. We have a culture of attention whoring creatures who have nothing to offer you but their looks. We are living in a generation where dressing to impress is a thing of the past, and behaving like a whore, twerking, being practically naked all over the internet to show off your assets to the world is the latest and cool trend. No matter how big or small the ASS is, it must be displayed. No matter how big or small the breasts are, they must be out in the open. This culture is disgusting. When you bare it all and leave little to the imagination, best believe no real Man is thinking about bringing you home to the family. When all you care about is your looks, no one will truly care about your personality or your intellect. Stop worshiping your assets and get some self respect. You have a brain, use it! Love and respect yourself to be more than just a another random piece of ASS and a nice body. Don’t just worship your body and it’s parts, love and respect it, be conscious of your body’s message. Be the best you can be without displaying the best that your body can offer. You will get further with a quality man using what’s between your ears (BRAIN), not what between your legs (VAGINA). The quality of man you attract says a lot about you, if you always end up with a bum, the one you need to be checking is yourself. Most of you have shitty decision making skills. Always assuming that you have it going on because many guys are after you, but did you forget that low gas prices ALWAYS attracts a lot of customers? Its about quality, NOT quantity. What you have is perverted minded creatures like yourself chasing whats between you legs, NOT YOU. You keep getting your heart broken because you keep giving the key to your heart to people who only want the security code to your panties. Stop saving a permanent place in your heart for someone who only has something temporary in mind for you. Just because these professional ASS kissers like your looks, doesn’t mean that they respect it. There’s NOTHING honorable about 1,000 flock of bums who are staring at your ass, breast, thighs and duck faces; imagining what they’d do to you in bed. You’re no longer a woman in their eyes, you’re an object, a piece of meat, a vain imagination in the mind of a luster. You want to be sexy and feel beautiful, I get it. But being respected and loved should mean more. Beauty is in modesty, and a real man will NEVER truly love a woman he can’t respect. —-  Emmanuel Valerio

100000 Likes via twitter or facebook… Just because the typical male likes your photos, you know the ones of your cleavage and your bottom. Really there is no respect in looking at or commenting on photos. You’re no longer a woman in their eyes, you’re an object, a piece of meat, a vain imagination in the mind of a lustful man. You want to be sexy and feel beautiful, I get it. But being respected and loved should mean more. Beauty is in modesty, and a real man will NEVER truly love a woman he can’t respect. “Don’t believe the likes”

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A woman of modest attire will always come out on top. Save your booty shots for your husband. The world doesn’t need to see it.


A real woman respects herself, the devaluing that occurs on social media is disturbing. Females with nothing to offer to use their good looks to achieve their agenda, they degrade themselves for attention. These females that show all their body on social media are whores, plain and simple, us men sure we look but these women we will never take them home to meet the family — Aaron.

Let me reveal to you a hidden truth, just because the typical ass kissing guy likes your looks through these social media or in real life, doesn’t mean that he respects it. There’s nothing honorable about 1,000 likes from a flock perverts who are staring at your ass, breast, thighs and pretty faces fully made up; imagining can they get you home and into their beds. You’re no longer a woman in their eyes, you’re an a whore, a thot, a piece of meat or a vain imagination in the mind of a whoremonger. You want to be sexy and feel beautiful, I get it. But being respected and loved should mean more. Beauty is in modesty, and a real man will never truly love a woman he can’t respect. You can accomplish much more with a quality man using your brain, not your vagina. “Don’t believe the likes”. God-fearing men are leaders, they don’t chase booty. A woman doesn’t need to show you her body to prove she’s a woman. Doesn’t need to walk around half-dressed to attract your attention. Doesn’t need to sleep with you to prove her love. Doesn’t need to be loud for you to listen to her voice. Doesn’t need to fight you to reveal her strength. Doesn’t need to argue to prove her education. Doesn’t need to put you down to lift herself up. Doesn’t need to say a word to prove that she’s a woman, but most importantly, a real woman doesn’t need you unbuttoning her shirt to get to her heart. She doesn’t need to open her legs to get appreciation. She does need to drive into that bible like her life depends on it, and her king will come.

In the 1900’s They forced women to strip naked in a zoo for humans, now females do it willingly: Therefore my people are gone into captivity because they have no knowledge: and their honorable men are famished, and their multitude dried up with thirst, Isaiah 5:13 KJV So tired of looking at the black women with the long flip weaves high-end sunglasses,, handbag, jeans, and overpriced stiletto heels. So dull carbon copy of the white women walking on rodeo drive in California. This look is so annoying! — Jackson

The world entices you with the lure of brand names, especially those high-end designer logos like Louis Vuitton and Hermes. It’s not only that the more you care about impressing other people with your appearance, the more likely you will to overspend. In fact, the more focused you are on your own thoughts, feelings, and impressions you make on others, the more you’ll seek outwardly-recognizable status symbols like handbags and overpriced clothing. Being vain is beyond just about looking good to others, but more importantly, about looking good to themselves. It’s a natural high. Social comparison theory, initially proposed by social psychologist Leon Festinger in 1954, centers on the belief that there is a drive within individuals to gain accurate self-evaluations. The theory explains how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others in order to reduce uncertainty in these domains, and learn how to define the self. Following the initial theory, research began to focus on social comparison as a way of self-enhancement, introducing the concepts of downward and upward comparisons and expanding the motivations of social comparisons. Downward social comparison is a great coping process because it allows you to view a bad situation by looking at others who are worse off than you (poorer, less attractive, more stressed) and concluding that things aren’t really so bad. Upward social comparison can cause you to berate yourself unnecessarily because you feel that you’re being outdone by your neighbors, comrades, family, co-workers, and instagram-youtube-facebook friends. Your desire to impress people that could care less about, but not realizing that this disorder can promote psychological disorders.

D — Demon
I — Idol
V — Vixen
A — Arrogant
“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.” Proverbs 16:18 KJV
DIVA NOUN [PLURAL DI·VAS, DI·VE] 1. a distinguished female singer; prima donna.
The Diva hypnotizes men with her beauty.

True Daughters of Zion are now becoming “mature“ in the ways of the Most High. While others still marvel at the relics of being that symbol of beauty. You can see how this narcissism explodes the life nock of your existence. You gaze that image of beauty still stuck in your eyes, as you gaze from picture to picture wondering when it will be your chance, to imitate the Greek god of narcissus, who tragically fell in love with the sight of his reflection, not realizing it was his own image in the water. Or the likes of Oscar Wilde’s depiction of the portrait “Dorian Gray” wish that he would never grow old but his soul was lost. Like most women, that minor obsession with this filtered beauty showcased on the internet. The fascination with being beautiful has gone from a desire to passion. The biggest devil of them all, Satan – Lucifer was cast out of heaven because of pride in his beauty, after all, it was said he was the most beautiful of them all. Son of man, take up a lamentation upon the king of Tyrus, and say unto him, Thus saith the Lord GOD; Thou sealest up the sum, full of wisdom, and perfect in beauty. Thou hast been in Eden the garden of God; every precious stone was thy covering, the sardius, topaz, and the diamond, the beryl, the onyx, and the jasper, the sapphire, the emerald, and the carbuncle, and gold: the workmanship of thy tabrets and of thy pipes was prepared in thee in the day that thou wast created. Thou art the anointed cherub that covereth; and I have set thee so: thou wast upon the holy mountain of God; thou hast walked up and down amid the stones of fire. Thou wast perfect in thy ways from the day that thou wast created, till iniquity was found in thee. Ezekiel 28:12 KJV

The Diva loves to be worshipped as a God.

Long weaved out hair, face full of makeup, revealing clothing and dancing around as she slays the crowds. As women of faith, we must break this idea of being noticed, worshipped, or being categorized as a “DIVA.” A Diva often operates as a diety while practicing magic, soothsaying, and other forms of idolatry and witchcraft in their exertion of power while in the presence of crowds of people. The pandemonium that she usually creates the work of the demon working through her. Every time you step into an arena with a Diva, you are partaking of a level of worship and trust me, it is not the Most High you are worshipping.

Celebrity worship syndrome is an obsessive-addictive disorder in which a person becomes overly involved with the details of a celebrity’s personal life. Psychologists have indicated that though many people obsess over glamorous film, television, sport and pop stars, the only common factor between them is that they are all figures in the public eye. The term Celebrity Worship Syndrome is, in fact, a misnomer.
Turn ye not unto idols, nor make yourselves molten gods: I am the LORD your God. Leviticus 19:4 KJV Thou shalt have no other gods before me. Exodus 20:3 KJV

The Bible even warns us of being haughty, arrogant, or narcissistic in the pursuit of physical beauty – Isaiah 3:16-24 KJV – “Moreover the Lord saith ,Because of the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton necks and wandering eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and make a tinkling with their feet; Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion, and the Lord will discover their secret parts….In that day the Lord will take away the bravery of their tinkling ornaments about their feet, and their cauls, and their round tires like the moon, the chains, and the bracelets and the mufflers, the bonnets, and the ornaments. But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the HEART. 1 Samuel 16:7 (KJV) Favor is deceitful, and beauty is VAIN: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. – Proverbs 31:30 KJV

If women love to vitiate themselves for attention, just imagine what they’ll do for money. When you present yourself as a erotic entity to a man, of course that’s how his perception of you will be. As a woman, you possess the exact same anatomy as every other woman does. There will always be someone else with a better body. Cajole him with your intellect and virtue. Keep your legs closed and you will be blessed with the quality man you seek.

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You could be like Judith, Queen Esther, Deborah, Sarah, Susanna…. Our matriarchs of the Bible, effective representation of women that loved the Most High in action, words, and deeds. In today’s society, everyone is looking for someone to worship and to follow. Unfortunately, there is a lack of role models in today’s society. Unfortunately, most of the women that man drools other today are witches like most celebrity women that can’t compare to the spiritual sisters of the Bible in looks or deeds. Beauty is more than your outer trapping, it is your character that resembles that of the Most High in action and acts.

The woman of beauty and obedience…

Judith… The account of Judith life could be written in novels, but it’s in the Apocrypha. It is an omen to women like me, you know the widows. No biblical female has ever been endowed with such wanton seduction, suspense, and violence as the beautiful Judith. As the story unfolds, there is a war, a threat to the lively hood of the Israelites. Holofernes, the general of King Nebuchadnezzar, has laid siege to the Israelite town of Bethulia, where Judith resides after her husband died. By the grace and the leading of the Most High God of Israel, Judith knows what she must do to preserve her people. After her beauty ritual, she lives the safety of her home and uses her womanly beautiful to seduce Holofernes, no sex but lowers him to his demise by her mere beauty. She decapitates him with his own sword and carries his bloody head out of the enemy camp in her food bag to display on the walls of Bethulia to her people. Judith is all an inspiration, now that is a woman of beauty and obedience. (Judith, the King James Version Bible with the Apocrypha.)

A woman of power and dignity….

Deborah….I remember some years back, I wanted to do a movie about Judgment, the Most High judgment on the world and sin via the lives of a few people. When I think of Judges, I think of Deborah, the righteous judges. Full of charisma and she was a prophet, adjudicating disputes of the people of that time. You know the Most High gave her a task to judge Israel. Her life focused on her military conquests. Judges Chapter 3, KJV Bible, focuses on her life. Deborah and her general Barak lead the Israelite army in a battle against the Canaanite king Jabin and his general Sisera. Definitely a ride or die chick. Now that’s a sister to write about… a woman of dignity and power!

The most beautiful woman in the world…

When I think of the Matriarch of woman, I think of Sarah, wife of Abraham, the grandfather of Jacob, who is the father of the 12 tribes of Israel. I often refer to myself as one of Sarah’s daughters. All Israelite women should aspire to be more like Sarah. Oh, and the beauty of Sarah is beyond compare. That even at an old age, she was still beautiful enough to catch the attention of the Pharaoh. Abraham esteemed Sarah highly in terms of beauty. As recording in Genesis 12 KJV Bible, the account of Abraham, where he stated that Sarah was his sister, for fear of the Pharoah killing him, to have Sarah… so he lied and claimed that she was his sister. So for all of you women that esteem yourselves, beautiful, think of Sarah, she was the real thing… The most beautiful woman in the world.

A woman of beauty and integrity….

Unfortunately, I can relate to dear sister Susanna, who was accused of having sex with two men. The men lied, their lust got the best of them. I have been charged with having sex with men I didn’t even know, but everyone around me knows I was a virgin, saving myself for marriage. That doesn’t stop the liars, the ones that want to smear your right name. Just as the Most High sent Daniel to prove the innocence of Susanna, he set others to come to my defense. Susanna’s story… on a sizzling day, sweating like a hot popsicle, Susanna decides to bath, she believes she is alone, but was being watched by two lusty voyeurs, who approach her than threatens to lie on her if she doesn’t act on their advances for sex. She chooses not to, and they lie on her. The Most High raises Daniel to help on the defense of Susanna, a woman of integrity. The Story of Susanna is chronicled in the Apocrypha. Such a woman of integrity and beauty…

A chosen woman of destiny….

I could just say that this is the mother of our Savior, the Messiah period. Enough said, but hey she is remarkable for being Chosen to carry such a phenomenon. She is written about in the New Testament of the King James Version Bible. She is a model of discipleship and motherhood. Such a woman of destiny. Just like these daughters of Zion, you too can be a beautiful woman of destiny, integrity, dignity, and obedience. Follow their examples of purity and subjection to the Most High God of Israel. You don’t have to model after the celebrities. The 4 types of women:

Ms. Independent (The Feminist)

The “Independent woman” was first birthed during the Feminist Movement as a way for a woman to have rights and be equal to men. Feminism in the United States began with 19th-century activism in favor of women’s voting rights. It gained speed and notoriety through the 20th and early 21st centuries. In general, feminism’s course led to broader comprehensiveness with regard to race and social class. In 2010, Feminism in parts of the western world has gone through three waves. First-wave feminism was oriented around the station of middle- or upper-class white women and involved suffrage and political equality. Second-wave feminism attempted to further combat social and cultural inequalities. Third-wave feminism is continuing to address the financial, social and cultural inequalities and includes renewed campaigning for greater influence of women in politics and media. In reaction to political activism, feminists have also had to maintain focus on women’s reproductive rights, such as the right to abortion. Feminism was created for population control, in fact, it is evil, its premise is to set the woman against the men to separate the family. See (Chapter 11) the objective of planned parenthood.

This movement lead to women exerting themselves other men, birthing the term “I don’t need a man.”

“For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.” 1 Samuel 15:23 KJV

The independent woman is taught that she doesn’t need a man, when in fact she does. They are taught to hate men and their authority, their position as the head of the household. When protection and provision are absent it all goes bad. Are men really to blame for everything. Sure as young girls if no father figure is present, a girl for having no example to look to as to what a real man is. The mothers never taught their daughters to respect men. In reality, we need men like we need a toothbrush. Yes, we do. Now before you throw me under the bus, here is why it is the natural vein of what the Most High wanted. The woman is to run the home and teach the children, while the man is the breadwinner. Many will say well that is old fashion or we are not in the stone age anymore. The truth is we were much better when women were homemakers. This is a great need at this day in time. Stay at home moms are often looked upon as lazy, unmotivated, or as dirt. So now a lot of women today feel that they could never be a homemaker, but by God’s grace, you can be that woman, because it is the Most High’s will.

I will, therefore, that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan. 1Timothy 5: 14-15 KJV

Sure there are some instances when the woman must work: She is a widow, a single mother with no husband or the father of her children is nowhere around. In today’s time, most women work because they want the American dream, the Chanel handbags, high dollar cars, the big house… want to look good to the world. But in the process, the marriage falls apart and the children are overlooked. Yes, a lot of the men want their wife to help provide for the family. This has never been the will of the Most High but through sin and being taught lies many people have been lead astray from the original plan. Your husband is to rule over you and you are to obey his authority. The independent woman has no desire to be submissive just to lead. The Most High ordained the man to be the head of the household.

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Ephesians 5:23 KJV

Our matriarch Sarah, submitted to her husband to the point of calling him, Lord. Sarah stood by Abraham, and he had the wealth to take care of her. You didn’t see Sarah, punching a time clock at IBM every morning. She took care of the things pertaining to the home and her children. Working from home is a full-time job with taking care or your children the future leaders of the world, homeschooling, chores of keeping her house clean, and preparing meals. So a housewife is not to be looked upon as a bad thing. It is the most honorable job you can ever have. The independent woman is a worldly perspective is not a biblical woman is honorable in the Most High’s eyes. The Most High commands every mother to love her children and her husband. To be a comfort to her husband and not a rottenness of his bones.

Ask yourself, “Where are your children, and what are they doing?”
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Our matriarch, Sarah, submitted to her husband to the point of calling him, Lord. Sarah stood by Abraham, and he had the wealth to take care of her. You didn’t see Sarah, punching a time clock at IBM every morning. She took care of the things about the home and her children. Working from home is a full-time job with taking care or your children the future leaders of the world, homeschooling, chores of keeping her house clean, and preparing meals. So a housewife is not to be looked upon as a bad thing. It is the most relevant job you can ever have. The independent woman is a strategic perspective is not a biblical woman is honorable in the Most High’s eyes. The Most High commands every mother to love her children and her husband. To be a comfort to her husband and not rottenness of his bones. Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. —1st Peter 3:6 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.—1st Corinthians 11:9 Ms. Stay at home Mom (The nurturer) The World says, “Stop living in your husband’s shadow.” or “This is old fashioned.” The Holy Bible says, “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan.” 1Timothy 5: 14-15 The subject of stay-at-home moms is one that has caused much controversy, especially in Western nations, where many women work outside the home. There really are only two direct verses/passages that talk about a mother staying at home with her children. Titus 2:3-5 says, “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” The other direct verse is 1 Timothy 5:14, which says, “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.” Another translation for the phrase “to be busy at home” in the Titus 2 passage is “to be keepers at home.” I looked on child rearing not only as a work of love and duty but as a profession that was entirely as interesting and challenging as any honorable profession in the world and one that demanded the best that I could bring to it. —-Rose Kennedy Also, consider some indirect verses. Proverbs 14:1 states that it is wise for a woman to invest in her home. While it is not necessary to be a stay-at-home mom to invest in your home, we see the priority that God places on the house and the woman’s involvement. Clearly, the home is not to be neglected for the sake of outside employment. Deuteronomy 6:4-9 teaches the importance of continually teaching our children. Of course, this is addressed to fathers as well as mothers. Staying at home with children would only give more opportunities to teach children God’s ways. So it is a positive investment to be made in children’s lives by applying this passage of Scripture literally. I have experience being a working woman and a stay at home, Mom. The world says, “Stop living in your husband’s shadow, sadly that most of these people that make these statements are incredibly naïve and unlearned. They give the stay at home mom, the scarlet letter, esteem her as being lazy or not motivated. The greatest gift you can give your child is you. The Most High never said to have others raise your children. He gave that commission to you. I thank the Most High that my late husband stressed the importance of me being at home for him and my son. It was at this time that I came into the truth. It was a fulfillment that I never experienced being a writer or a spokesmodel. Seeing my baby transform from a baby to a boy, those are the most relevant years its priceless. I would have missed so much if I had worked that whole time. In the western world, so many strive to get that dream of success. It funny that when we die, it will not matter the level of success that we achieved. I can own all the designer handbags, clothes, and shoes. Your draws maybe are filled with all the latest eye shadow palettes. In the garage of your expensive home you may have a fleet of exotic automobiles but the truth behind, the love of material things is that they don’t make you happy. It is thrilling for the moment, but once you wear or use them, the thrill is gone. It is only when we discover who we are in the Most High, that the entire puzzle comes together and you realize that nothing else matters. You began to see the whole picture. The Proverbs 31 woman…Her family never lacked anything. She maintained a proper balance, so her family never suffered. Her family was always her priority. While the Bible leaves women the choice whether to stay at home with the children or go to work outside the home, it certainly is a commendable thing for a mother to be at home with the children and devote herself to training them full time. Women are definitely encouraged in Titus 2 and 1 Timothy 5 to stay at home with their young children. Whatever a woman chooses to work or not, she must maintain her home as a priority and her primary sphere of influence. Ms. Beauty Queen Here she is Miss America… Miss Universe… Miss World… Miss Ultimate Beauty (that was me)… Let’s face it… We all know one!… But hey, that is not what I am talking about at this time. Thine heart was lifted up because of thy beauty, thou hast corrupted thy wisdom because of thy brightness: I will cast thee to the ground, I will lay thee before kings, that they may behold thee. Ezekiel 28:17 “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30  In this world, there are many types of women, and the one in question is the Beauty Queen. The average run of the mill, next door neighbor, youtube personality, your relative, or the model on the cover of the magazine. The gorgeous girl that knows her looks affect every aspect of her life, she knows she is lovely and let’s every around her knows that. Her finances are spent on beautification of her physical attributes and not a dime spent on educating herself on the true meaning of her life. She boards narcissism with an ugly, sinister personality. Not many can stand her or be in her presence for long. She comes across as insecure, aloof, and snobbish. She must be the center of attraction everywhere she goes. I know her because, once upon a time, that was me. I must admit that it seems like a whole another lifetime ago. As a child, when times were terrible, I would relish in my beauty. I know that sounds weird but being pretty helped out in the most awkward of instances I faced. I have other pretty women their props, I was never one to be envious of anyone for any reason. I was filled with confidence, I was taught by the best to be the best. To me, I was the best, no one was better. The difference between a Confident woman (Proverbs 31 woman) vs. a Vain woman (ungodly woman) Confident woman captivates those around them in a selfless manner while the Vain woman is about getting all you can to make you visually pleasing with no substance.

Confident Woman

She is a woman of assurance of who she is in the Most High. She walks with her head up because she is Chosen. A woman of great faith. She called her husband Lord and treated him as such. She was a good mother. She kept her family healthy. She had a servant’s heart. She handled the finances of home and purchasing. She doesn’t spend money on frivolous things that will go bad in a year. When she makes purchases, it is to better her household. Her focus is not on her outer beauty but on your inner being.

Vain Woman

I need this in my life, or I need to treat myself as a justification to acquire more stuff…. To look good or fill fulfilled. We think it will make us happy. Handbags, expensive jewelry, fancy cars, or trendy clothes. We give us a sense of entitlement to be esteem as we made it, we’re talented, we have arrived, but the reality is that material possessions don’t really contribute to everlasting happiness. Most people have a desire to impress others. Looking at what the Joneses have and wanting it. Use shopping as an addiction to compensate for our “want to impress” deficiencies. We erroneously look for buoyancy in the fashion that we wear or the automobile that we drive. Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: Matthew 6:19 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will also be.” 90% of the world’s heart is in the wrong place.

Ms. Harlot

She is a whore. A seductive woman that dresses provocatively to lure men into her bed. Looking proudly in the mirror… “Your breasts are protruding out of your dress, you turn around to smooth the fabric down over your buttocks… “I look good”… so you think, I am sure that I will lure that unsuspecting male into my den of love tonight.” The notion is that this woman’s clothing makes her a harlot, when, in fact, college-educated women to fit into this category as well. It is a mentality of the woman, her thought process. It is what the young people wear, that’s a myth. I think every woman knows before she leaves the house what reaction she will get from the men that cross her path. As a child, older men always conveyed to me, that I want a man to look you into your eyes, not my chest. They also, told me that I was beautiful, and never let a man sweet talk me into sleeping with them when they bring up that point. In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 1st Timothy 2:9 A woman who dresses like a harlot advertises that she lacks good moral character, she wants the attention of the men around. Not knowing that all they want is to get into her panties. The harlot is two-fold because she wants to get in his underwear as well. You will never go home with him to meet his family. Just the other day, I saw a man looking at a girl walking into the store in a bikini, almost cause a 3 car accident. Now that lady knew before she got out of her car, the impact she would make on men. Some women surely want attention at any cost.

There will come a time when your life ends and where will you spend your eternity, will it be in hell, from you luring men into hell with the public exposure of your breasts or maybe even your butt. In “Apocalypse of Paul,” it details the account of women that lead men astray, as in your will be hanging from your eyelids. What a horror. You see, the Most High is not playing with us. The Most High will pass judgment on you. Nothing worse, then being around a woman that is so concerned with the men looking at her, she is wearing super tight jeans or a mini skirt, while her husband is sitting right next to her. Being a decent woman is not just by what you wear but your character, you can have a dress on to your knees but still are promiscuous in action and deed.

The Virtuous Woman

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Authenticity, confidence, strength, honesty, dignity, transparency, meek, peaceful, submissive, and endless creativity. The Virtuous Woman is the gold standard of womanhood. The Proverbs 31 woman.

Although, this woman is extremely rare…. I knew her, she was in the form of a woman I knew named Gavina, who passed away some years ago. Gavina was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen, she was the mother of my fiancé that also passed away sometime before her. What was most striking about Gavina, was her obvious physical beauty but there was something much deeper about her. The way she carried herself, she was exquisitely modest in attire, very meek, humble, and honest. She reverenced her husband, never spoke bad of anyone, was shame faced in the mist of other men. She taught what it is to be a real lady, a virtuous woman. Her influence in my life but for a short time taught me a lot of what I know today. She taught me of destiny and patience, of true love winning over adversity. Most would say that this beloved lady was very unique. I had never met anyone like her. She was the pattern and I was the fabric. These are the attributes she passed on to me:

A woman of great faith. (Proverbs 31: 26) She called her husband Lord and treated him as such. (Proverbs 31: 11- 12) She was a good mother. (Proverbs 31: 28) She kept her family healthy ( Leviticus, 11). She had a servant’s heart. (Proverbs 31: 12) She handled the finances of home and purchasing. (Proverbs 31: 14) She was a homemaker. A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her (Proverbs 31: 27) She possessed a true Beauty (Proverbs 31: 10)

Brown Beauty Personified

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. -Psalms 139:14 We were knit together in our mother’s womb, merely first thought of the Most High, we are Chosen. Our eyes run deep with history, and our skin is marred with different majestic shades of brown melanin. Our hair is wooly as the hair of sheep while dancing as the waves of the black sea. We are royalty, adored, and emulated. We are Chosen.

The Truth. So you have it the truth..

The world standard of beauty was supposed to be us, the Chosen people of the Most High. And this is why there’s a difference between black women conforming to “Eurocentric white Beauty Standards” and white women filtration of the annexation of what is considered beautiful. It is not by chance when a white woman emulates a curly hairstyle, darken her skin, how to apply padding or get injections for fuller lips or her bottom it becomes a fashion trend of the moment, a declaration of some sort. That goes to show you that black people are the trendsetters, they follow us, they like our looks (even though they try to hide this truth.) But what really astonishes me how ignorant and conditioned we are to think that lighter skin or even white skin is equated to the standard of beauty, and that dark skin is considered ugly. Why Mr. Willie Lynch I think they got it. So the world hates us, our color, our hair texture, but most of all, we hate ourselves.

The Sorrow of Kim

Kim says, “I feel for the guy he didn’t compliment my beauty; he didn’t make me feel like a Queen. He often had a wandering eye you always felt the need to compete. He spoke ill of me in front of his friends and his family. He had no job, and I worked to support us both. Sadly, I wasted 10 years of your life waiting for him to love me, to love my hair, my dark skin but most of all, my strength and loyalty to him. He looked at white women a lot always remarked how beautiful they were I often felt insecure in his presence. He raped me often when I didn’t give in to his advances, sometimes he struck and bruised my face then laughed as my mascara dipped down my cheeks. It is hard to believe that a black man would exude hate towards the black woman is they did today in 2017. I am in the truth now, and I know I am better than that! I left him.” Let this testimony be a lesson to the Sisters out there, to wait on your King. The Most High will bring him your way. As we pray for finances, jobs, safety, health, etc. It’s so important to pray for a man that fears the Most High, that worries the Most High, is a strong tower/a leader that will respect and love you as the Savior loved the Church.

“NOT TO BE”
Attributes of a LOUD woman
This is the type of women you should never want to be.
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“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” Proverbs 14:1

Belittles in her husband in public, talks down to him, and ignores him. Yells and screams at her children in society. Talks about her husband negatively to others. Initiates contact with by flirting. I don’t need a man. Feminist. Concerned with the man looking at her all the time. Prideful. Narcissist. Enjoys getting high or drunk. Doesn’t keep the commandments Follows the world and not the Most High Unruly and lack meekness “Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” Proverbs 16:18
“TO BE”
Attributes of a MEEK woman
This is the type of women to strive for it is highly favored by the Most High. But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of high price. 1 Peter 3:4
A gentle and submissive spirit. She is more concerned with her relationship with the Most High Respects, her husband Lacks haughtiness and desire for other men. Care for others and her children.

Teach your daughters. As a child, I knew that I was special, everyone around me told me so. I made a decision early on to keep my virginity until marriage. Through this experience, I learned that boys and men had a lot of respect for me, and they did a lot of things for me. I never had to open my legs to win their favor. They showered me with attention, affection, and gifts. Your daughters are a gift that needs to be taught the facts of life, that she is special, who she is in the Most High and her purpose. Teach your daughters.

We need to teach our daughters to distinguish between:
A man who flatters her and a man who compliments her.
— Oh baby you so fine I’ll drink your bath water (wrong)
— You are fearfully and wonderfully made (right)
A man who spends money on her and a man who invests in her.
—I bought you this coat now what you going to give me (wrong)
— I feel the Most High is leading me to give you this (right)
A man who views her as property and a man who sees her correctly.
— you are mine so lay down and give me what I want (wrong)
— you are a virtuous woman (right)
A man who lusts after her and a man who loves her.
— you are wearing those jeans (wrong)
— you are a child of the Most High I love you.(right)
A man who believes he’s a gift to women and a man who thinks she’s a gift to him.
— I can have any women I want, you are blessed to have me (wrong)
— You are bone of my bone flesh of my flesh O daughter of Zion. (right)
And then teach our sons to be that kind of man
. — A man that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing! (right)
Sex, the spiritual Aspect.
Wife – Covering

Harlot – Sex with no covering Are you moaning for Jerry, latching out for no reason at all, longing for a man that has done you wrong? Enough is Enough! Not only is having sex out of the marriage, which is fornication but your developing soul ties while the transfer of energy is real. If you’re always surrounded by interacting with, having sex with pouring feelings & yourself into a person that is not your husband, it will eventually affect you spiritually. When a man enters your womb, unlawfully, you exchange in a ritual. The changing of spirits. You become tied to him in the soulish realm, this domain is only meant for marriage. Know your worth & surround yourself with people the encourage you to do what is right. These people won’t leave you spiritually empty from sexual relationships. He is not worthy of you until marriage. Don’t open yourselves up to the Neon Demon!


With plastic surgery, butt fillers, liposuction, and rhinoplasty on the rise all destinated to change your physical appearance while leaving you empty inside. When will we learn that it is really not our physical appearance that will make us fill complete but knowing who you are to the creator of mankind? Not surprising that the next deadly sickness on the rise in eating disorders…

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According to http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org “Body Image” is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror or when you picture yourself in your mind. It encompasses: What you believe about your own appearance (including your memories, assumptions, and generalizations). How you feel about your body, including your height, shape, and weight. How you sense and control your body as you move. How you feel in your body, not just about your body.

My conversation with Tina, a nutrtionist & a registered nurse.

Q: What has been your experience with eating disorders?

Deborah: I was binging and purging sometimes daily, I suffered from low self-esteem.

Q: So you were diagnosed with bulimia?

Deborah: Yes I had it for 10 years?

Q: What was your turning point?

Deborah: When my 18-year-old daughter started binging too, at that moment I knew the terrible example I was living before her. We both checked into a clinic and got help with prayer now we are free and have been for 10 years now.

Q: Who did you blame for your eating disorder?

Deborah: Society, the images they portray of perfection on ads, television, they made me feel inadequate about the way I look.

I know you have heard this before or have even contemplative it in your mind, “If I could just lose 5 more pounds they world would love me” one in three girls have an eating disorder… But still, in reality, millions of young girls, woman, and some men suffer from eating disorders annually a lot under the 18. These specific eating disorders are often triggered by bouts of depression, distorted body image, or perfectionism itself. The four major eating disorders:

1. Anorexia Nervosa, a voluntary starvation for long periods of time.

2. Bulimia Nervosa, marked by episodes of binge eating excessive amounts of food followed by compensatory behavior such as purging then vomiting or use of laxatives to rid themselves of the food eaten

3. Binge-eating, marked by episodes of out-of-control gorging, similar to Bulimia without the purging.

4. EDNOS, the most dangerous of all 4, it is the combination of Anorexia and Bulimia, each day it takes on one the eating disorders. Females are much more likely than males to develop an eating disorder. Eating disorders are closely related to other psychiatric illnesses such as depression, substance abuse, or anxiety disorders. Also, people who suffer from eating disorders can experience a wide range of physical health complications, including severe heart conditions, teeth enamel erosion, various organ failure including kidney failure, which may lead to death. If eating disorders weren’t enough, many woman and men would resort to cosmetic surgery that gains what they perceive as perfection. Women, both young and old, are taking enormous risks in the pursuit of beauty. Liposuction, Nose Jobs, botox, tummy tucks, breast implants, and bottom augmentation. Who is responsible? The media? The advertisers? They all are trying to sell this image of perfect beauty when, in reality, no one is perfect but a work in progress. We have to ask ourselves, what are we doing? We must be comfortable in our own skin. We are our sister and brother’s keeper, and it starts in the home, the duty of the parents are to teach their children how valuable they are.

Possessing outward Beauty will get you a pass go and collect $ 200. Maintaining inward Beauty will get your soul into the kingdom of the Most High for all eternity.

“We must not allow the beauty of an object to blind us to the horror of its origins, there is poetic grace and heightened pleasure in fashions of conscientious construction.” —- Professor Joshua Katcher, The ethics & Semiotics of the future fashion industry (sustainablestyle.tumblr.com)

I wear high heels for years while enduring pain and foot ice bathes nightly. Its a fact that your Christian Louboutin stilettos or Stuart Weitzman thigh high boots make you look taller, sexier, and more stylish. You may even get catcalls from priests. It is possible that even when you put them on your feel like the cat’s meow. But what is the actual cost of wearing them? The history of high heels can be traced to Egypt, but it wasn’t until the European renaissance came from that put the high heel shoe on the map. It was the men that adorned the first pair, high heels for both men and women wear a status symbol.


The Women of the World, they belittle their husbands, talks down to him, and ignores him Loud and rude Initiates contact with men, touching and kissing I don’t need a man Feminist Concerned with a man looking at her all the time Prideful Narcissist Will use men to buy her gifts Teases a woman with her body Wears provocative clothing Lacks modesty Enjoys getting high or drunk Doesn’t clean the house Stays out all night Spends more money than she earns. Speaks seductively to manipulate men Prideful confidence in her physical beauty Wears makeup to bewitch men Doesn’t keep the commandments Follows the world and not the Most High Wears clothing to entice men Unruly and lack meekness

The Women of the Bible (Proverbs 31:10-31 KJV)  She is a treasure far above rubies Respect her husband Strong integrity and faith Consistently good all the days of her life Manages her home Cooks meals for her family Speaks wisdom and faithful instructions Her children and husband love her She loves the Most High with all her heart, mind, and soul Keeps the commandments and statues of the Most High Prays and Prophesies with a head covering on Stays healthy and keeps your family healthy Helps the poor and needy Does the right thing with the family income She builds up her husband Not considered with fads or characteristics of the world

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The Dangers of high heels

My interview with Dr. Vladimir Q: What are some of the side effects of wearing high heels? Dr. Vladimir: You will experience — Foot and tendon pain Increase the likeness of broken bones or fractures Muscle strain to calve muscles Hammertoes and bunions Blisters Lower back pain Pelvis pain Degenerative joint disease Q: What do you honestly think about women wearing high heels? Dr. Vladimir: I think its sexy and feminine, but it’s a habit woman need to break, it’s really harming their feet. According to the American Osteopathic Association, warns of the dangers of wearing high heels, “From an osteopathic perspective, we’re looking for the body to be centered from head to toe. High heels put the foot at an angle and pull muscles and joints out of alignment, so the effects aren’t limited to the feet,” Dr. Surve explained. “It’s not unusual for people who spend lots of time in high heels to have low back, neck, and shoulder pain because the shoes disrupt the natural form of the body.” The stiletto shoe or high heel was created in honor of the demon named Pan. Those evil spirits inhabit these shoes to make the woman who wears them in the image of Pan. Please note that the walking animal sound echoes from the boots as the woman walks (click cloak), making her animal and human in the spirit of Pan.

The Clackers the sound their stilettos make on the marble lobby – clack clack clack — Devil Wears Prada (movie, 2006)

Being a rustic god- half goat, half human. Pan was a child from Zeus, he is the god of the Wicca religion, he resembles that of the Baphomet, he is worshipped in temples but also in natural settings, usually caves or grottoes such as the one on the north slope of the Acropolis of Athens. Today there are many more demons that are called Pan. Pan is famous for his sexual powers and is often depicted with a phallus. He worships the world over by rock musicians, the record industry, and well known dead Satanist Aleister Crowley. Makeup is created to give you an illusion of being pretty. For some an enhancement while others it changes their whole face. The eyeshadow promises to make your eyes more alluring more smoky more attractive. The lipstick gives you the illusion of a pouty mouth, that blushed look you have as your having sex. The color is an illusion of well-defined cheeks. Foundation, the dream of flawless skin along with contouring, etc. etc.. Women on the average, spend billions of dollar a year on cosmetics.

My Q & A with Pascal, a professional photographer and makeup artist that I have worked with on countless photo shoots.

Q: How long have you been a makeup artist/photographer? Pascal: 20 years Q: Do you think makeup alters a face to the point of being unrecognizable? Pascal: Yes, through composition, you can change the eye shape, nose shape, lips, cheekbones, highlight the positives, and downplay the negatives. Q: How long does it generally take you to transform a face? Pascal: Generally, it takes hours to apply makeup as with photography the photoshop does the trick. Q: Do you think composition is a form of sorcery and manipulation? Pascal: Yes, it is all magic, smoke, and mirrors. Q: Do you believe women rely too much on makeup? Pascal: Yes, we call it, putting on the face they can’t go anywhere without it. Q: Anything else you want to say about makeup?

Pascal: I love Photographing you and applying makeup to your face what a pleasure, you have the most beautiful EYES, FACE & SKIN, up close you’re stunning! So physically beautiful, physically compelling, I’m hypnotized by your good looks. Your skin always so soft, smooth and creamy like churned butter, I love your light skin color.

The Damaging Effects of Beauty Products

Females love plastering their faces with makeup, not knowing that by doing so, they’re clogging their pores which causes them to age faster. When you apply mascara to your face, your skin doesn’t receive oxygen, and the sun doesn’t hit your skin. Eventually, you will start looking pale when you don’t have makeup on, this will force you to wear makeup even if you don’t want to because you’ll look like a zombie without it. Females don’t pay attention nor care about their health for the sake of looking good. The average woman absorbs hundreds of toxic chemicals from face and body products, excluding cosmetics every day. These products are incorporated right into the bloodstream, and they remain in the blood system working havoc on your internal organs. By the time they have made it to the door in the morning, they have swallowed, inhaled, and absorbed through their skin hundreds of toxic chemicals. Some of these chemicals have been proven to be deadly to laboratory animals, and many of them are known to be carcinogens. They are literally poisoning their immune system with thousands of toxic chemicals that are known carcinogens, hormone disrupters, and cancer-causing agents. How does this make sense? If it doesn’t occur in nature, it shouldn’t be inside you because you are a natural being. Women love to use beauty products to look better, but unfortunately, sometimes the short-term look isn’t worth the long-term damage that such products can do to their skin. Many females wear this makeup and don’t even know that 95 percent of all products marketed for skin, hair, personal care, or beauty is loaded with chemicals linked to cancer or skin disorders. To top it off, women wear these products without even knowing what chemicals are used to make them. Now you understand why cancer is a 300 billion dollar a year business. The joke is on you: My people are foolish, they have not known Me. They are stupid children, and they have no understanding. They are wise to do evil but to do good, they have no knowledge, Jeremiah 4:22.

Fair women and men are the most attractive they get most of the attention — Sanjay (Sri Lanka)

Despite the toxic levels of mercury in skin whitening creams people continue to use them. What is the real obsession with light skin? To answer that question we must visit the past through colonization, the global take over by Europe which affected society position of light skin as being supreme in beauty from Asia to Africa and everywhere in between this is a dilemma among non-whites. At this time the white skin was held in high regards through the renaissance periods where white women often powdered their skin to be white and through art, it was immortalized. Nowadays through media and magazines featuring mostly white women on their covers and advertisements. The ideology of white skin perfection has been passed down from generation to generation through ignorance. The media portrays “whiteness or lightness” as a symbol of what is attractive and desirable. Skin whitening, skin lightening, and skin bleaching refer to the practice of using chemical substances in an attempt to lighten skin tone. This is such an inferiority complex promoted by society. I found an interesting article to show that Ghana is making strides to keep people from the damaging effects of using skin bleaching cream.

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Skin bleaching is an epidemic across the world from Africa to India, where bleaching the skin is most common as brushing your teeth. This common practice has been passed down from generation to generation. Some say that colonization is to blame, placing the white skin at the top of the aesthetic chart. This is definitely a taught behavior mirroring self-hatred.

The light skin epidemic has affected the entire world.
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The skin bleaching epidemic is indeed a global one. But it is more prominent among brown people. The reasons most say the opt to do this is they don’t like their skin color, some to remove scars, and some to capitalize on the light skin privilege. Yet after years of colonization through Europe, fighting for freedom, the slave mentality still exists in these countries. Being “fair skinned” is often equated to being beautiful. So there is no surprise that both men and women who opt to bleach, use the most harmful products on the market to achieve this goal. Brown skin is flawlessly beautiful, rich in hue and texture, absolutely stunning to behold at sight. Do you realize the powers- that – be would rather keep you dumb as to who you really are, concentrating on things that do not matter in life such as skin color.

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My Q & A with Isheeta, a customer service rep from India
Q: Tell me about the skin lightening epidemic in India?
Isheeta: Fair is beautiful that comes from the British Bombay Enthusiasts that bought colonialism in our great country, that fair skin is beautiful. I am a desi beauty very dark. I may never get married because of the caste system. Fair skin is worshipped in my country there is no getting around that.
My interview with Eunice, a secretary from Ghana
Q: How long have you been using a skin bleaching cream? And why do you use it?
Eunice: For 5 years now. I thought the fair skin would give me more opportunities.
Q: Well has it going you some sort of privilege?
Eunice: Light skin has not afforded me the privilege, I have severely damaged my skin. I got lesions forming all over my face.
Q: What would you tell someone that is thinking of using a skin bleaching cream?
Eunice: Don’t do it.
My conversation with Mena owner of a beauty salon
Q: What are the top beauty procedures being performed annually at your salon?
Mena: Spray Tannings procedures, as well as our tanning products, are best sellers, everyone wants that golden brown glow, it’s more healthy looking.
Q: If the Dark skin is so undervalued, why are people getting tans?
Mena: It is definitely not undervalued but highly requested year round especially in the summer months. Dark skin is beautiful, action speaks louder than words.
The Global obsession with skin lightening:

My conversation with Ezrahi, a psychologist from Israel.
Q: What is the solution for black/brown people the world over concerning the light-skinned situation, one of which has plagued our people for generations.
Ezrahi: We must take back our ownership, knowledge is power, we have to set the standard, stand together, but most of all learn who the creator is and who we are as a people. It all starts with knowing that we are from the house of Israel.
My conversation with Robert, an Aryan Doctor from Ohio, USA
Q: How do white people perceive black people in terms of color? For example, do you look at a black person and say, “She is light skinned or dark?”
Robert: No we look at all black people just being the dark-skinned people, there is no separation of color, light or dark. We look at black people as all the same.


Plastic Surgery

When Genetics has not given you what you want, why change it? Studies have shown that millions yearly around the world have gone under the knife. One thing is for sure that people would go to any length to develop – The perfect human face or body. One of the most disturbing stories I observed was the Korean Model in 2008 that inject cooking oil in her face. Cosmetic surgery addict injected cooking oil into her own face…
A Korean woman addicted to plastic surgery has been left unrecognizable after her obsession led her to inject cooking oil into her face. If you want to know more about Former model Hang Mioku story here is the link: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2320679/Korean-woman-Hang-Mioku-injects-COOKING-OIL-face-refused-plastic-surgery.html –Plastic Surgery according to Wikipedia…Cosmetic surgery is an elective procedure that is performed on standard parts of the body with the only purpose of improving a person’s appearance and/or removing signs of aging. Studies prove that this type of surgery plays an essential role in a person’s self-esteem because the physical appearance is a crucial status equivalent to gender or race and by making changes to the body it contributes not only to the patient’s physical appearance but also to the mental health of the patient. In 2006, nearly 11 million cosmetic procedures were performed in the United States alone. The number of cosmetic procedures performed in the United States has increased over 50 percent since the start of the century. Nearly 12 million cosmetic procedures were completed in 2007, with the five most common surgeries being breast augmentation, liposuction, nasal surgery, eyelid surgery, and abdominoplasty. The American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery looks at the statistics for thirty-four different cosmetic procedures. Nineteen of the methods are surgical, such as rhinoplasty or facelift. The nonsurgical procedures include Botox and laser hair removal. In 2010, their survey revealed that there were 9,336,814 total procedures in the United States. Of those, 1,622,290 procedures were surgical. They also found that a vast majority, 81%, of the procedures were done on Caucasian people.

Me. Me. Me. Me. I. I. I. I.  For this is the dilemma of conceit, arrogance, and egotism!

“For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according to as God hath dealt with every man the measure of faith.” Romans 12:3 KJV

Psychoanalysis. tending to derive erotic gratification from admiration of one’s own physical or mental attributes.

In his book, Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited, Sam Vaknin states “The narcissist cannot admit that he had toiled and sweated to achieve his goal and, with this confession, shatter his alleged omnipotence and grandiose False Self. He must belittle every accomplishment of his and make it appear to have been a routine triviality. This is intended to support the dreamland quality of his fragmented personality. But it also prevents him from deriving the psychological benefits which usually accrue to to goal attainment… The narcissist is doomed to roam a circular labyrinth. When he does achieve something, he underestimates it in order to enhance his own sense of omnipotence, perfection, and brilliance. When he fails, he dare not face reality. He escapes to the land of no narratives where life is nothing but a meaningless wasteland. The narcissist whiles his life away.”

Any time a person “admits” to being “genetically gifted” in regards to their personal beauty, the real driver of the statement is deep-seated narcissism. Narcissism occurs when excessive self-admiration and self-centeredness has taken root into their mind, in psychiatry, a personality disorder characterized by the patient’s overestimation of his or her own appearance and abilities and an excessive need for admiration. Narcissists are self worshippers of beauty. This proves the theory that beauty is only skin deep. Are you that women that manipulates men with your body your vision? To get them to do whatever you want them too. Do you use their shortcomings against them? Then you are a narcissist.  

In Greek mythology, Narcissus was a hunter from Thespiae in Boeotia who was known for his beauty. He was the son of the river god Cephissus and nymph Liriope. After staring at his reflection he fell in love with his beauty, unable to leave his reflection in the river, he stared at himself until he died. Narcissus is the origin of the term narcissism, a fixation on one’s physical appearance, self love.

Photo Credit: Narcissus by Caravaggio
One of the main characteristics of narcissism is that to survive, they have to make it all about them.  Are you so vain that your inflated head can’t get through the door?   Thou hast been in Eden the garden of God; every precious stone was thy covering, the sardius, topaz, and the diamond, the beryl, the onyx, and the jasper, the sapphire, the emerald, and the carbuncle, and gold: the workmanship of thy tabrets and of thy pipes was prepared in thee in the day that thou wast created. Thou art the anointed cherub that covereth; and I have set thee so: thou wast upon the holy mountain of God; thou hast walked up and down amid the stones of fire. Thou wast perfect in thy ways from the day that thou wast created, till iniquity was found in thee. By the multitude of thy merchandise, they have filled the midst of thee with violence, and thou hast sinned: therefore I will cast thee as profane out of the mountain of God: and I will destroy thee, O covering cherub, from the midst of the stones of fire. Thine heart was lifted up because of thy beauty, thou hast corrupted thy wisdom because of thy brightness: I will cast thee to the ground, I will lay thee before kings, that they may behold thee. Ezekiel 28:13-17 (KJV Bible) – So if you’re a narcissist get help then humble yourself.

Symptoms of Narcissism. 

1. Two Faced
2. Blame others for your problems or lack of success.
3. Has two different persona in person and in private.
4. Unreliable

5. Arrogant or seeking what is best for them.
6. Looks down on people that are not on their level.

7. Addicted to fantasy thinking highly of themselves.
8. They lie.
9. Materialistic and encourages others to be so too.
10. Emotional Distant.
11. One-sided conversations.
12. Controlling
13. Picks fight and throw tantrums.
14. Does not say they are sorry when wrong.

15. A subconscious lover of self.
16. Attention seeker
17. Glory Hound

Through Psychoanalysis it tends to derive amatory gratification from admiration of one’s own physical appearance.

Any time a person “admits” to being “genetically gifted” in regards to their personal beauty the real driver of the statement is deep-seated narcissism. Narcissism occurs when excessive self-admiration and self-centeredness has taken root into their mind, in psychiatry, a personality disorder characterized by the patient’s overestimation of his or her own appearance and abilities and an excessive need for admiration. Narcissists are self-worshippers of their own beauty. This proves the theory that beauty is only skin deep. Are you that women that manipulates men with your body your beauty? To get them to do whatever you want them too. Do you use their shortcomings against them? Then you are a narcissist.

How to break free? Repent of your sins and seek the Most High! 

The answer is to repent of your sins, seek the Most High God of Israel, and keep His commandments.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV

Dilemma 7 – "Colorism"

Colorism is indeed a known fact, a direct commencement of hostilities afflicted on an individual based on skin color that is used as the basis for a conclusion, or logic that interfaces that a black person possessing a lighter complexion is treated with a higher esteem than a person with a darker skin color. This form of discrimination crosses a broad spectrum of skin color, it is the sister of light privilege and the cousin of racism. This was taught during the slavery where the lighter slaves were shown favor because their features, skin color, and hair texture was closer to that of the Aryan race (white people), the Nordic eccentric features with include, but not limited to, straight hair, light skin, light eyes, straight nose etc.. Colorism is not just limited to the black community, other dark nations suffer the injustices of it as well, both men and women. Light skinned or Biracial women are on the receiving end of this.

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Colorism, a term believed to be first coined in 1982 by Pulitzer Prize winner author Alice Walker, was defined by her to mean the “prejudicial or preferential treatment of same-race people based solely on their color.

It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women in the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, the brown girls are discriminated against based on the color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to elevated heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a bigger rear end. And sorrowfully, in order to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think of a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be, its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women and being of a member of the dark nation.

Confessions of a “Colorist.”

Colorist | Unlike a racist, a colorist doesn’t factor race but uses the tone of ones skin to determine chracteristics about an individual.

The Colorist seeks nothing less than to objectify the color aesthetics of dark skin.

My interview with Michael, a 48 year old, Colorist.

Q: What do you think a colorist is?

Michael: A person that denies a person strictly by the color of their skin.

Q: Are you a colorist?

Michael: I think that the term “colorist” is redundant, I would call it to preference instead.

Q: What is your preference?

Michael: I like light women (like yourself) with pretty good long hair, eyes, pretty smile, beautiful figure, and so forth.

Q: You know you can find all the external qualities in dark women to, do you agree?

Michael: No darker women are ugly. I need me a red-bone, yellow-bone dimepiece.

Q: You are a dark skinned man is this a product of self-hate?

Michael: No, not at all. I don’t want someone darker than me I want someone that can make me look good, improve my status, and give me pretty children I can be proud of.

Q: Do you think that there is a problem with your belief system regarding skin color?

Michael: Yes, well, maybe.

Q: Do your thinking your european preception of beauty where did it originate, from the outside world influence or was it taught by your parents?

Michael: When I was a child, my mom always told me to date a light/white woman to have some pretty children with that good hair. I was not able to date darker women, and as I got older, my preference for lighter women never changed. Just maybe there was a level of influence at that young age but its not my fault.

Q: Do you think that your opportunity for success will be impacted by your skin color?

Michael: Dark-skinned men are a hot commodity around the world. I don’t see that happening.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 KJV

The mystery of what the elephant in the room is “”””?”””….Drum roll please, it’s a big one so make preparations right now. Now before you get your panties or boxers in a bunch. Relax free your thinking this is the reality for all of us. This is not something contrived or a figment of our imagination. Now go get you some tea and coffee as we analyze this topic together. The elephant in the room is….. *The Isms* “Racism-Colorism-Texturism-Featurism-Lightism-Shadeism (Pigmentocrcy)-Lookism-Hateism

It is no accident that people of color have been plagued with the nine “isms” associated with our destruction economically, the family, financially, legally, socially, and historically. The ideology of the “isms” progresses from one experience to another. Systemic injustice has plagued our experience and there seems to be on antidotes or solutions in sight.

“The isms”

There are 64 color shades & 64 hair textures. Colorism is indeed a known fact, a direct commencement of hostilities afflicted on an individual based on skin color that is used as the basis for a conclusion, or logic that interfaces that a black person possessing a lighter complexion are treated with higher esteem than a person with darker skin color. This word was first introduced by Alice Walker, the author.  Featurism is discrimination of black women based on facial features. Certain ethnic accentuated features such as a part of a face that contributes to its distinct character, especially the eyes, nose, or mouth. This term was first coined by Robin Boyd in his book The Australian Ugliness (1960). Texturism is discrimination based on hair texture of black women its roughness, smoothness, coarseness, and fineness are judged as good or bad hair. Lightism is the discrimination targeted at light-skinned black women who are validated because of their light skin. The recipients of light-skinned privilege that is mistreated by darker skinned blacks, not fitting in based on color in both the white and black communities.

Colorism, Pigmentocracy, As with racism or prejudice, the concept of colorism has a pejorative connotation. Also, like racism, colorism can be thought of as either dimensional in beliefs or multidimensional in perspective. In regards to colorism, which can be manifested within or across racial and ethnic groups and can be multifaceted in views among all groups of colored people, not just black people. The brown paper bag theory, Snow and Glow organizations have perpetrated the fallacies associated with these mindsets and beliefs. The One drop rule, and Shadeism with Hashtags: #teamlightskin, #teamdarkskin This issue of colorism not only effects black people but any people of color – nonwhite people like East Indians, Asian, South Americans and so on…. In India, light skin on a pedestal whereas here in the United States, white people frequently tan to look darker like us. The British colonization and slavery played a significant role in the separation of people due to their color. Never understood the reasoning because brown is beautiful! The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. The Brown Paper bag rule – In the early 19th century the upper class black American societies would conduct the brown paper bag test to determine if a black person was sufficiently white enough to gain admittance or acceptance in church and other social clubs. If your skin was darker than a brown paper bag, you could not get in and were not accepted. One drop rule was instated in the United States to keep the white lineage pure. Colorism, a term coined by Alice Walker in 1982, is not a synonym for racism. “Race” depends on multiple factors (including ancestry); therefore, the racial categorization does not solely rely on skin color. Skin color is only one mechanism used to assign individuals to an ethnic category, but the race is the set of beliefs and assumptions assigned to that category. Pigmentocracy is the chart in which light skin is measured. The even bigger elephant in the room is the hatred among black people and other nations that view skin color as the determining factor of beauty and success. This brings me to “Lookism,” which is discrimination that affects all countries the world over, Lookism is a concept where discrimination occurs to unattractive people; mainly in the workplace but also in social settings. While not classified in the same way as racism, colorism, and Darkism. Lookism is worldwide and affects how people are perceived as well as changing their opportunities in terms of relationships, job opportunities, perks, and social status.

The “isms” effect all dark nations of the world:

Cuba Tila said, “They hate my nappy hair and dark skin.”

Brazil Adriana said, “My skin is too dark.”

 Mexico Rulo said, “They say I will never get married, I am too dark

 India Mena said, “My Mom buys me the bleaching cream

 Dominican Republic Maricel said, “They said I was dark and ugly.”

 Australia Tessa, “They say my skin is so dark.”

 Nigeria Eunice said, “They say I should bleach my skin.”

 Ethiopia Merit said, “They say I look like a black African.

 Pakistan Nida said, “My friend was prettier because she is fair skinned.

 Canada Jessica said, “They say I am too dark.”

 China Margaret said, “They say I should carry an umbrella to shield me from the sun, my skin is too dark.”

Margaret Hunter in her book, “Race, Gender, and the Politics of Skin tone” which in my opinion the best clinical study on the effects of colorism among blacks and Mexicans … states – “Although typically described as a “black “ or “Chicano” problem, colorism is practiced by whites and people of color alike”

“To be beautiful, handsome, means that you possess a power which makes all smile upon and welcome you; that everybody is impressed in your favor and inclined to be of your opinion; that you have only to pass through a street or to show yourself on a balcony to make friends and to win mistresses from among those who look upon you. What a splendid, what a magnificent gift is that which spares you the need to be amiable in order to be loved, which relieves you of the need of being clever and ready to serve, which you must be if ugly, and enables you to dispense with the innumerable moral qualities which you must possess in order to make up for the lack of personal beauty.” ― Théophile Gautier, Mademoiselle de Maupin

© Vashtiy Alsaudamir, this interview is included in my new book.

Meet the electrifying beauty, Venika Kalambay, a London based fashion model and youtube beauty influencer.

Q: As a model have you ever experienced racism or colorism? If so, give me an example?

I think there are small instances where you can sense undercurrents of racism but I, fortunately, have not had any severe experiences of direct racism, perhaps growing up in London has meant that I am a part of a broader range of cultures and people are more accepting of different religions here. My father lived and worked in the Middle East for about 3 years and visiting him was one of the first experiences where I felt as though I was in a completely different era in terms of time because people were so fascinated by me, my black mother and black sisters.

Q: What was the best compliment you ever received and what was the worst?

I always get complimented on my eyes, I have super big eyes (at least I think) and people always tell me how drawn to them they are. One of the worst compliments I received was actually something that wasn’t outwardly rude but reading between the lines, I understood what was being said. I was at the till point at my job, and I was serving a lady, I could clearly hear from her accent that she was South African. We began to chat and then she said that she thought I was beautiful, to which I replied with the apparent niceties. She then proceeded to ask where I was from, and I replied The Democratic Republic of Congo, to which she then asked if both my parents were black and I replied yes, they were brought up in the same area of Congo. She then asked if I was sure, to which I replied yes, to add another level of awkwardness to this situation she then began to point at my face and say, no, this, this – looking at me – you have to be mixed with something, is there anyone white in your family? At this point, I was convinced she was honestly just trying to find out more about where I had come from when it was explicitly evident what she was trying to say. After this whole awkward conversation, I relayed the entire thing to my colleague, who happened to be a black male and at this point, I was beginning to feel so incredibly stupid and naive as he was attempting to make it clear to me precisely what the woman was hinting at. It was obviously too hard for her to just point out that I was pretty and leave it at that, she couldn’t believe that I was 100% black. This was my very first “pretty for a black girl situation,” and I was fortunate enough to be old enough, I believe I was 21 at the time, to not allow the situation to knock my confidence in any way. The most shocking thing that was her daughter was standing next to her the whole time, and I was so confused as to why she would allow her daughter to be around her when she was making such blatantly racist comments.

Q: Tell me something about yourself that nobody knows?

As confident as I may appear now, it took me a long time to get to this point. I would honestly say that I never really felt beautiful until I was about 19 years old and now I cannot possibly understand how and why it took me so long to appreciate my talents and the qualities I possess that are so unique to me. When I was maybe 14 or 15, I read a book by Kimora Lee Simmons called ‘Fabulosity: What It Is & How to Get It,’ which taught me so much about being a woman, it taught me such incredible and valuable life lessons and most importantly the book helped me to finally gain some confidence and start loving myself. I am so incredibly grateful to Kimora for indirectly giving me that through what she offered in that book, she holds an unusual place in my heart and to this day I always refer to that book as the book that changed my life.

Q: What would you say to a younger girls growing up with issues of colorism? Being hated because she has a darker skin tone?

It took me a long time to finally begin to love myself and my skin and all the little imperfections so I can understand how hard it is for young girls growing up in 2017. My advice would be to stay true to your reality, do whatever it is that makes you happy and have a belief in your magic that is so unwavering that there is not one person that can tell you otherwise. Don’t focus on growing up too fast, as apparent as that advice may seem, as you get older you will definitely wish for those happy moments that you only really have when you’re young, where nothing else matters but having fun at that moment. Be kind and have courage.

Q: Do you think that light skinned women are treated better?

I most definitely think that light skinned women are seen as more desirable. I think particularly in the case of love and relationships, men, especially black men, do always gravitate towards light skinned women, I cannot speak for other areas of life, but that is mainly where I can see evidence of this. I think music culture has definitely contributed towards this, as these women are often more glorified in music videos and popular culture as opposed to darker skinned women, however, I think we see a shift and people are realizing how beautiful darker skin is.

Q: How has been dark-skinned affected your life? Both negatively and positively..?

I wouldn’t necessarily define myself as dark-skinned, I see myself as a black woman, I never put those kinds of labels on myself because I believe people can sometimes get fixated on just being that one thing. What is often the most frustrating thing is that I am black. I have brown skin, I have cousins who have fairer skin than me, but I don’t feel my complexion is particularly dark. But often I think that because some people only see light skin women as the norm, they label everyone even a tad bit darker as dull skin, which I don’t feel is right and it is almost seen as though is a bad thing to be darker. God created us in all different shapes, colors, sizes, and this is the positive that I choose to take from something that can be so negative. I don’t allow those experiences to stay embedded in my head, I remember I am beautiful, smart, kind, and I keep it moving. In the past 2 years, however, being black is definitely being more celebrated, and I am incredibly proud to say that now more than ever, I feel a part of such a healthy community. Since I am a beauty blogger, I would definitely say that sometimes it is challenging because I don’t truly feel that black creators are given opportunities to grow as quick as our white counterparts and this is something we need to push for. I think there are so many beauty brands that are incredibly problematic in not having shade selections that are available for the lightest of light to the darkest of the dark because this contributes to the feeling of colored skin girls not feeling worthy enough to be included. To name a few, Too Faced, Tarte, it is not acceptable, and I will always use my voice to speak about such injustices. While not attempting to discount everything I have just said, I have to be honest and the state as a black woman, I understand the power in my voice, and overall, I have had a positive experience as a black woman in this industry. Whether it be because I am on the lighter end of the spectrum when it comes to “dark-skinned girls,” I’m not sure. I am always going to choose to love myself and to ensure that what I do and my contribution to the world is what sets me apart and not the color of my skin.

My light skin privilege, her dark skin disadvantage

1. Society, media and television programming promote (glibly facile) among black women. 2. Dividing black into the lines of color (willie lynch letter) in slavery days. 3. Parents don’t teach their children how valuable they are in skin color and hair texture but promote self-hatred (tongue) self-hatred spoken in words.

Envy of others is something taught you have been programmed to perceive something that is not necessarily better than you. From the moment you are born, imagery plays a big part, what you hear about yourself. Blacks were taught to be envious of each other in relevance to light skin and dark skin. The light skinned is raised to fill entitlement while the darker skinned is taught to hate the way they look it’s not good enough. Before slavery, there were no weaves, perms, relaxers, lighting creams, or a desire to be anything other than what you were created for. In the beginning, we are beautiful from our hair to the color of our skin. I clothed thee also with broidered work and shod thee with badgers’ skin, and I girded thee about with fine linen, and I covered thee with silk. I decked thee also with ornaments, and I put bracelets upon thy hands and a chain on thy neck. And I put a jewel on thy forehead, and earrings in thine ears, and a beautiful crown upon thine head. Thus wast thou decked with gold and silver, and thy raiment was of fine linen, and silk, and broidered work; thou didst eat fine flour and honey, and oil: and thou wast exceeding beautiful, and thou didst prosper into a kingdom. And thy renown went forth among the heathen for thy beauty: for it was perfect through my comeliness, which I had put upon thee, saith the Lord God. Ezekiel 16:10-14 KJV

Dark Vs Light series… Do light skinned women feel a sense of entitlement? Part 1

90 % of people I questioned stated that MOST but not all light skinned women felt entitled. Here are a few views on this subject. Charmaine, a light-skinned woman with green eyes and kinky short hair. “First of all I am light skinned, but I feel that light skinned women/biracial/multiracial women have a sense of entitlement… we feel entitled in everything we do, and we are better than dark skinned women. We are loved by all the men, and they treat us like trophies and that we are. We are competitive with one another we compete for men and position all the time. Secretly we don’t like each other, at least, with dark skin women, we are sure to stand out without trying, but with one our color we get picked through all the time. So light women, we are the most insecure and hateful because society and people make us feel we are better than the rest. After who do you think started #teamlightskin.” Tiffany, a product of a black father and white mother, light skinned with dark eyes and long curly hair Comment from Tiffany to Jaci, ” Two of my best friends are light skinned we live close to one another, have known each other since university days. We are not backstabbing one another through endless, so your stereotypes are ridiculous. You look black to me just black you just happen to be light, but you still have pure Negroid features and nappy hair. You are nothing like us light skinned people the beautiful ones the ones that count because we are exotic the biracial ones or the multiracial ones. You are just a nappy headed negro who just got lucky to have lighter skin, so don’t speak about us like you are one of us.”

Light Vs Dark Series.. Are dark skinned women filled with jealousy and hatred toward light women? Part 2

80% of dark-skinned women I questioned stated that there was no underlined hatred of light-skinned woman, and if there was it was because of the treatment from the light skinned women or other people in general.


Omokoyo, a dark-skinned coffee shop owner, I hate no one, the experiences that I had with light skinned women have been nothing but evil. I was picked on a lot by light-skinned girls that thought they were better than me, I was teased called darkie and ugly. They had the unwarranted favor they felt they were the shit and the guys loved them. Oh, how I wanted to be them.


Angela, A dark-skinned former beauty queen, Participating in pageants my whole life, the competition was fierce, but most of my light skin fellow contestants were downright nasty to me, but fortunately for me, I have tough skin, and hey I won the pageants! They always said to me, “Don’t play in the sun, my sister.” The Envy among WOMEN in general. The Haters.

Contrary to popular belief, “Envy” is a universal social epidemic not only prevalent to the black woman but to white, Asian, Hispanic, and so many more nationalities. The common thread of this insecurity has spread through white supremacy. The desire to possess something that another has, whether property or even their looks. Women engaged in this pandemonium of envy are at the root of why women compete with one another. The triggers of jealousy for men and women are different. Like some women, most men, are envious of superficial attributes, money, and position in life. Ladies, no woman, like no man, is perfect. No woman is genuinely and utterly content with herself light or dark. It’s a curse to envy I’m not sure we’ll ever fully break the bonds of jealousy, but we can learn to love the skin we are in.

My interview with Emmitel Abongwa Ndumu Ph.D

Q: Do you think colorism and racism the biggest elephants in the room?

Emmitel: Certainly, they were birthed from white supremacy and European colonialism, this thinking is the philosophy of civilization. In Race and the dogma of skin hue, it is the real war but I say throw the baby out with the bath water. When people wake up then change will come.

Q: Does skin color define beauty?

Emmitel: Facial features define beauty – the harmony of facial features along with symmetry places a big part in identifying facial beauty. Skin hue or color is not responsible for defining beauty. Although, people do pay more attention to lighter skin.

Q: What is your take on the light skin/ dark skin situation among people of color?

Emmitel: Worldwide it’s a real struggle among our people, and a superficial one that has taken a dangerous turn with skin lightening creams which has cancer agents in them but still they are going down that path. Bottom line, a woman of any shade must be comfortable in her skin don’t buy into the lie that light is better. Diversity is beautiful and unique.

 Since “Dark Skin” is highly criticized, these are some of the stereotypes and fallacies associated with melanin-carbon enriched dark skin:

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Dark Skinned women are ashy… They are ugly… They are lazy … They are on welfare… They look like monkeys… They are the ugliest woman in the world… They will never get married… They all wear weave… They are evil… Everyone hates them… They don’t get good jobs… They will always be poor… The hair is so nappy… Recipient of Pretty for a dark girl syndrome… Perceived as being envious of all light skinned women… Discriminated against because of skin color… Automatically perceived as being a bad person… Judged primarily on skin color and hair texture…

My Q & A with Roderick Israel, a dark skinned Investment Banker

Q: Do dark skin men experience the same colorism as dark-skinned women?

Roderick: Not exactly but in the business world we really have to prove ourselves.

Q: How do date dark skinned women?

Roderick: Yes exclusively. You are drop dead gorgeous but I love my dark skinned sisters.

Q: What advice would you give to a dark-skinned woman facing colorism?

Roderick: That things will not change for her until she gets into the truth and surrenders all to Christ. Like I told my daughter, the world will never accept her, she must accept herself.

Elvira “Cookie“, a fashion consultant from Panama.

Q. What is the best compliment you have received on your skin color?

Cookie: You’re beautiful for a dark-skinned girl!

Q: How did that make you feel?

Cookie: Actually I wanted to slap the guy that said if he was so ignorant to my feelings. He was saying that dark skin women were not attractive.

Q: What has been your experience as a dark-skinned female?

Cookie: Not good.

Q: Tell me about your experiences.

Cookie: for starters, I was picked on a lot as you know, I was looked over for modeling jobs. I was called ugly, darkie, smut dog, burnt wood, and being from Panama didn’t help they are just as color struck as being blacks in America. None of the guys wanted me they always looked at you, I felt left out, but you ever made me feel good about myself. The guys really were the worst.

Q: Some black men can be so ignorant.

Cookie: They always gave more attention to the light skinned women like you, even if they are not as beautiful as you. That is one thing I couldn’t also understand if a woman is light but ugly, they still preferred her. That is why I dated and married a white man, he treats me like a queen. Q: It is really the facial features that make someone pretty, not the skin color. Those guys had brought into a lie that was set into motion long before we existed.

Cookie: You are so right but it doesn’t take away the pain of not being excepted by your own race.

Q: How did your mother help you deal with it?

Cookie: She didn’t at first, she told me I would never be a symbol of beauty because I was dark. Now she tells me that I am an excellent role model for dark women. Enough about me so – we are talking about me but how about you being light skinned? What is your biggest problem with being light skinned?

Q: I will cover that in the light-skinned privilege section.

Cookie: That is good to know.

Q: Do you think that light skinned women issues are more damaging than dark skin women issues?

Cookie: No, I think dark skinned women have it worse.

Q: So what advice would you give to other dark-skinned girls/women?

Cookie: To be comfortable in your black skin. Your black skin will never change. So love it.

I must admit that it was tough for me to write on this topic of “privilege” I didn’t want to appear to be a narcissist or presumptuous. I believe that physical beauty is measured by your features and symmetry, not skin color. It’s really in the eye of the beholder literally. I have traveled the world, there are endless beautiful dark and light woman the world over, all possess one common thing – their facial features an in harmony together. So the theory that your skin color makes you attractive only is a fallacy. Not to be believed. The whole premise of a debate of light vs. dark is unsettling, ignorant, and not edifying the unity between women of all shades of brown. Willie Lynch created a standard method for teaching slaves divisive behavior and through colonization people around the world have adopted these self – denigrating issues that light skin is the best and anything that deviates from that theory is not good. Lynch supported division to keep the light slaves against the dark slaves to prevent rebellion and unity among blacks. Still, today that residue from the past has conditioned people around the world to adopt “light Skin” as the best. This is a general world problem not just by black people but many nations face this reality daily in America, India, Africa, Latin American, South America, Brazil, Dominican Republic, the West Indies, Mexico, Puerto Rico, and Cuba just to name a few. In these countries, the lighter you are, the more beautiful you are perceived as, the smarter, and the nicer. The Darker you are, the more you have recognized the s menace to society, evil, and ugly. These stereotypes are far from the truth, people of color are still suffering from healthy delusional thinking based on skin color. Most feel that a light-skinned woman has attained a status, reached a level of success, met the European standard of beauty that dark-skinned women could never measure up to. As for the white woman, she doesn’t have to try, they woke up in privilege. They have been born this way. They have become a god.

My light skin privilege

Is Beauty a Gift or a Curse? I was born into the privilege of walking the earth as a genetic freak, often referred to as beautiful. In a world where beauty is considered a gift and a curse. You see it is a double-edged sword for me, on the one hand, I have been praised highly for my physical attributes. Considered the “outcast” or the polar opposite “the trophy doll.” In my lifetime, people have been extremely generous with their compliments on my physical attributes, but on another hand, I live with the curse of being a darker hue toned woman, a non-white woman. There are opportunities that I will never get because of my skin color. The acceptable light skinned synopsis. What is it like to be in a shell, melanin light café au lait hue woman? Honestly, I never thought my color played much in my life, success, or in general. I never really came to that realization until now. I always thought that my personal beauty was based on my facial features and other attributes not so much the pigmentation of my skin I will have to admit that my alleged light-skinned privilege has given me endless opportunities: Opulent gifts from men, modeling opportunities, many marriage proposals, free stuff, better treatment, etc. Is all that people say about you is that you are pretty? Aren’t you tired of people always telling you you’re beautiful? That question was asked continuously of me… People were uncomfortable around me. I was embarrassed about being pretty whenever eruptions of phases referred to my beauty in front of others. I don’t handle attention concerning my aesthetics well. I felt insecure that I would get a compliment while others around me became unnoticed, people around me were irritated by that, even on social media. The negative treatment. This aspect runs so deep, finding myself in the pit on many occasions. Most of the animosity that I experienced from women, in general, were primarily but in the black community, it has been from both light and dark skinned women. Some of my friends are black, but most of my friends throughout the years have been Aryan Caucasian. Enduring many years of haters, negative remarks, jealousy, threats of injury to my being or violence, backstabbers, insecure women, sabotaging opportunities for me, prejudgment, and envy, jealousy, strife from my own people and other nations I have become desensitized by the effects of it now it just rolls off like water on a duck’s back. The Downside of Beauty. I know a lot of women would put the “unfairness treatment” on a specific shade of color, but my negative experiences have been with both light and dark skin women, and also other nationalities. Women, in general, suffer insecurities about their beauty across the board. Caucasian woman, as well as other nations of women, have their own beast of burdens like fitting into the media perception of perfection the supermodel fantasy look. I learned a long time ago that what people say about doesn’t dictate who you are. You have to be comfortable in your own skin.

The image I see in the mirror is what I really look like? Is my image a reflection of the Most High? My outer shell is made of dirt; it will return to the earth as dirt. The real me is not what is apparent to the eye, my soul perhaps? To be politically correct, my soul is my mind, will, and emotions. My soul will separate from my body when the silver cord is broken, at my death. My soul will receive the harshest judgment of all, whether it is placed in Abraham’s bosom of Hades, according to how I lived my life. The image I see is really just an outward expression of skin and features that are judged or scrutinized by the opinions of others. Mankind judges the outside but the Most High looks on the heart. “For man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:17 ..With that said, our emphasis should not be on the flesh but on the condition of our souls.

Ceira

1. Tell me one of your darkest experiences being a light-skinned woman and how you were treated?

In my adult life I’ve never really had any dark experiences being the ‘dark or mixed girl’ in Ireland but when I was a child I was surrounded by white people and kids and was teased a lot of people would call me the “N-word,” made fun of my hair and tell me to straighten it. There was a grown woman that lived in my neighborhood who used to call me a monkey.

2. Is being beautiful a blessing or a curse? 

I think being physically beautiful is a curse because people tend to rely on it to get them through in life when it’s not a permanent thing. Also, people tend to criticize you and direct unwanted attention towards you. If you accept yourself and have confidence in how you look, being a beautiful person on the inside is a blessing as I do believe in karma.

3. What is the best compliment that you have received about your physical appearance? And the worst? 

The best compliments I receive are usually to do with my hair. The worst, “I like your face, but I’m just not into the whole black hair.”

4. Who in the black community treats you the best? Dark skinned women or lighter women? How do the people in Ireland treat you? 

I feel I get the most positive comments from dark-skinned women.

5. Do you feel that black women are united? 

Yes definitely. I’m obsessed with social media and every site I’m a part of the women support and accept each other, especially on Tumblr.

6. Do you think colorism exists and how would you change it? 

Yes, colorism definitely exists but I think most people discriminate subconsciously they don’t set out to hurt people of different races. The best way to start a change is to educate yourself and others and try to be open-minded towards people you don’t identify with an open-minded towards people who don’t identify with you.

7. What advice what you give to black women about life in general?

My advice to black women, in general, always believes you are worthy of love and respect you are terrific.

Astin 



1. Tell me something about you that nobody knows? 

No one really knows that I’m super sensitive. I play it off like I’m ok, but honestly, I’m super responsive.

2. What has been your experiences being a light-skinned woman? How were you treated? By dark-skinned women and other light skinned women? 

My experience being a light-skinned woman has been excellent and bad, on the one hand, other light skin women welcome me with open arms, and some dark skin women did too but not many growing up especially with having long hair. They often accused me of thinking, “I am cute.” Now, as an adult, people often think I am mixed due to my light skin color, the length, and the grade of my hair.

3. Do you think virtue is more important than physical beauty? 

Yes, virtue is more important than physical beauty, especially today. Physical attraction isn’t even real, whereas, getting caught up in physical beauty can and will lead you down the wrong path.

4. Do you think there is an injustice with the way dark-skinned black women are treated? Do you think the Willie Lynch Syndrome still exists today?

I think dark skinned women aren’t really being seen as the real beauty they really are. Their darkness of there skin is vibrant and beautiful, but society makes them seem ugly. The latest trends are mixed girls with black features. Dark skinned women are put in the back view a lot. Yes, I genuinely believe the Willie Lynch syndrome still exist today.

5. What is the best compliment that you have received about your physical appearance? 

My 8-year-old niece told my mom she wants to as beautiful as me and like me when she grew up. I am a woman of the Most High and family woman with modesty and live a natural lifestyle. I want to set an example for another young person is more than I can ask for. Too many lousy role models today.

6. What advice or would you tell a woman or young girl about how your life has changed coming into the truth about the Most High? 

I always thought I would come to the Most High when I was much older. Now I’m in the truth I wish I was way before now. All I need is to know the Most High and that bible is a special gift through the book your eyes will be opened to know good and evil what to watch out for. Your life will be for things that will make sense. And knowing that you and your children can be saved is the more excellent gift. Knowing the truth can really save your soul.

Her dark skin disadvantage

“Blacker the Berry the sweeter the juice. Darker the flesh the deeper the roots” — Tupac Shakur 

The degradation of dark skin has lingering effects from slavery and colonialism. The recipients of the most beautiful hues the most Melanin in the skin. Dark Skinned women are so regal the most beautiful of all their skin is silky and smooth such richness and history. What is Melanin? The pigment that gives human skin, hair, and eyes their color. Dark-skinned people have more melanin in their skin than light-skinned people have. Dark skin has been the ridicule of jokes. Stated as being the ugliest skin color. The most hated but yet the most emulated around the world many Caucasians tan annually to darken their skin. There is a deeper reason, a more sinister revelation, a deeper root conspiracy against the darker skin people. Whose hue unlocks their history. The reason why I named this segment “Dark Skin” disadvantage this is metaphoric representing the pain the injustice to all the dark women around the world. Dark skin is often associated with a lack of privilege with eliminates – “The Dark Skin disadvantage,“ But now in 2017 through social media, these perceptions may change for the better in la la land. Dark skin women are flaunting their melanin and gaining a massive following through natural hair movement and social media outlet only still be ridiculed by their peers. Black women have gone neck to neck with European standards of beauty. In slavery time, the dark-skinned slaves served as field Negros having to endure hot temperatures out in the heat of the south. They lacked the advantages of education, food, clothing, and opportunities as their light-skinned counterparts, who emulated whiteness for their benefits. So the perplexity of sorrow that has been endured by the darker skinned woman can only be deep-rooted in pain for generations. The mere fact of being overlooked by the very people of your race can be disheartening, to say the least. My hearts and my prayers go out to all my beautiful dark skinned sisters. I endorse your beauty as my own, we may be of different colors, but we are of the same stock and dilemma.

I remember the first time I heard this phrase, “The Dark the Berry, the sweeter the juice.” My dark skinned cousin made it in reference to her dark skin being better than my lighter skin.

Although there is a hatred for the darker woman of color, through my studies, there have been instances were the darker girls were perceived as beautiful. Here is another perspective of being Dark Skin from the strikingly beautiful Fumi Desalu-Vold, a dark-skinned fashion model and actress. This exert is from an episode of her youtube program “Sister2Sister” – the episode titled “DARK GIRLS” -My life as a DARK skinned woman” (Fumi Fashion and Beauty), Not all experiences of black women are alike, relatively that depends on what area of the earth you reside in.

I was very intrigued by what she said, “While in Scotland, she and her other siblings were spoiled by everyone, they were perceived as being special she experiences no racism what so ever this was in the ’70s.” Then when she moved to Nigeria, she noticed that a lot of women who bleached their skin. I think the most fundamental thing in any young girl’s life is her father, his acceptance of her beauty, and she had it. He told her she was beautiful. She didn’t experience any white supremacy, becoming the first supermodel of Nigeria. While at University in London she was often asked to model for the art department as well as the fashion department, they marveled at her look and skin color. The men from many nationalities highly regarded her as beautiful, especially the men from Italy, a country that is known for their love of black women. While in America, she discovered that it is a melting pot of nations and that her perceptive of herself might have been different if she lives there first.”

Wahima

Q: What was your most negative experience being a dark skin girl?

Wahima: As a dark-skinned adolescence I had many things said to me because of my skin tone. I was called names like “blackie” and “Tar baby”, but the worst is when I was called ugly directly to my face in a very casual, nonchalant manner by a boy in my class.

Q: What is the best compliment you have received on your physical beauty?

Wahima: The best compliment I’ve ever gotten was when I was 17 and a guy said to me “You know how they say a picture is worth a thousand words? You’re worth 2000”

Q: Who was your greatest inspiration?

Wahima: My older sister has been the greatest inspiration in my life. She has been through a lot in her life and yet she manages to keep her head up and move forward. She is one of the most pleasant, caring and loving people I’ve come in contact with.

Q: List anything you want to share your experiences as a dark-skinned woman?

Wahima: I’ve had good and bad experiences with being dark skinned, and most of it has been uphill through a tunnel. I’ve been so lucky to be able to come out the other side with confidence. The purpose  is to help uplift and help encourage other dark-skinned ladies to embrace their skin and their beauty. I want them to feel like they are apart of the beauty conversation and know that their beauty is valuable and worthy of praise.

Colorism around the World 

(Nigeria) Olaniyi Adeosun-Obabiyi

Q: How does skin bleaching affect Nigerian women?

Olaniyi: In Nigeria, it has become a common trend for women to bleach their skins. I have often asked other women the reason the phenomenon is on the rise, the women tell me that it’s because of the men; that men seem to prefer light skinned women. My respondent said to me if women are gathered in a place, they always see only the light-skinned ones. So in all of this, my understanding is that women who bleach have this sense of inadequacy and inferiority complex. The most unfortunate is the fact that some use very cheap creams to carry out this their trade. I have once had close ties with women that do the business of mixing these bleaching creams, and they tell me, they make a lot of money from their fellow women.

Q: Do you prefer light skinned women?

Olaniyi: I think I have dated lighter skinned women more in my life. Yea I can tell u I like stunning women and somehow, unfortunately, I tried to drop my taste, and unfortunately, it never fell. But if you ask me in all sincerity, what I usually look out for is a woman I am attracted and connected to. If a woman is light skinned and empty-headed, I am not interested. I am, and I will always be attracted to intelligence. Beauty will ever fade away, what’s left is the content.

(Mexico) Maria

Q: What are some of your experiences as a Mexican with the light skin vs. dark skin issue?

Marie: In my country, they value light skin at birth if you have light skin and bright eyes you are appreciated. Dark people are not worthy.

(USA) James

Q: How do white people view this light skin vs. dark skin issue among people of color?

James: I am married to a dark-skinned black woman who is very beautiful. As a white man and other white men can attest to this – We don’t look at the color of a black woman, dark is dark, there are no light people within the black community to us there are all black and we often wonder why it is such an issue along with natural hair with black people.

(Germany) Earnest

Q: What do you think about the rivalry between light vs. dark?

Earnest: It is only black people to measure themselves on skin color; it is time to wake up from our slumber and unite as a people.

(France) Julian

Q: Does the issue of light skin affect black men too?

Julian: No as bad as women but I do recall being called light bright and almost white in school as well be referred to as a ghost, but the white people treated me as one of them literally. Where women are concerned, I think the problem is that a lot of black men are color struck and that plays into all the hype surrounding this issue. Being a light-skinned man is was called the pretty boy a lot growing up

(China) Huang

Q: Is skin color relevant in China?

Huang: Pale skin is the epitome of beauty in China. A lot of women bleach their skin daily to achieve this look. We stay out of the sun.

Q: What is your experience?

Huang: I don’t use bleaching creams, but a lot of my relatives do. I just enjoy the skin I have that comes with ridicule from my relatives, but I have to learn to live with it. ‘Bai Fu Mei,’ which means the white, wealthy, and beautiful ideal standard for beauty for my country. In Asia, light skin is esteemed highly because it reflects high class in social circles, while dark skin is indicative of working manual labor outside associated with the poor.

(South Africa) Roger Tinley

Q: Is light skin important to men or is it just a woman issue?

Roger: It is relevant to everyone, men and women. We perceive light skin as a trophy because it is closer to white. I love the look of light skin.

(India) Shweta Rai

Q: Is light skin relevant in India?

Shweta: Yes, very much so. We worship light skin, we all want it, desire it. We think it makes us more beautiful and desirable in terms of marriage. We are told as girls that if we’re going to be chosen in marriage, we must lighten our skin. Bollywood endorses light skin that needs to change. Many dark girls and guys in India are pretty too. I am dusky that is why I support various lighting creams, I want to be fair and beautiful plus I want a husband, and this gives me a fair chance. Billions of dollars are spent annually for fairness creams in India, this is a precursor to marital status, and the naked Bollywood celebrities are literally worshipped as gods.

(Dominican Republic) Angela Gonzales

Q: Is being light skin important in the Dominican Republic?

Angela: My mother taught us to use bleaching creams and marry someone lighter than us to keep our race white looking. Like all the Caribbean and Hispanics countries all like light skin.

(Nigeria) Ugo Nwoke

Q: How important is light skin in Nigeria?

Ugi: Light skin from my personal observation seems to be selling in Nigeria. As far as looking beautiful goes, most women chose to lighten up their skin, and that calls for bleaching. The women in Nigeria bleach their skin as they wear lipstick daily. People pay more attention to light-skinned people, and a lot of women bleach their skin. I instead think Its more the colonial thing and what is seen on television and magazines. There is a fascination for light skin.

(Mexico) Maria Elena

Q: Is being light skinned or dark skinned an issue in Mexico?

Maria Elena: Yes, as a child, my Mom told me I was too dark. She would never let me go outside in the sun. I noticed that the lighter Mexicans were valued as being prettier. If you had bright eyes and skin, you were considered a treasure.

(North American Indian) Steven

Q: Is being light skin important within Indians?

Steven: When a tribe has a baby that has blonde hair and blue eyes, they are treated like this baby is a symbol of God. The baby is esteemed as very special and will have all the benefits entitled to light skin people.

(South Africa) Joyce

Q: How many procedures do you do annual to lighten the skin?

Joyce: 100 per month, maybe more or less but on the average 100 procedures per month. Q: Do you think light skin should be a reflection of beauty?

Joyce: No I think your features are they are more celebrated to change in my line of work.

I think people in my country place to much value on the way they look.

Q: What was a personal experience that you had with colorism?

Joyce: My first experience was with my Mom, who said, “I was so cute, but if I had light skin and long hair, I would be a beauty queen.” This was devastating to me, parents need to be aware of what they say to their children.

The Light Skin Preference

Dense, short, skinny, light eyes, dark eyes, white teeth, big but, long legs, long hair, short hair, or big boobs. These and other terms are associated with general preferences of individuals. The dividing line where choice becomes detrimental when you down another to fulfill your quota of personal preference. Clearly, preference can be defined as a selection of somebody or something: the view that one person, object, or course of action is more desirable than another, or a choice based on such a view. From the perspective of the “big picture,” we have options some are manipulated by our parents and the media as we identify with the culture and skin color. The psychological problems associated with preference, we are hard-wired at birth or in our most impressionable years to perceive you truth of another. We have got to come to an understanding of who we are (dilemma 11) and come together as a people. We as a people are so indifferent instead of embracing the whole spectrum of our array of color or hue we discriminate among our own people. I am sure that Willie Lynch is clapping in his grave for him did an excellent job of separating a people according to skin color, are we the modern day Willie Lynch? When will black people wake up? What are the preferences? Is beauty in the eye of the beholder or is it … Preference? We all have choices – Do we prefer coffee or tea? Do we prefer to wear this or that? Do you favor or dark people? What is a preference? A selection of somebody or something; the view that one person, object, or course of action is more desirable than another, or a choice based on such a view. What is a preference made? It can be embedded in teachings and philosophy by society. The power of suggestion like beauty can convince a person of believing a myth or lie. You hear or see something so much that it can become a preference. Preferences are actually performed to us through media, what you see is what you esteem the best. As a child, they can be programmed to accept anyone standard of beauty, through watching hours of television programming. We all have our preferences but where the danger lies when our decisions affect another person or shed light on an individual in a negative light. For examples:

1. Taking negative about your own race. (the self-hating negro)

2. Marrying someone to have light kids with curly hair. (the lousy hair myth)

3. Putting all black women or man in a bag together. (stereotypes of the black woman that don’t apply to everyone)

Proverbs 22:6 KJV “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Which is stating that there is a level of conditioning training that a child must go through to be able to except themselves and not be a partaker of negative views of superficial aspects of one’s self. Trying to differentiate the reason why there is such a light skin preference which leads to destruction mentally. I sometimes feel that it has always been about the white people controlling the slaves encouraging the controlled populations to fight amongst themselves so that they can be more easily manipulated. So I go back to slavery which was the biggest determiner of our psyche as black people. Willie Lynch Letter + Colonization = The Great Divide among our ancestor’s Media views of black people + parental agreement = Disillusionment of our people

Fullten, who is a mixed raced woman on tumblr stated,

“As a product of a black man chasing after white women, it makes me super uncomfortable when black men reblog my photos, and I go to their page, and it’s nothing but either, white girls or lite bites. Like, my dad dated nothing but white women, and my mother seemed to gravitate towards this type of black man, who would get a ton of arbitrary African statues from pier 1, listen to nothing but jazz, only buy from black artists, and yet, seemed to exclusively go for white women. I’ve heard my stepfather at the time say he loved her pale skin, and that he didn’t even know she was Spanish, he just saw white. These men foolishly gravitate towards whiteness like a moth to a low watt light bulb in the dark. My father and stepfather used the whiteness of my mother and the women they dated as a status symbol. It was common for my father to say ‘I got a big house, a Corvette, and a hot wife,’ she was tall, white, and blonde, and she hated when he said that. She hated when he listed her among his possessions. He used her as ‘proof’ of his success at the time. That if anyone looked at his life, they would see a successful black man, and a white wife solidified that. I hate it because this mentality comes at the price of dark-skinned black women and women who are proud of their blackness. It seems like something they need to stomp out. I dated a lot of black men who fetishized my light skin, and hated dark skin and anything that was linked to blackness in women, they tied it in with failure, ugliness, poverty… So many comments about my afro and hair, they wanted straight hair, I had to adhere to the European ideal of beauty as best as I could. I remember drawing black women and getting comments from these guys, laughing at my work, ‘why did you draw her so dark??’ but when I brought dark men, there was never any laughing. I noticed how my father treated my grandmother, sometimes well, but towards the end, it was horrible. Just using her and nothing else. There was no respect. Black men who chase white women and lite bites ain’t shit. They hate dark skin women, and they hate blackness outside and inside themselves.”

“If you’re black, stay back; if you’re brown, stick around; if you’re yellow, you’re mellow; if you’re white, you’re all right.”

Redbone – Yellow Bone – Bright – Light bright almost white – Wannabee – White girl – Darkie – Ugly – Tar Baby – Blackie – mellow yellow – midnight – Jigaboo – pretty for a dark girl – burnt – angel – blue-black It’s time we shift our focus from deliberating on this subject matter in meaningless preposterous idioms such as ‘yellow bone’ ‘darkie’ ‘tar baby’ and ‘red bone’ and got down to the real dispute. Most women in the world, worship the idol of beauty that demands adherence to a false standard of beauty (and worth). “The light skinned woman.” All around the world, brown girls are discriminated against based on color. Preferential treatment of lighter skin hues over darker hues occurs within racial and ethnic groups as well as between them. The practice of inequity, colorism (Pigmentocrcy or shadeism) privileges lighter-skinned women and men over their dark-skinned counterparts. This results in the skin lightening epidemic, self-hatred, low self-esteem and exposes how the media lifts the Caucasian woman since the beginning of white supremacy have been praised to lofty heights as the universal standard of beauty. Women around the world have been bombarded with so many different requirements of attractiveness. To be thin, but healthy; to have a flat stomach, but have ample breasts and a more prominent rear end. And sorrowfully, to achieve the standard of perfection these women have increasingly been turning to plastic surgery, cosmetics, eating disorders, and self-mutation to fit this beauty standard the beguiling attraction of it and social imperatives that surround it. The quandary of a woman who does not possess any kind of beauty. This world is superficial where your validation is men drooling at you while walking down the street. What about “the woman that nobody sees” you know the one that is ignored by men? Society places so much pressure to be attractive and the procedures in which women pull out all the stops to modify their appearance by any means necessary. This society will train you in your way to think about a particular beauty standard even upon deeper reflection it will be imposed through universal thinking what our perceptions of beauty should be. Its trains your mind directly or indirectly, through the power of subjection and propaganda their way of seeing and of appreciating beauty – The Beauty Ideal – embedded into our brains every second of the day through television, commercials, and the media. Sadly, for most of the brown girls in the world, they have a double disadvantage being a woman considered the least of all women and being of a member of the dark nation.

Racial Caste System

This system introduces the white woman as the hierarchy of beauty, which has been the world’s declaration since the dawn of slavery. Through media, and the invention of television, we are brainwashed daily with the Eurocentric kind of beauty. What indeed is the Racial Caste System? The caste system as it exists today is thought to be the result of developments during the collapse of the Mughal era and the British colonial regime in India. The failure of the Mughal age saw the rise of powerful men who associated themselves with kings, priests, and ascetics, affirming the regal and martial form of the caste ideal, and it also reshaped many apparently casteless social groups into differentiated caste communities. The British Raj furthered this development, making rigid caste organization a central mechanism of administration. Between 1860 and 1920, the British government segregated Indians by caste, granting administrative jobs and senior appointments only to the upper castes. Social unrest during the 1920s led to a change in this policy. From then on, the colonial administration began a policy of positive discrimination by reserving a certain percentage of government jobs for the lower castes. Aryan Race is the master race that was a concept in Nazi ideology in which the Nordic or Aryan races, which were thought to predominate among Germans and other northern European peoples, were deemed the highest in an assumed racial hierarchy. The Nazi official Alfred Rosenberg believed that the Nordic race (not limited to blondes but all classes of hair color with Nordic features) was descended from Proto-Aryans who he believed had prehistorically dwelt on the North German Plain and who had ultimately originated from the lost continent of Atlantis. The Nazis declared that the Nordics (now referred to as the Germanic peoples), or Aryan as they sometimes called them, were superior to all other races. The Nazis believed they were entitled to expand territorially.

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What is the most celebrated skin color? (www.theperfechumanface.com)

49% Light skin 20% Dark Skin 32% It doesn’t matter.

Order of rank for Racial Caste System

1. Nordic/Aryan (white)

2. Asian

3. Hispanics

4. Black

Standard of beauty for the world – Nordic beauty is arguably the most promoted beauty in the media around the world. Cited as “the ideal beauty” (White women) possessing blonde hair, blue eyes are arguably the archetype of beauty.

Straight hair, pale skin, thin body, and light eyes.

Asian standard of beauty – Pale white skin, Heart shaped face (v face shaped), large eyes, small pointed nose, little feet, and slender frame. The

Hispanic standard of beauty – Light skinned and light eyes (features that adopted a more European look)

The black standard of beauty – Light skinned and long hair (features intimately favoring that of white women) This prejudice exists among blacks

Order of rank for Black Caste System

1. Light Skin Blacks

2. Dark Skin Blacks

The light skinned woman is questionably considered the most beautiful among black people. Long hair is preferred. The dark-skinned woman has been declared the ugliest of the black woman, the subject of ridicule because of skin color and hair texture.

My interview with Trina, a light-skinned Indian model & businesswoman

Q: What are the views in India concerning beauty? Is light skin or dark skin an issue?

Trina: International standards are fast modeling and re-shaping the precepts of beauty in India- at least to my knowledge. I can’t opine on behalf of almost a billion people but according to my individual experiences big eyes-pointed straight nose-bow lips-at least 5’7 is the general beauty paradigm. Fair skin is a HUGE advantage and does add to a girl’s reputation. But thankfully, people realize the importance of healthy, glowing skin irrespective of the tone. In 20 years maybe India will be as appreciative of the dark and glossy surface as it is of excellent and luminescent today. I have had an unfair advantage in several situations because of my fair skin. Like interviews and even a positive impression on teachers in college. Put a light complexioned studious girl beside a dark-skinned equally diligent girl, and the former will always come out better!

Q: What I would like to know about in India is the skin lightening epidemic and what has been your experience with that? How much do Indians spend on skin lightening creams annually?

Trina: Skin lightening is definitely NOT a fad where India is concerned. Even though the British have left, the yoke of fair skin oppression still afflicts us. Fair is beautiful, without exception almost all over the country. Men might deny that they aren’t complexion conscious and label actresses like Bipasha Basu attractive. But at the end of the day, it is a Kareena Kapoor who rules the Box Office. I personally do not spend much on skin lightening products. But I would say the average Indian woman quickly spends Rs. 5000 a year on facials and enhancers.

My interview with Anita, a dark-skinned Indian student

Q: What are the views in India concerning dark skin and light skin?

Anita: Light skin is definitely favored, it can affect you getting the good job or a husband.

Q: How has this affected you?

Anita: When I was young I was told by Mum and other family members that I was too dark and that I would never get married. It’s about the Caste system you know. Us dark Indians are frowned upon in society. This is why I had to leave India. My country is the worst, a girl and gets martyred because of her dark skin color. I was not willing to bleach my brown skin. India is very satanic with the worship of so many pagan gods.

Q: With a country is so heavy into idol god worship, how did you escape?

Anita: The attitudes of my family drove me away then I saw the light when I traveled to the west.

Q: Who is your beauty inspiration? Anita: That is easy, you are, I have admired your striking beauty, grace, kindness, and charisma.

My interview with Sanjay, an Indian web designer

Q: What are the views in India concerning dark skin and light skin?

Sanjay: Light skin is better is the motto of the South Asian. That is not my view but it is shared by most. The women in my family endorse fairness creams. I know the British regime is to blame for this. I have been told I must marry light skin so our children will be fair.

Q: You live in Ghana (Africa) now, how is it different from India?

Sanjay: The people are more chill. India is far worse, from what I have seen with the obsession with having light skin.

Q: Is it a custom in India only to marry light skinned women?

Sanjay: Yes, well most of the marriages are arranged, and the dowry may be higher to marry a darker woman. They love women that look like Aishwarya Rai, she is highly desired for the mere fact of the light eyes and skin. I personally, don’t find her attractive, she looks white. If you looking at Indian actresses, I think Priyanka Chopra is much more beautiful.

Q: How did this affect you when you chose your wife? And how did your family react to your chose of the wife?

Sanjay: It had no effect, my wife is a black smoking hot, dark-skinned woman, from South Africa. My family was not happy about it, they wanted me to marry a Bengali girl they picked. I wasn’t having it. The people in my country have a hatred for black people, but secretly they know there is something peculiar about them.

Light skin is favored to divide and conquer the dark nations. To keep our people divided to retain the oppressor dominance in this world, this oppressor wants to remain its position on top. If the wicked countries would discover the truth in who they really are, it would literally set them free. The dividing lines of color are among the dark nations, the people of color, to most Caucasian/white people we are all considered Dark skinned.

Colorism is defined as the racism between people that possess color to their skin, stating that light skin is the most coveted. Colorism is something that was taught during Slavery to separate the light from the dark, the excessively curly hair from the loosely textured hair. The descendants of slaves have bought these myths and dwell on these beliefs daily. They hate each other and anything that is a close resemblance to the white race is praised. The white people of that time conditioned the minds of the Negro that further their agenda that they are the superior being. Through much negative mind conditioning, the black people bought this lie. Who told us that our hair or skin color wasn’t good enough, mere people, right? Truthfully, people don’t have a heaven or hell to put you in, do they? We can put up a thousand articles about Colorism and videos nothing will ever change.

 What defines us?

Is our virtue not our color Let’s embrace our uniqueness Ladies Just like your eye color dimensions to your fingerprint were as unique Why should the world win in the mist of sin I’m light you dark we both can win.

Don’t let the world define you. Don’t let them tell you who you are. Don’t let them stop you from taking your rightful place. Don’t let them stop you. Don’t let them tell you that light skin is better than dark skin. Don’t let them tell you to fit into the Europeans standards of beauty. Don’t let them stop you from being all the creator wants you to be. Don’t let them define you. Don’t let them tell you that you are not made in the creator image and likeness. Don’t let them separate us. Don’t let them keep you from the kingdom of God.

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The answer to “Colorism” is to repent of our sins, seek the father in heaven, our creator, the Most High God of Israel. Purify your mind and thoughts with the word of the Most High (the holy bible) He will teach you who you are, your purpose and destiny. We were sold into slavery due to our iniquities and transgressions against the Most High. Seeking the Most High and renewing your mind will change your thinking about yourself, making people aware of it will not change, the conditioning as already permeating the souls of our people. Repent and return to the Most High, that is the only way.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12:13 KJV